Sex During My Period? Hell No!
[ADVISORY: DON'T EAT WHILE READING THIS.]
“Ewwwww!” I practically scream as my throat closes and gag reflex kicks in. “I’m sooo not a fan of having sex when I’m on my period,” I tell Desiree [NSFW] during yesterday’s brunch in Fort Greene. She disagrees. Like many women and men, she’s okay with “sex on red day.” Me? Let a man enter my slippery red canal and — possibly, if the guy so desires — go oral for a few drops of the thirsty red liquid? My eyes water at the thought. “I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit,” I tell her. I whimper and pick up my glass, quickly dousing my throat with fluid to clear the taste of vomit. Desiree smiles.
To be fair, I should explain that I’ve had sex on my period before. Once, I think. It was in Chicago. A male friend that I’ll call “Dude” and I were out drinking and partying. At the end of the night, we went back to my place and took off our clothes. Tired and tipsy, I forgot I was clearing the final day of my period. (It was almost over, but not quite.) As Dude went down on me, he quickly squished up his face, used his fingers to wipe his tongue and cried out in disgust: “¡ay Dios mío! The taste!! YUCK!!! The taaaaaste!!!!” That was the first — and, needless to say, LAST — time I attempted to have crimson sex.
Of course, I know the benefits of canoing the red river: hormones rage, horny level goes up and the risk of pregnancy goes down. And, not to mention, dancing the horizontal Tango reduces cramps. Yeah, yeah, yeah whatever. I’m still not a fan. Sex is best when I feel sexy. I don’t really feel desirable or turned on when I’m bloated, messy, carrying an extra 5 pounds of water weight and flowing like the Mississippi. But, hey, don’t agree with me. You’re feel free to have your own thoughts. So, what say you? Sex & blood — “I love that sh*t” or “that’s f*cking disgusting”?
Related links:
Does menstruation affect my sex drive? (Cosmo)
How should I have sex during my period? (Cosmo)
Have Great Sex While She’s Menstruating (Askmen.com)
Period Sex: A ‘Do’ Or A ‘Don’t'? (Jezebel)
Sex with period and tampon? (Go Ask Alice!)
Photo credit:
Image is from Nicolas Raymond. Montreal, Canada.
NOTE: Check out Desiree’s “pro-period sex” post. [NSFW]
June 1st, 2008 at 11:01 am
Um, I think homie scarred you for life! Of course you’re not going to feel sexy when that was your one encounter. And surprising them is never a good idea. But if he’s gung ho, I’m down.
June 1st, 2008 at 12:26 pm
Never tried it, not completely averse to trying it if the guy is REALLY keen to go for it.
Sounds like your first time ’shagging on the red’ has scarred you somewhat :) Are you sure you’re not basing all your aversion on just that one experience?
June 1st, 2008 at 3:05 pm
I’m a fan myself. The hormones are raging and there’s an extra thrill knowing he’s willing to do it at that time.
June 1st, 2008 at 5:57 pm
lol..
after a shower, i don’t see whu don’t have sex :P okay. oral is a bit… but the regular way that’s perfectly fine. and actually, i’m hornier when i have my period :/
June 1st, 2008 at 6:35 pm
I don’t think I’d let a guy do oral during my period (would he want to?) but I have no problem with sex during my period.
June 1st, 2008 at 7:52 pm
first let me say WOW
not oral on a red day, but i’ve done anal sex with ex-boyfriend before and with my ex-girlfriend, we tried to stay away from each other at that time of the month
June 1st, 2008 at 8:42 pm
I have done it with a woman while she was on her period… I have no problem with it… I like to please my woman…
June 1st, 2008 at 9:03 pm
FBC, I almost couldn’t finish reading this post because my mind was aflood of crimson thoughts and bad memories that never happened. I’m sorry but that’s gross to me…to me its like tryin to fuck a toliet or better yet an oven…and I mean that in the nicest possible way. But serious a woman’s period is her female organ’s “self-cleaning” and I’m not going to stuck my chicken in the oven when its self-cleaning. I’m gonna wait till its good and done…wait a couple hours and then cook my meal. When the oven is self-cleaning…that’s when its time to use the top burners, ya dig? ;)
June 1st, 2008 at 9:04 pm
[...] then head on over to Ms. Funky Brown for the con side of the period [...]
