Who Wants To Be a “Dirty Girl?”
“I don’t think my sexual interests make me any less of a well-rounded, kind-hearted intelligent person,” writes my lusty friend Rachel in her anthology Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women. “I’m as likely to kiss a lover’s forehead tenderly and offer to tuck them into bed as I am to throw them down on the floor and strip them naked.” Yeah, Rachel’s a dirty girl. But, here’s the question: Is that necessarily a bad thing? “I’m realizing that everyone (or almost everyone) has a dirty and a sweet side,” she cops. “All too often we denigrate the dirty girls — the ones who dare to publicly show their naughty sides — as incorrigible sluts, rather than realizing just how exciting it is to tap into our lustiest selves. Once you crack the surface of those who are seemingly prim and proper [...] you’ll very likely find that the simplicity of the word ‘dirty’ doesn’t go anywhere near far enough to describe the kinks that lurk within them.”
Hmmm … Maybe she’s right. Besides, how does that saying go? Good girls are just bad girls who haven’t been caught yet. So, yeah, true, the “good girls” may remain secretive and never call your sensibilities into question. But, they’ll also never give you that warm, slow burn in your heart — or groin or brain — the way the dirty girls can. But, hey, why trust me with this stuff? Let’s get a guy to weigh in, shall we? In Things I’ve Learned From Women Who’ve Dumped Me, Esquire’s A.J. Jacobs explains why Dirty Girls Make Bad Friends. “So I’d listen to the stories of her escapades. And I’d pine,” he writes. “For those who’ve never endured this particular torture, how can I describe it? It’s like sitting at a restaurant while the waiter describes the mouthwatering specials–then returns to say they’re all no longer available. (Oh, and by the way, the restaurant is out of food altogether. And you have to go in the back and help with dishes. And you won’t get paid.) I can’t say for sure why I kept coming back to the dirty gals. Partly, I think, bad luck. But partly, the maddening fact that these women all tended to be interesting and funny … [T]he dirty girls keep you hanging on. Every dirty story, every dirty detail, you think, ‘That could be me.’”
Whether you’re a dirty girl or a man (or woman) pines for their stories to be about you, pick up a copy of Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women. Oh, and, be sure to check out the Dirty Girls blog to get the latest news on what the book’s filthy contributors like Carol Queen, Alison Tyler, Sofia Quintero, Shanna Germain, Lillian Ann Slugocki, Tsaurah Litzky, and many others are doing right now.
April 12th, 2008 at 8:51 am
I owe all I know… to that wonderful baby-sitter whom watched over me while I watched her do her thing to her boyfriend while she was watching over me…..
who knew that watching could be so rewarding……
lamesabassman….. to the left… to the left…. can’t see…whatcha doin’…
April 12th, 2008 at 10:22 am
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April 12th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Don’t knock the ‘good girls’. I used to have this friend who was the ‘typical’ blonde, blue eyed girl all the boys wanted. One guy told her he’d never make a pass at her. She asked him why and his response was “Cause you’re such a good girl” Her reply was classic. “That’s exactly what you’re supossed to think”.
We good girls are a harder read, but when you peel back our layers…we’ve been known to make a bad girl look nice. :)
April 13th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
I agree with Dee,
Nice girls are freaks too, they just use better judgement rather than flaunting it aimlessly. That’s part of teh mystique of getting to know a girl, exploring from the outer facade into the depths of their sexuality. With the “dirty” grils it’s often laid out in front of you (pun not intended). Now, as to which is healthier mentally is a different question. Good girls are somewhat repressed, while bad girls exercise that freedom.
And speaking of which… what’s up with the “Meet local cheating wives” add on your blog? =)
April 13th, 2008 at 5:24 pm
And please excuse the two typos… I’m a lil’ dislexic at times. =D
April 13th, 2008 at 10:54 pm
@ lamesabassman: :)
@ Rachel: Thanks for the link love!! :)
@ Dee: Not knocking the good girls at all. I’d like to think that I, too, am a good girl. But, it’s like I mentioned in the post, the good girls are just “bad girls who haven’t been caught yet.” And, as I quoted Rachel’s book in this post, “Once you crack the surface of those who are seemingly prim and proper […] you’ll very likely find that the simplicity of the word ‘dirty’ doesn’t go anywhere near far enough to describe the kinks that lurk within them.” ;)
@ AkA “Paul”: You know, GoogleAdsense thinks this blog is much more risque that it is. They automatically generate the ads, and I never know what’s gonna pop up. I’m exploring a few different options for my blog’s advertising — including services, such as BlogAds, that let me hand pick the companies with whom I do and/or don’t want to be affiliated with this site. More on that soon. It’s on my very long list of stuff to do. :)
April 14th, 2008 at 11:22 am
I’m not really sure what makes a good girl a good girl or a dirty girl a dirty girl.
just because a woman can ” talk a good game” does not necesarily make her a dirty girl.
And for the record….. every girl I’ve dated likes to be “played with” while wearing a skirt or dress if we go to the movies….How do i know they like it? The next time we go to the movies……they wear a skirt, or if we go driving or whatever…..I have busy hands. LOL
anyway, my point is that I’ve dated both ” good girls”, and ” bad girls” I don’t really see much of a difference. maybe its the experience level. Or perhaps what they are willing to talk about or say.
bad girl will use words like ” Pussy, Fuck, or ass”
while a good girl may use ” a cute name for vagina, and make love, and but”
in reflection good girls are definately less experienced, but make up for it in a ” willingness to learn”
April 15th, 2008 at 2:42 am
whoa….. this is kinda simple….. everybody… on the planet…. wants to meet with
the most out-there person and as if everyone is on the same page…. wish to in
safety and warmth….. now …cut to da’ dirty……. we wanta feel loved…. that 4 min
O….. and she or he take it to the next level….. 7 min O….. ya want to feel the earth MOVE and when you are soooo lucky to find such a cool beans….. ya gonna
be sooooooo straight, that I could shave on your edge…..
and that’s a very feeling…… to do the wild , then dress to impress for a board
meeting and dont look like ya been rolling hard ’til 5 AM….. dirty …. female or
male…. is a dying art form…… ’cause it’s an art form done well to the point that
if you were EVER been with one who was…. it will ruin you ….. for any thing
less……
lamesabassman………. yes…… been blessed…
April 15th, 2008 at 7:31 am
# dkzone: I wear skirts and heels all the time, but I’ve never done the do in a movie theater. Not a fan. But, I think it’s great that you like dirty girls and good girls.
# lamesabassman: Yeah, once you’ve been with the “real deal” it makes it hard to settle. I still have one relationship that I measure every other relationship against.
April 15th, 2008 at 9:55 pm
Amen to that…….
lamesabassman…… and….. the truth shall always …. get you some…..
April 15th, 2008 at 10:19 pm
I’m a nice lady. I would never label myself as a good girl or a bad girl, or a dirty girl, except in reference to the Social Club. Those labels say more about the people who are making those judgments that they people who are being judged. “Dirty” is in the eye of the beholder, while “good” means you’re conforming to someone else’s rigid standards of what is acceptable for women . . . like calling them “girls”.
April 15th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
# lamesabassman: You’re funny. :)
# Bianca Reagan: Some take offense to the dated term “lady” and others don’t. I’m just glad that sexism officially died 4 hours when a chick won the Biggest Loser. ;0) April 15, 2008. Tax day? I don’t think so. Today’s the day that sexism died. :)
April 16th, 2008 at 9:28 am
I will note that momentous day on my calendar, FBC. :)