“Any pointers for single women in NYC?” Time Out New York asks a 26 year-old UES-dweller interviewed for their article on the lives of single women. Her answer? “God help you.” Attack of the Single Women. That’s the cover story of the newest issue of Time Out New York. It hits newsstands, mailboxes and bookshelves today. Or, or course, you could just read the article online. “Why,” you might ask, “are single women in NYC getting so much attention?” Well, that’s because we’re fucking hot. That’s why. Kidding aside, here’s the real reason … A couple of months ago, National Geographic culled together U.S. Census data to publish statistics — together with an extremely impressive singles map — that details the single female-to-male ratio in various American cities. The results show that 185,000 more women than men live in New York. As a result, single chicas on the prowl for dates have to battle even more competition. Yep, we’re screwed. Thanks. Actually, anyone who lives in NYC already knew that. But, I guess it doesn’t hurt to have a bit of scientific data to back us up.
Leaping from the pages of one magazine to another, the National Geographic piece inspired Time Out New York to conduct an in-depth explanation of NYC’s bumper crop of women. It’s a great article. At the same time, I kind of get the impression that TONY was surprised to discover that most of the women that they interviewed were [and I quote], “remarkably okay with being single.” Interesting choice of words. It’s hard to imagine reading the same sentence about married men and women: “The people we talked to were remarkably okay with being married.”After all, don’t we all know as many unhappy married people as we do unhappy single people?
Hmm … All this talk about relationship status has me wondering what your status is. Feast or famine: what’s the story of your love life right now? Are you currently feasting on several different partners? Are you starving for dates? Are you comfortably settled in a longterm relationship? Have you been gnawing on the same meal for quite a while now? Does every day feel like desserts? Feel free to use the comment section to tell me if you’re single, married, dating or other.
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Funny you should ask that because a week ago, I would have told you I’m dating the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, but as of this Saturday, I’m now engaged to him. :o) Woo hooooo!
And just so I don’t get tomato’s thrown at me for being all geeky and happy, I’d like to point out that a year and a half ago, I’d sworn off dating, would have put all my money on me being alone for who the hell knows how long and didn’t really have faith that “true love” existed AT ALL. So if you’re single right now and don’t want to be, I hope in some small way I can instill hope by saying you just NEVER know what (or who!) is around the corner. I sure as hell didn’t…
You know… I don’t have a sense of dating being competitive in NYC. Maybe because I’m [mumbled early twenty-something number] and only date men five to fifteen years older than I am. But… I don’t know, I feel like it’s just another story trying to make women feel like there’s something wrong with them if they’re not being pursued by every man within a five mile radius.
About two months ago, I had a new date every night (courtesy of Nerve). Managed to find someone I like and have been seeing him for the past month and a half, no official titles bestowed. (Yet?) So… guess I’m still single, but having monogamous sex with a man who is not officially my boyfriend, but calls daily, takes me out a few nights a week and often comes over and lays on the couch with me to watch movies and drink beer after work.
Congrats to AmyD! Being married is great. Well, it is for me anyway. I’ve been that way for 4 years now, and I swear I get happier every day! It’s true, sometimes you just get lucky – I was always a huge flaming nerd with limited social skills, and then I met *her* (who is NOT a nerd, oddly enough) and we just clicked. So now we click all the time, and when we click *boy* do we ever click! :)
Nicole: Sounds like the definition of “boyfriend” to me. Have fun!
To all you chicks in NYC who are fretting about finding a guy with all that competition, you might consider a cross-country move to Silicon Valley. If you can stand dating nerds (and apparently some women can), your odds here will go up exponentially – we got TONS of available nerd guys out here, pretty much any of whom would love to be dating a cool NY chick if given the chance. Just remember to brush up on your Star Wars trivia and video game skills before moving west and you’ll do just fine! :)
Hey FBC,
First, hope you’re feeling better and the tests are positive!
