Comments on: Sometimes I Feel Insecure

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 19:59:12 +0000

I couldn’t agree with you more!!! Seeee. You get. I get. So, why can’t this silly boy get it??? ;)

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 18:41:36 +0000

Actually, I’m going to be a detractor and say I don’t think you overreacted at all. thatsdelicious’ “schmoozy” comment was the most apt description. If I were in his shoes, and a woman I’d just met invited me to hang out and meet one of her friends, I would be friendly toward the friend, but my focus would be on her. and calling the friend “my baby” is a no-go.

I, too, have been told I wear my feelings on my face, even though I think I have a good poker face. (Apparently, I don’t.) I, too, am peevish about having the attention on me. (I’ve dated a few woman who sometime in the relationship admit attraction for one or more of my male friends. Huh?? Honesty is one thing, but is this type of honesty supposed to appeal to me?)

My thinking is that if we are romantic partners, then I need to be the center of her romantic attentions, just as she is mine. Note I said “romantic,” as in, not the center of her work/family/friends/etc. universe. Just romantic.

But if even that sounds vaguely Fatal Attraction, so be it.

And if he doesn’t contact you again, it’s his loss. Quite frankly, if he’s exhibiting caddish behavior now, you’re better off.

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 12:17:29 +0000

Yeah, if I we all hadn’t been drinking that night, I might have been able to do that. But, as it were, I was a little bit toasty and I overreacted. I think I might have dorked it. If I don’t hear from him again, I know I dorked it.

By: thatsdelicious

thatsdelicious — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:48:24 +0000

the ally-baby comment was a seriously schmoozy thing to say. i would also have had trouble not immediately putting the dude down as a douche. however, on just getting to know somebody, the usual route i take to vent my oh-god-i-hope-he-doesnt-actually-mean-that feelings is to gently tease the dude about his attempts at schmooze, and if he teases back, all is well.

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 02:07:44 +0000

VERY good observation.

By: Issa

Issa — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 23:54:47 +0000

Often it is a matter that women overthink a comment and men don’t think about what they are saying at all. Not the best plan for either gender, but the root of many of those types of misunderstandings.

By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK

FUNKY BROWN CHICK — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 12:23:22 +0000

ErrorBoy: I wouldn’t say that I’m the jealous type, but I would say that I like to be the center of my object of desire’s attention. Work with me, folks. I’m the youngest child in my family. I’m used to attention. ;) By the way, OF COURSE I listened to Chocolate Rain. The tune (and the image of that guy taking breathing breaks) is *stuck* in my head.

Nat: I miss you when you’re away! :-)

By: Nat

Nat — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 03:31:37 +0000

Hi! It’s been a while, huh??? I have been, hmm.. I’m not sure where, but I’m here now!

I was reading today’s post and I felt so identified, OMG, I’m so jealous with my guy that I’d go red just the same way!

I’ll promise to check in more often! XOXOX

By: ErrorBoy

ErrorBoy — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 23:50:13 +0000

Funky Baby… face it… you’re the jealous type, but who cares… we’ll always have ‘Chocolate Rain’! (toob it if you don’t know what I’m talking about)

By: FUNKY BROWN CHICK

FUNKY BROWN CHICK — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 19:37:22 +0000

Baba Doodlius: You’re not gonna catch hell for that at all babes. I’ve got nuthin but love for you. Besides, I didn’t care that he said the word “baby”, I cared (i.e. I freaked out and acted like a crazed jealous person) because he called *her* his baby. I’m not sure what it is, but I’ve been feeling a little stressed out about the dating stuff lately. I’ve gone on quite a few dates with quite a few different guys, and I’m starting to act weird about it all for some reason. Maybe I need to put on the breaks a bit. Not sure what’s going on with me, but it’s probably life stress. I’ve got a few different projects brewing at the moment, and I don’t know the outcome yet; I hope to be able to give updates soon.

Max: Your comment gives me a great idea for a new post: “Showing the Crazy Card: How Soon Is Too Soon?” By the way … Thanks; glad you like the blog.

MamaChristy: Yeah, I really hope I didn’t dork it with this guy. I actually thought he was really cool, and it would be really nice to see him again.