Comments on: When an Ex Gets Married http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Thu, 24 May 2012 13:42:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-73764 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Sat, 13 Dec 2008 10:23:03 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-73764 @ bridget: Ewwww, I sorry to hear about your pain. :( And, yes, you will learn to trust again -- if you want to be open to doing that. @ Esperenza: I've been in therapy for ages and I think it really helps my dating life. @ bridget: Ewwww, I sorry to hear about your pain. :( And, yes, you will learn to trust again — if you want to be open to doing that.

@ Esperenza: I’ve been in therapy for ages and I think it really helps my dating life.

]]> By: Esperenza http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-73453 Esperenza Thu, 11 Dec 2008 18:34:31 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-73453 My ex just got engaged. We were first loves and in a long 5 year relationship. But never married as we were young. Broke up when we were 20. And a baby girl came out of that relationship. She has his eyes. It is a funny feeling to see him in her. (not bad,just wierd) And I am sad. Lots of tears. We have been apart over ten years now. But it still hurts to see him move on and probably start a new family soon. And I have not dated at all lately. I think there is something broken with me. My ex just got engaged. We were first loves and in a long 5 year relationship. But never married as we were young. Broke up when we were 20.

And a baby girl came out of that relationship. She has his eyes. It is a funny feeling to see him in her. (not bad,just wierd)

And I am sad. Lots of tears. We have been apart over ten years now. But it still hurts to see him move on and probably start a new family soon.

And I have not dated at all lately. I think there is something broken with me.

]]> By: bridget http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-62334 bridget Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:29:16 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-62334 my ex got married and dint even tell me or the two children we got they were bride maids at his wedding.they thouht it was thier cousing geting married and were shock they are ony 7and 6 yrs old and he leave it up to my 7yrs old daugher to tell me'i only fnd out because my daugher who is 7 phone me from her nans as they were away staying at thier nan.the week before that he told me he was moving in what a lie.i went in to shock i couldnt belive it as we were still sleeping together at the time.and my daughers didnt no he had a grilfriend my chldren now think you marry your friends his wife is 25 anddont have time for r kids.and he still married her my children r confuss.i cant bear to see him.as i no i would say what think so my frend hands the kids over i feel he over look the fact that im the children mu and should at less made it easy on the kids that it ok that dad move on and is happy in his new life.his family dont no her at all he kept her away from them and they wer only told two weeks before hand.his mum as being very support toward me and think i he should have told me and his family think it ou of order as well my children didnt leave with the bride they were taking by thier nan to the wedding.and to make things more confuss his wife has a house were they live but the children spend the weekend at their dad flat.also the wife dont spend her time with the children on the weekend their dad has them so this is what married means.it being four weeks i havent eeing their dad and i just he happy n his life for puting his needs before the well being of his children because he hasnt thought out what it is doin to his children.my daughr who is 7 dont want to go to her dad but want to spand it with her nan who she is very close to.thier dad have only him self to blame.i havent stop the kids going to their dad because he take me to court so he could see his kids.the funny part he no longer phone is kids and the only time he see them is on his weekend .so im making plans to move on and hope one day met a man that i and tust agan my ex got married and dint even tell me or the two children we got they were bride maids at his wedding.they thouht it was thier cousing geting married and were shock they are ony 7and 6 yrs old and he leave it up to my 7yrs old daugher to tell me’i only fnd out because my daugher who is 7 phone me from her nans as they were away staying at thier nan.the week before that he told me he was moving in what a lie.i went in to shock i couldnt belive it as we were still sleeping together at the time.and my daughers didnt no he had a grilfriend my chldren now think you marry your friends his wife is 25 anddont have time for r kids.and he still married her my children r confuss.i cant bear to see him.as i no i would say what think so my frend hands the kids over i feel he over look the fact that im the children mu and should at less made it easy on the kids that it ok that dad move on and is happy in his new life.his family dont no her at all he kept her away from them and they wer only told two weeks before hand.his mum as being very support toward me and think i he should have told me and his family think it ou of order as well my children didnt leave with the bride they were taking by thier nan to the wedding.and to make things more confuss his wife has a house were they live but the children spend the weekend at their dad flat.also the wife dont spend her time with the children on the weekend their dad has them so this is what married means.it being four weeks i havent eeing their dad and i just he happy n his life for puting his needs before the well being of his children because he hasnt thought out what it is doin to his children.my daughr who is 7 dont want to go to her dad but want to spand it with her nan who she is very close to.thier dad have only him self to blame.i havent stop the kids going to their dad because he take me to court so he could see his kids.the funny part he no longer phone is kids and the only time he see them is on his weekend .so im making plans to move on and hope one day met a man that i and tust agan

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18331 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Thu, 12 Jul 2007 17:42:33 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18331 Wow!! You guys work together??? Yeah, that's a hard one. But, I agree with you about not wanting to be the bad guy. Wow!! You guys work together??? Yeah, that’s a hard one. But, I agree with you about not wanting to be the bad guy.

]]> By: Stefanie http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18277 Stefanie Thu, 12 Jul 2007 01:47:47 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18277 Not if I can help it. I work with him, so I still see him very regularly, and I am actually wondering if he is planning to invite me (he will surely be inviting other people in the office). I pretty much hope he doesn't invite me, so that he's the bad guy for not inviting me, rather than me being the bad guy for not going. Not if I can help it. I work with him, so I still see him very regularly, and I am actually wondering if he is planning to invite me (he will surely be inviting other people in the office). I pretty much hope he doesn’t invite me, so that he’s the bad guy for not inviting me, rather than me being the bad guy for not going.