June 1st, 2008 at 9:28 pm
¡Dios mío! is right! :) FBC, you are very brave for putting that on the Internets! :) I myself did “ride the crimson wave” (or should I “was ridden while on the crimson wave”!) myself — meh, probably wouldn’t do it again. But that picture!!!
June 1st, 2008 at 9:38 pm
Yo segundo– ay dios mio!!!!
June 1st, 2008 at 10:18 pm
I cringed when you said but it was even worse reading it. I’d feel funny after that too.
But I’m telling you all you need is one solid gold experience to change your mind.
Come over to the other side.
You know you want to. =)
June 1st, 2008 at 10:53 pm
Well about a year ago me and this guy were about to get down for the first time. Being regukar like clock work I knew that I had another week to go before Mr. Ed would be visiting (you feel me) anyway he did oral on me everything was fine but when we got to rockin and rollin he must have knocked some stuff loose because when he got up blood was everywhere! I was horrified but like a woman I thought we could get past it (hell it’s nature and sh** happens) needless to say we never spoke again. Now a whole year later I have a mna that loves me whenever and however. I told him about what happened to me and he said “That’s my stuff and I want it when I want it”. So ladies find you a man that can be just that a man and not act like a child about the situation!
June 1st, 2008 at 11:19 pm
I wouldn’t do oral but if a woman is hot and wet with a good attitude who gives a shit if she’s on a period.
June 2nd, 2008 at 2:23 am
am sooo glad to be in Canada….. ’cause …. when I just beamed up to FBC…and the banner kicked in….. whoa….. and she copped to it…… kinky boots…. well…
one must live for 2 day….. by the way…. that’s a deep curve on the corner of love.
kinda … sorta…. wellithappenedtome2…. and the vibe… the chill….. and the thrill,
makes you enjoy the moment… but … never again, the moment…
lamesabassman…… ain’t lame… just tamed…..
P.S. found ribs…. all is well ….and they were killer 2…. i miss Cali…. but I found
ribs….. and Canada rocks….. for days….
June 2nd, 2008 at 7:21 am
OH NO..Sex on your period is disgusting..and messy..it takes the fun out of the sex..I agree FBC..its not a good look..:)
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:17 pm
This post was…graphic! I got squeamish. It does seem to depend on the partner, if he loves you it doesn’t matter.
Anyway, pass up an opportunity to get some? I think not.
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:35 pm
sex on my period is just fine as long as the guy has no qualms about it. put down a towel and then follow up with a nice shower…*shrug* besides, the alternative of not having sex for at least 5 days is kinda not an option when you’re with someone you can barely keep your hands off of ;-)
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:35 pm
sex on my period is just fine as long as the guy has no qualms about it. put down a towel and then follow up with a nice shower…*shrug* besides, the alternative of not having sex for at least 5 days every month is kinda not an option when you’re with someone you can barely keep your hands off of ;-)
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:36 pm
oops! didn’t mean to hit submit twice :-P
June 2nd, 2008 at 7:40 pm
Ok, oral sex during your period is a big screaming NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO for me. But actual sex is fine with me and for the reasons you point out, sometimes extra good. I would add however, that’s only with an established partner so you can make the necessary preparations and not ruin the sheets. It would be a bit jarring for first time sex.
June 2nd, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Ummm.. no. That’s fackin’ disgusting. No way, no how.
June 2nd, 2008 at 8:24 pm
My period is way to heavy and messy to even consider having sex while I’m on it. You should see the blood clots that come out of me!
Is that TMI?
