Comments on: Should You Call on an Ex’s Birthday? http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Tue, 22 May 2012 12:35:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: danny http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-310074 danny Tue, 07 Jun 2011 03:38:03 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-310074 Not sure if anybody is looking to this blog now but still giving it a shot.   Met a girl. went around for around 1 year.. unfortunately had a mutual break-up.. Kept in touch for sometime then a complete blackout.. Last year she messaged she was going to marry.. yes it killed my heart but I still wished her congratulations.. Haven't kept in touch since then. She did not wish me on my b'day that year.. Should I wish her on hers.. I want to but don't want to mess up her married life if its going great and don't want her to go through the guilt road trip as well. Would appreciate any comments. PS Her b'day is today :) Not sure if anybody is looking to this blog now but still giving it a shot.
 
Met a girl. went around for around 1 year.. unfortunately had a mutual break-up.. Kept in touch for sometime then a complete blackout.. Last year she messaged she was going to marry.. yes it killed my heart but I still wished her congratulations.. Haven’t kept in touch since then.
She did not wish me on my b’day that year.. Should I wish her on hers.. I want to but don’t want to mess up her married life if its going great and don’t want her to go through the guilt road trip as well.
Would appreciate any comments.
PS Her b’day is today :)

]]> By: danny http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-310072 danny Tue, 07 Jun 2011 03:35:42 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-310072 Not sure if anybody is looking to this blog now but still giving it a shot.   Met a girl. went around for around 1 year.. unfortunately had a mutual break-up.. Kept in touch for sometime then a complete blackout.. Last year she messaged she was going to marry.. yes it killed my heart but I wished her congratulations.. Haven't kept in touch since then. She did not wish me on my b'day that year.. Should I wish her on hers.. I want to but don't want to mess up her married life if its going great and don't want her to go through the guilt road trip as well. Would appreciate any comments. PS Her b'day is today :) Not sure if anybody is looking to this blog now but still giving it a shot.
 
Met a girl. went around for around 1 year.. unfortunately had a mutual break-up.. Kept in touch for sometime then a complete blackout.. Last year she messaged she was going to marry.. yes it killed my heart but I wished her congratulations.. Haven’t kept in touch since then.
She did not wish me on my b’day that year.. Should I wish her on hers.. I want to but don’t want to mess up her married life if its going great and don’t want her to go through the guilt road trip as well.
Would appreciate any comments.
PS Her b’day is today :)

]]> By: bigdog http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-221262 bigdog Mon, 21 Jun 2010 19:56:56 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-221262 It all depends on the situation.....if she has qualities I like, I would call her.  Its' always nice to have friends with benefits.(F.W. B.).  You never know. It all depends on the situation…..if she has qualities I like, I would call her.  Its’ always nice to have friends with benefits.(F.W. B.).  You never know.

]]> By: Anon http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-217804 Anon Sat, 12 Jun 2010 10:44:52 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-217804 I think if they care about you that much, they'll actually let you know regardless of a birthday. I say to any woman that has had their heart broken, as I have, don't call. Protect your self. As one very wise woman said, a birthday phone call to an ex has the potential to leave you in tears for nights, and depressed for days. My fiance was 41 and I was 27. I was studying law and working to contribute to HIS home, and always tried to look beautiful and make him happy. Then slowly I realised he was doing sneaky and dishonest things like searching for casual sex online, getting emai registrations for adult websites, and even calling an ex who's name was saved in his phone as 'Deryk'. I asked him about these things and stupidly I was naiive because I was so in love with him. But he was lying to me. This man really broke my heart. We were engaged for 2 years. He would travel frequently as a freelance camera operator in television, and would drink a lot with his mates. I tolerated all these things because I actually believed he was my best friend. It didn't make him love me more. So I eventually decided to leave him. But I showed him the lease for the place I was looking at renting before I signed it. He didn't blink an eyelid. He didn't ask me to stay, or apologise, or tell me he wanted me. So I signed the lease. The night before I moved out, he went to the local club to play Trivia with his family and friends while I packed. The following day when it was time for me to leave with all my things, he told me he would drive me to my knew place but he wouldn't be making more than one trip there! So instead I got a cab. He tried to contact me quite a lot after I left, and one day he brought around roses to my front door. But only a couple of days after that he told me that he wanted to be friends and work our way up from there. After we were engaged, and he had broken my heart, he wanted to be friends? I said absolutely not. I could never be his friend. I had always hoped this time apart and my decision to 'make a stand'  would make him come to his senses, or miss me. But it didn't. His birthday was coming up and I asked him if he would like to do something for his birthday. He told me that he was invited to go out with some mates to see a band play in town. I guess my reaction showed that I was hurt by this, and so he then said that I could come along too. As his friend? There was too much hurt and embarrassment that I felt to go a club with his older, married friends who no doubt had their own opinions about me, and the break up and what was best. So I accpeted it. And the next time he called I told him that although I still loved him, I couldn't speak to him anymore. I couldn't handle his put-downs and criticisms about me, or the torture that he wanted to be friends and to see how things go form there. A few days later and I was getting calls from him but I didn't pick up. I don't know what he wanted to say, but he didn't leave a message. But I didn't call him on his birthday.  I think if they care about you that much, they’ll actually let you know regardless of a birthday. I say to any woman that has had their heart broken, as I have, don’t call. Protect your self. As one very wise woman said, a birthday phone call to an ex has the potential to leave you in tears for nights, and depressed for days.

