Comments on: Dating: All Work, And No Play? http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:56:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-57751 Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK Tue, 26 Aug 2008 11:00:01 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-57751 <b>aliah</b>: Oh, it's waaaaay too hard to slow stuff down once you've started to roll together like that. Sounds like you're having a good time! What else matters? aliah: Oh, it’s waaaaay too hard to slow stuff down once you’ve started to roll together like that. Sounds like you’re having a good time! What else matters?

]]> By: *aliah* http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-57705 *aliah* Tue, 26 Aug 2008 05:43:45 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-57705 It's nice to hear an asortment of opinions on the matter, Thanks funkybrownchick for opening and facilitating! Im utterly confused at the moment. I never really wait a long period of time. Like BeesKnees, if we ain't compatiible in bed, well...... where is the passion going to come from after spending years together, and time spent in a no sex having relationship is not healthy. My sitution is i put up these rules..no partner's/boyfriends/nada for at least 3 three months. (i haven't spend much time without a relationship so..I made some rules now that i'm single to stay focused on my path) That lasted ONE week and of course an amazing truely beautiful man graces my presence. So we had passionate mind melding sex and now...well i definitly dont wanna say goodbye but how do you slow that down when you've thrown all caution to the wind and intensely indulged in each other???? It’s nice to hear an asortment of opinions on the matter, Thanks funkybrownchick for opening and facilitating! Im utterly confused at the moment. I never really wait a long period of time. Like BeesKnees, if we ain’t compatiible in bed, well…… where is the passion going to come from after spending years together, and time spent in a no sex having relationship is not healthy. My sitution is i put up these rules..no partner’s/boyfriends/nada for at least 3 three months. (i haven’t spend much time without a relationship so..I made some rules now that i’m single to stay focused on my path) That lasted ONE week and of course an amazing truely beautiful man graces my presence. So we had passionate mind melding sex and now…well i definitly dont wanna say goodbye but how do you slow that down when you’ve thrown all caution to the wind and intensely indulged in each other????

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-17877 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Fri, 06 Jul 2007 15:53:20 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-17877 <b>Baba Doodlius</b>: You're a bad, bad man. :-) <b>AmyD</b>: Um, honestly? Nope. Never. Only when I was a virgin. <b>BeesKnees</b>: I'm glad that you like the blogs. THANK YOU for reading along. No prob with "thinking like a man". I'm actually going to write a post on that very topic soon. Baba Doodlius: You’re a bad, bad man. :-)

AmyD: Um, honestly? Nope. Never. Only when I was a virgin.

BeesKnees: I’m glad that you like the blogs. THANK YOU for reading along. No prob with “thinking like a man”. I’m actually going to write a post on that very topic soon.

]]> By: BeesKnees http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-16228 BeesKnees Wed, 13 Jun 2007 18:55:48 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-16228 FBC, I love your blogs here and on Nerve! Ok, so that is out of the way. Wow, I guess I am in the major minority here (especially being female), but sex is EXTREMELY important to me in determining my compatibility with someone. I have never waited more than five days to have sex with someone I am interested in. DAYS, not dates. I have a raging sex drive and I really don't see much reason to wait too long. If they seem cool and I invest all of this time in getting to know them and then they SUCK in bed, I have wasted my time. However, if we have awesome sex, there is still plenty of time to get to know them as a person. Sex does not equal the death of a budding relationship. It strengthens it. If a guy dumps me because I had sex with him too soon, he is a hypocrite and totally NOT someone I want to be with anyway. So, everyone wins. I swear I am a girl. I am often compared to a man in my thought patterns. ;) FBC,

I love your blogs here and on Nerve! Ok, so that is out of the way. Wow, I guess I am in the major minority here (especially being female), but sex is EXTREMELY important to me in determining my compatibility with someone. I have never waited more than five days to have sex with someone I am interested in. DAYS, not dates. I have a raging sex drive and I really don’t see much reason to wait too long. If they seem cool and I invest all of this time in getting to know them and then they SUCK in bed, I have wasted my time.

However, if we have awesome sex, there is still plenty of time to get to know them as a person. Sex does not equal the death of a budding relationship. It strengthens it. If a guy dumps me because I had sex with him too soon, he is a hypocrite and totally NOT someone I want to be with anyway. So, everyone wins.

I swear I am a girl. I am often compared to a man in my thought patterns. ;)

]]> By: AmyD http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15893 AmyD Fri, 08 Jun 2007 15:36:19 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15893 FBC: Have you ever dated someone for a longer period of time — say, more than two months or so — without having sex with them? Yeah....in HIGH SCHOOL!! Haha! I can maybe see the ones with only a couple months under their (chasity) belts, but the one dating the chica for 6 months? He's just getting strung along. Either that, or the bitch is still a vigin. Wow. Just...WOW. FBC: Have you ever dated someone for a longer period of time — say, more than two months or so — without having sex with them?

Yeah….in HIGH SCHOOL!! Haha!

I can maybe see the ones with only a couple months under their (chasity) belts, but the one dating the chica for 6 months? He’s just getting strung along. Either that, or the bitch is still a vigin. Wow. Just…WOW.

