Remember Fernando? Here’s more on what happened … After a few dates, I notice that he starts rescheduling. “Sorry,” he says, “I have to do this freelance project all night tonight and tomorrow night, can we meet on Wednesday instead?” Not a big deal, right? We reschedule. We meet. We have a great time. But, the day before the following date, he calls to reschedule again.
“Yeah,” he says, “I’m going to be working on this new project, like, 24/7. I can’t go out again until next Monday. It is okay if we go out then?”
“I already have plans with friends on Monday night, we’ll have to hang out on Tuesday.”
“Okay,” he says, “let’s call this weekend to decide what to do.”
I call him Saturday. We enjoy a pleasant conversation and confirm that we’ll go out on Tuesday. At the end of the call, Fernando tells me, “I have to go now, but why don’t I call you tomorrow, Sunday, and we’ll talk more?” We hang up the phone. Sunday arrives and passes without a telephone call. As does Monday. And, Tuesday … and Wednesday.
I deserve to go out with someone who keeps his plans with me and, at the very least, if the man does not intend to keep said plans, I deserve a fucking phone call. Therefore, on Thursday, I send an email:
> Date: Thu, 25 Aug 2005 20:58:40 -0700 (PDT)
> Subject: The Blow Off
>
> Fernando,
>
> I haven’t heard from you in a while.
>
> I’m new to the city and I’m still adjusting to life here. As I said
> before, I wasn’t looking for a “quick fling.” If that’s what you
> were looking for, I would have appreciated a bit more honesty.
>
> I’m not going to email or call you again; I simply wanted to say
> that I was surprised (and disappointed) that you blew me off.
>
> Twanna
Life’s too short; I move on. Days later, to my surprise, he responds.
> Date: Mon, 29 Aug 2005 14:07:57 -0700 (PDT)
> Subject: Re: The Blow Off
>
> I’m away right now but I wanted to respond anyways. It
> would be too difficult to explain… You are smart and
> beautiful and I really enjoyed spending time with you.
> I’m sorry… It’s just that I have so much going on in
> my life and I can’t seem to ever be happy with
> anything… I wish you all the best,
>
> Fernando
>
Chapter closed.
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holy. i hardly know what to say.
at least, he knows his problem. and those ppl are the best sort to get away from. no one needs that kind of continual disappointment in their lives, never knowing where you stand. that kinda shit makes me NUTS, lemme tell ya.
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His loss. At least he was honest mind you, which is more than I can say about my last “date”
truly his loss. he told you who he is, though. the way I understand things, when people straight-out tell you who they are, believe them. You did. Kudos.
Wow; the kindness of strangers rocks! Much love and many thanks for the support.
That started out so well, but anyway, chapter not quite closed. He is a guy, so he will likely email you again sometime in the near or not too distant future. That’s my bet anyway.
I’ll let you all know if he contacts me again … I get the feeling that he won’t, but even if he does, I really have nothing to do nor say to him.
He behaves like an ass, but comes clean when confronted. I honestly don’t know if this makes him an ok guy or not.