The Week That Sucked My Ass
Usually, I go about my day, my week, my life and everything’s fine. But, there’s always an occasional day, week, or sometimes even a year when nothing seems to go my way. Last week was one of those weeks. For whatever unholy reason, a dark cloud seemed to shroud everything that I did. I have neither the attention span nor the willpower to relive and retell every aspect of what went wrong. So, for now, I’ll focus on one of the things that pissed me off the most: The Incident with the New Boy.
There’s been a new boy in the mix for a couple of weeks now. I would have blogged about him before now, but the whole thing was so uncertain that I didn’t even know if it was worth mentioning. Also, I wasn’t 100% positive that I wanted to take myself off of my Man Diet just yet. But, at any rate, here’s what happened …
I meet a new boy. He and I make plans to have our first “date.” What happens during that date? Nothing happens because he stands me up; he doesn’t show up. So, he’s a jerk and, unless he honestly wants me to kick his ass and sever his penis from his body, he’d better never contact me again, right? Wrong. He contacts me and tells me this sob story that involves an unexpected crisis that needed immediate attention. He sounds sincere and the elements of the story that I know to be true all check out. Further, up until this point, he’s been straight forward and honest with me. So, I buy the story.
We make plans to have the date on the following day and he calls me more than once to tell me how much he’s looking forward to it. Guess what happens? Yep. He’s a no-show, again. It goes without saying that I will absolutely never have contact with this individual again. For the better part of the week, I was so pissed off that I wanted to fucking scream. Before moving to New York, I’d never been stood up in my life. Now, it’s happened more than once.
This week better go better than last week or else somebody’s gonna get hurt.
December 4th, 2005 at 4:41 pm
You just wait till I get back up to the Big City. I will take you on the ‘best’ date ever. Mwah!
December 4th, 2005 at 5:00 pm
Why are boys the whole world so silly? I hope he doesn’t make you decide to starve yourself of men completely Stolie. Apparently there are good ones out there. Somewhere.
December 4th, 2005 at 5:00 pm
erm, why are boys the whole world over so silly? that’s what i meant to say.
December 4th, 2005 at 5:04 pm
How DARE he! I am so sorry to hear that you have had a crummy week and that jerkwad stood you up twice. Karma, baby. What goes around comes around and he will soooo get it. If there’s any way I can help karma along, let me know…
December 4th, 2005 at 5:16 pm
I hope the next week will be better for you Stolie :) Thanks for your comment – I did spend the better part of the weekend recovering.
December 4th, 2005 at 5:17 pm
girl, i think you and i are living the same life these past weeks. i’m apparently, supposed to be going on long-awaited “date” this week … and if he stands me up(bc he’s been flaky in the past, two or three times already), so help me god, i’ll go to his place of work and run his fingers through the shredder.
would you like to know the worst thing of all? OUR PARENTS set us up.
what IS it with boys the world over?
i just don’t get it.
_
December 4th, 2005 at 5:48 pm
Being stood up sucks. I had that happen by this guy in D.C. It really hurt my feelings because I was looking forward to spending time with him. I think it is great though that he revealed his colors so early on and saved you a lot of unnnecessary drama.
December 4th, 2005 at 6:29 pm
what makes someone do that? not turn up AND not call. Maybe it was something our parents taught us as girls – be polite and always call to cancel, don’t just not show up.
I’ve never been stood up simply because people don’t tend to ‘date’ here in australia – or maybe they do and i just never did. all i know is dating sounds scary as hell. even without the fear of being stood up.
December 4th, 2005 at 6:42 pm
oh no..that’s just wackness. don’t cut nobody though! ;)
December 4th, 2005 at 7:22 pm
Unless he had to donate a kidney to his dying aunt who also happens to have a brain tumour and AIDS and had a car crash this weekend, I’d say its downright rude to do it TWICE!
As an aside I added a link to your blog on mine, hope you dont mind. I really like reading yours!
December 4th, 2005 at 9:14 pm
Twice?? Fool me once, shame on you.. fool me twice, you better move across state lines cos I will not be fucked with.
December 5th, 2005 at 12:04 am
1. I love your RAGE pic!
2. What? Stood you up twice? what in the hell is wrong with people? Forget him!
December 5th, 2005 at 7:34 am
Tonito Bandito: THANKS! And, *I* can’t wait until you get here either. :)
Nics: “I hope he doesn’t make you decide to starve yourself of men completely Stolie.” I have to admit that I considered going out on a date with a woman given the horrible luck that I’ve had with guys in NY lately.
MamaChristy: I soooo hope Karma comes back around and bites his dick off one day.
Guri: It’s Monday morning and I certainly hope this week starts better than last week ended.
miss anon: I’m sure that your long-awaited “date” will turn out better than my “dates” which the New Boy did. If your parents set you up, he’d be a complete IDIOT not to show up.
