Comments on: How to Date Hot Men http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK™ chronicles her life. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:40:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Lola http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2019 Lola Fri, 21 Apr 2006 02:56:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2019 Great post Stolie...this is the first time I've dated a 'hot guy' and for a while I was wondering if something was wrong with me because for someone so "fine" he sure can be a bimbo and *I* can't possibly be that much of a ditz (I mean that in the nicest way) but I've begun noticing that the qualities that really irritate me about him hit remarkably close to home in my own personality. There is some serious truth to the "you look good" "I look good" "let's look good together" theory.... I dunno. SO, if one chooses to develop oneself as a beautful person with more of an *inside* can find someone with same qualities? Great post Stolie…this is the first time I’ve dated a ‘hot guy’ and for a while I was wondering if something was wrong with me because for someone so “fine” he sure can be a bimbo and *I* can’t possibly be that much of a ditz (I mean that in the nicest way) but I’ve begun noticing that the qualities that really irritate me about him hit remarkably close to home in my own personality.
There is some serious truth to the “you look good” “I look good” “let’s look good together” theory….
I dunno. SO, if one chooses to develop oneself as a beautful person with more of an *inside* can find someone with same qualities?

]]> By: stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2020 stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna Fri, 21 Apr 2006 00:16:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2020 Oh, good lawd, I don't know! This is a hard one. See, I don't think that *I'm* ugly on the inside, so I'm not sure why I date guys who are. Maybe opposites *DO* attract? Here are a couple of examples ... (1) I honestly strive to balance all of the interesting areas of my life, but I date workaholic corporate guys. Maybe we balance each other out because he's the "foundation" & I'm the "fun". (2) I'm not an asshole, but I date guys who are. Okay, on this one, I'm stuck. I wrote about this almost <a HREF="http://funkybrownchick.blogspot.com/2005/12/why-do-women-date-assholes.html" rel="nofollow">5 months ago</A>, but I'm still no closer to figuring it out. I need therapy. Oh, good lawd, I don’t know! This is a hard one. See, I don’t think that *I’m* ugly on the inside, so I’m not sure why I date guys who are. Maybe opposites *DO* attract?

Here are a couple of examples …

(1) I honestly strive to balance all of the interesting areas of my life, but I date workaholic corporate guys. Maybe we balance each other out because he’s the “foundation” & I’m the “fun”.

(2) I’m not an asshole, but I date guys who are. Okay, on this one, I’m stuck. I wrote about this almost 5 months ago, but I’m still no closer to figuring it out. I need therapy.

]]> By: stolie http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2018 stolie Thu, 20 Apr 2006 22:12:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2018 You went to TJ when you were only 19. I didn't go until I was 21. Whew-wee ... you are a wild one! ;) You went to TJ when you were only 19. I didn’t go until I was 21. Whew-wee … you are a wild one! ;)

]]> By: Sid http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2017 Sid Thu, 20 Apr 2006 16:11:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2017 I have licked and fondled a few bald heads in my time, and hooooo-boy, does that cause trouble. Lessee, my first was a very cute marine-looking guy walking with his buddies in TJ. I was 19 and very naive. And this was before baldies became really popular. Total stranger, and I just sort of blurted, "Oh my god, can I touch your head?" He said yes. And seemed to really enjoy it. Most recent? A Tim in Chicago. Trouble. Ahem. I like it, they like it, everybody's happy. I have licked and fondled a few bald heads in my time, and hooooo-boy, does that cause trouble. Lessee, my first was a very cute marine-looking guy walking with his buddies in TJ. I was 19 and very naive. And this was before baldies became really popular. Total stranger, and I just sort of blurted, “Oh my god, can I touch your head?” He said yes. And seemed to really enjoy it. Most recent? A Tim in Chicago. Trouble. Ahem. I like it, they like it, everybody’s happy.

