Is It True That Everyone Has A “Type”?
I ask this question for two reasons. First, in bloggerland, I’m thinking about Mitch’s recent comment [on this post] that his type is “petite brunettes” as well as the Fake Doctor’s love of so-called “burritos” [Jewish women] . Second, in the real world, I’ve noticed that my friends claim that I only date the same type of guy. I wonder: Does everyone have a “type”? I don’t think that I have a type, I have four. By way of example … and because I’ve been known to be somewhat of a 31 Flavor Taster … I’ll compare my men to different flavors of ice cream. Here’s what I mean:
New York Super Fudge Chunk
Yummy, clean-cut, smooth black man from the big city. Think Kanye West. He’s sexy. Sure, everybody thinks he’s an arrogant ass, but let’s face it: the man is gorgeous and he is talented. Ahem … and, by the way, … yes, contrary to popular belief, I do date black men. It’s just that I’ve been licking and sucking the Choc Chip Cookie Dough flavor for the past 2 years.
Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough
White Guy with Brown Eyes and Brown Hair. Think George Clooney. Le Canadien, Boy #2 and most of my recent boys fit this type. NOTE: A variation of this flavor is the white guy with brown hair and blue eyes. Think Hugh Grant & Pierce Brosnan; equally as yummy as the Choc Chip Cookie Dough guy.
Vanilla
Think recessive traits. White guy with light blonde hair and blue eyes. Jason Lewis and Paul Walker. Even though my love for Paul Walker runs deep, of all of the guys that I’ve ever dated, only 1 was blonde. He was cute. VERY cute.
Dulce de Leche
Who doesn’t love a sexy, Spanish-spanking … oops, I mean Spanish-speaking man? Ahhhh, Winter 2004. Cold days. Hot nights. “Winter of El Corazón”. I had a small harem of 3 boytoys (consecutively not concurently, mind you) from Puerto Rico, Spain and Mexico. The hunk from Spain didn’t even speak English. Mucho fabulous!
So, there you have it folks. If I line up each of my ex boytoys, flings and boyfriends, they all fit into one of the four categories above. (Same well-toned body, cute face and winning smile — different flavors.) Who’s missing? Well, I’ve never dated a redhead, a man with salt-n-pepper hair, any guy with dirty blonde / light brown hair, nor anyone from the continent of Asia. In each case, it’s not for lack of interest, mind you. It’s just that it never happened. Hmmm … Two questions for you: (1) Do you think it’s true that everyone has a type? (2) What’s your type?
March 28th, 2006 at 12:45 am
chubby nerds–chubby mind you not fat, fit yet squishy.
and jews
March 28th, 2006 at 6:13 am
I think we all do have types, but I think it goes beyond appearance. I think our types are verions of both of our parents’ personalities.
March 28th, 2006 at 11:10 am
You and I are exactly alike. All of my past boytoys are also one of those flavors. yummy and Mwah!
March 28th, 2006 at 11:47 am
Since I apparently was the source for this posting, I figure I should comment…
I do think we have types; I’m attracted to active, involved, and interesting people in terms of their personalities. In terms of a woman’s look, it’s the petite, dark haired brunettes with ‘bright’ eyes (eyes that shine when she smiles – I’m a complete sucker!). And if she’s a surfer, that’s just a bonus!
Now, admittedly, I am also a sucker for a red head with a cute smile, but since those are few and far between, I find myself gravitating towards the former.
I’ve met blondes (and variations of). I’ve met stunning tall beautiful women, but because they aren’t petite (ie, shorter than me, athletic etc) it just doesn’t seem to do anything for me…
Strange, isn’t it?
Do we have types? Yes, but with conditions. Sometimes, our ‘type’ is what we crave, whereas what we need is something else entirely.
March 28th, 2006 at 12:31 pm
As we are cybertwins, I am not sure I even need to comment, but I will anyway, just for kicks.
I’m with you on all these types except the blondies. That I’ll substitute with a yummy coffee chip ice cream from Asia–Hot Indian Doctors. Dark haired, usually compact, dark-eyed, long black lashes, kinda bushy brows, good-sized, sharp noses…love them. My last real BF was not an Indian doctor yet, but he was getting there. And lord but he was cute. And talented. Ahem.
HIDs are highly underrated.
March 28th, 2006 at 12:51 pm
It’s interesting that these are primarily physical traits…
I think we certainly have types of people we are drawn to – sometimes because of the physical attributes, sometimes because of their personality and sometimes a combonation of both.
Is it possible that people’s types change as they grow older? Or that what you think is your “type” isn’t really your type at all? I would say now that my “type” is my husband – close to me in height, light brown hair, unusual eyes, warm heart, hard worker, worships me – but before I met him I tended toward taller, dark haired men.
March 28th, 2006 at 2:01 pm
I have always been attracted to older, salt & pepper, or gray haired, sturdy men. Even when I was younger.
March 28th, 2006 at 3:05 pm
Dear Lovey Heart: Bro thinks Jews are really yummy, too. Surprisingly enough, Guy That I Almost Married is a chosen person. He’s the only Jewish guy that I’ve ever dated and it was fun. We held Seders and everything.
goldennib: For the moment, my “type” doesn’t go beyond appearances, but I’m working on that. Employment = Health Insurance = Therapy. Coming soon, I hope. :)
Tonito Bandito: Oooh, we like the same types? I *knew* there was a reason that I really really like you!! :)
Mitch: Yes, darling, that’s the rule — anyone mentioned in a post *HAS TO* comment. Hmmm … I have to think about what you’ve said about the whole “sometimes, our ‘type’ is what we crave, whereas what we need is something else entirely.” For now, in my case, I’d have to say this is probably true.
