Comments on: Single Chicks vs. The Babymamas http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK™ chronicles her life. Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:12:26 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Sharon Lewis http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-123662 Sharon Lewis Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:14:33 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-123662 I stumbled upon this site by way of googling "childfree". I am  a 47 yr old Black woman who is childfree. I don't hate kids, but I never really wanted any of my own. I have seen too many women,especially Black women raising kids by theirselves and having to work 2 jobs just to make ends meet. They all look so worn out and tired. They never have any time for themselves. I didn't want  that type of lifestyle for myself. It didn't seem like a lot of fun to me. No freedom to do the things that you want to do, always having to get a babysitter, buying school supplies, toys, etc. Also a lot of women get really fat after they had 2 or 3 kids. I did not want that for myself. I have been able to travel across the USA and the Caribbean, go to college, start a silk painting business, and do other things, which I probably could not have done if I had kids like everyone else. A lot of people tell me that I will be lonely by not having children. I know many older women with adult children who barely give them the time of day, let alone visit them. Just because a person is childfree does not mean that they will be lonely in old age. Everybody is not meant to be a parent and I refuse to do something just because society says that's the norm. I stumbled upon this site by way of googling “childfree”. I am  a 47 yr old Black woman who is childfree. I don’t hate kids, but I never really wanted any of my own. I have seen too many women,especially Black women raising kids by theirselves and having to work 2 jobs just to make ends meet. They all look so worn out and tired. They never have any time for themselves. I didn’t want  that type of lifestyle for myself. It didn’t seem like a lot of fun to me. No freedom to do the things that you want to do, always having to get a babysitter, buying school supplies, toys, etc. Also a lot of women get really fat after they had 2 or 3 kids. I did not want that for myself. I have been able to travel across the USA and the Caribbean, go to college, start a silk painting business, and do other things, which I probably could not have done if I had kids like everyone else. A lot of people tell me that I will be lonely by not having children. I know many older women with adult children who barely give them the time of day, let alone visit them. Just because a person is childfree does not mean that they will be lonely in old age. Everybody is not meant to be a parent and I refuse to do something just because society says that’s the norm.

]]> By: Stacerella http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-112285 Stacerella Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:06:05 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-112285 When babymamas say, "You should have children," I'm at the stage of life where I will answer in a very Samantha from SATC way, "And you should should STFU." I'm sick of it. It very much is a personal decision, whether you're single or married. And just because you marry doesn't mean you will automatically jump on the babymoma bandwagon. That's what so many of them fail to recognise and refuse to understand. We're not asking them to understand as much as to just accept, and while they're at it, STFU about it once and for all. When babymamas say, “You should have children,” I’m at the stage of life where I will answer in a very Samantha from SATC way, “And you should should STFU.” I’m sick of it. It very much is a personal decision, whether you’re single or married. And just because you marry doesn’t mean you will automatically jump on the babymoma bandwagon. That’s what so many of them fail to recognise and refuse to understand. We’re not asking them to understand as much as to just accept, and while they’re at it, STFU about it once and for all.

]]> By: Aenn http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-77843 Aenn Mon, 29 Dec 2008 19:39:25 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-77843 That should have said 'can we address' not 'and we address'. That should have said ‘can we address’ not ‘and we address’.

]]> By: Aenn http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-77842 Aenn Mon, 29 Dec 2008 19:38:05 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-77842 I've gotten a lot of comments from complete strangers about how I should have children, and how I'd just change my mind if I'd have one...I haven't changed my mind yet, and I think there's something desperate in trying to tell total strangers that they should adopt your lifestyle. It sort of suggests a need to justify your own decisions. Thankfully I don't get any of that from my family, just from random strangers. I'm with you on the plan. After we take care of everyone who nags us about children, and we address the people who let their children run wild on the bus or in the cafe in the expectation that we should all enjoy being around their spoiled brats? I’ve gotten a lot of comments from complete strangers about how I should have children, and how I’d just change my mind if I’d have one…I haven’t changed my mind yet, and I think there’s something desperate in trying to tell total strangers that they should adopt your lifestyle. It sort of suggests a need to justify your own decisions.

Thankfully I don’t get any of that from my family, just from random strangers.

I’m with you on the plan. After we take care of everyone who nags us about children, and we address the people who let their children run wild on the bus or in the cafe in the expectation that we should all enjoy being around their spoiled brats?

]]> By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-68874 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Mon, 10 Nov 2008 17:10:40 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-68874 Ooooh, THANKS I'll check out those posts!!! :) Ooooh, THANKS I’ll check out those posts!!! :)

]]> By: Sista GP http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-68656 Sista GP Sat, 08 Nov 2008 15:02:21 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-68656 I see no selfishness in not procreating. If you are not wanting, willing, or capable of taking responsibility of a child, doesn't seem right to have any. There are several issues that have been clouding my mind lately and had to blog about it. (Nov 6, Oct 25, and Oct 14) Didn't want to invade your comments with links. Thanks for the link here. I'LL BE BACK, lol. I see no selfishness in not procreating. If you are not wanting, willing, or capable of taking responsibility of a child, doesn’t seem right to have any. There are several issues that have been clouding my mind lately and had to blog about it. (Nov 6, Oct 25, and Oct 14) Didn’t want to invade your comments with links.
Thanks for the link here. I’LL BE BACK, lol.

]]> By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-66504 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Thu, 23 Oct 2008 10:55:38 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-66504 No prob at all, babes! :) And, for the record, it's never too late to comment on any FBC post; you're always welcome. :) No prob at all, babes! :) And, for the record, it’s never too late to comment on any FBC post; you’re always welcome. :)

]]> By: Lauren@LifeStyler http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-66231 Lauren@LifeStyler Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:10:20 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-66231 **Applause** I realize I'm a little late on commenting on this, but it totally struck a chord with me. I'm from the deep south where popping out babies is a national past time, and I get this crap from every cousin, friend, aunt, uncle every time I go to visit. I've never understood why the choice to not have kids often times seemed to be so offensive to people with children. Thanks for sticking up for us non-procreators. **Applause**

I realize I’m a little late on commenting on this, but it totally struck a chord with me. I’m from the deep south where popping out babies is a national past time, and I get this crap from every cousin, friend, aunt, uncle every time I go to visit. I’ve never understood why the choice to not have kids often times seemed to be so offensive to people with children.

Thanks for sticking up for us non-procreators.

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-17188 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Tue, 26 Jun 2007 13:22:33 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-17188 Awww, THANK YOU!!! :-) Awww, THANK YOU!!! :-)

]]> By: feh http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/comment-page-1/#comment-17141 feh Mon, 25 Jun 2007 22:15:39 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/05/16/single-chicks-vs-the-babymommas/#comment-17141 This rocks! I linked to this article from the childfree chick site, and can't say YAY! loud or often enough to express my joy at finding such smart and funny writers. This rocks!
I linked to this article from the childfree chick site, and can’t say YAY! loud or often enough to express my joy at finding such smart and funny writers.

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