]]> By: surly girl http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2015 surly girl Thu, 20 Apr 2006 11:39:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2015 oops. typo. what i meant to say was...you licked a man's <I>head</I>?? and i thought the spanking was bad enough. *smirks complicitly* oops. typo.

what i meant to say was…you licked a man’s head??

and i thought the spanking was bad enough.

*smirks complicitly*

]]> By: surly girl http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2014 surly girl Thu, 20 Apr 2006 11:38:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2014 This post has been removed by the author. This post has been removed by the author.

]]> By: stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2016 stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna Thu, 20 Apr 2006 10:39:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2016 <B>Sid</B>: You're a good woman! :) I'm sure that you'll meet someone special soon. By the way, I took a "Face Test" online on the BBC site a while ago. They told me (surprise, surprise) that I tend to go for well-groomed, perfectly asymmetrical faces. But, I'm growing, changing. And, identifying a problem is the fist step to changing it. <B>surly girl</B>: Oh yeah, girl. It was F-A-N-T-A-S-T-I-C. It was back when I was at university. His name was M and he was a cutie pie! I made some random comment about his head bald being so smooth that I wanted to kiss it. He let me do it, so I slowly ran my finger tips and tongue over it for a little while before I kissed it. He said that it felt a little odd at first, but it really drove him WILD! Nerve endings that aren't stimulated on a regular basis go crazy once they are ... heeeeeyy, I just had an idea for a post ... Tune in tomorrow! Sid: You’re a good woman! :) I’m sure that you’ll meet someone special soon. By the way, I took a “Face Test” online on the BBC site a while ago. They told me (surprise, surprise) that I tend to go for well-groomed, perfectly asymmetrical faces. But, I’m growing, changing. And, identifying a problem is the fist step to changing it.

surly girl: Oh yeah, girl. It was F-A-N-T-A-S-T-I-C. It was back when I was at university. His name was M and he was a cutie pie! I made some random comment about his head bald being so smooth that I wanted to kiss it. He let me do it, so I slowly ran my finger tips and tongue over it for a little while before I kissed it. He said that it felt a little odd at first, but it really drove him WILD! Nerve endings that aren’t stimulated on a regular basis go crazy once they are … heeeeeyy, I just had an idea for a post … Tune in tomorrow!

]]> By: Sid http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2013 Sid Thu, 20 Apr 2006 08:01:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2013 1. Cosigned: Assholes come in all flavors. 2. For better or worse, I like a lot of flavors. I dunno, I like to look at hot guys; I like outsides, but I really, really am thunderstruck by insides. I'm absolutely a sucker for fun and funny, and passionate/smart. As I get older and experience more, I'm beginning to realize how much I like being adored, too, LOL. So I think I'm edging closer to finding the right combination of traits for me. It doesn't hurt either that I actually have a proven preference for "interesting" features over pretty ones. I once took a psych test that measured responses to various faces. I was one of the few in the camp that prefered asymmetrical, imperfect faces over all others! I also dig a little bald patch and a big, pointy nose. I think <a HREF="http://www.cca.ukzn.ac.za/images/tow/TOW2005/authors/HariKunzru395.jpg" rel="nofollow">this guy</A> is one of the sexiest men EVAR! 1. Cosigned: Assholes come in all flavors.

2. For better or worse, I like a lot of flavors.

I dunno, I like to look at hot guys; I like outsides, but I really, really am thunderstruck by insides. I’m absolutely a sucker for fun and funny, and passionate/smart. As I get older and experience more, I’m beginning to realize how much I like being adored, too, LOL. So I think I’m edging closer to finding the right combination of traits for me. It doesn’t hurt either that I actually have a proven preference for “interesting” features over pretty ones. I once took a psych test that measured responses to various faces. I was one of the few in the camp that prefered asymmetrical, imperfect faces over all others! I also dig a little bald patch and a big, pointy nose. I think this guy is one of the sexiest men EVAR!

