Comments on: Am I Too Picky?

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Thu, 05 Oct 2006 14:05:18 +0000

AmyD: You're probably right ... about me! :) Le Canadien, on the other hand, really *IS* looking for the impossible. Johnathan Blaze: No puppies for this chick. :) I'm all about recreation, not procreation.

By: Johnathan Blaze

Johnathan Blaze — Thu, 05 Oct 2006 00:37:50 +0000

Relax, once your baby clock starts ticking loudly, you’ll marry the first schlep who looks decent and makes good money. That’s what it all really boils down to.

By: AmyD

AmyD — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 20:33:57 +0000

I don’t think you’re too picky at all (although the accent might be asking a little too much…ha!) Personally, I just think you haven’t met the one who is meant to be in your life. Le Canadian was right when he said, “When I find something wrong with a girl, I know that they aren’t the person for me.” Really, I’m sure at the time, he meant it in a way that he, too, was too picky, but in reality, the person he – and you – ends up with (and not just settling for!) won’t be perfect, won’t have every single attribute deemed amazing, but will be perfect for YOU (and him). It’s really that simple.

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 13:43:05 +0000

Pegs: I agree. The perfect imperfect person. Eddie: A "Wild Card". I love it. History Chic: Sweetie, I don't think any of us have figured it out. We're all imperfect people, too. :) GrizzBabe: Is it the older the less picky or is it as Momok says, the older the focused your priorities.

By: GrizzBabe

GrizzBabe — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 00:34:33 +0000

I have found that the older I get, the less picky I get. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I’ve learned to pick the average looking guy who adores me and treats me like a queen over the hunky guy who thinks I’m just so-so. The older you get, the less important some things become.

By: History Chic

History Chic — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 00:07:00 +0000

I would love to comment about this but I really haven’t figured it out. I mean, we all have standards and all my happily married friends have told me that they never settled but their standards changed. All my single friends say they are looking for the one but something just hasn’t happened to point them out. So, I don’t know if it is standards, timing, or just the universe not aligned right that keeps us in singledom…I just hope they all align at some point, when I am ready and they are ready :)

By: Eddie

Eddie — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 22:35:55 +0000

I think we’re picky until we find the right one.
I think something happens when you find the right person — something about liking enough about them not to be bugged by all the things that aren’t on your list.

At least that’s what seems to be working for my friends that are making the leap. Maybe you meet someone who is great in ways you didn’t even think about, so all the “missing” things just aren’t really missed.

I think you gotta have some criteria — to weed out the wack jobs — just be open to a wild card now and again.

By: Pegs

Pegs — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 22:19:27 +0000

It’s not that “the one” is perfect. No one is. It’s that he/she is perfect For You.

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 20:44:21 +0000

Darwin: OMG, yes, I soooo know what you mean. Momok: Maybe it is, as you say, "prorities" that change not necessarily "standards". Wise words, my friend. Very wise words.

By: Momok

Momok — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 20:20:05 +0000

Picky is ok. But I think, it’s not about “dropping” standards to “make do” with the “best fit” partner. As we grow older (some obviously older than others) our tastes change (hopefully for the better), our priorities change, and what we need from our partners change. We have all heard, one too many times, about Mr and Mrs Right. We can’t find them, cause they are married to each other!

Good luck Stolie, in finding your version of Mr. Perfect.

Eventually, you will realise, that it is the little imperfections, we find in our partners, which makes them Perfect!