If you’re interested in the self defense / martial arts side of KB, there’s supposedly a really good place on the west side but I don’t know the name of it. :(

parnellpr: THANKS for the link. And, yes, Zinedine Zidane *is* hot. Hands off; he’s mine!

Anonymous: I don’t think there is really any need to (over)analyse the motives behind one night stands. Most of us who do it, do it simply because it’s fun. You meet a guy, you’re attracted to each other, you have sex. You have no intention of picking out curtains or exchanging house keys, but that doesn’t preclude the possibility of having a great time (hopefully). It’s just a physical activity that makes you feel good – like a massage, with a ‘happy finish’ :-p

It’s not about low self-esteem, it’s not about damaged childhoods, and it certainly isn’t about societal pressures.

I guess not all of us believe that two people need to be in love before they can be in bed.

[INSERT SHAMELESS PLUG FOR HIS BLOG]

Anonymous: Okay, okay, I might do a post on this topic in the future. But, I warn you … I’m not grossed out by sharing body fluids; I think it’s quite, um, pleasureable. Hell, I’d certainly like to swap fluids with Zidane and I don’t know him. :)

STOLIE DO A VICARIOUS POST!! Put it in your own words I’m sure you’ll make it so much more interesting!

This is getting very Sex and the City – only without the sex! We want Stolie’s Steamy Sex Stories!

And of course I’ve slept with someone only to have that person never call me again. I’ve even slept with people and then pretended not to recognise them. That’s the whole point of one night stands!

1) I agree. And, I think the reason people “read between the lines too much” is because so many people are, shall we say, “less than honest”. Women and men are equally guilty of this. Women, raise your hands if you’ve ever had a guy string you a long because he simply didn’t have to balls to just come out and say, “I’m not that into you; leave me alone.” He expects you to guess; he expects you to get the point and/or read between the lines. Likewise, fellas raise your hands if you’ve ever asked a woman “what’s wrong?” and she answered “nothing” in a tone that clearly indicated that something was VERY wrong. She just wasn’t telling you. You, too, are expected to get the point and/or read between the lines. Communication is difficult. And, it would make everything a whole lot easier if everyone was just a bit more fucking honest.

2) Totally agree. Loads of people are afraid to be alone. This is not a good thing; everyone should spend time getting to know who they are and what they want in relationships. If I’m being honestly, I’d have to say that I think I’m pretty good about doing this. I haven’t had a boyfriend since Summer 2004. And, before the recent fling with Euroboy, I hadn’t been laid in almost 9 months. Having said that, I’ll add this: I honestly don’t think it’s a good idea for people to be “single” forever. In modern society — if you live by yourself in a big metropolitan area and your family isn’t nearby — it’s possible to go weeks (or, indeed, months) without anyone actually touching you. That’s just not healthy. (The movie Crash touches, no pun intended, on this theme — albeit on a somewhat shallow level.) Human beings are living things. We need to be touched; people need people.

3) Hmm … I know plenty of people (present company included) who go from date to date and wonder why they’re having such bad luck. Hell, there was even an entire television series about this: Sex and the City. It’s my life. Welcome to New York. :)

Papigiulio: Interesting point. I’ll probably ponder this the next time that I’m in a conversation about dating woes in the big city. :-)

AWE: You know what? You’re right. “Dating” in and of itself is actually really easy. It’s even fun. The hard part comes when you get past all of the surface stuff and brush up against the deeper stuff with people that you actually really really like.

kypris: I totally agree. The “signals” thing is totally unnecessary.

AmyD: Ohhhh, I didn’t mean to be sad. Just honest. And, THANK YOU for the sweet, “you are more than the most fabulous being just single you” comment. I appreciate it.

MamaChristy: And, thank YOU for the “you are wonderful the way you are” comment. You guys are all so nice!!! I LOVE MY READERS!!!!! :-)

D: Most of the time it is fun, but it can be exhausting as well. I’m just getting a bit tired of the games …

Dear Lovey Heart: OOOOHHH!!! That’s a blast from the past. GOOD ONE! :)

Mitch: Indeed it does. And, yeah, I agree: we have to still put ourselves out there.