June 2nd, 2008 at 9:39 pm
I used to like period sex, but lately, I hate it. I get really sensitive down there when having my period, and the friction irritates me. My husband won’t go down if I’m bleeding a river, but if it’s my last day, he will. Besides the pain, period sex is too messy for my tastes…
June 2nd, 2008 at 10:57 pm
Last day? Awww, sure. Whatever. But those first days? Geez, no. Not because I’m grossed out particularly, but because I’m in pain and feel chubby and headachey and just generally rotten. The idea of all that motion makes me queasy even now.
June 3rd, 2008 at 1:11 am
to GrizzBabe…… the answer is… Si….. but, whatever gets you thru the nite is alright…… ahh …. K
lamesabassman……. can’t say a woid……. dang
June 3rd, 2008 at 4:45 am
Funny mention: When I first saw this post in my feed last night, I actually was eating. It’s good, I’m not so squeamish. Still didn’t read it until just now, just in case. :) That said:
Mrs. Roddykat and I have done it once while dating and I’d say if you prepare (as the Missus is want to do) like what Carolina P. said, it’s all good. Still not sipping the Red Sea, though.
Kinda has me thinking of a certain spaghetti myth now that I think about it. :) Not that she ever needed to do that.
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:16 am
I have found the most AMAZING solution to crimson sex. Two words: Shower sex – truly a gift to women everywhere! Hubbers LOVES it and so do I. Hits all the right places and is “tidy” for him during this time.
June 3rd, 2008 at 2:49 pm
@ Meeks: I think he did!!! :)
@ Darwin: OMG, I love it!!! ’Shagging on the red.’ I’ve gotta use that sometime. And, yeah, you might be on to something about that one experience. I was already like 82% against
sex on red dayshagging on the red, but that experience made my aversion jump up to 92%. PTS, you know?@ Zen: Ooooh, we have to talk about this at the party later this week. :)
@ Carolina Pereira: I’m like SUPER horny in the days leading up to my period. I find myself staring at men’s crotches on the subway around that time of the month. Not good.
@ Phoena: You ask, “would he want to?” Apparently, yes, some would.
@ anaynomous: Yes, stay away on “red day.” It even rhymes. Desiree is brilliant because she’s the one who introduced me to the phrase “red day.”
@ Jerry: So, you say you like to please women, do you? Did you live in New York? ;)
@ Brandon | Fortyoneacres: I *LOVE* your chicken / oven-cleaning analogy!! :) Laughed out loud when I read it.
@ baserinstincts: Thanks for the link lovin!!! I hit you right back. See? I live to receive *and* give. ;)
@ The Original B.R.O.: Yeah, right after I hit that “publish” button I was like, “I can’t believe I just told the world that!” The dude, “Dude”, actually reads this blog. Wonder if he’ll see this post. :|
@ Mags: Mi dispiace, pookie.
@ Desiree: Looking for solid gold …
@ Angie: Man, that must have been scary! :( If the blooding / spotting stuff still happens with sex (without being on your period), you might wanna get that checked out. It had that happen once. No fun. OMG, this post is like the TMI post of the month/year for funkybrownchick.com. Less v-kingdom talk in the next post. I promise. :)
@ Mike: You sound hot. Are you in New York, too? ;)
@ lamesabassman: Man, NOBODY makes ribs like the folks in Chicago make ribs. Well, I guess that’s not 100% true. Texas doesn’t a pretty good job, too. :)
@ mrsbigg: YES!!! Another like-minded person among the crowd! :) We’re on the same page; it’s not a good look..:)
@ Kali and @ wynsters the tigress: I haven’t had sex in ages. So, it’s kinda funny that I’m picky about when/if I’ll have it.
@ Mr Angry: You love, love your blog. But, I’m still not a fan of period sex. :)
@ Black Velveteen: “Fackin”? What are you, Irish? ;)
@ GrizzBabe: TMI??? Child, please … I just told the world that I let a Spanish guy lick my bloody vagina and he told me it had a horrible taste. :|
@ Charlene: “Too messy for my tastes.” No pun intended, I’m sure. :)
@ missb: Ditto, ditto, ditto on the chubby, headachey and just generally rotten.
@ Roddykat: Two thumbs up to no “sipping the Red Sea.”
