Comments on: Hello. I’m _____. http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:56:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11716 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Thu, 05 Apr 2007 14:02:32 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11716 <b>MamaChristy</b>: You bring up a *really* good point. The two aren't necessarily mutally exclusive. And, I certainly hope that you're right when you say that it's possible to have both. I definitely want both. <b>cici</b>: Yeah, for now, I don't want to go back to the midwest. For better or worse, I'm sticking it out in New York for now. <b>Howard</b>: Yeah, my need for stability is pretty strong at this point. About the deadline ... If things remain as they are, I've committed myself to stay here for at least another two years or so. People say that it takes 5 years to really "settle" into NY. I'm willing to give it 4 - 5 years then reevaluate. (I've already done two.) <b>tonito bandito</b>: You're right. I am funky! ;-) I'll definitely take the book, but not the Mr. Big. I don't think Chris Noth is very attractive. By the way, random sidenote about the book ... believe it or not, this first one has very little to do with dating. It's about politics. Funny, huh? <b>Pegs</b>: Woman, I got your phone call and I need to call you back. I didn't get home until really late, and I passed out very soon after I did. THANK YOU for your comment and you're prayers. I'll be home at a decent hour tonight. I'll give you call. (For the record, what your student said is true 99% of the time, but I have a few examples that buck that trend. <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0133751/" rel="nofollow">Here's one</a>.) <b>ChiGirl</b>: Thanks. Sometimes I forget that. <b>Nat</b>: You said, "I bet there’s a good outcome." I soooo hope you're right. MamaChristy: You bring up a *really* good point. The two aren’t necessarily mutally exclusive. And, I certainly hope that you’re right when you say that it’s possible to have both. I definitely want both.

cici: Yeah, for now, I don’t want to go back to the midwest. For better or worse, I’m sticking it out in New York for now.

Howard: Yeah, my need for stability is pretty strong at this point. About the deadline … If things remain as they are, I’ve committed myself to stay here for at least another two years or so. People say that it takes 5 years to really “settle” into NY. I’m willing to give it 4 – 5 years then reevaluate. (I’ve already done two.)

tonito bandito: You’re right. I am funky! ;-) I’ll definitely take the book, but not the Mr. Big. I don’t think Chris Noth is very attractive. By the way, random sidenote about the book … believe it or not, this first one has very little to do with dating. It’s about politics. Funny, huh?

Pegs: Woman, I got your phone call and I need to call you back. I didn’t get home until really late, and I passed out very soon after I did. THANK YOU for your comment and you’re prayers. I’ll be home at a decent hour tonight. I’ll give you call. (For the record, what your student said is true 99% of the time, but I have a few examples that buck that trend. Here’s one.)

ChiGirl: Thanks. Sometimes I forget that.

Nat: You said, “I bet there’s a good outcome.” I soooo hope you’re right.

]]> By: Nat http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11642 Nat Thu, 05 Apr 2007 03:39:19 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11642 Everybody goes through phases like the one you've posted about. It's that out of the blue, you wake up and boom! it strikes you. It's insecurity that just explodes but it's fine to be afraid of the unknown. I'd say "go for it" if you don't take chances it may never happen for you. I bet there's a good outcome. Everybody goes through phases like the one you’ve posted about. It’s that out of the blue, you wake up and boom! it strikes you. It’s insecurity that just explodes but it’s fine to be afraid of the unknown. I’d say “go for it” if you don’t take chances it may never happen for you. I bet there’s a good outcome.

]]> By: ChiGirl http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11626 ChiGirl Thu, 05 Apr 2007 00:17:21 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11626 Great post! You are so not alone. Great post! You are so not alone.

]]> By: Pegs http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11620 Pegs Wed, 04 Apr 2007 23:27:48 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11620 If NYC is where you want to be, then at least you've got that part figured out. You knew when you moved there that it was going to be a bumpy ride, because 1) You're really out there "on your own." 2) the field you've chosen to pursue is by nature bumpy, e.g. uncertain funding, relying on donors. So, the job, the partner, they're not quite nailed down just yet. But the location is right, so go with the flow. I learned there's no "right" timetable for our lives. God sends what we can handle, when we can handle it. Pray harder! I'll pray for you, too. If NYC is where you want to be, then at least you’ve got that part figured out. You knew when you moved there that it was going to be a bumpy ride, because 1) You’re really out there “on your own.” 2) the field you’ve chosen to pursue is by nature bumpy, e.g. uncertain funding, relying on donors.
So, the job, the partner, they’re not quite nailed down just yet. But the location is right, so go with the flow.
I learned there’s no “right” timetable for our lives. God sends what we can handle, when we can handle it. Pray harder! I’ll pray for you, too.

