Comments on: Anal is the New Oral http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK™ chronicles her life. Sat, 20 Mar 2010 16:01:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Eric http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-115056 Eric Sun, 16 Aug 2009 23:13:57 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-115056 Well, I HOPE that anal is becoming more mainstream. I've dated a self described 'sado-masochistic dominatrix', but before I even met her, the suggestion of it turned me on a great deal. I'm a straight guy (43) and I LOVE it. Guys who are opposed to it just don't get it, and probably have sexual hang ups that prevent them from even seriously considering such an act. Women who are opposed to it just don't get it, either, and maybe for some of the same reasons. If you're a guy who is curious, and your girl expresses disgust, I'd say dump her. No 'decent' human being is ever going to have such a lack of sensitivity or compassion for another person so as to ridicule or openly express revulsion at their partner's communicated desires. If you want it & your partner doesn't, just find someone who does. Unfortunately, it can be easier said than done. I'm a pretty kinky white boy and I LOVES me an aggressive kinky black woman, but they seem to be difficult to find. Well, I HOPE that anal is becoming more mainstream. I’ve dated a self described ’sado-masochistic dominatrix’, but before I even met her, the suggestion of it turned me on a great deal. I’m a straight guy (43) and I LOVE it. Guys who are opposed to it just don’t get it, and probably have sexual hang ups that prevent them from even seriously considering such an act. Women who are opposed to it just don’t get it, either, and maybe for some of the same reasons. If you’re a guy who is curious, and your girl expresses disgust, I’d say dump her.

No ‘decent’ human being is ever going to have such a lack of sensitivity or compassion for another person so as to ridicule or openly express revulsion at their partner’s communicated desires. If you want it & your partner doesn’t, just find someone who does. Unfortunately, it can be easier said than done.

I’m a pretty kinky white boy and I LOVES me an aggressive kinky black woman, but they seem to be difficult to find.

]]> By: trevor http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-109876 trevor Tue, 14 Jul 2009 00:17:57 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-109876 Anal is what oral was 15 years ago—an unspoken sexual taboo ME. I am nearly 60. When I was coming of age, there was loads of dirty talk about oral. I did not feel it was taboo at all. If there was any embarrassment, it was some women feeling that a penis was too dirty to put in the mouth. Some girls refused to receive oral, because they feared that obligated them to go down on the guy, which they did not want to do. I do suspect that before 1960 or so, oral was mainly a sex worker thing. Then it became part of the repertoire of the college girl who wanted to keep him happy without risking pregnancy. I wonder if oral did not spread to high schools in a big way during the 1960s. But I cannot imagine oral being taboo as recently as 1980 or 1990. Male-to-female anal is on the rise between intimate partners ME. I have no idea. Incidentally, a New York magazine article does not speak for the vast majority of us in the boonies. Men fear female-to-male penetration due to “a potent mix of sexism and homophobia” ME. A woman with a strap-on is pretty kinky. It does not emulate the real thing, especially the uncut number. Anal is what oral was 15 years ago—an unspoken sexual taboo
ME. I am nearly 60. When I was coming of age, there was loads of dirty talk about oral. I did not feel it was taboo at all. If there was any embarrassment, it was some women feeling that a penis was too dirty to put in the mouth. Some girls refused to receive oral, because they feared that obligated them to go down on the guy, which they did not want to do.

I do suspect that before 1960 or so, oral was mainly a sex worker thing. Then it became part of the repertoire of the college girl who wanted to keep him happy without risking pregnancy. I wonder if oral did not spread to high schools in a big way during the 1960s. But I cannot imagine oral being taboo as recently as 1980 or 1990.

Male-to-female anal is on the rise between intimate partners
ME. I have no idea. Incidentally, a New York magazine article does not speak for the vast majority of us in the boonies.
Men fear female-to-male penetration due to “a potent mix of sexism and homophobia”
ME. A woman with a strap-on is pretty kinky. It does not emulate the real thing, especially the uncut number.