@ amysuehere: Shower sex? YUMMY!!!!!!!!!
June 3rd, 2008 at 3:07 pm
The wife and I play a little game……
I come onto her. She whines…” honey…I’m on my period….”
I wait till its dark and then I ravage her. No oral mind you. but i like my sex slippery. I also talk to her while we’re doing it. basically making her admit how fantastic it feels. after a few orgasms….we go get cleaned up and hit the sack.
=)
June 3rd, 2008 at 6:42 pm
dkzone, your wife is very lucky.
funky, mamita, i can’t tell if the thought of riding dirty grosses you out because it grossed your partner out in that tragic sexual encounter, or if the thought of someone touching you while you’re bleeding in and of itself is the problem. you didn’t have bile rising to your throat before his reaction, did you?
in my experience, as long as he gets a heads up, a man who wants you will want you regardless of what the f*ck happened to you. he’ll be like, ‘i know shorty’s cranium is bleeding and she needs emergency surgery, but damn, there’s something about her . . .’
i don’t know about him going down on you in that condition, though. maybe if you played johnnie cochran to his oj and he owed you his life or something.
and homie with the ‘penis is to poultry’ analogy . . . lord help us
June 3rd, 2008 at 7:12 pm
Well, if you really, really want to do it but don’t want your period getting in the way:
http://www.beppy.com/
(Haven’t actually tried these, mind.)
June 3rd, 2008 at 8:53 pm
shower sex…. da bomb….. then ya get to lick the wrapper…. gotta go… am up ..
next scene…. laters…
lamesabassman…….. shower sex…. been here a tad too long…..
June 3rd, 2008 at 9:39 pm
I don’t always want sex when I’m bleeding but I love a lover who wants sex no matter what.
I’m a woman. I bleed. Deal.
June 4th, 2008 at 3:12 am
soooo ….. are we ever gonna go back to lesbians….. or are we forever in the red..
lamesabassman……. thanks…. now I can’t stand ketchup….
June 4th, 2008 at 8:51 am
Sex during mensuration, not the heaviest times with someone I do not know all that well is OK (protected sex of course); with someone I am in a relationship with, I have no problems with oral and/or sex.
I think it is an extremely intimate act to share with someone you care about. Disgusting or Gross? No!
June 4th, 2008 at 8:55 am
I also wanted to say that my experiences with this have been in a relationship setting and not a random encounter, not to say I would shy away from it if the opportunity presented.
M.
June 4th, 2008 at 9:18 am
well, love, we have Phil’s BBQ in Cali…. and he will stand bone to bone with
anybody…. anywhere….. anytime
and how’s your new gig going….. and are you having fun….
lamesabassman……. have ribs….. will travel.
June 4th, 2008 at 11:35 am
I have sex on my period before. I haven’t had sex in a long time, but I would definitely do it again. It all depends on the amount of blood flow.
June 4th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
Wow- did this receive a bunch of responses? Who knew?
June 4th, 2008 at 4:59 pm
Sometimes, to please your woman, one must fight the bloody battle.
And, while I love giving oral (and getting, for that matter), I’m not gargling with bloody mucous, vaginal discharge and one little tiny egg of L’il Miss Funky Brown. Sorry, but I’m a Listerine man all the way, and somewhat of a purist about it.
However, I’ll penetrate you six ways from Sunday, and do whatever it takes to get you off, but you’re gonna have to stop bleeding before I have a prolonged (albeit muffled) conversation with your lady bits.
And, no, I don’t live in New York, but I’d most definitely fly in for the occasion, should the opportunity present itself.
I’m just sayin’, is all.
June 5th, 2008 at 1:27 am
I definitely wouldn’t go down on a girl with her period….uhhhghhh not thank you, but sex….yeah sure why not. Their’s a 43rd time for everything.
June 5th, 2008 at 5:29 am
@ dkzone: Okay, that sounds kinda hot … the sex part, not the period part. ;)
@ aicha: Good question! Yep, the idea of period sex grossed me out before “that tragic sexual encounter.” But, nope, it didn’t gross me out to the point of “bile rising” until the encounter with Dude going down on me.
