A Handsome Chocolate Man
I’m standing on the subway platform with my friends, Big D Girl and Big T Man. (They’re a couple; in case you hadn’t already guessed.) Anyway, so, Big D Man says that he has a guy friend moving into town in a couple of weeks. “Yeah,” he says, “I think I might try to set him up with R.” This makes me pout like a 4 year-old. I wonder: Why, oh why, does R get the hook up while *I* get left out in the cold?!?! Never one to keep my thoughts to myself for too long, I ask Big T Man why he isn’t thinking of setting *me* up with his guy friend. Big T Man laughs, “Well, you know … He’s a brother so … you know … I just figured you wouldn’t be interested.”
Wow. WTF? I would like the record to reflect that I do, indeed, date brown men. I love brown men. My two nephews are tiny little brown guys who will one day grow up to be big tall brown men. Most of my relatives are brown people. I’m a funky little brown chick. I think brown people rock. You get the point: I love brown people. So, now, let’s talk about dating … I’m a hot-blooded, heterosexual, single woman. I love men. All (attractive) men. And, just because I might occasionally date guys who aren’t brown — you could even call some of them “peach” men if you wanted to — that doesn’t mean that I like my brown brethren any more or any less. So, today’s Manly Monday is dedicated to the brown-skinned men of the world. (…And, by the way, I told Big T Man that he *better* hook me up with a date with his friend when the guy moves to town; I’ll let you know how / if the date goes.)
(Pssst! Hey, Susan, your craving for a handsome “chocolate man” made me think of Common. I was going to dedicate today’s post to him, but Big T Man’s comment made me think of the video above. Fret not; I’ll save Common for another yummy Manly Monday.)
April 23rd, 2007 at 1:33 pm
Delurking to say…
I’ve been misread to not love brown men as well. I would also recommend India.Arie “BrownSkin” to all the chocolate men of the world. Yum!
Love your blog!
April 23rd, 2007 at 1:46 pm
Despite the fact that I married a white man, I love me a brotha. Seeing that video brought back some delicious memories.
April 23rd, 2007 at 3:10 pm
This is a bit beyond the point, but I always think you’re referring to Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi/Sri Lankan (collectively known as Brownistan!) men when you talk about ‘brown’ men!
April 23rd, 2007 at 3:31 pm
I have a crush on Shemar Moore and I left a candy present of him at the wasteland….. Mwah!
April 23rd, 2007 at 7:35 pm
Hey I am all about any kind of good man be him brown, white, yellow, or purple (ok purple might be a little bit far fetching)!!!
But there are some fine black men out there that just don’t know they are my future husbands (LOL along with some white men, hispanic men, indian men, and ect).
Dig up some cute single guys in Texas :)
April 23rd, 2007 at 11:32 pm
Good for you for standing up for equal opportunity dating!
With single times like this, we have the right to be attracted all types of men. The more colors, the more beautiful… some even more beautiful when combined.
April 24th, 2007 at 1:47 am
tiff: YAY!!!! Thanks for delurking. I hope you join us for public enjoyment of the blog more often! :) And, yeah, India.Arie rocks.
ebonyblue: The video makes me think of this guy that I’ll call “The Face”. Very sexy. Very brown. Very yummy.
Darwin: Brownistan?!?!!? I LOVE IT!!! I’ve never heard of that before, but it works.
tonito bandito: You’re such a sweetheart! Thanks for the Man Candy!!
Felicia: I wish I knew hot single guys in Texas. Hell, I wish I knew more hot single guys in New York!
ChiGirl: Couldn’t agree with you more on all accounts! :)
April 24th, 2007 at 12:01 pm
after a very “Monday” Monday, this put a HUGE smile on my face – thanks FBC!!!
April 24th, 2007 at 6:30 pm
No prob!! :-)
April 25th, 2007 at 10:22 am
Not to put too serious a spin on it, but perhaps would be considered to act/talk/think ‘too white’ for many brown men? (That and her ass was too small…)
It’s a problem my wifey encountered, so had to settle for this here whitey (no, I’m not even peach!)
April 25th, 2007 at 10:23 am
OK, so I bungled the submit…
Not to put too serious a spin on it, but perhaps you would be considered to act/talk/think ‘too white’ for many brown men?
It’s a problem my wifey encountered, so she had to settle for this here whitey –no, I’m not even peach!–
(that and her ass was supposedly too small…)
April 26th, 2007 at 11:53 am
For some reason, a lot of people believe black women have to take an either/or approach to dating. And everything else for that matter.
Date a white guy once (or twice, or hell, look at one too long), you must not like brothers. Acknowledge mixed ancestry, must be denying blackness. Speak with the carefully considered vocabulary, measured words, tones and diction of your middle class family and friends, and you must be trying to sell out and act white.
It’s not fair, damnit. But wasn’t it you who said peoples perceptions say more about the judger than the judged?
I for one love my UN of crushes, including the FBM, one of God’s many Fine Man gifts to women (my personal Fine Man list includes, a passel of beautiful brothers, of course, the Sexy Japanese Guy, several Pretty Indian Boys, a few Gorgeous Australians and Kiwis of Irish and/or Scots Extraction, A German, a pint-sized but highly athletic runner from the white cliffs of Dover…)
*wiping drool from corner of mouth*
I’m sorry, what were we talking about?
April 27th, 2007 at 12:41 am
ErrorBoy: Oh, good gawd! I could write a whole post about your comment, and I might some day soon … :)
sid: Here, here to everything you said! And, for the record, here at the FBC, the answer to the question “what were we talking about?” is *always* “BOYS”! ;)
April 30th, 2007 at 11:47 pm
This made me laugh:
… I’m a hot-blooded, heterosexual, single woman. I love men. All (attractive) men
I love you, Funky Brown Chick–keep doing you!!!
May 1st, 2007 at 8:07 am
I love you, too, Ro!!!! When are you coming back to NYC???? :-) We’re still planning the Royals Party for you.