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I’ll admit it. I’ve faked it on more than one occasion. I used to fake it on a regular basis with one ex in particular. Hindsight is always 20/20. Thinking back now, my own pleasure — not my ex’s ego — should have been my primary concern . I was quite a bit younger back then than I am now. I didn’t know any better. I kind of just assumed that every woman faked orgasms at some point or another in the long run. There’s no way in hell I’d suffer through such an extended lack of pleasure now; I’m much more expressive about my needs. In any case, if you missed my post at Nerve the other day, you can still read what I wrote about orgasms by clicking here.
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thats a toughy.
me personally, I don’t feel comfortable ” going in” until I’ve gotten her off with a liberal amount of oral. after that why even bother with the faking?
the flipside to all of this is when a guy has to fake an orgasm
Orgasms. What a nice blog topic. Everybody likes orgasms! It’s even fun just to say it: orgasm, orgasm, orgasm!
I don’t know what the whole deal is with faking it. If you ain’t gettin’ there, tell him to keep on trying.
But I’m a guy, so what would I know – it would be much tougher for me to fake it. Guys leave, uh, ‘evidence’. Hard to fake that.
pullout and squirt a mayonaise packet…..
this only works if the lights are out.
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I’ve faked it several times when I was younger. While wearing a condom, it’s easy.
I think I’ve possibly faked without realizing. I know that doesn’t make much sense, but I think there have been times when the guy was trying, and it wasn’t that it felt bad, it just didn’t feel FAN-tastic, and since, surprisingly some guys really have no idea what an O looks/sounds like, I’ve just said, yeah, that was good, let’s do something else.
Oh well. So it goes.
@ Dkzone: I knew a guy who used to fake orgasms. I never quite understood that. BTW … don’t tell me you’ve actually TRIED the trick you mention above.
@ Baba Doodlius: Orgasm, orgasm, orgasm!! :)
@ tonitobandito: I’ll check it now.
@ Dragonslayer: Would *LOVE* to know why. I’m curious. As I mentioned above, I knew a guy who did this and I couldn’t ever figure out why.
@ løvechocolate: Yeah, the faking stuff is frustrating.
I’ve never faked an orgasism. Though, when you’re on heroin, it’s almost impossible for a guy to cum. Sometimes I just had to give up, after the girl had just had too much.
One of the best things about being clean is that I can get off on sex again.
Not really sure what the allure of that drug was, but it’s good to be clean, that’s for sure.
I make four years on December 12th and the fuck’ns never been better.
LOL….actually no. i was just joking. However, women think men feel bad if they don’t get a woman to orgasm……
Women damn near fall apart when they don’t get a guy to orgasm.
i would never fake an orgasm. if he can’t do it for me…to bad for him.
@ grampa: CONGRATS on making it four years so far!! And, best wishes for many more years to come.
@ Dkzone: The times that I’ve been with men who haven’t orgasmed, I assume it’s a mental thing or they’re too drunk or whatever. I never think it’s me.
@ Carolina Pereira: Unfortunately, as I mentioned over at Nerve, I’ve certainly had my days of faking …
Honestly, I faked it when I got bored and there was no way she was going to get me there, if you know what I mean. I say when I was younger, because it seems the young women I was screwing at the time, they felt real bad if they couldn’t get me to O.
They bought into the stereotype that men get off easy and if I couldn’t with them, there must be something wrong with them.
Now, that I’m older and don’t dip below to the 20-something crowd that often, the women are a lot more confident and have been around the block a few times. They understand that you’re just not going to get there every time and there’s nothing wrong with them when you don’t. Plus, I’m older and choose my partners better. I’m not just looking for any warm body anymore. The women I bed now can get me off by saying “hello”. :)
INTERESTING. Thanks for sharing. Seriously. It’s definitely food for thought.
I’ve had some of the women I’ve been with say that I made them cum. I can never really be sure, so I always go down for a few minutes until she begs me to put it in.
Good for you.