PDAs: “Hell Yeah” or “Fuck No”?
Okay. I’m back. Suddenly, New York just got cooler. Wait, that came out wrong. It’s not cooler because I’m back … you know, I mean, literally, New York got cooler — the temperature dropped. The heat was unbearable earlier this week. I’m surprised that we all survived it. But, then again, we’re New Yorkers. We’re tough. If the crime, pollution, politics, rats, bed bugs, MTA, stress and other things can’t kill us, surely the heat isn’t going to do the job either.
By the way, sorry about my brief absence the other day. I went on another date with Mr. Scandinavian: Sven Johånn Låårssøn. I’ll preface everything by saying: I wouldn’t usually get shitfaced with a guy on a second date. But, I couldn’t help myself — hanging out with Sven is so much fun. It’s like he’s the male version of me, a Male Stolie; so, when we hang out, we can just be goofy together. We grab dinner. We kick back a few beers. We just hang out and talk. No pretension. No games. Just fun. Pure fun. It’s like I’ve met a new friend. A new friend who just happens to be an excellent kisser. And, speaking of kissing … hmmm …. New topic: public displays of affection—the notorious “PDAs”. I discovered this blog post the other day, and I laughed out loud for a good 10 minutes or so. It’s a post about two 30-somethings openly getting it on at a cafe on the Upper East Side. Read the post, and then come back here so we can talk about PDAs. I wanna know what your vote is. In general, how do you feel about PDAs: “hell yeah” or “fuck no”?
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Gratulerer med dagen! (“Happy Birthday” in Norwegian.) Woot! Woot! Guess who joins Club 30 today?!?! All the people of the world sing, “Happy Birthday to AmyD …” Okay, okay, that’s enough attention for AmyD. Back to moi. Focus, people, focus. :-)
July 21st, 2006 at 2:38 am
Hi, I’m de-lurking!
If I’m part of the PDA, I don’t mind so much :P
If I’m not, then it’s a big “FUCK NO!”
July 21st, 2006 at 8:45 am
Just like everything else, you can take it too far.
July 21st, 2006 at 8:54 am
I’m sure you’re helping the cool factor Stolie – don’t be so modest!
PDA’s? Somewhat okay – but there has to be a limit. I was going to say ‘as long as no clothing is removed’ but after reading the post, that really isn’t going to work…. How bout – if you can do it in front of your parents, you can do it public. (Parents being like my parents…..meaning conservative….)
July 21st, 2006 at 9:51 am
Stef: YAY!!!! Welcome to the public enjoyment of the blog!!! :) As you all know, I *LOVE* it when people de-lurk themselves. And, great avatar by the way. Four pairs of juicy lips. Very “new art” very “mod”. :)
AWE: Okay, but now I’m left to wonder, “how much is too much?” I like to throw down with some PDA … and, accordingly, Bro likes to tell me how utterly disgusting she thinks it is ( … and, of course, I’m always like, “What?! I thought we were being modest.”)
lala: Yeah, parents are different. When I was dating The Guy I Almost Married, my family wouldn’t let us sleep in the same bed when we were in their house. His family, on the other hand, was Dutch. When we visited them, at night, he and I definitely did more than “share the bed”.
July 21st, 2006 at 11:58 am
I would have to say if legs start tangling and a hand gets into someone’s pants, unless it is my pants.
July 21st, 2006 at 12:02 pm
Well, this just shows that NYC is a nice place to visit, but, I wouldn’t want to live there (no offense, Hon!).
My vote would be “Fuck No!”. ;)
July 21st, 2006 at 12:53 pm
I would have to be in the “Fuck No” group on this one, but then, I’m old.
That post was hilarious though! I loved the Weekend at Bernie’s picture.
July 21st, 2006 at 1:03 pm
I saw a lot of PDA the last time I was in NYC. Apparently, I started to sneer at it.
July 21st, 2006 at 1:55 pm
Thanks for the welcome! And thanks. One day I realised there was a timer delay featreu thing on my camera :D
Right. Rephrasing my answer a bit:
If I’m part of the PDA, I don’t mind so much but no, even I have to say fuck no to crossing the line of cute/manageable to oh good, now we all know what they look like naked.
So I’m pro a little bit of PDA – holding hands, moderate kissing (the Parents Thing, like lala said), and anti-soppy PDAs.
July 21st, 2006 at 2:01 pm
A quick smooch (even if it involves tougue), hang holding, and ass grabbing are all fine. Dry humping – Fuck no. Get a room!
July 21st, 2006 at 5:18 pm
Excessive PDA is a ‘fuck no!’
Maybe a kiss or so. Unless I’m tipsy in which case it ends up being more than just one kiss (hangs head in shame)
BTW that PDA link is hillarious!
July 21st, 2006 at 5:52 pm
Hmmm, I think I’d have to go with “[hell] no!” (yeah, I’m not too much into swearing. I usually like to avoid even saying hell.)
My first boyfriend was kind of into the mushy, soppy, lovey-dovey stuff, which is fine if you like that, but it’s not for me. Plus he was into PDA (only a little, but too much for me…I had to tell him to stop it. Luckily he listened.)
So I’d have to say yes to maybe holding hands or a quick peck but otherwise, no. And if it’s making everyone feel awkward, definitely no.
July 21st, 2006 at 11:46 pm
What? With you?
HELL YEAH!