]]> By: tonito bandito http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11618 tonito bandito Wed, 04 Apr 2007 19:36:57 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11618 Just look at Carrie on Sex and the City and I see you (only the funkier version).... You will have your book and your Mr. Big too! I just know it!! Mwah!! Just look at Carrie on Sex and the City and I see you (only the funkier version)….

You will have your book and your Mr. Big too! I just know it!!

Mwah!!

]]> By: Howard http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11616 Howard Wed, 04 Apr 2007 17:19:35 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11616 Funny, that's how I would the differences in live from Illinois and New York actually. You're living the dream! :) But I do understand the need for stability in your career -- all too well. You certainly will have more competition in NY for those kinds of jobs than in IL (where I'm sure they exist. Right? Maybe?). I don't have any advice; only understanding. Perhaps set a deadline for NY even though I know you don't want to leave and then start looking outside of that area? Funny, that’s how I would the differences in live from Illinois and New York actually. You’re living the dream! :)

But I do understand the need for stability in your career — all too well.

You certainly will have more competition in NY for those kinds of jobs than in IL (where I’m sure they exist. Right? Maybe?). I don’t have any advice; only understanding. Perhaps set a deadline for NY even though I know you don’t want to leave and then start looking outside of that area?

]]> By: cici http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11612 cici Wed, 04 Apr 2007 15:48:15 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11612 I def. understand where your coming from. When I decided I was too fly for Ohio I up and moved to DC to seek out better career opportunities after I graduate. Literally anything that could go wrong has gone wrong! But I must say that even though I have opted to move back to the OH (for now) I would love to return when I can afford to be alive and hopefully it'll be right then. I'm sure going back to the Midwest is not an option, but perhaps you should simply just go with the flow and continue to wait it out. I don't think there is ever a right answer either, but what fun would that be? I tend to give up on things the second they don't seem to go my way and regret it later, but given your situation your in a great place where opportunities just pop up. I'd say given the information you have you can make the most of your situation and continue to use the lack of stability as a creative force in your work...and soon the stability just may appear when you get that fat check for that book, or that screenplay, or who knows. I def. understand where your coming from. When I decided I was too fly for Ohio I up and moved to DC to seek out better career opportunities after I graduate. Literally anything that could go wrong has gone wrong! But I must say that even though I have opted to move back to the OH (for now) I would love to return when I can afford to be alive and hopefully it’ll be right then. I’m sure going back to the Midwest is not an option, but perhaps you should simply just go with the flow and continue to wait it out. I don’t think there is ever a right answer either, but what fun would that be? I tend to give up on things the second they don’t seem to go my way and regret it later, but given your situation your in a great place where opportunities just pop up. I’d say given the information you have you can make the most of your situation and continue to use the lack of stability as a creative force in your work…and soon the stability just may appear when you get that fat check for that book, or that screenplay, or who knows.

]]> By: MamaChristy http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/comment-page-1/#comment-11608 MamaChristy Wed, 04 Apr 2007 13:54:02 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/04/04/hello-im-_____/#comment-11608 Here's the good news: creativity and stability are NOT mutally exclusive. You can have both. The bad news? You might not be able to pick exactly what creative projects you work on if want stability. My husband is one of those "creative types." Ask our two year-old what daddy does at work and he'll tell you "work on pictures" (a phrase he came up with on his own). J is a graphic designer and, if I do say so myself, very talented. But with the stability of a job that provides health insurance and enough moolah for me to stay home with our short man, comes the crappy projects and insane clients that he would be able to turn away if he was a freelancer. I really have faith that things will work our for you. You are making the best decisions for you based on the info you have, so take heart that you are headed in the right direction - even if that direction isn't too clear right now. Good luck, sweetie! We're rooting for you! Here’s the good news: creativity and stability are NOT mutally exclusive. You can have both.

The bad news? You might not be able to pick exactly what creative projects you work on if want stability.

My husband is one of those “creative types.” Ask our two year-old what daddy does at work and he’ll tell you “work on pictures” (a phrase he came up with on his own). J is a graphic designer and, if I do say so myself, very talented. But with the stability of a job that provides health insurance and enough moolah for me to stay home with our short man, comes the crappy projects and insane clients that he would be able to turn away if he was a freelancer.

I really have faith that things will work our for you. You are making the best decisions for you based on the info you have, so take heart that you are headed in the right direction – even if that direction isn’t too clear right now. Good luck, sweetie! We’re rooting for you!

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