Second, the same statistical breakdown has been made of Vancouver, with correspondingly similar results. Yet the nice guys, like me and a few friends of mine, don’t get the dates! The status of the relationships reminds me of the Chris Rock video “Single and Lonely, Married and Bored” – funny stuff.
On the other hand, I’ve decided that I’m ok with being single, despite it all including the frustrations and bad luck, things could be a hell of a lot worse…
All the best!
I just got out of a long term relationship that was great, until it wasn’t, and then ended about as badly as the relationship had been great to begin with. Needless to say, I’m not looking for a repeat of that situation.
So I wouldn’t say I am dating so much as “sampling…” Is that a relationship category?
I feel like a nun without all the religion. There is a possibility of fun on the horizon but I’m not chasing it, it can come to me, I’m not going anywhere!
I am single and so ok with it, it is scary. All my exes have been possessive and since my last significant long term monogamous relationship (4 years) ended 1 1/2 years ago, i’ve been stalked twice. Once with extra bonus death threat. Both guys were in my age bracket (late 30s).
All the nice, darling, delectable, sweet, motivated, ambitious guys I’ve met? Mid 20s.
Am currently spending a lot of time in an as yet undefined (and thus unconsumated) thing with a 25 year old.
I am 38. LOL
And I now remember the great “undefined” decade known as 20s. But that is so so so OK with me even I find it bizarre. Am determined just to enjoy his friendship and whatever happens happens.
Definitely single, definitely famine more than feast, and yet… “remarkably OK with it.” I am with you on that phrase–WTF? I would rather be happily single than unhappily married. That’s a no-brainer, I think.
Quite single, would like to be in a relationship but obviously wouldn’t trade the sometimes fabulous, sometimes lonely moments of singlehood for just anyone.
I think the east coast, west coast thing in the U.S. is the same in Canada. The single men are all in the west (or so i’m told). I’m in Nova Scotia and it’s slim pickings here…
very single. and no prince charming even on the horizon. unless you count the men in my life i correspond with via phone and internet, all lovely men, mostly from college, with whom i’ve kept in touch all these 20 years… didn’t date any of them then, but wish i could now. mostly an issue of geography. but content being on my own, with my wonderful son, and we’ll see what the universe has in store for me…
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AmyD: CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Obviously, I soooo need to catch up on blogs. I’m having laptop issues. My hard drive crashed and I’ve been limping along without access to the outside world.
Nicole: Sounds like you’ve got a great relationship going.
Baba Doodlius: Nerds make great lovers!
Mitch: Really?? Vancouver has a similar break down? You should move to the US. The west coast is overflowing with men. And, as you noticed when I pimped you out on my blog, American women love you!
kbarrett: Oooooh! I like that: sampling. That’s a great description.
Nics: I wanna know the details about the “possibility of fun on the horizon” stuff!
Amy: Stalked twice??? Not good. :-( And, can I just tell you that I *love* it that you’re dating a 20-something. 20-somethings are *DELICIOUS*!!! :-)
Stefanie: I agree with you. Give me happily single over unhappily married any day. And, of course, given the choice between unhappily married or happily married … I would choose: blissfully cohabiting! ;-)
Alicia: Oooooh, someone should create a documentary: “The Fabulous Lives of Single Women.” :-) By the way, I love, love, *LOVE* my Canadian readers!!!
simplyd23: Sounds like life is going well for you, and I hope the universe delivers you a *great* partner of your choosing.
single. two years now and a couple of dates that weren’t right for me. better times will come, i hope! i think i’ll do like charlotte (sex and the city’s) and buy a rabbit and give up on men, for a while lol
Rabbits are fun! :)
Im crushing achualy Im in grade ten and Im crushing on a grade twelve ^^ I donno I make it pretty obvious that I like him flirty glances and flirtious giggling big beaming smiles when ever i see him.. I like older guys obviously
I got a boyfriend..okay we’re engaged Im super excited he asked me to marry him and I exepted! Im really thrilled so im engaged!