@ Cherry: Thanks for the link! :) I’ve never tried one of those either.
@ lamesabassman: Yep. Shower sex is good.
@ kbarrett: You rock! “I’m a woman. I bleed. Deal.” LOVE IT!! :)
@ lamesabassman: We WILL go back to lesbians! Soon. I promise.
@ Marcello NYC: To each her own. :) And I TOTALLY agree that sex can be an “extremely intimate act.”
@ lamesabassman: When I lived in LA I was allllll about Tommy Burger, Baja Fresh, El Pollo Loco and In-n-Out!! :)
@ Savion: Hmmm … quite a few folks here have mentioned flow. I can see how that would make a difference.
@ Lee Coles: Apparently period sex strikes a chord.
@ grampa: Man, who DOESN’T love oral??? :) Actually, I take that back. I know a few of women who DON’T like to give or receive. And, a know a couple of guys who like to receive but not give. By the way, thanks for the offer to fly in for the occassion, but I’ll pass. :) True as it may be the funkybrownchick.com is a lovefest, I don’t date or fuck my readers.
@ Caleb: Thank you, my friend! Sanity has returned to the blog and the number of anti period sex folks are increasing. :)
June 5th, 2008 at 8:18 am
Okay, so yeah, I’ve done the do on a red day… can’t say it was my idea, but after some kissing and fondling, the boo-at-the-time would be like, “I’ma get a towel.” Like the first commenter said, if he’s gung ho…
Oral though? Nah, b. That just seems… ick! The strange thing that has happened a couple of times though is that my period start right after me and the boo-at-the-time finished doing what we were doing. I dunno, I guess he knocked some things loose. And he never freaked out… just went and got the towel….
June 5th, 2008 at 9:58 am
yes….. you do know your munchies…… but… have you ever been to Pink’s on
Melrose off Sunset in El Lay…… killer.
lamesabassman…… I miss NYC…..
June 5th, 2008 at 10:11 am
yo… grandpa…… your last name would’nt be Mudbone would it….. ’cause Mr.Pryor
is the only one to go that deep…. no little blue pills for you …eh….
lamesabassman…… Bravo!
June 6th, 2008 at 10:45 am
@ V: It’s been said that sexual activity, taking antibiotics, eating red meat (iron!) and a lot of other stuff and speed up your period date a little bit. So, who knows! :)
@ lamesabassman: Never been to Pink’s.
June 8th, 2008 at 1:41 am
You do realize, that I have no problem with discontinuing my readership, right?
All of life’s a trade off, and I think I’d rather have door number 1, Monty.
Besides. I’m wearing an eyepatch right now after round two of laser surgery. Don’t know if it will get better, but it will certainly get worse before it does. I may not be reading much of anything soon, what with the way things are going, so, yeah, I’d abdicate the readership. In a heartbeat.
Check you email for an eyepatch picture.
June 8th, 2008 at 9:21 am
am hoping that you,grandpa,will have a speedy recovery….. ’cause it’s guys like
you who can read between the lines and filter the cheese better than we younger
ones can…. and we young fools need all the help we can get….. Bon Chance.
lamesabassman……. ” keep watching the skies….. “
June 8th, 2008 at 10:17 am
Grampa, you are too much!! ME: I don’t date readers. YOU: I can stop reading your blog. Sorry but that loophole / technicality doesn’t work. :) Saw the eyepatch by the way. Funny!
August 18th, 2009 at 1:08 am
Hell yeah!! Best time of the month, I love the taste, like chocolate icing on a chocolate cake. It all cleans up in the shower.
September 16th, 2009 at 6:10 pm
It’s not that big a deal same thing happened to me I was with this sexy lady for the first time. Went low on her and it seemed normal but when we did the intercourse thing I notice some blood on her leg and pulled out and the condom was full of blood. So we stopped. Years later I did give someone head during her period it wasn’t to bad she had a tampon on and I guess that absorbed all the blood and I just lick the clits. Not to bad I’ll do it again.