Comments on: Girl with Boyfriend Meets Boy Friend http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK™ chronicles her life. Sat, 20 Mar 2010 16:01:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: robert http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-54873 robert Fri, 08 Aug 2008 17:54:22 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-54873 i want to contact my girl i want to contact my girl

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-17121 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Mon, 25 Jun 2007 16:43:12 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-17121 No, but you should wear a button that says "Please Slap Me If You Find Me Flirting with Single Chicks Yet Again." ;-) No, but you should wear a button that says “Please Slap Me If You Find Me Flirting with Single Chicks Yet Again.” ;-)

]]> By: ErrorBoy http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10565 ErrorBoy Tue, 06 Mar 2007 01:27:09 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10565 It's all about expectation management: i.e. sooner rather than later... Once 'informed of the facts' the recipient can a) adjust his/her actions accordingly or b) ignore them completely. FWIW, I have noticed more than once that telling a girl in NY you're married doesn't necessarily have the intended effect of inhibiting their behavior... can anyone (F) please explain this to me? PS Should I wear a button? "Please don't tease the married man..." It’s all about expectation management: i.e. sooner rather than later…

Once ‘informed of the facts’ the recipient can a) adjust his/her actions accordingly or b) ignore them completely.

FWIW, I have noticed more than once that telling a girl in NY you’re married doesn’t necessarily have the intended effect of inhibiting their behavior… can anyone (F) please explain this to me?

PS Should I wear a button? “Please don’t tease the married man…”

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10451 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Thu, 01 Mar 2007 05:18:36 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10451 And, that's exactly what I like about the opinions expressed on this blog. Everybody's got really different ideas about relationships, sex, how stuff works, etc. I love my readers!!! :) Maaan, I should do another Reader Appreciate Day. Hmmm ... coming soon! And, that’s exactly what I like about the opinions expressed on this blog. Everybody’s got really different ideas about relationships, sex, how stuff works, etc. I love my readers!!! :) Maaan, I should do another Reader Appreciate Day. Hmmm … coming soon!

]]> By: GrizzBabe http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10449 GrizzBabe Thu, 01 Mar 2007 00:35:11 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10449 I must be old school. I think the appropriate time to mention that you have a boyfriend is when your are asked to dinner, "Sorry, I am in a committed relationship and don't think having dinner alone with you would be appropriate." But that's just me. I must be old school. I think the appropriate time to mention that you have a boyfriend is when your are asked to dinner, “Sorry, I am in a committed relationship and don’t think having dinner alone with you would be appropriate.”

But that’s just me.

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10430 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Wed, 28 Feb 2007 05:45:27 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10430 <b>kyla</b>: That's actually a good idea. <b>Lala</b>: GOOD idea: <i>"Once you start thinking ’should I mention I have a boyfriend?’ that’s about the time…"</i> <b>Darwin</b>: That's sooo true. No one likes to feel led on. <b>MamaChristy</b>: You are a very very wise woman. :-) And, yes, I'll keep you guys updated. <b>Sarah</b>: Hmmm .... It's an interesting question ... When two people who don't know either other -- and one of the people is a man, the other is a woman and both are straight -- meet for dinner, is it *automatically* a date? I don't know. <b>melo</b>: Yeah, it's like that whole "I wanna know but I'm so disappointed that you've told me" thing. <b>AmyD</b>: Good idea to slip it in their casually. <b>Bexxie</b>: When I'm dating someone exclusively ... hold on ... let me try to remember back that far ... okay, so, the last time that I was dating someone exclusive, I don't think I always mentioned him when I met new people. If he came up, he did. If he didn't, he didn't. I don't think I ever made a real effort to make sure that it was something that I mentioned. Usually it comes up naturally anyway ... On a diff note ... Yeah, I wouldn't like it if my b/f went out for Mexican with some girl he had just met either. But, I'm an impossible person -- I'd expect him to be okay with it because he knows that I I wouldn't cheat, but I soooo wouldn't be okay with it if he did it. I'm learning to be less selfish in relationships. <b>Nat</b>: Hmmm ... so far, the votes seem to be in favor of slipping it in when she meets the guy face to face. kyla: That’s actually a good idea.

