Farting In Front of Your Partner?
September 26th, 2006 Posted in Dating and Mating
It is *NEVER* okay to fart in front of your partner. Never. And, quite honestly, Bro and I have had brutal fights over this very question. Bro thinks it’s okay to open up your ass cheeks and let the foul, disgusting and crass winds blow right out of there. I, on the other hand, think that one should always … and I mean always … maintain a decent and holy level of sophistication when in front of those we expect to hold in high esteem. Discuss, people — to fart or not to fart in front of your partner? That is the question.
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Oh, and, by the way, a big fat thanks goes out to Howard for causing the unholy and still ongoing brawl between me and my Bro. :)
September 26th, 2006 at 1:12 am
Holy crap (pun intended), I can’t believe you used this! LOL!
And to answer my own question, I think it’s okay if you’re not in public (as long as you aren’t have an ‘emergency’) and especially if it makes you both laugh.
Becausing laughing is best…
September 26th, 2006 at 1:44 am
In public okay, I also think it’s a big nono. I work in a store, and sometimes I have clients that fart but never apologize. Damn bastads. If ya gonna use gas, be responsible y’know. bah :P
September 26th, 2006 at 4:43 am
Never never never. I’m a prude when it comes to wind, poo and wee. I hold my farts in until I’m alone and away from human noses.
My new boy farted in his sleep the other night. Loud. I liked him slightly less for about half an hour. Now I like him again.
September 26th, 2006 at 6:14 am
It should be okay to fart in front of someone you’ve been with for 10years or so, but since I’ve never ever had a relationship that long, I can’t quite see it happening. If you get comfortable enough to fart in front of your partner, then the same applies to bothering to shave your armpits and legs too; basically you’re SO comfortable around him/her that you don’t think twice about doing something/not doing something you’d do not do unless you were alone. Does that make sense?
September 26th, 2006 at 9:36 am
If he can watch me give birth, he can hear me fart. I have never seen him give birth and he’s been farting in front of me for years.
September 26th, 2006 at 9:52 am
Damn right, MamaChristy!
September 26th, 2006 at 10:37 am
Howard: OF COURSE I used this one. :)
Papigiulio: I say “no” to public and “no” to private.
Little A: I adore you!!! And, I completely agree with you. It’s gross. It’s not something that people should do in front of each other. One of my boys in Chicago once farted in my bed. I almost killed him.
Darwin: No, no, no, no, no. It doesn’t make any sense. :) Call me a lunatic, but I don’t care if it’s a 10-year or a 20-year relationship — I still think I’d continue to shave my pits, hold in the farts, etc. I don’t believe in that “a couple who grows old together, grows fat and ugly together” stuff.
MamaChristy: Oooooh, okay, you do have a point here. Is listening to (and smelling) a woman fart any more or less “personal” than watching her give birth? Probably not. But, still … I’m holding my ground. I’m not a fan of farting in front of guys, and I certainly don’t want them to do it in front of me either.
Howard: Hey! Don’t encourage her. ;)
September 26th, 2006 at 12:22 pm
Mistakes/slips are expected and understood, but for the most part, I would never do this in front of my man. In the other room or aisle of the store? You bet. And I’d totally own up to it and tell him I just did (if we were in public), because as Howard said, laughing IS the best. We all fart. It’s no secret. I just think there should be a certain amount of respect in ANY relationship, and purposely doing this in front of my sweetie is not considered respectful. Which is why the answer to my latest blog entry is NO, it was NOT me! Hahaha!
Funny story, though:
One of my exes and I were riding long-distance in the car, and I HAD to let one, so I respectfully said, “Oops, I let one…” Embarrassing, right? Yup, but like I said, RESPECT, people! His response? “Honey, from now on, you don’t have to tell me when you fart. It’s WAY funnier if you don’t!” True story. I pick my men well, don’t I? Hahahaa!
Loved this topic, Stolie. Thanks!
