MamaChristy: Cute. :) I don’t know the Fake MD; I said “M.D.” because my friend in Chicago’s initials actually are M.D. (His first name starts with an M and his last name starts with a D.) But, back to the Fake M.D., yes, I think you have to be Jewish to do it with him.

Nics: You said, “there is so much to this topic that you could create a whole blog just to deal with it.” Very true.

Raymond: That’s really gross.

Darwin: You lost me at the electrons in the transition metal thing, but you make a lot of great points. ;-) And, I know what you mean about eyebrows. Sometimes it’s the weirdest thing that kills the possibility of a relationship. I once went on a few dates with a guy who REALLY liked sci fi movies. It freaked me out.

Raymond: Hmmmm … For me, I’d have to say #1 happens a lot. Two people have to be mutually attracted to each other and like each other at the same time and on the same level. When you think about it, it’s really a miracle that couples ever get together.

Stacy: I have the opposite problem. I’m high energy. I have a really strong sex drive, and I have the stamina of a horse. So, when I meet a guy that I think is cute, I can’t stop thinking about kissing him and/or having sex with him. And, the next thing I know, that’s exactly what happens.

Seriously…once I make a real friendship with a guy, I cant look at them as a sexual being.
…also I am very frigid and that helps!
(sadly, the kidding has stopped)
;-)

This may or may not represent the experiences of others

1) We (men and women) don’t usually come to the “Let’s Be Friends” conclusion at the same time. And the women in my life usually get there before I do. Normally when it is the other way around, we just hang out and never date.

2) I literally have 99 Million Projects going on. I don’t go over all of them on my blog, also a project, but I am a Mad Dabbler.

3) I work nights. So meeting people is not the easiest thing.

4) Friends I see when I see, as I have spare time. We email and talk on the phone mostly and get together for lunch or dinner when we can.

5) With all of that going on, when I start carving out enough space to have someone in my life romantically, I’m pretty disappointed when it jumps off.

So while I wouldn’t exactly mind having them in my life still, I have a habit of sending them to the back of the bus. My established friends take priority over failed relationship friends.

My thoughts? Most of my friends are boys. Some of them are exes or guys I’ve hooked up with, some of them I used to fancy, some of them used to fancy me. It brings me back to what I posted about before on my blog, about how sometimes it feels like friendship is the ground state, where things are stable (I can’t think of a better example, but imagine electrons in a transition metal, the excitation energies for each one varies but there IS a ground state where they settle down- bugger, I just realised how dreadfully geekish that sounds, I do apologise!). Anyway I think most of the platonic friendships we have are when we settle down/compromise and go for the consolation prize of friendship. The reasons for deciding to go down the friends-path are many; lack of attraction/lack of chemistry/mutual incompatibility with regard to something important/unavailability, heck even sometimes something as simple as weird eyebrows. Whatever. Sometimes you just don’t click for whatever reason, no matter how well the two people connect with each other. Hence comes the cross-roads where you either part ways or become friends. Hence why I said platonic friendships are the consolation prize for a non-possible relationship.

BUT

This does not by any means lower the value of the friendship. The words consolation prize somehow make it seem as if friendship is second best, which is untrue. Most of the time friendships are simpler and longer lasting compared to a complicated relationships with a million variables in the equation.

So to answer you, yes it IS possible, I am speaking from personal experience here. But I can’t deny the fact that ‘what-if’ thoughts go/went through both parties minds at some point, hence there is a difference between platonic and girl-girl or boy-boy friendships (or girl-boy for the non-hetero).

That uncle thing.

She told me my silhouette in the bedroom reminded her of her uncle.

Sheesh. Glad that’s over.

I’m continuously making good, platonic female friends – it often starts as a date, but with no attraction, there’s no point, right?

I could use the “Friend with Benefits” right now though, oh yes, I most definately could…