Comments on: How I Date Safely Online

By: A

Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:58:21 +0000

As others have said, always arrange to meet in a public place. Let someone else know where you're going to be, and give that person a call when you get home. My experiences are mostly with meeting people with no expectation that it is a date as I've never used a dating website (but I do meet people as possible friends). One thing I like to do is arrange to do something which won't take very long (such as meeting for lunch or coffee) so that I can leave quickly if I'm bored or get a creepy feeling about the person (generally the former). If we end up getting along well, it's easier to extend the plans than to cut them short. So coffee can become lunch, and lunch can become a walk followed by coffee.

One of the most important things where I think some people fail, especially if they are less self-confident, is in keeping within the limits of your comfort. It can be hard not to answer questions if you're feeling pressured and just trying to think of a way to get out of where you are. It's a mistake I have made in the past (when I was younger), despite the fact that I'm generally fairly assertive.

By: Dag

Dag — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 09:28:15 +0000

Hey, is there a section just for latest news

By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Tue, 13 May 2008 12:02:12 +0000

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By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Fri, 02 May 2008 11:27:17 +0000

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By: funkybrownchick

funkybrownchick — Thu, 01 May 2008 10:39:29 +0000

@ Mitch: OMG, I think I remember reading about that date!!! :)

@ Carolina Pereira: Yeah, 24 to 35 is a pretty big age gap when date. I think age gaps matter more when we’re younger. For example, there’s a much bigger difference between 18 to 28 than there it between 28 to 38 and 38 and 48.

@ Baba Doodlius: Oooh, very good point! :) I’m cautious online AND offline. :) However, for better or worse, I give a bit more leeway to the offline guys that I meet via friends or other acquaintances. Oh, and, thanks for sparing us the visual on that one. :)

@ Ivory: Yeah, my friend Error Boy told me about spock. I hadn’t heard of it before then.

@ Kristal: Yeah, I allll about the background checks! :)

@ Pegs: Honey, I’m so happy for your and your family!! :) Man, I remember our days of bitching about the dating scene in Chicago. Now, you’ve got the whole Mr. Pegs and Baby Pegs thing going on. It’s crazy how much life changes in such a short amount of time. I must be getting older! :)

@ Mary A: I met one of my ex-boythings in Chicago on Match. He was HOT, funny, interesting, gainfully employed, etc. I’ve written about him a bunch on here, but I’m not gonna link it up. (He reads the blog now, so that would be kinda weird.) Grocery stores, bookstores and other “lingering” spaces are good places to find dates. And, ooooooh, I think it’s GREAT you’re friends with Karen too. I LOVE her!!! LOVE her!! :)

By: Mary A

Mary A — Thu, 01 May 2008 02:48:47 +0000

I have been on and off with Match for about 6 months. I have actually met up with two guys, one of which I dated for a while and lost interest and the other just wasn’t that into me. Still keeping the faith though, however I’m hoping that some charming, cute, sarcastic boy will run into me at the grocery store so I won’t have to devulge the Match meeting. :)

P.S. FunkyBrown, I am friends with Karen from Chicago (now Houston). Love her!

By: Pegs

Pegs — Thu, 01 May 2008 02:25:12 +0000

Oh, and Kristal is right. Bad spelling is a huge turnoff.