September 26th, 2006 at 1:28 pm
Well I am a prude too…the last guy I dated, I swear we didn’t work out because he would do it all the time if we were alone. It was just gross!!! I mean, he was an otherwise civilized (great guy) human being but seemed so comfortable around me he could do that without even saying sorry. I hold it, and if it absolutly has to come…I run to the bathroom, turn on the water (yeah I know but then if it makes a sound you can’t hear it), and try to deal with it the best I can. I am however of the mind set that unless you are asleep and can’t help it, then it is a big no-no.
September 26th, 2006 at 2:19 pm
I’m with the no no crowd. Of course it happens but, I really don’t want my husband to make a pratice of farting in front of me and I don’t make a practice of farting in front of him. If one of us does, we say “excuse me” and move on.
I think he’s a whole lot sexier because he doesn’t try to gross me out.
MamaChristy- point well taken! ;-)
September 26th, 2006 at 3:02 pm
AmyD: I’m right there, with ya hun! Couldn’t agree more. And, yes, you pick your men well. I, on the other hand, am HORRIBLE at picking guys. I need to break my addiction to looks.
History Chic: YES!!!! Bro is out-numbered.
Laurie: Not only is MamaChristy’s point well-taken, it might be worth mentioning that I think she’s the only married person who has spoken up. She might be on to something. I mean, you know, thus far, I’ve never had a relationship that lasted longer that 2 1/2 years. So, maybe all the shaving and fart-holding would get to me after 5, 6, 7 or even 20 years. Who knows … But, again, for now, the farts stay in. :)
September 26th, 2006 at 3:04 pm
By the way … WHERE ARE THE MEN??? I think Howard’s the guy who has spoken out. I *know* there are other guys who read my blog. Don’t make me call you out by name!!! ;) Speak up, guys.
September 26th, 2006 at 3:42 pm
Personaly, I think its ok. And coming from a women most people would find that strange. But I’m ok with it. I do the same thing to. If I’m confortable with you, I’ll burp and fart in front of you. I dont care. Besides guys do it all the time.
September 26th, 2006 at 4:54 pm
Been married for 27 years. Its a given that there will be farts! The only time I have a real problem with it is when Hubby has been eating pickled eggs, which he buys by the gallon jar! GROSS!!!! He will always say he’s sorry but the damage has been done and wouldn’t he just LOVE knowing that I’m telling you this! Speaking of farts, my mother has always hated the word “fart” and we were never allowed to say it. Instead we had to say “sart” which totally disgusts me for some reason. She will still correct me if I slip and say fart in front of her, but now I can say…”fart, fart, fart!!” and she cant do anything to me. neener, neener! :)
September 26th, 2006 at 7:30 pm
I think Farting is ok as long it is accidental. If you think guys are bad, you should have met my ex! It was a guarantee that she would fart when we were shopping.. especially in boutiques and other crowded places. It embarrased me to no end and the stench!!!…All this despite my protests!!!
So NO, it is not cool to fart on purpose even if you are comfortable with each other!!!
September 26th, 2006 at 7:42 pm
I think the key words in your post are “hold in high esteem.” Take the rose colored glasses off and fart to your heart’s desire.; )
September 26th, 2006 at 9:02 pm
Who knew that farting could be such a thought provoking and stimulating topic!! I don’t think there is anything else to say.
September 27th, 2006 at 2:25 am
I think it’s fine as long as it’s not overly excessive .. I’ve been guilty of cuddling on the couch .. letting a silent one slip .. my giggling gives it away!!