]]> By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18223 FUNKY BROWN CHICK Wed, 11 Jul 2007 13:09:47 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18223 <b>simplyd23</b>: Three weeks?!?! Wow, that's fast! By the way, DC was great. We went to Hotel Washington, Urbana and a couple of other places. I'd been to the city a few times previously, so I took a pass on all of the touristy stuff. It was a good trip! (...Your ex sounds like a jackass ... Just wanted to be sure to throw that out there too...) <b>Maria</b>: Lunch. Next week? Just let me know when and where. <b>Childfree Chick</b>: Yeah, I'm not sure if I felt jealous or what. The first thing that I felt was genuine surprise. I didn't believe him at first. I don't know. If we had actually dated for a long period of time, I might have felt differently. But, as it were, I'm happy for him. And, by the way, yes, I can sympathize with you on the sexpartner thing. <b>kbarrett</b>: NO WAY! That guy sounds like a real loser. And, yes, karma is completely ruthless. ;-) <b>Mindspin</b>: No worries, sweetie. We all do. <b>AmyD</b>: Yeah. He was really up front with it. It was the first thing that he told (showed) me. <b>Baba Doodlius</b>: Sounds like you've definitely found the one. And, yeah, I'm soooo thinking of google stalking my exes to find out what they've been up to. It doesn't make a difference in my life. But, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious. <b>Pegs</b>: What could be more Manly than talking about a man friend who just got married? <b>sexpotdonna</b>: Love it!!! <b>HippieChyck</b>: You're a romantic. I can tell. (Thanks for the good luck wishes for the doctor's appt.) <b>Stefanie</b>: Yeah it's probably one of those things that you won't *really* know how you feel about it until it happens. Are you going to the wedding? simplyd23: Three weeks?!?! Wow, that’s fast! By the way, DC was great. We went to Hotel Washington, Urbana and a couple of other places. I’d been to the city a few times previously, so I took a pass on all of the touristy stuff. It was a good trip! (…Your ex sounds like a jackass … Just wanted to be sure to throw that out there too…)

Maria: Lunch. Next week? Just let me know when and where.

Childfree Chick: Yeah, I’m not sure if I felt jealous or what. The first thing that I felt was genuine surprise. I didn’t believe him at first. I don’t know. If we had actually dated for a long period of time, I might have felt differently. But, as it were, I’m happy for him. And, by the way, yes, I can sympathize with you on the sexpartner thing.

kbarrett: NO WAY! That guy sounds like a real loser. And, yes, karma is completely ruthless. ;-)

Mindspin: No worries, sweetie. We all do.

AmyD: Yeah. He was really up front with it. It was the first thing that he told (showed) me.

Baba Doodlius: Sounds like you’ve definitely found the one. And, yeah, I’m soooo thinking of google stalking my exes to find out what they’ve been up to. It doesn’t make a difference in my life. But, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t curious.

Pegs: What could be more Manly than talking about a man friend who just got married?

sexpotdonna: Love it!!!

HippieChyck: You’re a romantic. I can tell. (Thanks for the good luck wishes for the doctor’s appt.)

Stefanie: Yeah it’s probably one of those things that you won’t *really* know how you feel about it until it happens. Are you going to the wedding?

]]> By: Stefanie http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18172 Stefanie Wed, 11 Jul 2007 02:17:49 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18172 My ex (THE ex, the only one who really mattered very much) is getting married in October. I thought it would crush me, but I'm surprisingly OK about it. I reserve the right to get all sad again later, though. My ex (THE ex, the only one who really mattered very much) is getting married in October. I thought it would crush me, but I’m surprisingly OK about it. I reserve the right to get all sad again later, though.

]]> By: HippieChyck http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18153 HippieChyck Tue, 10 Jul 2007 21:29:17 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18153 sexpotdonna - hello! that's gotta burn. simplyd23 - i kinda like that story about the guy who found is old flame and within 3 weeks proposed. hasty? sure. foolhardy? perhaps. but also maybe he knew what he wanted and didn't want to let a good thing get away twice. i find that pleasing. (not for you, granted, but for true loooove). FunkyBrownChick - good luck with your doctor's appointment. sexpotdonna – hello! that’s gotta burn.

simplyd23 – i kinda like that story about the guy who found is old flame and within 3 weeks proposed. hasty? sure. foolhardy? perhaps. but also maybe he knew what he wanted and didn’t want to let a good thing get away twice. i find that pleasing. (not for you, granted, but for true loooove).

FunkyBrownChick – good luck with your doctor’s appointment.

]]> By: sexpotdonna http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18128 sexpotdonna Tue, 10 Jul 2007 17:12:34 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18128 yes, and I was a little weirded out but happy for him at the same time because he was a good guy. The greatest thing that ever happened was when my not-so-good-guy other ex-boyfriend found out I was getting married: His mom handed him the engagement announcement from the newspaper. Zing! yes, and I was a little weirded out but happy for him at the same time because he was a good guy.

The greatest thing that ever happened was when my not-so-good-guy other ex-boyfriend found out I was getting married: His mom handed him the engagement announcement from the newspaper. Zing!

]]> By: Pegs http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/comment-page-1/#comment-18083 Pegs Mon, 09 Jul 2007 22:21:14 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/07/09/when-an-ex-gets-married/#comment-18083 Is this topic manly enough for a Monday? Is this topic manly enough for a Monday?

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