]]> By: WD http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-109805 WD Mon, 13 Jul 2009 19:04:23 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-109805 1. You need to go back 30 years, not 15, to the time when oral sex was becoming mainstream...to the late 70s, when the sexual revolution had settled in (The Joy of Sex had been out a while). But the general point is valid: anal sex IS entering the mainstream, but beginning with younger people. 2. Yes, male-to-female anal is on the rise between intimate partners but there will be a ceiling to the statistics on this. Many more people will always like oral sex than anal sex. Oral is just standard sex play. Most people love it and have to have it--it's a deal breaker in the early stages of a relationship. If you're not into it, you'll have a harder time finding a compatible partner. 3. Many men do "fear female-to-male penetration due to 'a potent mix of sexism and homophobia'," but that is changing. Consider all the erotic stories online about women fingering men's anuses, or nailing them with strap-on dildos. And all the porn involving the same--photos and videos. More straight men like being fingered than admit it--I suspect the polls are not representative because many men won't admit it. It's not only homophobia on the part on men--many women have this mistaken notion that a man who wants his ass played with must have gay tendencies. So many men who want to be anally fingered (or licked or dildoed) don't bring it up because they fear the woman's reaction. I'm lucky. I'm a straight guy who has had a couple lovers who were at least as into giving anal play as I was into receiving it. And I married a woman who got over the myths and stereotypes and found she really likes to bend me over and please me as I crave. 1. You need to go back 30 years, not 15, to the time when oral sex was becoming mainstream…to the late 70s, when the sexual revolution had settled in (The Joy of Sex had been out a while). But the general point is valid: anal sex IS entering the mainstream, but beginning with younger people.
2. Yes, male-to-female anal is on the rise between intimate partners but there will be a ceiling to the statistics on this. Many more people will always like oral sex than anal sex. Oral is just standard sex play. Most people love it and have to have it–it’s a deal breaker in the early stages of a relationship. If you’re not into it, you’ll have a harder time finding a compatible partner.
3. Many men do “fear female-to-male penetration due to ‘a potent mix of sexism and homophobia’,” but that is changing. Consider all the erotic stories online about women fingering men’s anuses, or nailing them with strap-on dildos. And all the porn involving the same–photos and videos. More straight men like being fingered than admit it–I suspect the polls are not representative because many men won’t admit it. It’s not only homophobia on the part on men–many women have this mistaken notion that a man who wants his ass played with must have gay tendencies. So many men who want to be anally fingered (or licked or dildoed) don’t bring it up because they fear the woman’s reaction.

I’m lucky. I’m a straight guy who has had a couple lovers who were at least as into giving anal play as I was into receiving it. And I married a woman who got over the myths and stereotypes and found she really likes to bend me over and please me as I crave.

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-28148 funkybrownchick Sat, 29 Dec 2007 06:56:53 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-28148 Good you guys are talking about it. Good luck. Good you guys are talking about it. Good luck.

]]> By: anonymous male http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-28144 anonymous male Sat, 29 Dec 2007 04:41:43 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-28144 FBC: I took your advice and brought it up with my girlfriend. Her response was that she never really had the inclination to try it, but that she would be willing to let me have anal sex with her if this is what I wanted. Haven't planned a time yet, but she told me to keep bringing it up and that she would be willing to do it. Thanks. FBC: I took your advice and brought it up with my girlfriend. Her response was that she never really had the inclination to try it, but that she would be willing to let me have anal sex with her if this is what I wanted. Haven’t planned a time yet, but she told me to keep bringing it up and that she would be willing to do it. Thanks.

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-25719 funkybrownchick Tue, 06 Nov 2007 03:10:05 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-25719 You should bring it up with your girlfriend. You should bring it up with your girlfriend.

]]> By: anonymous male http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-25717 anonymous male Tue, 06 Nov 2007 02:15:48 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-25717 Answers to your questions: (1) Not sure why oral would ever be taboo, but oh well. Anal probably is with older folks, but those my age and younger (mid-30s) don't seem to have any hangups on it. (2) I would love to have anal with my girl. Frankly, though, I don't know how to bring it up. She might even be into it. I think it would feel great. (3) I am not gay, but have played around that area myself with good sex toys. It hurt at first, but the pain subsides and it actually turns me on. So I would definitely be up to my girl doing it to me. The strap on seems odd, but what else is there to do? If she would let me do it to her, I would let her do it to me if she were into it. Answers to your questions:

(1) Not sure why oral would ever be taboo, but oh well. Anal probably is with older folks, but those my age and younger (mid-30s) don’t seem to have any hangups on it.

(2) I would love to have anal with my girl. Frankly, though, I don’t know how to bring it up. She might even be into it. I think it would feel great.

(3) I am not gay, but have played around that area myself with good sex toys. It hurt at first, but the pain subsides and it actually turns me on. So I would definitely be up to my girl doing it to me. The strap on seems odd, but what else is there to do? If she would let me do it to her, I would let her do it to me if she were into it.

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-25570 funkybrownchick Fri, 02 Nov 2007 12:05:27 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-25570 Thanks for sharing!! :) Thanks for sharing!! :)

]]> By: anonymous http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-19572 anonymous Fri, 27 Jul 2007 23:11:25 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-19572 yea...i have personally had my prostate poked before...by a girl that was a little too kinky for me...ive always been scared to say so, cause i dont wanna be labled homosexual...i DO NOT like men...i mean...but that feeling is GREAT...i personally think more men should at least TRY IT...but yea...IT WAS AWESOME...im sorry guys...but...yea...AWESOME... yea…i have personally had my prostate poked before…by a girl that was a little too kinky for me…ive always been scared to say so, cause i dont wanna be labled homosexual…i DO NOT like men…i mean…but that feeling is GREAT…i personally think more men should at least TRY IT…but yea…IT WAS AWESOME…im sorry guys…but…yea…AWESOME…

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/comment-page-1/#comment-9181 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Tue, 09 Jan 2007 15:26:47 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/01/04/anal-is-the-new-oral/#comment-9181 Yeah. Let us know. Yeah. Let us know.

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