]]> By: stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2012 stolie / funkybrownchick / Twanna Thu, 20 Apr 2006 04:32:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2012 <B>Elenor</B>: I agree with what you said and echo Anita's comments: both men and woman can be assholes. I'm learning that the key is to find the people that *aren't* assholes, and surround myself with them. <B>Anita</B>: You are really funny!!! I laughed out loud when I read your comments about the consumer culture and hair gel. <B>missbhavens</B>: THANK YOU for sharing. Really. I appreciate it. I'm probably in need of a hiatus like the one that you talked about. I've seriously considered it (off and on) over the past few months. I'm tired of the bullshit and I need to date a really nice, kind, caring, decent "good guy" for a change. <B>AmyD</B>: No prob, babes! My pleasure. What my readers want, they get. You asked for a post about Hot Men, and I delivered. I have a couple of thoughts about what you said ... (1) You're right, hot men aren't the only people who can be assholes. (2) I'm sorting through my crap and my issues at the moment. In time, I hope to have it all figured out better than I currently do. (3) I've got my blindfold ready!! :) <B>AWE</B>: You have a shaved head? I once had an intense FlirtFest with a bald man. I licked and kissed his head. He enjoyed. And, a good time was had by all. <B>Howard</B>: Yummy!!! Glad to know that I turn you on. ;) <B>MamaChristy</B>: It has taken me YEARS to get this far. I didn't even realize that I had a pattern until approx. 2 years ago. Mags and Bro confronted me and I was like, <I>"What do you mean??? I don't pick guys based solely on looks, do I?"</I> <B>goldennib</B>: I think I'm ready to settle into a committed relationship. I'm not talking marriage. Fuck no. :) I just want a monogamous relationship with one really good guy. I'm tired of the games, half-truths, multidating, etc. The next time that I date, I want the <a HREF="http://funkybrownchick.blogspot.com/2006/01/good-girl-gone-bad.html" rel="nofollow">one-woman-one-man</A> kind of thing. Elenor: I agree with what you said and echo Anita’s comments: both men and woman can be assholes. I’m learning that the key is to find the people that *aren’t* assholes, and surround myself with them.

Anita: You are really funny!!! I laughed out loud when I read your comments about the consumer culture and hair gel.

missbhavens: THANK YOU for sharing. Really. I appreciate it. I’m probably in need of a hiatus like the one that you talked about. I’ve seriously considered it (off and on) over the past few months. I’m tired of the bullshit and I need to date a really nice, kind, caring, decent “good guy” for a change.

AmyD: No prob, babes! My pleasure. What my readers want, they get. You asked for a post about Hot Men, and I delivered. I have a couple of thoughts about what you said … (1) You’re right, hot men aren’t the only people who can be assholes. (2) I’m sorting through my crap and my issues at the moment. In time, I hope to have it all figured out better than I currently do. (3) I’ve got my blindfold ready!! :)

AWE: You have a shaved head? I once had an intense FlirtFest with a bald man. I licked and kissed his head. He enjoyed. And, a good time was had by all.

Howard: Yummy!!! Glad to know that I turn you on. ;)

MamaChristy: It has taken me YEARS to get this far. I didn’t even realize that I had a pattern until approx. 2 years ago. Mags and Bro confronted me and I was like, “What do you mean??? I don’t pick guys based solely on looks, do I?”

goldennib: I think I’m ready to settle into a committed relationship. I’m not talking marriage. Fuck no. :) I just want a monogamous relationship with one really good guy. I’m tired of the games, half-truths, multidating, etc. The next time that I date, I want the one-woman-one-man kind of thing.

]]> By: goldennib http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2011 goldennib Thu, 20 Apr 2006 01:31:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/04/19/how-to-date-hot-men/#comment-2011 Unless you are ready to settle down, why worry. Keep playing. And eventually you'll be with some pretty boy and a guy behind you will say something funny and you'll be hooked on him for life. Unless you are ready to settle down, why worry. Keep playing. And eventually you’ll be with some pretty boy and a guy behind you will say something funny and you’ll be hooked on him for life.

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