Best City for Singles?
“How does the dating scene vary from city to city?” asks an anonymous reader known only as ‘The Genuis’. What a great question to kick off the First Annual Dating Week! (Fret not. We’ll get to each of the questions. I’m just answering them in no particular order.) According to Forbes magazine … drum roll please … Denver, Colorado is the best place to live — if you’re single. Yep, folks, you heard it here. If you’re flying solo, you’d better hope that your plane is heading toward the mile-high city. Now, if you’re anything like me, you’re probably asking yourself, “Why the hell is DENVER the best place for single people?!?!” Well, according to Forbes, Denver deserves the top spot, in part, because of the high percentage of single people living in the city.
Hmmm … Wouldn’t having an unusually high percentage of single people in your city be an indication that it’s actually HARDER to date there, not easier? Otherwise, you know, why is everyone still single? Clearly, something isn’t working. But, hey, what do I know? I’m not an expert at these things. I’m just a girl with a blog … and a failed dating life. But, back to Denver. No wait, screw Denver. I wanna know about my city. I wanna know about New York.
When describing NYC, Jen Carlson comments in the Forbes article: “I think a good blanket term that could describe the entire city’s singles scene would be ‘harsh.’ Or maybe ‘competitive.’ I’m pretty sure that even the guys with the girlfriends are also dating other people.” I couldn’t agree more. Hell, just the other day I was scrolling through my own cell phone and I came across two numbers that I didn’t even recognize. “Who the hell is Neil?” I wondered. And, Ben? Was he the guy with the oil spot on his tie? I shit you not, when a guy gives me his number now, I always program in a code word along with his name. For example, Martin is programmed in as “Martin the German” and Frank is “Frank – Bob’s Friend”.
Don’t get me wrong. I mean, it’s not like I’m dating oh-so-many people. It’s just easy to meet guys in New York. But, quality guys? Now, that’s a different story. That’s harder. And, it’s even harder still to meet a quality guy who actually wants to date you exclusively. Hmmm … tell me … What’s the dating scene in YOUR city?
September 25th, 2006 at 1:03 am
YEAY.. ME FIRST… the advantage of living in your future rocks.. literally..
Dating scene is pretty average in my town… for starters, NZ as a whole country is very laid back and very “country”. Not that i’m complaining about it… Everyone seems to think Auckland is the happening place with the “proper” joints to hangout in.. I couldn’t agree more. But i don’t live there.. enough said!!!
September 25th, 2006 at 1:58 am
in Rexburg “ring by spring” echoes through the air
September 25th, 2006 at 3:44 am
In Vancouver the dating scene seems, for lack of a better word “bitter.”
This isn’t necessarily my opinion but what I’ve surmised from several conversations. The guys generally think the women expect too much – they want funny, rich, educated, good looking, tall etc etc. and thus are “bitches.”
The women say the guys have nothing to offer and expect too much in return.
On the other hand I’ve heard guys from other cities say that the women in Vancouver are “really hot”. Strangely, I haven’t heard anything about the men in this city.
That’s all I’m going to say cuz I know you have some Vancouver readers who will strongly agree or disagree!
September 25th, 2006 at 10:45 am
Dallas is a hard city to “quality” date in but if you are looking for a good time it is a fairly easy city to fullfill that need. I read, in one of my 5000 self-help books, that in order to date you need to stay away from the guys that think “all women are bitches” and quit being one of those “all men are dogs” women. I think here it is hard to find non-bitter daters. I keep holding out hope that there are one or two out there somewhere.
September 25th, 2006 at 3:01 pm
Dating in San Antonio is great – if you are a teenaged girl looking to hook up with a military guy for a little while. We have lots of military based and the young guys here for training have their housing, food and work-clothing supplied to them. While they don’t have cars because they are only here for a few months, they do have a LOT of disposable income, are in really great shape and they will be transfered in a few months so that’s a good thing if you aren’t looking for a long-term relationship. (No, I haven’t been on a date with anyone except my husband for the past 11 years so much of this information is, well, old, but I think still true.)
September 25th, 2006 at 3:11 pm
Adversarial. People don’t date in my city. They wage war.
September 25th, 2006 at 3:38 pm
Wow, someone else from Vancouver posted.
I’m not sure I’d call the dating scene in Vancouver as bitter, challenging might be an appropriate description, for both genders. I have female friends who feel the same way, so I don’t think it’s gender specific.
As for the women, frankly, many of them are beautiful in this City… in some cases stunning.
It is no surprise that Vancouver has provided Playboy with a great number of playboy playmates over the years (on a per capita basis second only to LA).
September 25th, 2006 at 9:25 pm
Momok: Believe it or not, I’ve *never* been to Australia or New Zealand. But, Auckland sounds cool.
Dear Lovey Heart: Ring as in ENGAGEMENT ring??? :)
The Genius: I can’t remember where on my blog it is, but somebody posted something about women from Vancouver. I don’t remember all the details, but it seemed like the guy was kind of bitter.
History Chic: “Quality” dates are hard to find. I think it only gets harder and harder the higher your standards. Oh, and, I *love* self-help books too.
MamaChristy: So, it’s like that movie Officer and a Gentleman, huh?
Dragonslayer: War? That doesn’t sound good. :(
Mitch: Three cheers for each of the readers from Vancouver!!!!
September 26th, 2006 at 1:15 am
Well, since I am IN Denver, I guess you answered for me; however, with all the ’singles’ out here there are a lot more stinky fish in this sea as well.
Plus, I’m not single anymore. Cameron and I made it official over the weekend. Well, not THAT official, but you know…
September 26th, 2006 at 6:19 am
The dating scene in Bath possibly had potential but I might have been a tad bit too picky. At least there weren’t any “badass” brown boys trying to act ghetto and hip like there is in London!
September 26th, 2006 at 8:54 am
Howard: Awwwww, CONGRATS!!!!!!!!
Darwin: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being picky. :) And, by the way, do have any readers who are non-badass brown boys in London to stick up for themselves?
September 28th, 2006 at 2:16 pm
Raleigh/ Durham/ Chapel Hill are always on that Forbes list. Why? 3 large universities and at least twice as many smaller colleges and universities= TONS of single people in college or right out of college. And then because of this a lot of tech companies are in the RTP area recruiting those that are just out of college to keep them here. So if you like dating dorks RDU is the place to be. I’m very lucky in that respect :) (oh and there’s a ton of things to do around here, or for more extended dates it’s a short drive either to the mountains or the beach…) I certainly had a ball when I was single for an extended period of time…
September 28th, 2006 at 11:53 pm
Hmmmm … I need to move to North Carolina!!! :)
February 23rd, 2008 at 7:32 pm
I believe that you can find the right person anywhere you go in the world. I think we all know that deep down. You get usually what you deserve – most curses are self-imposed. What I mean, is that, even if you are in a city with “bitchy” self-righteous women, you can attract a moral, virtuous, hot woman with the right aura. That aura can only come from a non-bitter, spiritually grounded man. Needless to say, living in Denver – this is a woman’s city. A total sausage fest, and the girls know it. They are truly chix with dix. But the only way to win, as a young, good-looking, intelligent guy – is to avoid most of them, but don’t close your mind, and more importantly, your spirit, to the “real” woman who may come across your path. Like Al Pacino said, “Never hate your enemy – it clouds your judgement” In that sense, I say to men….get over it, stop fuckin whinin, screw as many dumb girls as you can, dump the blond haired self-righteous bitches, and never lose your own spirit.
February 24th, 2008 at 9:50 am
I *LOVE* it when people quote the Godfather movies!