Berry: It’s crazy. I’d NEVER been stood up in my life. I was honestly SHOCKED that he didn’t show up. My first thought? Don’t you know who I am?! *You* should feel pretty damn excited that *I* agreed to go out with you. (I know, I’m vain; he was “cute” but I’m cuter and I typically date guys that are hotter than this guy was.) And, you’re right, it’s not just that I was/am angry, it’s also that he hurt my feelings. I trusted him and believed his story about the first stand up. And when he did it a second time, it just seemed much more “cruel.”
little a: “what makes someone do that?” I honestly have absolutely no idea. It’s odd because this stuff has *NEVER* happened to me. All of a sudden, here in NY, it seems like it’s no big deal and it happens often. There was this Italian Boy who didn’t call me back. And, now there’s the Stand Up Guy. In both cases, *I* thought we had a connection, they said they felt a connection, they used words like “gorgeous” “intelligent” and “witty” to describe me. And, then they both blew me off. I don’t get it. I’ve never stood anyone up in my life. I’ve called to cancel dates at the last minute, but I CALLED. I didn’t just not show up. I honestly can’t fathom why someone would stand someone up. It’s just the most bizarre thing in the world to me.
rcknrobin: If this week goes as bad as last week did, I might.
Darwin: I agree; it’s so unbelievably rude. And, by the way, thanks for the link. Welcome to the Stolie Nation. :) (This reminds me; I need to update that page to include the new members.)
Mint Chutney: HILARIOUS!!!!
Sid: I think the picture is on a Rage Against the Machine CD cover. (I love that band; especially, the song Freedom.) And, about the boy, I honestly don’t know. I don’t get it either.
December 5th, 2005 at 11:06 am
Ooof. Twice? That’s just…I just don’t get it. Twice? One sob story and one no-show? It’s unspeakably rude. Men…I mean boys…are a mystery to me. Why is this considered ok behaviour? Was he under 35? Was he under 25?
December 5th, 2005 at 1:09 pm
Simply put, that’s just rude! That’s worse than not replying to phone calls etc. The first time, he can be forgiven, provided he makes it up to you, two times though is just way too much…
Quite simply, his loss…
December 5th, 2005 at 1:32 pm
missbhavens He was 37. He would have been the oldest guy that I’d ever met for a date. I typically date guys that are between 27 – 32. I have fun with “Under 25″ boys every now and then, but it’s just that: fun.
At one time, I thought about dating Late 30-something men to avoid the immature games. But, then again, the guy who stood me up is going to be 40 in a few years. Plus, two of my ex-boyfriends–Le Canadien and The Republican Mexican–were mid 20-something guys and they were both extremely mature. Actually, when people meet Le Canadien, they always think that he’s in his mid- to late-30s. (I think it’s his high-stress, management-level, corporate job; it’s literally aging him and killing him. But, I digress.)
At any rate, all of this is to say that I’m not sure if going older is the answer. They say you (both men and women) can be “a child” only once, but “immature” forever.
Mitch: I know. I figure everyone deserves a second chance. Things happen. But, when he stood me up AGAIN, that’s when I got ***REALLY*** pissed off. By the way, about that “his loss” thing … that’s very very sweet of you. :) Thanks.
December 5th, 2005 at 1:48 pm
Now that’s what I call classy. What an asshole.
December 5th, 2005 at 4:42 pm
Sounds to me like you ran across a control freak and / or emotional vampire. Someone who torques people up just for the sick fun of it. Next time trying running over him.
December 6th, 2005 at 4:54 am
Anhoni Patel: Very well put.
goldennib: New York is surprisingly small. I “run into” friends and the same random strangers on the city’s streets quite often. If this man is ever so unlucky to somehow find himself in my path one day, I’ll “go Russell Crowe on him” (as Sid would say) and beat the hell out of him with my cell phone.
December 6th, 2005 at 4:09 pm
Stolie -Sorry you’re bummed. Guys can be tools sometimes, look at it this way at least you learned the “True Him,” before wasting too my effort on him.
Hope you’re doing better!
*hugs*
December 6th, 2005 at 7:55 pm
Does this guy by any chance install cable? I am sure he (or one of his close, personal friends) was supposed to install my cable four days in a row about 18 months ago…
Now you know what the rest of us were talking about when we told stories of being stood up. Rude, yes. Inevitable, yes. Date long enough, LIVE long enough, it will happen to you, too.
I didn’t know Le Canadien was so young. Had me fooled.
December 6th, 2005 at 10:38 pm
It’s weird but I was just thinking about the women who stand me up. You tend to forgive your girlfriends more easily, but after about a hundred times, it gets old.
I agree with Neo. At least he showed his true colours before you wasted any time with him.
Besides, don’t go out with guys you don’t find hot. They don’t realise they’re godawful which is always a bummer.
Polygamous bisexuality is the way forward!
December 7th, 2005 at 12:33 am
NEO: Good point. And thanks for the “*hugs*” :)
Pegs: Yep, believe it or not, when Le Canadien and I started dating, he was only 25 or, maybe, 26.
Jenn: You may be on to something with this whole polygamous bisexuality stuff.
December 7th, 2005 at 9:47 am
I’m a little short on words today – but let me put it simply: men suck.
You deserve so much better.
December 7th, 2005 at 10:31 pm
THANK YOU!! :)