What’s Up With Guys & Strip Clubs?
So, I’m reading this Craigslist posting about New York City when I start to wonder: what’s up with guys and strippers? Okay, wait, let me back up a bit. Craigslist. If you haven’t read that posting, I should probably explain that it’s written by a guy who relocated from New York to Chicago, and he now misses New York. “I miss,” he writes, “those guys in the yellow vests handing out flyers for ‘Flashdancers’ on the corner as though strip clubs were just another form of entertainment (which they are) and not some horrible, shocking den of sin.”
Horrible. Shocking. Den of sin? I’m not so sure that’s the first phrase that comes to mind when I think about strip clubs, but I will admit that I don’t really understand why men find them so appealing. Okay, yeah, I’m not an idiot: HOT CHICKS + BIG BOOBS = SEXY. I get that. But, what I don’t get is this: If a man knows that he can only see but not touch the hot chick with the big boobs, why is that entertainment? Is that not torture?
Manly Monday. Call me crazy, but, I really can’t think of *any* man who would find it entertaining to watch his wife or girlfriend take off all of her clothes and gyrate against a metal pole while withholding sex & using a sing-songy voice to say, “you can loooook but not toouch!” Such behavior would make most of the guys that I know feel frustrated, pissed off, or manipulated. And, they’d call the woman who did that a cocktease. So, here’s the question again: what’s up with guys and strippers? (And, a related question, what’s up with guys and prostitutes?)
December 18th, 2006 at 8:19 am
I love to go to a bar and hang out, but a strip club is not one of the places I go very often. I don’t like the idea of paying a cover charge and then paying three times the drink prices plus having someone try to hit you up for money throughout the night. On the other hand, if you happen to be there when some single hetro girls, part hetro anyways, show up, you have an even better shot for a close encounter.
The strip clubs where I live don’t have the same appeal that the ones in a bigger city have. Most of them around here should be named Porky’s.
December 18th, 2006 at 11:20 am
I don’t get it and thank the heavens every day that I am not a guy LOL :)
December 18th, 2006 at 11:30 am
I love going to strip clubs. My BF and I go all the time. We talk to them and drink…no issues. He doesn’t get phone numbers, he doesn’t make friends…and then we go home and have ANIMAL sex. :)
Smooches!
December 18th, 2006 at 1:17 pm
I guess the teasing part is a turn on? Guy watches hot chick with big boobs, goes home and has a good wank?
Guys and prostitutes, well that’s just paying for mindless sex for the lack of anything better. That (I think) I can get. What I DO NOT get is guys and blow-up dolls.
December 18th, 2006 at 3:40 pm
“: what’s up with guys and strippers? (And, a related question, what’s up with guys and prostitutes?)”
One might ask, So what’s up heating up girls for sex like underpowered Sauna, even with the help of gasoline” ;-)
Men are built that way, “YES SIR, NO PROBLEM AND THERE WILL BE NO PROBLEMS IN THE FUTURE!”.
December 18th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
I’ve asked this of some of my (note: reasonable) male firiends, and they all agree that it’s more about the comraderie of just being there with the guys, talking about sports and whatever hell else they talk about. Many men say they don’t really even pay the women much heed, and I’m sure it’s because, once again, they are reasonable, and they also know they aren’t going to get any, so what’s the point? Of course, I also have had the male friends who go broke at those places, so what the hell do I know? ;)
December 18th, 2006 at 4:20 pm
Well, we are still animals with brains. So Internet is not going to change that so much. Nerds are still nerds and blonds are still blonds.
December 18th, 2006 at 5:11 pm
>>But, what I don’t get is this: If a man knows that he can only see but not touch the hot chick with the big boobs, why is that entertainment? Is that not torture?
December 18th, 2006 at 5:12 pm
Part of my post disappeared. I tried to say that I agreed with you, and never understood other guys’ fascination with strip clubs. I can only think that it’s a way for them to advertise their heterosexuality. (Closet cases?)
December 18th, 2006 at 7:02 pm
Guys spend most of their lives looking. They look at every attractive woman who walks by. In very few cases do they get to touch. The difference with a strip bar is that you can stare all you want without offending, and you can see more.
December 18th, 2006 at 10:27 pm
Not exactly sure what the attraction is, but I won’t say i’ve never been to a strip club. But only with best of friends and as a group… it’s just fun and yes, I know I won’t be going home with any of them (strippers).. not sure if I want to!
Have to say, there are plenty of girls who come to watch as well!
December 18th, 2006 at 11:09 pm
AWE: Good point; if single heterosexual women are there, there’s a possibility of actually meeting someone that you can touch. :)
History Chic: I know what you mean. I think I get it like 58%, but not completely.
Kris: Animal sex? Not much into bestiality myself. ;-)
Darwin: Are there any guys who actually *use* those things for real?!?!?!
tim73: :-)
AmyD: Maaaan, who knows? I certainly don’t know any more than you do.
tim73: And, Tim73 is still Tim73. :)
Bozo: Oooooh, that’s an interesting philosophy … Men use strip clubs to reinforce and/or “advertise” their heterosexuality. Interesting. Any guys wanna take shots at that?
John: Okay, oddly enough, I get that. That actually makes a lot of sense.
Momok: I’ve never been to a proper strip club. I have been to a live sex show, and there were *plenty* of strippers there.
December 19th, 2006 at 3:34 am
Yeah! There was a whole doucmentary on them on TV called ‘Guys and Dolls’. It’s very real and very scary and one of the memorable quotes was from a guy who said “I don’t like to date organic women. I like my dolls because I don’t have to buy them dinner or anything and I can still get laid whenever I want to, and face it, I’m nowhere near attractive enough to ever date someone that hot in real life”
I was speechless.
December 19th, 2006 at 7:58 am
That. Is. Scary!!!
December 19th, 2006 at 3:07 pm
Perhaps there is a trend in this… guys with really low self esteem buy blow up dolls! If they think its a hassle to wine and dine a woman before they go anywhere near a 69.. well they are missing out big time! :-D
December 19th, 2006 at 9:18 pm
I’m neither into plastic nor the more sizable flotation devices, but I’ve been once for xmas with my ex-boss (that was my bonus) and think Bozo is onto something…
The place was filled with cap-n-shorts ‘whooters’ fresh from the locker room, who seemed to derive more fun out of seeing their friends get a hard-on or shouting about their own huge (yet invisible) boners than the women themselves.
The other table was filled with three famous ‘ballers’ in need of some ‘privacy’ by having their pictures taken with human life-vests (step it up now, low-down brother).
Worst of all my former infatuation with Chanel #5 has been ruined forever… (and I smell strippers all over Madison ave)
December 20th, 2006 at 7:22 am
Momok: Who knows. Maybe it is a self-esteem thing.
ErrorBoy: Good to know you’re not into plastic.