Comments on: All You Need Is Love http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Fri, 25 May 2012 00:30:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40836 funkybrownchick Tue, 22 Apr 2008 08:41:03 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40836 Yeah, I liked that point, too. Someone else told me their therapist said: "You orgasm is your responsibility." Same thought. I love it. Yeah, I liked that point, too. Someone else told me their therapist said: “You orgasm is your responsibility.” Same thought. I love it.

]]> By: Rochelle http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40694 Rochelle Mon, 21 Apr 2008 03:08:59 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40694 I have to say I love what the therapist in the Glamour article said about the orgasm--"no one can give you one, that's your responsibility." More people should think this way--we'd have satisfied (and thus happy) people in this world. :-) I have to say I love what the therapist in the Glamour article said about the orgasm–”no one can give you one, that’s your responsibility.” More people should think this way–we’d have satisfied (and thus happy) people in this world. :-)

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40483 funkybrownchick Fri, 18 Apr 2008 12:09:58 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40483 Four years in May? Yeah, reading your last comment, I was like, "that boy is TOTALLY in love with someone." CONGRATS!!! :) Four years in May? Yeah, reading your last comment, I was like, “that boy is TOTALLY in love with someone.” CONGRATS!!! :)

]]> By: Aka "Paul" http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40425 Aka "Paul" Thu, 17 Apr 2008 17:34:21 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40425 Hey, thanks! Yea, one has. It'll be 4 years in May. And it's an interracial relationship... go figure! =) I'm glad you found a therapist that works for you. You're a lucky one. Hey, thanks!
Yea, one has. It’ll be 4 years in May. And it’s an interracial relationship… go figure! =)

I’m glad you found a therapist that works for you. You’re a lucky one.

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40409 funkybrownchick Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:25:42 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40409 Yeah, he wrote the book. (I'm familiar with it, and a few of my coupled friends totally swear by it.) But, YOU can take credit for putting it back in my mind. :) Plus, I really like the idea of "love language" more broadly speaking -- i.e. how we express love and expect to have it expressed back to us. FWIT, I'm all about physical touch, acts of service and quality time. Words of affirmation and receiving gifts aren't really my thing. Yeah, he wrote the book. (I’m familiar with it, and a few of my coupled friends totally swear by it.) But, YOU can take credit for putting it back in my mind. :) Plus, I really like the idea of “love language” more broadly speaking — i.e. how we express love and expect to have it expressed back to us.

FWIT, I’m all about physical touch, acts of service and quality time. Words of affirmation and receiving gifts aren’t really my thing.

]]> By: Anjuan http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40407 Anjuan Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:19:01 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40407 I can't take full credit for the love language comment. Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages that I have often used to understand relationships. I can’t take full credit for the love language comment. Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages that I have often used to understand relationships.

]]> By: funkybrownchick http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40400 funkybrownchick Thu, 17 Apr 2008 12:02:02 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40400 @ Meeks: Yeah, you may be on to something. I think part of it has to do with aging. In my teens, I liked guys for pretty stupid reasons. Oh, he's cute!! :) Now that I'm older, I still <strong>sometimes</strong> like guys for for stupid reasons, but at least I KNOW they're stupid reasons. @ Anjuan: Love your comment so much that I'm going to write a full post about it. @ Aka "Paul": You are adorable! :) Love, love LOVE your comments about love. Hope some great woman has already grabbed you swept you away. :) About therapy ... Yeah, my counselor is DEFINITELY not passive. I have a fairly strong personality, so I'm attracted to strong-minded female therapist who are truly engaged life coaches rather than passive listeners. @ lola gets: Hmmm ... that's interesting food for thought. I think companionship is stronger than emotional intimacy. I can be emotionally intimate with a lot of people, but I don't choose to bring them all into my circle. You know? It's like I have tons of <i>acquaintances</i>, but I keep my group of <i>friends</i> quite small (and I regularly kick people out of that group and/or bring new people in). By the way, I like your comment about "I want to do it, but I don't know how." Might blog about that in the near future. @ Java Jones: Couldn't agree with you more! :) Well, except the jealousy part. I can be a jealous lover. @ Desiree: GREAT point about the distinction between "love the emotion and love the verb." Not sure if I'm better at one more than the other. I'd have to ask one of my exes. @ Ananda Leeke: THANKS! :) @ lamesabassman: What you say about "you have to give freely of yourself" is soooo true. @: The Jaded NYer: I've been in love with a man before, but I've never thought that made me a better (or worse) person. I remember the days before that relationships, I'd tell people "I don't know if I've ever been in love" and they'd look at me with sad eyes that seemed to say, "oh you don't know what you're missing!!!" It's kind of silly and over the top. Yes, love is great. But, no, it doesn't separate the world between: "Those Amazingly Perfect People Who Have Been in Love" and "Those Pitiful People Who Haven't." In fact, the people who divide the world that way are the ones who are MOST insecure about the whole idea of love. Sorry. Random rant. Might blog about that at a later date. @ sexpot donna: Good point about the "how far we've come." Every relationship is a journey. @ melo: Oh, how beautifully written, "they’re both acts, except, one comes and goes straight through the heart." I love that! @ Meeks: Yeah, you may be on to something. I think part of it has to do with aging. In my teens, I liked guys for pretty stupid reasons. Oh, he’s cute!! :) Now that I’m older, I still sometimes like guys for for stupid reasons, but at least I KNOW they’re stupid reasons.