Guess you guys don’t do ‘dutch ovens’ over there then? ;o)
September 27th, 2006 at 8:19 am
Kiah: I think guys (and women) only do it if they think it’s okay. Any guy who has ever farted in front of me on purpose knows that I freak out. They generally don’t do it again.
mel: Pickled eggs?!?!?!?!?! Just the thought of what winds those would produce kind of scares me. And, by the way, I think the sarts story is cute. We, too, couldn’t say the word fart when we where kids. We had to say, “Who passed gas?” or “Who cut the cheese?” It was kind of goofy …
Momok: Okay, accidents are to be expected. I’m talking about farting on purpose.
vanessa: I’ll keep the glasses on *and* the clothes pin on the nose. No farting. :)
The Genius: Oh, you should have been there when Bro and I broke out into a fight over this very topic. I’m anti-farting. Bro is pro-farting.
Bexxie: What is a Dutch Oven?!?! Okay, stop, Google time … Nope. No help. I only know of one kind of Dutch Oven, and it has nothing to do with farting.
September 27th, 2006 at 8:22 am
OH MY GAWD!!!!!!! I just did another search and I found out that the BBC has an entire site dedicated to farting. Okay, so, apparently a “dutch oven”, this is what a Dutch Oven is …
“Farts can bring more excitement into wedlock if administered in a Dutch Oven2: this is where one partner lets go a huge fart, pulls the duvet cover or bed sheets over the head of their loved one, trapping them in a confusion of methane, while shouting triumphantly, ‘Dutch oven! Dutch oven!’ The person trapped will wriggle like an eel, the trapper will then nearly die laughing and it will all end up in a really boisterous play fight. Of course, this is all in questionable taste.”
DISGUSTING!!!!!
September 27th, 2006 at 2:05 pm
Wow, I CANNOT believe how popular this topic is! So popular that I don’t have the wherewithal to read all of said comments! :)
Okay, Miss Stolie, I never said that indiscriminate wind-blowing is a good thing, just that, well, it happens, and if it does, a partner should be understanding about it — hell, they do it, too! :) And, you know, sometimes the little buggers can’t stay happily ensconced inside your abdomen area (maybe that’s just me).
That being said, the Dutch Oven concept is really pretty GROSS (unless said partner committed a VILE indiscretion, which makes it okay)!
September 27th, 2006 at 4:54 pm
Can’t believe I’m commenting on this, but hey, you asked, so here goes.
I think one should excuse oneself to “let ‘er rip” whenever humanly possible. And I think it is ALWAYS humanly possible.
My beloved husband, on the other hand, has been freeing his intestinal stresses with no thought to propriety almost as long as we’ve been together. 12 years people. 12 long years.
September 27th, 2006 at 6:52 pm
Oy vey. Let me tell you something: if you can’t fart in front of your partner, who CAN you fart in front of? I can understand why one wouldn’t want to go nuts with the gas during the courting period, but after that–however long that is–all bets are off.
Do I make a habit of it? No. Does he? No. Am I going to excuse myself to another room if I can’t hold it? Jesus, no.
Folks: air happens. Get over it. When you’re with someone you love and who loves you back if they can’t forgive a little occasional stinky air then they are not worth keeping.
September 27th, 2006 at 7:24 pm
this is an awesome topic, so I gotta comment. My guy and I fart around each other all the time, but only when we are completely alone and can’t be heard by anybody else. I don’t mind because I’m totally comfortable around him at all times! And I know that he feels the same way.
Besides, my farts don’t usually smell at all (according to my boyfriend). My burps, on the other hand, range from “bad smell” to “rancid”. So I try to avoid burping when I can, out of courtesy to him…
September 27th, 2006 at 8:46 pm
Dutch Oven = evil
Dutch Oven + pickled eggs = fatal
September 27th, 2006 at 9:22 pm
LMAO!!!
@ you ‘googlin’ dutch oven!!
;o)
September 27th, 2006 at 9:24 pm
The Original Bro: You’re wrong. Period. And, that’s all I’m gonna say. :)
Nerd Girl: 12 years of farting? That is a long time.
missb: Okay, okay, okay … point of clarification: accidents are okay. Purposeful smelly farts aren’t.
kyla: Burps from hell? That’s scary.
mel: Yeah, the Dutch Oven thing is G-R-O-S-S!!!
