“How many people are you dating right now?” – Anonymous
None. But, that’s a tricky question. Technically, I’m not dating anyone because I don’t have a boyfriend. I have “gone out on dates” with one guy, the Right-Winger Gunslinger. And, next week, I have plans to go out on a date with another guy, Simon The Englishman.
“Any clues as to your where abouts right now?” – Mr. White
In New York City. Sitting in front of my computer. Typing.
“When not meeting guys from Nerve.com personals, where do you usually meet men?” – ChiGirl
Good question. At the moment, I’ve been checking out Nerve because I like their site and because I haven’t really had time to explore any other avenues for dating. (Not even sure I want to.) Generally speaking, here’s how I’ve met past boyfriends and boytoys: Le Canadien online, Blondie at a bar, The Guy I Almost Married through a mutual friend (my then-boyfriend / his tennis partner) and I met other guys at political events, a friend’s party, on the street, in the subway and other places. I haven’t really found the “best” place to meet men. When it happens, it just happens.
“I heard your bit of a dom. How far are you willing to take your partner and do you have a submissive side?” – Mr. White
Answer 1: I’m only willing to take my partner as far as both of our sexual boundaries will allow us to go. Answer 2: I don’t have a submissive side, and I don’t date submissive guys.
“When dating someone new do you like to be challenged or does your dom side carry over outside the bedroom?” – Mr. White
I love men who challenge me intellectually; I couldn’t ever date a doormat. Take that guy Simon, for example. When he learned that I like to spank men, he wrote me back: “you are not gonna be spanking me.” Truth by told, I thought that was kind of hot. He’s clearly a big boy who states his boundaries. If he would have written back, “whatever you say ma’am,” I would have been completely disgusted. It’s like I want what I want but, when/if I’m given it *too* easily, I don’t want it anymore. Does that make sense? I guess that’s just a really long way of saying: I want a challenge.
“Have [any of your doubts and apprehensions about ‘outing’ yourself at Nerve] proven true? Have you had any weird randoms stalking you thanks to that? Any funny stories? Ok so it’s more than one question but they’re all related!” – Darwin
Nope. So far, so good. And, actually, the whole Nerve experience has changed the way that I think about being “public” on blogs. You see, here’s the thing … Stalking existed long before blogs were created, right? So, when you get right down to it, everyone who wakes up in the morning and leaves their home is a “public” person. You don’t have to have a blog (or a page on MySpace, Friendster or Facebook) to be stalked. Besides … statistically speaking, it’s the folks you *know* on a personal, day-to-day, face-to-face basis (bitter ex-husbands, crazy students in your writing class, local postal workers, disgruntled co-workers) that should worry you more than strangers. Besides, I’m not the only out blogger. Most of the bloggers that I know are a little “out” now.
“Do you think it’s been hard for you to find [your “one and only”] man because you really are as picky as you say you are, OR do you think that deep down, you really just don’t want to be serious or you maybe have a fear of what you would have to give up if you DID find him?” – AmyD
Okay, that’s like *3* questions. My three answers? Yes. Maybe. And, yes, that’s quite possible. But, not necessarily in that order. ;)
“Does the funkybrownchick do the funkychicken?” – Mr. White
Damn, kid, you ask a lot of questions!!! :) And, for the record … yes, the funkybrownchick does the funkychicken. It’s a very popular Midwestern wedding dance.
“So tell us, what’s Funky B’s ideal date?” – MamaChristy
Oh, wow!! That’s a really good question. Honestly, I don’t really have one ideal date in mind. I guess I’d just have to say that original / natural dates are the best dates. Generally speaking, I know it’s a good date when I’m having such a great time with a guy that I don’t feel like I have to force anything, the hours just seem to slip away.
“[N]ow that you are meeting guys from Nerve.com, is it weird that right off the bat they know so much about you through your blogs? Do you always share the URLs with new dates?” – HippieChyck
And this, dear readers, is the million dollar question. I’m actually re-evaluating how much and/or when I tell guys about the Nerve stuff.
On one hand, the last thing that I ever want to do is violoate anyone’s trust. So, I wouldn’t feel comfortable blogging about dates without telling guys that I’m doing it.
On the other hand, I don’t really want to hurt anyone’s feelings either. Men *are* territorial little buggers. I can’t imagine that “Guy X” wants to hear all the juicy details about my dates with “Guy Y”. To be honest, I cringed a little when Simon’s email to me referenced my date with the Right-Winger Gunslinger. And, I felt a little worried that I hadn’t heard back from the Right-Winger Gunslinger since I blogged about Alon and Simon. It all comes back to one question: how much information is *too much* information to know about the person with whom you went out on a date last night?
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Thanks for playing Q & A!
Hey there!
Interesting questions, even more interesting answers!!!
I’ll throw a new one into the mix…
What would it take you to leave NY now that you’ve been there for two years???
ChiGirl: You’re very welcome. And, thank YOU for playing along as well.
Mitch: Hmmm … What would it take for me to leave New York? I guess I’d have to have the next two years unfold exactly as my first two years did. If that happened, I’d probably leave. I have absolutely NO desire to re-live even half of the shit that I’ve been through here. The good times have been really good. The bad times have been really bad.