@ Anjuan: Love your comment so much that I’m going to write a full post about it.

@ Aka “Paul”: You are adorable! :) Love, love LOVE your comments about love. Hope some great woman has already grabbed you swept you away. :) About therapy … Yeah, my counselor is DEFINITELY not passive. I have a fairly strong personality, so I’m attracted to strong-minded female therapist who are truly engaged life coaches rather than passive listeners.

@ lola gets: Hmmm … that’s interesting food for thought. I think companionship is stronger than emotional intimacy. I can be emotionally intimate with a lot of people, but I don’t choose to bring them all into my circle. You know? It’s like I have tons of acquaintances, but I keep my group of friends quite small (and I regularly kick people out of that group and/or bring new people in). By the way, I like your comment about “I want to do it, but I don’t know how.” Might blog about that in the near future.

@ Java Jones: Couldn’t agree with you more! :) Well, except the jealousy part. I can be a jealous lover.

@ Desiree: GREAT point about the distinction between “love the emotion and love the verb.” Not sure if I’m better at one more than the other. I’d have to ask one of my exes.

@ Ananda Leeke: THANKS! :)

@ lamesabassman: What you say about “you have to give freely of yourself” is soooo true.

@: The Jaded NYer: I’ve been in love with a man before, but I’ve never thought that made me a better (or worse) person. I remember the days before that relationships, I’d tell people “I don’t know if I’ve ever been in love” and they’d look at me with sad eyes that seemed to say, “oh you don’t know what you’re missing!!!” It’s kind of silly and over the top. Yes, love is great. But, no, it doesn’t separate the world between: “Those Amazingly Perfect People Who Have Been in Love” and “Those Pitiful People Who Haven’t.” In fact, the people who divide the world that way are the ones who are MOST insecure about the whole idea of love. Sorry. Random rant. Might blog about that at a later date.

@ sexpot donna: Good point about the “how far we’ve come.” Every relationship is a journey.

@ melo: Oh, how beautifully written, “they’re both acts, except, one comes and goes straight through the heart.” I love that!

]]> By: melo http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40376 melo Thu, 17 Apr 2008 02:07:32 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40376 you can buy sex. you can't buy love. at least, not in any tangible way. i like that most about it. they're both acts, except, one comes and goes straight through the heart. you can buy sex. you can’t buy love. at least, not in any tangible way. i like that most about it. they’re both acts, except, one comes and goes straight through the heart.

]]> By: sexpot donna http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40353 sexpot donna Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:57:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40353 The best thing about love is having bad things happen to you that you get through together as a couple, and then relishing in the idea of them when things are good. It's so juicy to be able to look back and see how far you've come. The best thing about love is having bad things happen to you that you get through together as a couple, and then relishing in the idea of them when things are good. It’s so juicy to be able to look back and see how far you’ve come.

]]> By: The Jaded NYer http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/comment-page-1/#comment-40349 The Jaded NYer Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:52:04 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/15/all-you-need-is-love/#comment-40349 It must be the weather... I've been feeling the same way... I've never been in love per se, but what I miss about being in a relationship is that point you reach where, without thinking about it or asking for it, when you both sit on a couch together you get into this comfortable interlocked kind-of embrace- it's just automatic. Little things like that. *sigh* It must be the weather… I’ve been feeling the same way…

I’ve never been in love per se, but what I miss about being in a relationship is that point you reach where, without thinking about it or asking for it, when you both sit on a couch together you get into this comfortable interlocked kind-of embrace- it’s just automatic. Little things like that.

*sigh*

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