Comments on: Would You Date A Blogger?

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By: FUNK BROWN CHICK

FUNK BROWN CHICK — Fri, 25 May 2007 19:45:29 +0000

Dating Dummy: Yeah, good point about the sounding board. Now that the guys that I date actually read my blog, I really miss being able to talk about my feelings about my dates like I used to. Andy: Hey, did you check out New York magazine's article about the blogging generation? It was really good.

By: Andy

Andy — Fri, 25 May 2007 19:30:11 +0000

What an excellent question. I think it extends beyond blogs and bloggers. Let’s say two people who use MySpace. Or two people who frequent the same message board. Or use the same email list. Or, hell, who play online games together.

I mean, it’s just a bad idea. There’s too many ways for misunderstandings and jealousy and blah-blah to happen. I knew someone who met her current boyfriend through a message board they both frequented. And she once told me, “If you can’t set aside the online shit [e.g. jealousy and misunderstanding from seeing him talk to other people, for example], then online dating is not for you. Because it *will* drive you crazy.” And she was absolutely right.

We’re probably the first generation that is transitioning from forming close bonds via “real life” to including “online buddies” in that mix. It’s not an issue for the generation before. For the generation after us, supplementing real life with online is just a way of life.

We’re the Lost Generation, and just muddling our way through it all sometimes.

By: Dating Dummy

Dating Dummy — Fri, 25 May 2007 17:46:12 +0000

Yes – dating a blogger opens up a LOT of complications. I know, because I’ve done it! I met my g/f through Blogger, and we’re happy since it lets you see a side you wouldn’t otherwise be able to catch in the real world. But being a blogger, you can’t air your thoughts like you used to. Ideally, you’d want them to know who you really are from what you wrote about the blog – but not have them read what you’re thinking about when it comes to the relationship. Because sometimes you just need a sounding board.

By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK

FUNKY BROWN CHICK — Fri, 25 May 2007 14:15:35 +0000

I like the even exchange stuff. :)

By: ErrorBoy

ErrorBoy — Fri, 25 May 2007 14:04:30 +0000

The ‘problem’ with dating bloggers (or anyone with web site skills for that matter) is not when things go well, it’s when things go from salty to sour…

If you do things that cannot bear the light of day / your office, why not agree in writing (email) on continued anonymity. Depending on your paranoia follow the tit-for-tat principle, i.e. an even exchange of ‘blackmailworthy’ material via email or webcam. ;-)

By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK

FUNKY BROWN CHICK — Fri, 25 May 2007 11:35:09 +0000

Howard: That's kind of my philosophy, and you could even throw the word "blogger" in your last sentence. "I'm a blogger, but I do like to have some privacy." Because, honestly, I think the thing that people fear about dating a blogger is the loss of privacy. It's like the assumption is, if you blog, *everything* about the relationships is up for grabs and/or posting. Mindspin: Ooooh, VERY good point. You said, "As a matter of fact, I’d rather she write about it on a blog than talk about it with her friends and family. Considering that 99.9999999% of people who would read it on a blog have no idea who I am, what do I care?" Seriously. You're brilliant. HippieChyck: I've never been on a date with a blogger ... at least I don't think so. Hell, until recently, most of the guys that I went out with did know that I was a blogging and, incidentally, that they are characters on my blog. (All names have been changed to protect the guilty, of course.) AmyD: Wow, so CL doesn't read your blog???? I soooo don't have that much self control. If I were dating someone and they had a blog, I would soooo read it. Personal, written diary? No. Publicly hosted weblog that has a following of readers? Hell yeah I wanna know what they're saying about me. But, then again, I'm slightly more neurotic than your average bear. Felicia: Exes don't freak me out. I like to know about them, and I tell my dates about mine. Baba Doodlius: Funny, and very witty. Even if you can't comment on Nerve during working hours, I'm glad that you can comment here. ChiGirl: Oh, but the sex is the best part.

By: ChiGirl

ChiGirl — Fri, 25 May 2007 00:43:39 +0000

I agree with you. I wouldn’t date someone who blogged about our dates… especially the sex.

By: Baba Doodlius

Baba Doodlius — Thu, 24 May 2007 21:32:19 +0000

I would not date someone who had a blog about anything.

My wife wouldn’t approve.