My fiance was 41 and I was 27. I was studying law and working to contribute to HIS home, and always tried to look beautiful and make him happy. Then slowly I realised he was doing sneaky and dishonest things like searching for casual sex online, getting emai registrations for adult websites, and even calling an ex who’s name was saved in his phone as ‘Deryk’. I asked him about these things and stupidly I was naiive because I was so in love with him. But he was lying to me. This man really broke my heart. We were engaged for 2 years. He would travel frequently as a freelance camera operator in television, and would drink a lot with his mates. I tolerated all these things because I actually believed he was my best friend. It didn’t make him love me more.

So I eventually decided to leave him. But I showed him the lease for the place I was looking at renting before I signed it. He didn’t blink an eyelid. He didn’t ask me to stay, or apologise, or tell me he wanted me. So I signed the lease. The night before I moved out, he went to the local club to play Trivia with his family and friends while I packed. The following day when it was time for me to leave with all my things, he told me he would drive me to my knew place but he wouldn’t be making more than one trip there! So instead I got a cab.

He tried to contact me quite a lot after I left, and one day he brought around roses to my front door. But only a couple of days after that he told me that he wanted to be friends and work our way up from there. After we were engaged, and he had broken my heart, he wanted to be friends? I said absolutely not. I could never be his friend.

I had always hoped this time apart and my decision to ‘make a stand’  would make him come to his senses, or miss me. But it didn’t. His birthday was coming up and I asked him if he would like to do something for his birthday. He told me that he was invited to go out with some mates to see a band play in town. I guess my reaction showed that I was hurt by this, and so he then said that I could come along too. As his friend? There was too much hurt and embarrassment that I felt to go a club with his older, married friends who no doubt had their own opinions about me, and the break up and what was best.

So I accpeted it. And the next time he called I told him that although I still loved him, I couldn’t speak to him anymore. I couldn’t handle his put-downs and criticisms about me, or the torture that he wanted to be friends and to see how things go form there. A few days later and I was getting calls from him but I didn’t pick up. I don’t know what he wanted to say, but he didn’t leave a message. But I didn’t call him on his birthday. 

]]> By: Pinkey http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-102866 Pinkey Sat, 13 Jun 2009 00:39:20 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-102866 <em>Hey  I was googling and found this topic. Interesting because my ex calls me every year on my birthday and I have been returning the favor. it's been almost three years and i feel like it continues to set me back so I texed him please dont call anymore. He broke it off so why does he call every year ?</em> Hey  I was googling and found this topic. Interesting because my ex calls me every year on my birthday and I have been returning the favor. it’s been almost three years and i feel like it continues to set me back so I texed him please dont call anymore. He broke it off so why does he call every year ?

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-28129 funkybrownchick Fri, 28 Dec 2007 19:25:14 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-28129 Thanks for commenting! :) Thanks for commenting! :)

]]> By: C. Mareech*from sudan* http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-28082 C. Mareech*from sudan* Thu, 27 Dec 2007 14:29:46 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-28082 Yah know, sometime people are different in this case, I broke up with my ex 7 years ago and I still think I love her and I do call her, on her side, she just receive my phones call and say thank and that even made me keep calling her. Im single and so she does. I do hope that one day she will forgive me and come to me. I need to marry her if she say yes.. I think its good to call ex at anytime you think about her/him depending on how you feel again about her.. waiting for your comment..Thanks Yah know, sometime people are different in this case, I broke up with my ex 7 years ago and I still think I love her and I do call her, on her side, she just receive my phones call and say thank and that even made me keep calling her. Im single and so she does. I do hope that one day she will forgive me and come to me. I need to marry her if she say yes.. I think its good to call ex at anytime you think about her/him depending on how you feel again about her.. waiting for your comment..Thanks

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-26052 funkybrownchick Mon, 12 Nov 2007 10:07:40 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-26052 You speak the truth! :) You speak the truth! :)

]]> By: Bita http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-26045 Bita Mon, 12 Nov 2007 08:05:20 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-26045 Tempting and a great excuse to talk to him, but I would never call...the way I see it, if the idiot doesnt know that Im already thinking about him on his birthday, he isnt worth the call...plus, a 10 minute happy birthday conversation can turn into a week of tears and a few sleepless nights for me...no thanks, I'll pass...let him miss me on this special day and let him think I dont give a rats a** that its his birthday. Tempting and a great excuse to talk to him, but I would never call…the way I see it, if the idiot doesnt know that Im already thinking about him on his birthday, he isnt worth the call…plus, a 10 minute happy birthday conversation can turn into a week of tears and a few sleepless nights for me…no thanks, I’ll pass…let him miss me on this special day and let him think I dont give a rats a** that its his birthday.

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-8688 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Mon, 01 Jan 2007 17:18:46 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2006/12/07/should-you-call-on-an-exs-birthday/#comment-8688 My vote is: leave it be. If he has made it's clear that he's not interested ( ... and it sounds like he has ...), part of your healing, your "moving on" might be to *not* do things that remind you of him. My vote is: leave it be. If he has made it’s clear that he’s not interested ( … and it sounds like he has …), part of your healing, your “moving on” might be to *not* do things that remind you of him.

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