Should I Write Mr. Blue Back?
A few of you already know that I blog for Nerve, but here’s something that you may or may not know about me … In addition to pimping out my words for money on a freelance basis; I also let Nerve pimp me out for dates a little bit, too. Yep. I signed up for their online personals site. So, teeeeechnically, I guess you could say that I’m one of Nerve’s bitches. Maaaan, I should ask them if they’ll let me have business cards that say exactly that: “Funky Brown Chick. Office Online Bitch.” And, speaking of online … let’s talk about my online dating for a sec.
If I can remember to do it, I’ll post an “Online Dating Update” sometime this week. For now, I just wanna tell you about one guy in particular. “Mr. Blue.” Actually, instead of *me* telling you about him, I want *you* to tell me what you think I should do. Yep. I’m going to let all of you decide my fate with Mr. Blue. I figure, you know, why not? Could be fun. Ready to decide my fate? Here we go …
Mr. Blue’s possible pros: seemingly smart, witty and well-read. Mr. Blue’s possible cons: He’s not smiling in his picture. (The only people who don’t smile during pictures are either really really sad, or they have bad teeth. No? Hmmm … I’ve gotta give that some thought.) Anyway, what else is there to tell you about Mr. Blue? We’ve emailed each other a couple of times. Nothing horrible, nothing great. I haven’t responded to his most recent email yet. Truth be told, I’m fence-sitting. Part of me thinks that I *shouldn’t* write Mr. Blue back. Life is crazy busy right now; so, I’m only gonna carve out time to date if I think the guy may be **really** interesting. Then again, part of me thinks that I *should* write Mr. Blue back. When I signed up for online dating, I told myself that I’d be make an honest effort to be a bit or more open-minded and a bit less picky. Now, here’s where you come in. Based on what we know about Mr. Blue so far, what’s your vote? (A) “Write him back” or (B) “Don’t write him back”.
April 24th, 2007 at 3:10 am
Write him back, no harm done by that if his only minuses are lack of a smiley picture and meh-emails. Maybe he’s one of those people that seem boring on email but are charming in real life? And you’re right, I instantly think ‘bad teeth’ when I see non-smiley pictures of people too!
April 24th, 2007 at 9:28 am
I’m with Darwin. Write him back. You can tell so little via email. Really, what’s one date? As for the picture… I have seen guys who resort to their WORK BADGE ID PHOTO, because they apparently have no better photo of themselves available and can’t seem to be bothered to take one specifically for the profile. So, not smiling? If that’s his only offense… eh.
April 24th, 2007 at 11:28 am
Yep, I’m with the two smarties above. Write him back, but definitely don’t make any definite plans to go on a date. Make him work for it. ;o)~
Maybe you could ask him why he isn’t smiling in his picture. Could be a great convo-starter?…
April 24th, 2007 at 12:08 pm
Write him back, no harm no foul, but ask to meet for coffee – some people aren’t big email writers and lots of folks don’t like their pictures taken, so the best way to see if this guy’s someone you can hang with is to, well, hang out with him for a minute. Good luck!
April 24th, 2007 at 12:34 pm
I’ll actually have to disagree with the four others. I mean, as long as you have to ask us this question, you shouldn’t write him as you’re not really that into him. And when it comes to online dating (as in so many other aspects of life), you should always go with your gut feeling.
I’ve dated a few guys that I met online, and I met my boyfriend online, too. From our very first virtual meeting, sparkles flew – no, they raced! But if there is one thing I learnt from online dating: It is paradise for people who knows their way around the alphabet, and it’s hell for those who have a hard time getting their thoughts into the keyboard. So your guy might just be more of a… physical nature?
But, on the other hand, I also live by the philosophy that we regret the things we don’t do more than those we do. If you don’t write Mr. Blue, you will never know if he COULD have been Mr. Right – or Mr. Right Now.
Well, that wasn’t a clear answer at all, was it?!
April 24th, 2007 at 12:44 pm
Write him back….he may just hate taking pictures :)
Oh and you know I am pro online dating…I have met some really nice guys and still holding out hope for the one :)
April 24th, 2007 at 12:53 pm
some guys just don’t like to smile in pictures. They think it makes them look cheesy and they’re trying to be tough. If you set something up with him, schedule it after your life slows down a bit, that way there’s no pressure. That’s my 2¢.
April 24th, 2007 at 2:28 pm
Hmmm… is his picture one of those sexy, smoldering no smile pics? Or possible mug shot type pics?
From what you’ve written so far, I would not write him back. Find someone who smiles and makes you want to smile.
April 24th, 2007 at 3:01 pm
How about asking for more pictures. Maybe some casual shots to get more of a feel about him. Sometimes people’s personalities do come across in pictures. (At least my crazy friends do!) Just a thought!
Mwah!
April 24th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
As long as you don’t get an axe murderer vibe and you plan to meet him in public (if you plan to meet him – I think this is just e-mail for now, right?), what’s it gonna hurt. I’m with the hansome Tonito, ask for more pics!
April 24th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
Write him back….It doesn’t hurt! Why not?!
April 25th, 2007 at 6:24 am
Darwin: One vote for write him back.
stefanie: Two. (By the way, I can’t believe that there are people who have actually posted their work badge photos!!! Online dating can be quite funny at times.)
AmyD: Three votes for write him back. And, I am sooo going to take your advice and ask him why he’s not smiling in his pics.
Susan: Four votes. And, thanks for the good luck wishes!!
Nanna: Yay!!!! I love it when people aren’t afraid to buck the trend. Four votes for “call him” and one vote for “don’t call him.” Good point about the gut feeling, too. My gut feeling tells me: “This guy isn’t your type, and he seems a little low energy.” He might find me to be a bit, um, overwhelming; I tend to have that affect on really shy guys … I either click with them instantly because we’re opposites, or we’re turned off by each other.
Felicia: 5 Call Hims and 1 Don’t Call Him. And, yeah, I’ve done online dating off and on. At it’s best, it provides a venue for people who wouldn’t have met each other in any other method to meet each other.
Donna: Yeah. My life is so hectic at the moment that I’m not even available to plan dates with anyone (except friends, of course) until after May 7th.
ChiGirl: Oh, no, definitely not smoldering. It’s more of a “Deer-in-Headlights” kind of picture. So, yeah … 5 Call Hims and 1 Don’t Call Him.
tonito bandito: Good point! Some people aren’t good at pics. Maybe he does have better ones.
MamaChristy: Yeah, just emailing at this moment, no dates. I don’t get an axe murderer vibe … well … actually … now that you mention it … he *does* say that he likes to read crime novels and he *is* into science fiction. It doesn’t scream axe murderer at me, but it does freak me out a little bit.
KP: With voting closed, our final tally is: 6 Call Hims and 1 Don’t Call Him.
April 25th, 2007 at 10:16 am
Bad teeth? Is he from Europe? IMHO real teeth (*natural teeth*) are a GREAT tool for natural selection…
Next time, why not post the link to his profile?!? ;-)
April 27th, 2007 at 12:12 am
Post his profile? I don’t think I’d ever do that. I don’t want to *completely* ruin my dating life. The boys are already afraid of the blog enough as it is. :)
By the way … yes, I like men with nice teeth. :)
April 27th, 2007 at 5:12 pm
What the hey, write him back. Maybe he wasn’t smiling because he had just finished reading a Cosmo article that said chicks dig brooding bad boys over smilin’ schmucks 9 to 1.
April 30th, 2007 at 6:05 am
or they don’t smile because they hate having their picture taken…