Comments on: Best Questions To Ask A Date http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK™ chronicles her life. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:56:26 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: stolie http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3196 stolie Mon, 07 Aug 2006 16:46:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3196 <B>Howard</B>: Yeah, so far, it's been really nice. It's still fairly new, so who knows what (if anything) will develop. But, for now, it's really nice & I'm happy. <B>Pegs</B>: THANKS! :) <B>Darwin</B>: Same here. I never really think to ask it, because I assume: <I>hey, if this guy was married with kids, wouldn't he <B>tell</B> me that?!?!</I>. Sad, but it's not really an assumption to be made these days. <B>momok</B>: You're right: it's odd, but things do seem to come up fairly naturally ... And, by the way, what do you mean by the "/*". Did I say "/*" somewhere? :) Howard: Yeah, so far, it’s been really nice. It’s still fairly new, so who knows what (if anything) will develop. But, for now, it’s really nice & I’m happy.

Pegs: THANKS! :)

Darwin: Same here. I never really think to ask it, because I assume: hey, if this guy was married with kids, wouldn’t he tell me that?!?!. Sad, but it’s not really an assumption to be made these days.

momok: You’re right: it’s odd, but things do seem to come up fairly naturally … And, by the way, what do you mean by the “/*”. Did I say “/*” somewhere? :)

]]> By: momok http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3195 momok Mon, 07 Aug 2006 01:04:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3195 Hmm... I wouldn't directly ask anything, but I really want to know if I can have an intelligent conversation with her (besides other things, ofcourse). Instead of asking "on a scale of 1 to 10, how smart are you.."? I'd ask about things which gives me an estimate. And whats with "/*"????? What does that mean? Hmm… I wouldn’t directly ask anything, but I really want to know if I can have an intelligent conversation with her (besides other things, ofcourse).
Instead of asking “on a scale of 1 to 10, how smart are you..”? I’d ask about things which gives me an estimate.

And whats with “/*”????? What does that mean?

]]> By: Darwin http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3194 Darwin Sun, 06 Aug 2006 22:08:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3194 I guess the married/kids question. I suppose I'm quite naiive but I expect that to come up during the course of the conversation really! Also, again I naively don't expect married guys to date other people! I guess the married/kids question. I suppose I’m quite naiive but I expect that to come up during the course of the conversation really! Also, again I naively don’t expect married guys to date other people!

]]> By: Pegs http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3193 Pegs Sun, 06 Aug 2006 21:11:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3193 Yippee! Yippee!

]]> By: Howard http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3192 Howard Sun, 06 Aug 2006 02:15:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3192 Hooray! I'm glad I came back here and read your good news! Hooray! I’m glad I came back here and read your good news!

]]> By: stolie http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3191 stolie Sat, 05 Aug 2006 21:49:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3191 Oh yeah, by the way, I had another great date with Sven (and I asked the hard questions). So, yeah, so far we're on a winning streak. :) Oh yeah, by the way, I had another great date with Sven (and I asked the hard questions). So, yeah, so far we’re on a winning streak. :)

]]> By: stolie http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3190 stolie Sat, 05 Aug 2006 21:44:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3190 <B>AWE</B>: Yeah, I can't be 100% sure, but I think the sign really does mean something about "dating questions". ;) <B>Howard</B>: Wow, thanks for sharing and for being so honest!! And, about that fear / ignorance / prejudice in the gay community ... I would venture to say that it's probably the same in the straight community as well. Random sidenote ... Boy#2 was the first guy to ever ask me, <I>"So, when is the last time you were tested?"</I> I was so naive that I honestly asked, <I>"Tested for what?"</I> We had a serious discussion about how anyone who is sexually active should probably get tested. In the end, we never slept together but I think it's great that we got tested. (And, not that it matters, but "negative" in case anyone was curious.) <B>hotdrwife</B>: Yeah, my friend got burned too. She asked the guy if he was married and he said no. Later, she found out that the whole time she dated him, he was seperated and in an on-again-off-again thing with his wife. Hence, she now asks: "Is there any woman anywhere who has any reason to believe that she is (or could possibly be) your wife?" <B>Pegs</B>: GOOD questions!! :) <B>Mitch</B>: I'm naturally a very curious person. So, I usually get around to asking the tough questions -- just later rather than sooner. :) ... By the way kid, I have something that I've been meaning to stick in the mailbox for you for quite a while now. I'll do it today or Monday. Sorry for the delay. <B>Laurie</B>: I *LOVE* your questions. Very light & happy. <B>Nics</B>: It's true, the older the date, the more likely it is that there may be prior marriage(s) and/or kids. Every situation is different, but I would *prefer* to date a guy who hasn't been married previously and does not have children. But, you never know because ... ya know ... Paul Walker has a kid (kids?), and I certainly wouldn't ever bar <I>him</I> from entering my vagina. <B>MamaChristy</B>: That's really cool that you knew what was important to you and you were unwilling to compromise. <B>goldennib</B>: Good advice. And, I think I do kind of see dates as social get togethers in the beginning. If things heat up and I decide that I like the guy, then the date questions come. Good news is that I often become "friends" with the guys who things don't heat up with, and we never have that awkward "I used to date him" feeling. The bad news is that some guys (like, for example, Le Canadien) freaked out when I switched gears and got more serious. <I>'What's with this serious stuff now? I thought we were just, you know, having fun."</I> AWE: Yeah, I can’t be 100% sure, but I think the sign really does mean something about “dating questions”. ;)