]]> By: Baba Doodlius http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15892 Baba Doodlius Fri, 08 Jun 2007 15:33:11 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15892 I could make a comment about wagging my finger, but I'm not going to. :) I could make a comment about wagging my finger, but I’m not going to. :)

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15882 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Fri, 08 Jun 2007 10:42:27 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15882 <b>Papigiulio</b>: Yeah, 6 months is a long time. About Chris Rock ... I don't know. The saying originally comes from those old-fashioned fire alarm systems here in the US. ( can't remember, but I don't think you guys have those in NL. Anyway, building fire extinguishers used to be locked behind a sheet of glass. And, on the glass, it was printed: "In case of an emergency, break glass." Since then, the saying has been adapted by pretty much everyone for different scenarios. I used to have a key chain with a condom inside of a plastic shell. It had the "break glass" thing on it, too. <b>Baba Doodlius</b>: Uh-oh. I know I'm in trouble once the finger starts wagging. :) Papigiulio: Yeah, 6 months is a long time. About Chris Rock … I don’t know. The saying originally comes from those old-fashioned fire alarm systems here in the US. ( can’t remember, but I don’t think you guys have those in NL. Anyway, building fire extinguishers used to be locked behind a sheet of glass. And, on the glass, it was printed: “In case of an emergency, break glass.” Since then, the saying has been adapted by pretty much everyone for different scenarios. I used to have a key chain with a condom inside of a plastic shell. It had the “break glass” thing on it, too.

Baba Doodlius: Uh-oh. I know I’m in trouble once the finger starts wagging. :)

]]> By: Baba Doodlius http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15812 Baba Doodlius Thu, 07 Jun 2007 17:28:48 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15812 Going on dates with someone and making out with them when you have no intention of progressing to boinking is NOT cool. Having been on the receiving end of that sort of behavior, I can say that it is NOT appreciated. Well, you can do it once, and chalk it up to a "trial run". Maybe twice, if it was fun the first time. Beyond that, you're a cork tease. I'm sure you had/have your reasons why you don't want to do the deed wth somebody, and that's fine, but don't lead them on. Funky, I wag my finger at you a-la Stephen Colbert. Tch tch. Also, if you say you're in a *real* (i.e. "boyfriend-girlfriend") relationship for six months and there's still no sex, that's not a *real* relationship. You're just friends. Well, unless both people are OK with the no-sex thing, but I'm getting the impression that the folks you were talking about wer *not* both OK with that. A relationship is a two-way street - if you're just making somebody else happy and not getting what you need, time to look elsewhere. Been there, not fun, not healthy, got carpal-tunnel in right hand yerking off so damn much. But I'm happy now, elsewhere. Going on dates with someone and making out with them when you have no intention of progressing to boinking is NOT cool. Having been on the receiving end of that sort of behavior, I can say that it is NOT appreciated. Well, you can do it once, and chalk it up to a “trial run”. Maybe twice, if it was fun the first time. Beyond that, you’re a cork tease. I’m sure you had/have your reasons why you don’t want to do the deed wth somebody, and that’s fine, but don’t lead them on. Funky, I wag my finger at you a-la Stephen Colbert. Tch tch.

Also, if you say you’re in a *real* (i.e. “boyfriend-girlfriend”) relationship for six months and there’s still no sex, that’s not a *real* relationship. You’re just friends. Well, unless both people are OK with the no-sex thing, but I’m getting the impression that the folks you were talking about wer *not* both OK with that. A relationship is a two-way street – if you’re just making somebody else happy and not getting what you need, time to look elsewhere. Been there, not fun, not healthy, got carpal-tunnel in right hand yerking off so damn much. But I’m happy now, elsewhere.

]]> By: Papigiulio http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15791 Papigiulio Thu, 07 Jun 2007 12:52:18 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15791 I like your number 2 rule actually, (quoted from Chris Rock rIght? not that it matters) I have one female friend like that, but I never had to break the safetyglass yet hehe. As for my girlfriends I think I'm lucky, each and every girl, the frist night we kissed and started the relationship we had sex. Never had to wait. Off course theres the time of the month, but that doesnt mean they don't give me sex persee, NOT that we have sex, but theres the playing around stuff. :) My friend on the other hand had to wait 6 months aswell with his girlfriend. And comon 6 months is damn long if you're in a relationship. Especially if the lady is a tease. I like your number 2 rule actually, (quoted from Chris Rock rIght? not that it matters) I have one female friend like that, but I never had to break the safetyglass yet hehe.

As for my girlfriends I think I’m lucky, each and every girl, the frist night we kissed and started the relationship we had sex. Never had to wait. Off course theres the time of the month, but that doesnt mean they don’t give me sex persee, NOT that we have sex, but theres the playing around stuff. :)

My friend on the other hand had to wait 6 months aswell with his girlfriend. And comon 6 months is damn long if you’re in a relationship. Especially if the lady is a tease.

]]> By: Lala http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/comment-page-1/#comment-15785 Lala Thu, 07 Jun 2007 11:47:04 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/06/06/all-work-and-no-play/#comment-15785 In a relationship and no sex for 6 months? Only once and it was at the end of a 7 year relationship (that obviously should have only lasted 6 1/2 years) Says it all really doesn't it? In a relationship and no sex for 6 months? Only once and it was at the end of a 7 year relationship (that obviously should have only lasted 6 1/2 years)

Says it all really doesn’t it?

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