They say “boys will be boys”. But, as a recent incident experienced by my friend Mags and her roommate Susan shows, sometimes (and *only* sometimes) boys will be jerks. Rewind to last weekend because that’s when LA Galaxy played Chelsea FC. Mags, Susan and one of their friends live in DC and they watch the game in a bar. Two guys, one from Ghana and the other from Germany, are sitting next to them. “That guy,” Susan says to Mags, “keeps giving you the eye.” Eventually the two guys approach Mags, Susan and the other girl. In what can only be called a desperate attempt to charm the trio, the two guys start to insult the women’s knowledge of soccer.
“You’re only here to see Beckham play!!!” (They’re probably right, but so what; it’s a free country.) “I bet you don’t even know what country Pelé is from!!!” (The girls didn’t know that he’s from Brazil but, again, so what.) I wasn’t there so I can’t be sure, but Mags says that guys were definitely trying to hit on her and her friends. I wonder: What is this? Junior high?!?! Boys make fun of the girls in order to show them that they like them? Have we not evolved? At any rate, the incident inspires me to think about some of the silly things that men and women do to show prospective dates that they’re interested. So, because it’s Manly Monday, let’s focus on the men. Ladies. Gentlemen. Please, use the comment section to share your mojo with the group. Tell us: What’s the best way for a guy to show a woman that he’s interested?
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Stare intently at her while breathing heavily through his mouth and rubbing his groin.
yes, I agree with Baba. Also yelling out, “that’s right, honey, show those babies off!” has known to make me want to jump into your car and start making out with you, even though it is parked next to the drive-thru at McDonald’s.
You know who you are, you 2 fucking Atlantic City morons.
[in all seriousness, remembering a conversation we had about a movie/book/restaurant I liked and bringing it up later after you watched the movie/read the book/sampled the dish will let me know you at least listen to me and respect my opinions and recommendations.]
Hmmmm, I hear that whole listening biz works with wives too. Perhaps worth a try?
Your best bet the other way around… laugh at his jokes and tell him size doesn’t matter (the last one was a trick remark, only works for those who are small and rather stupid or well-endowed *and* secure, perhaps a good filter?)
Oh, that’s easy. Show interest–genuine interest–in what she’s talking about. Ask questions. Find common ground.
If you are not truly interested in what she has to say, it’s going to be apparent fairly quickly that you’re just using conversation as a means to stare at her breasts.
Otherwise, at the risk of sounding sanctimonious, I love finding common ground with someone I’ve just met. There’s nothing more fun than talking with someone about a mutual interest you’ve just discovered you share.
Baba Doodlius: I’ve actually tried that move myself a couple of times. Guys dig it.
sexpotdonna: Yeah, it’s pretty hot when folks actually pay attention to (and remember) the words that come out of your mouth.
ErrorBoy: You *are* a good listener. It’s just that you, you know, only listen to the stuff that you actually want to hear. ;)
Andy: You’re a good man, babes. :-) … Wait a minute … Are you the same Andy from the other blog or are you a different Andy?
Approach her in a very non-aggressive way. Talk to her, like Andy suggests, and if you can (if you’re the type of person who finds they can do this with relative ease) make her laugh.
GOOD suggestions! :-)