Howard: Wow, thanks for sharing and for being so honest!! And, about that fear / ignorance / prejudice in the gay community … I would venture to say that it’s probably the same in the straight community as well. Random sidenote … Boy#2 was the first guy to ever ask me, “So, when is the last time you were tested?” I was so naive that I honestly asked, “Tested for what?” We had a serious discussion about how anyone who is sexually active should probably get tested. In the end, we never slept together but I think it’s great that we got tested. (And, not that it matters, but “negative” in case anyone was curious.)

hotdrwife: Yeah, my friend got burned too. She asked the guy if he was married and he said no. Later, she found out that the whole time she dated him, he was seperated and in an on-again-off-again thing with his wife. Hence, she now asks: “Is there any woman anywhere who has any reason to believe that she is (or could possibly be) your wife?”

Pegs: GOOD questions!! :)

Mitch: I’m naturally a very curious person. So, I usually get around to asking the tough questions — just later rather than sooner. :) … By the way kid, I have something that I’ve been meaning to stick in the mailbox for you for quite a while now. I’ll do it today or Monday. Sorry for the delay.

Laurie: I *LOVE* your questions. Very light & happy.

Nics: It’s true, the older the date, the more likely it is that there may be prior marriage(s) and/or kids. Every situation is different, but I would *prefer* to date a guy who hasn’t been married previously and does not have children. But, you never know because … ya know … Paul Walker has a kid (kids?), and I certainly wouldn’t ever bar him from entering my vagina.

MamaChristy: That’s really cool that you knew what was important to you and you were unwilling to compromise.

goldennib: Good advice. And, I think I do kind of see dates as social get togethers in the beginning. If things heat up and I decide that I like the guy, then the date questions come. Good news is that I often become “friends” with the guys who things don’t heat up with, and we never have that awkward “I used to date him” feeling. The bad news is that some guys (like, for example, Le Canadien) freaked out when I switched gears and got more serious. ‘What’s with this serious stuff now? I thought we were just, you know, having fun.”

]]> By: goldennib http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3189 goldennib Sat, 05 Aug 2006 17:31:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3189 I think the, Are you married or in any form of committed relationship?, a question that needs an answer before going on a first date. I prefer not to associate with someone who can not honor such a basic agreement. A date is not the same thing as a simple social get together. All other questions can be answered based on how the relationship goes. I think the, Are you married or in any form of committed relationship?, a question that needs an answer before going on a first date.

I prefer not to associate with someone who can not honor such a basic agreement.

A date is not the same thing as a simple social get together.

All other questions can be answered based on how the relationship goes.

]]> By: MamaChristy http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3188 MamaChristy Sat, 05 Aug 2006 04:38:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3188 Well, it's been a while, but I always got around to the idea of marriage and children within the first three to five dates. That was something that I wanted and I wasn't going to waste my time with a guy who didn't want that. I was also looking for a man who was Christian (demonimation didn't matter to me) but wasn't a complete prude. Awe - what <I>does</I> that sign mean? Well, it’s been a while, but I always got around to the idea of marriage and children within the first three to five dates. That was something that I wanted and I wasn’t going to waste my time with a guy who didn’t want that. I was also looking for a man who was Christian (demonimation didn’t matter to me) but wasn’t a complete prude.

Awe – what does that sign mean?

]]> By: Nics http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3187 Nics Sat, 05 Aug 2006 00:50:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/08/04/best-questions-to-ask-a-date/#comment-3187 You're not from Armagh, are you? I jest. Can't think of any to be honest. I think that if I were going to date someone older than me I would ask about prior relationships and children etc. You’re not from Armagh, are you? I jest. Can’t think of any to be honest. I think that if I were going to date someone older than me I would ask about prior relationships and children etc.

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