Lala: GOOD idea: “Once you start thinking ’should I mention I have a boyfriend?’ that’s about the time…”

Darwin: That’s sooo true. No one likes to feel led on.

MamaChristy: You are a very very wise woman. :-) And, yes, I’ll keep you guys updated.

Sarah: Hmmm …. It’s an interesting question … When two people who don’t know either other — and one of the people is a man, the other is a woman and both are straight — meet for dinner, is it *automatically* a date? I don’t know.

melo: Yeah, it’s like that whole “I wanna know but I’m so disappointed that you’ve told me” thing.

AmyD: Good idea to slip it in their casually.

Bexxie: When I’m dating someone exclusively … hold on … let me try to remember back that far … okay, so, the last time that I was dating someone exclusive, I don’t think I always mentioned him when I met new people. If he came up, he did. If he didn’t, he didn’t. I don’t think I ever made a real effort to make sure that it was something that I mentioned. Usually it comes up naturally anyway … On a diff note … Yeah, I wouldn’t like it if my b/f went out for Mexican with some girl he had just met either. But, I’m an impossible person — I’d expect him to be okay with it because he knows that I I wouldn’t cheat, but I soooo wouldn’t be okay with it if he did it. I’m learning to be less selfish in relationships.

Nat: Hmmm … so far, the votes seem to be in favor of slipping it in when she meets the guy face to face.

]]> By: Nat http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10422 Nat Wed, 28 Feb 2007 01:07:45 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10422 I think that she should go to that dinner and when they sit she should mention something like "It's good that I've met you 'cuz you're such a nice guy (some padding about how awesome he is.. whatever!) and many guys usually run away when they now I'm in a serious relationship" bla bla I think that she should go to that dinner and when they sit she should mention something like “It’s good that I’ve met you ‘cuz you’re such a nice guy (some padding about how awesome he is.. whatever!) and many guys usually run away when they now I’m in a serious relationship” bla bla

]]> By: Bexxie http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10421 Bexxie Wed, 28 Feb 2007 00:30:42 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10421 Why didn't Flora mention Juan when speaking to Roger when they first met? I'm not sure I understand that part. If I'm speaking to a guy I've just met, I make mention of my partner (if set in a social scenario) .. unless of course I didn't care too much for him and was looking for some action. But that's just not something I'd do. I wouldn't like my b/f going out for mexican with some girl he had just met ... f*ck THAT!! ;o) Why didn’t Flora mention Juan when speaking to Roger when they first met? I’m not sure I understand that part. If I’m speaking to a guy I’ve just met, I make mention of my partner (if set in a social scenario) .. unless of course I didn’t care too much for him and was looking for some action. But that’s just not something I’d do.

I wouldn’t like my b/f going out for mexican with some girl he had just met … f*ck THAT!!

;o)

]]> By: AmyD http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10419 AmyD Tue, 27 Feb 2007 21:08:25 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10419 I find it's pretty easy to preface making plans by saying something like, "(Boyfriend's name) will be working/playing/washing his hair, so he won't be able to join us, but we should meet up for coffee. It'll be fun!" or something lame-o like that. No one likes to be led on. And besides, if you're loyal to your partner, it's just the right thing to do, IMHO. I find it’s pretty easy to preface making plans by saying something like, “(Boyfriend’s name) will be working/playing/washing his hair, so he won’t be able to join us, but we should meet up for coffee. It’ll be fun!” or something lame-o like that. No one likes to be led on. And besides, if you’re loyal to your partner, it’s just the right thing to do, IMHO.

]]> By: melo http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-10417 melo Tue, 27 Feb 2007 20:52:22 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/02/27/girl-with-boyfriend-meets-boy-friend/#comment-10417 it could be both 1 and 2. when girls tell me that they have a bf, it's usually a deflating feeling. like, a truth i don't want to hear. but, it's better to tell the truth now than later. it could be both 1 and 2. when girls tell me that they have a bf, it’s usually a deflating feeling. like, a truth i don’t want to hear. but, it’s better to tell the truth now than later.

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