September 27th, 2006 at 9:25 pm
Bexxie … you slipped one in on me. Yeah, I can’t believe I googled it either. :)
September 28th, 2006 at 6:00 pm
oh…on purpose?
Yeah. That’s just totally obnoxious. But wait…that’s NOT the same thing as farting freely.
Farting on purpose makes me think of “The Nutty Professor”.
September 28th, 2006 at 11:54 pm
EXACTLY!!! That’s my point. It’s gross. Accidental farts are to be expected. I mean, afterall, we’re human. PURPOSEFUL farts make me want to throw up. :(
September 30th, 2006 at 10:40 am
[...] Stolie started a week-long Dating series on her blog and she took me up on my somewhat jokey idea about “letting the cat off the leash” in front of your dating partner. Make sure you read the comments, too. There is some funny stuff in there. [...]
September 30th, 2006 at 12:37 pm
I got that one out of the way on our second date when I accidentally broke wind while watching a movie at home… He laughed, I laughed, and it’s not an issue now. Do it all the time in front of him. We have a special chair that seems to bring it out more.
October 1st, 2006 at 10:25 pm
You have a “farting chair” ?? :)
March 4th, 2007 at 10:35 am
Love this fart piece.
March 4th, 2007 at 7:06 pm
Thanks. :-)
May 10th, 2007 at 5:27 am
i fart while having sex it feels so good
i wait until i have to fart a lot and i do the branco buster on my girlfriend (the wrestling move)
every time i bounce i fart on her chest
she spanks me
we fart on each other all the time
farting on someone feels better when your in panties
underwear for me bra and panties for my girlfriend.
June 7th, 2007 at 8:17 pm
Dutch Ovens are a real fun way to pass the time in bed, in between da humpin’ and once you’ve been together a while of course. My chick didn’t like it as first, but she got used to it. Though she doesn’t try it on me, I’m glad to say.
June 8th, 2007 at 5:36 am
Bob: Thanks for sharing.
John: You should ask your chick to try it on you.
June 8th, 2007 at 6:06 pm
I like smoking a cigar in bed, so I want to know when the methane’s gonna make an appearance. My chick’s too polite to float an air biscuit in the boudoir, or anywhere else for that matter. But a man’s gotta do…..as Duke Wayne said. And better out than in, as gastroenterologists say. It ain’t healthy to hold in those butt burps.
October 25th, 2007 at 11:55 am
Bob: that was really quite disgusting but i guess to each his own. haha
me and my boy fart in front of eachother but usually only if we are alone. he on the other hand has no problem letting one rip on me no matter who is around
November 10th, 2007 at 4:31 am
I googled this, sort of… Because farting in front of someone is embarrassing, even if it’s accidental.
story time: Once, I had to fart, but my good friend of 4 years was over so I was going to go upstairs in the bathroom. I have a bunk bed and I went to jump off of it, but fell backwards and farted, then, out of being so nervous I laughed and farted a few more times. I was so embarrassed, but because I kept laughing it turned out to be funny and it is never mentioned again unless we want a good laugh. I, Personally, was embarrassed.
November 10th, 2007 at 9:39 am
@ John Wilson: Cigar smoke smells better than farts.
@ Becky: I don’t like farting.
@ Brittany: I would have been embarrassed too. :)
January 8th, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Farting is natural. So are smells. Unfortunately nature isn’t all fairytales & flowers!
I usually wait before breaking any sort of wind in front of a new man, but it’s the tiresome running backwards and forwards to the bathroom that soon makes me succumb to ’shaming’ myself. I won’t get a sore & bloated tummy by holding them in, all for the sake of being ‘dignified’.
I do have some respect though, I won’t do a noisy or stinky one in public & if I feel a burner brewing in private I’ll retire to another room. I’ll always excuse myself & wouldn’t carry on in the manner of others whom I find repulsive (see next paragraph).