July 21st, 2006 at 11:49 pm
Now as far as reality is concerned, I don’t much care. You only know you’re doing it right when someone says, sheesh, get a room. Just don’t hold up traffic kissing your sign. oth. when you’re supposed to be getting your arse out of the car.
I am commenting “under the influence” I hope you don’t mind.
July 22nd, 2006 at 7:09 am
AWE: :)
Hanuman1960: Yeah, NYC isn’t for everyone. Even though *I* love living here, I can kind of see how & why people wouldn’t love it.
Mel Chickk: Hey, hey … you’re only as old as you feel. And, yeah, the “Weekend at Bernie’s” comment brought back memories. :) And isn’t that guy’s brother, the guy with the brown hair and beard a hottie?!?! :)
Carlos: PDA is the new black.
Stef: No prob. And, I totally got what you meant in your answer.
MamaChristy: I haven’t tried dry humping in AGES. Just for shits and giggles, I might ask the next guy that I go out on a date with, “hey, just out of curiousity, when’s the last time you dry humped someone?”
Darwin: Yeah, if I’m tipsy, all rules are off. Aside from … you know … public sex, nothing else is taboo. ;) And, yeah, that guy is HILARIOUS!! I randomly found him on Gawker.
kypris: But isn’t “making everyone feel awkward” 1/2 the fun. ;)
Raymond: Oh, sweetie! Had a bit too much to drink, have you? I’ve been there. Earlier this week, I had the worst hangover in the world; I hadn’t drank that much in a while!
July 22nd, 2006 at 1:36 pm
there are pda’s and then there are PDA’s.
Affectionate displays are ok, but over the top…. NO WAY…
This topic brings to mind the first date I had with From TX Gal: No Music of the Night and….. 1998
It went really well – we were having a “cute” PDA (nothing over the top) …. and some passer’s by took it for granted that he was Proposing…. God I was embarassed — so… I guess it’s not shocker that that relationship did not turn out LOL
July 22nd, 2006 at 8:33 pm
Those pics were freaking hilarious! How self absorbed were they huh? I think PDA’s go too far……..i think you definitely have to judge your audience. At my school, even when we were 16+ they STILL had a 6 inch rule, and now i’m informed holding hands and hugging count as PDA’s and are punishable offences. Crazy huh? BTW your quote on distars blog was v apt. Pippa
July 23rd, 2006 at 12:49 am
There’s nothing hotter then a drunken late night make out session in a bar. Key words being “late night”. It’s something that’s awesome – but that you should be embarrassed about. Therefore, have a good excuse – be hammered.
July 23rd, 2006 at 10:08 am
E: Someone thought he was proposing?!?! What were you guys doing?
parnellpr: I love that guy’s blog!! :) Yeah, I don’t count “hand-holding” and “hugging” as PDA. On the other hand, tongue hockey & groping definitely count.
Anonymous: Yeah, drunken + bar + late night + making out = fun. That couple from that guy’s blog? Sober + coffee shop + midday + dry humping = VERY VERY ODD!!!
July 23rd, 2006 at 1:59 pm
pda?? you mean personal digital assistent? you had me confused for a moment there. Anyways I dislike pda’s
Go get a room, noone wants to see your tongue rolling around in some girls throat. shoo shooo
July 23rd, 2006 at 3:13 pm
I second mamachristy:
“A quick smooch (even if it involves tougue), hang holding, and ass grabbing are all fine. Dry humping – Fuck no. Get a room!”
Couldn’t have said it any better :)
July 23rd, 2006 at 4:35 pm
Papigiulio: Yeah, I guess the whole “PDA” abbreviation for “public display of affection” is an American expression.
Firefly: Mamachristy is wise beyond her years. I love that woman.
July 24th, 2006 at 12:04 pm
If I am anti-PDA, does it mean I am lacking in feelings? Of course, maybe I’m just bitter… :)
July 24th, 2006 at 12:08 pm
And as for those pictures — good Lord above! Don’t these people have homes? Although homeless gotta do their thing, too (which reminds me of the time I went to a lecture given by a formerly homeless man, and someone asked him what he would do when he fancied a woman and got “the urge to merge.”).
July 24th, 2006 at 4:42 pm
The One and Only Bro: You? Bitter? Naaahh, never. ;)
the original bro: The urge to merge??? LOVE IT!!!! :)
July 24th, 2006 at 11:46 pm
Hmmm…wow. I’m definitely not in the majority here. I completely get the biggest kick out of PDA. LOVE IT!!
If they’re not that cute it’s hilarious, (which is all good)if the people are attractive it kind of turns me on (which is even better), and if I’m doing it…well, that’s just one big HELL YES in my book. lol.
July 25th, 2006 at 1:28 am
Way to go, Jill!!!! :)
July 25th, 2006 at 2:53 pm
Yay me! It’s my birthday! Oh, uh, I mean it WAS my birthday. Where’s my cake, dammit? ;o)
OK, onto the real issue. FUCK NO it’s not OK! I mean, I’ll peck/kiss my man or give him a pat on the ass as I’m walking away to use the bathroom, but the whole tongue action? And grindage? On a very PUBLIC couch (let’s not even talk about the hygienic quotient)? Where I come from, that earns you a kick in the shin.
July 26th, 2006 at 11:23 am
YAY!!! AmyD is now in “Club 30s”. :)
And, wow, it’s looks like you guys are split between 1/3 who like PDA, 1/3 who don’t, and 1/3 who like it in small dosages.
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