Sid: Fuck, I totally forgot the HIDs! :) They are really hot, too. And, if we lump Indians together with men from the Middle East, we’ve got another delicious ice cream flavor: “Crème Caramel.” I’m a sucker for buttery brown skin, long black eyelashes, and warm chocolate eyes. I’ve only tasted 1 Creme Caramel guy, but he was very very yummy.
MamaChristy: I know!!!! I’m a weeeaaak and feeble woman who needs to get over her obsession with men’s looks. :) … And, you’re right, I *do* think types change as we get older. For example, lately, I’ve been attracted to taller men.
Mel Chickk: So your tastes developed at a young age and they’ve stayed the same? Interesting. I think mine have changed slightly. I wonder if others’ tastes have changed or stayed the same.
March 28th, 2006 at 3:33 pm
Super Fudge Chunk but I wouldn’t mind tasting some Dulch de Leche.
March 28th, 2006 at 3:48 pm
I have a type, but always date against type. The type that turns my head never ends up in my bed.
March 28th, 2006 at 6:22 pm
Ms B.: Dulce de Leche = Yummy. I want to learn Spanish. The chief reason is because I think it would behoove everyone in the major US cities to be Spanish-English bilingual. Of course, the added advantage of learning Spanish is that I would be able to woo Latin boys in their own language. ;)
Carlos: I don’t think I’ve *ever* dated against my type. This, of course, could be the source of my dating problems.
March 28th, 2006 at 7:03 pm
Physically I seem to be attracted to boys who aren’t that much taller than me and wear glasses. Mentally I am attracted to men who can make me safe and wanted. Suffice to say I am going to be eternally single. And the short boys with glasses all seem to be really stubborn and mean. The ones I’ve met anyway. This is why I’m going for platonic all the way!
March 28th, 2006 at 7:16 pm
There are lots of traits that I find attractive, but it’s they don’t all have to be present. For example, a handsome face is of course nice to have, but if he’s got a super-duper body then the face can be a little less than perfect. Same goes if he’s plain but terribly hung – I mean, nice and smart and funny.
-cough-
March 28th, 2006 at 9:26 pm
Ooooh! I’m definitely a fan of the Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough! But then I read the comments and realized how much I like Crème Caramel! But they have to be smart or they can’t make it past flavor of the month. =)
More importantly, what does it say that my real-life favorite is Mint Chocolate Chip? Maybe I don’t want to know…
March 28th, 2006 at 9:59 pm
The whole physical attribute thing was just an observation and not an accusation. I just thought it was interesting and if you feel you need a handsome man, you go find him! :)
March 28th, 2006 at 10:45 pm
Nics: Don’t worry, I’m going to be eternally single, too. :)
Jay: I know what you mean … about the, um, “nice and smart and funny” bit. ;)
Anita: VERY TRUE!!! As much as I joke about “looks being the most important thing”, I simply cannot deal with dummies. I make an exception for my Paulie because he can’t help himself, but the high “Smart Bar” is in effect for everyone else.
MamaChristy: No prob. :) Honestly, it’s something that I know I need to work on if I ever want to see my dating life improve. :)
March 28th, 2006 at 11:43 pm
Educated or at least able to communicate at a level above the tabloids.
Dark hair
Computer literate. Doesn’t have to be able to tear down and rebuild, but not a Mouseclicking 101 dropout.
There’s probably more but I gotta go back to work.
March 29th, 2006 at 12:08 am
Mouseclicking 101 dropout? Funny. :)
March 29th, 2006 at 2:00 am
I dated against my type and it did not work out – however I don’t find many that are my type – Tall- Dark Eyes and facial hair -…Like Nics I’m mentally I am attracted to men who can make me safe and wanted.
Nics – is a guy out there who will fit the bill – don’t give up yet!
In my experience the short guys tend to have the Banty Rooster Syndrome – no offense meant here ya’ll – I just worked with and dates some short fellows and they had the BRS syndrome out the wazoo -
March 29th, 2006 at 2:59 am
I’ve dated shorter men (say, under 5′ 10″) that were absolutely lovely; I’ve also dated shorter men who were complete terrors.
March 29th, 2006 at 5:30 pm
MMM, I have a thing for a man who knows something I want to know. Physically I’ve gone from tall geeky guys to hunky blond and blue ( I do have a thing for blue/green eyes — and looks are definitely a part of the package but I am always looking to learn something from him (and not THAT way either – i know how you think Stolie ;-)
For instance…
Current boy: kayaking instructor
Previous: yoga instructor
Past boys include: the Chef, the Mechanic, the Computer Geek and the Artist.
I’m now a class III boater, can achieve a full backbend, change my own oil, cook a steak, replace a hardrive and compose photos. It’s like “dating for personal improvment.”
I wanna surf next… Mitch? What are you up to?
Seriously though, I do tend to be attracted to people whose activity/hobby/occupation of choice is something I’m into. Or who I meet through an a physical activity I’m into.
My problem is that sometimes I don’t consider the other aspects of the person that may not make them the best partner. So once I’ve learned what I’m interested in the realtity of the rest of the guy’s personality kicks in and I’m out the door.
PS. Yes Stolie, my best bud is very cute. Very Very cute in the NY Super Fudge Chunk with the occasional chunk of Dough kind of way.
March 29th, 2006 at 5:57 pm
Ok, I feel a bit silly here but what is Banty Rooster Syndrome?
March 30th, 2006 at 1:17 am
lola: “My problem is that sometimes I don’t consider the other aspects of the person that may not make them the best partner. So once I’ve learned what I’m interested in the realtity of the rest of the guy’s personality kicks in and I’m out the door.” Ohhhh, I know *exactly* what you mean! :) BTW, blind date? ;)
Nics: It’s kind of like this.
August 1st, 2007 at 12:54 am
<strong>greatings</strong>
great post