Personally I think it’s awful if someone knows they’re stinky but still insists on polluting the air, or they let rip loudly without excusing themselves.
We know you’ve done it. You know we know. Have some grace!
Don’t you always find that as soon as you move, the damn thing disappears back up!
My Mum told me one day..
‘The midwife laid you into my arms & you looked up at me with that sweet, angelic face….and farted. The phrase ‘Start as you mean to carry on’ regularly comes to mind with you, Sarah!’
January 8th, 2008 at 11:37 pm
Love the comment; thanks for sharing! :)
June 16th, 2008 at 10:46 am
What a number of different comments and opinions, love this article!! Even after reading all these comments i’m still finding myself in this situation, why can’t i fart infront of anyone? I want to get over this but what my brain wants and what my bottom does are two different things! For years i have not passed wind infront of close people like friends and other halves, how do u get over it?
June 16th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
How do you get over? You don’t!!! It’s simply NOT okay to fart in front of your partner. :)
June 16th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Some seem to regard this unholy act as the defining moment in a relationship - where all inhibitions and masks are removed to reveal one’s true self 100%….WHATEVER…nothing disturbs the sexy like flatulence in mixed company. I’ve had to accept the so-called reality in recent years but I still don’t think it should be practiced…even among the most loving of couples. Up until I was 28, I had the beautiful illusion that women didn’t fart, take a dump or belch loudly because the women I were dating kept that ish (literally) away from me. Now that I’m married, it’s whatever. I’m glad my wife is so fine that I’m able to overlook the funk to the best of my ability.
Nevertheless, I’m still scarred.
June 16th, 2008 at 2:16 pm
You said, “I still don’t think it should be practiced…even among the most loving of couples.” I COULDN’T AGREE WITH YOU MORE!!! :) But, I’m happy that you’ve found someone with whom you both can “let it all out.” Literally. ;)
June 16th, 2008 at 5:06 pm
jeebus ckisct. have you had a look at the ads google auto generated for this post!
June 16th, 2008 at 8:29 pm
What? You don’t like FART RINGTONES?!?!!? ;) Or how about this one, “Is your dog suffering from bad gas? Better yet, are YOU?!” LOVE it!! :)
June 17th, 2008 at 8:56 am
sss
June 17th, 2008 at 9:00 am
ssss
June 18th, 2008 at 6:35 am
No farting! ;)
August 25th, 2008 at 10:35 am
I used to be on the ‘never, no way’ side of the fence. I have a pretty healthy diet, stay away from junk food and dairy (which would probably cause the excess gas in the first place) and if I ever have gas it’s normally of the burping variety - which I can do silently without anyone noticing! I used to expect boyfriends to maintain the same gasless existence when in my company. Then I met my husband to be and that all changed. His medication comes with the horrible side effect of very painful (I’ve since learnt) cramping and gas, and holding it in during the long weekends we would spend together was just impossible for him. When we first started dating he would not spend the night at my place or vice versa in case his meds were acting up and he would get extremely embarrassed just from the noise his stomach would make! I had no idea until we went on holiday for a fortnight and he finally admitted the problem and we are now engaged and living together and I wouldn’t change him for the world. I really don’t care if someone farts around me now as I don’t think people mean to (unless you’re a 13yr old highschool student maybe!) and I always laugh it off to stop them feeling embarrassed these days as I know it can be a real problem for other people and I am just lucky.
September 6th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
This is the first time i’ve been in a more serious relationship. In my opinion, I thought it would be better to hold the farts while you’re in a more private place but recently on our 7 month anniversary I accidently let one slip while watching TV. I immediately apologised and we both ended up laughing it off - but unfortunate for me, he will never stop the jokes. Well, at least i broke the ice!!
February 3rd, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Letting out a big, long, noisy stinky in a crowded place will guarantee you some much needed elbow room.
This works especially well in New York City and Washington, DC where everyone already looks as if they’re smelling shit.