I like to have the upperhand in my relationships with men. But, be ye not fooled. This doesn’t mean I date submissives. As I’ve said before, there’s something incredibly sexy about a take-charge guy who handles his business by day but also lets me handcuff him to my bed & dominate the hell out of him by night. Bossing sexy, strong men around turns me on. That said, it’s also worth mentioning that I sometimes knock heads with the domme boys because, quite frankly, I like it when people let me have my way. So, maybe, in a small way, I secretly like (slightly) submissive guys. Testicle Tuesdays question of the day: Is the submissive male less manly than his dominant counterpart? My opinion? Definitely not. Meet Axe. By his own confession, he’s a submissive male. This is his blog, and I know him. Rather, I should say, I don’t know him but I’ve met him a couple times because we belong to the same secret society sex writer cabal.
“I first noticed I was attracted to strong women when I was very young,” he writes. “I saw an episode of Wonder Woman where she tied up a bad guy. I remember wishing I was the bad guy. I was 6 or 7 years old.” I like reading Axe’s blog because it lets me probe a sub male’s brain a bit. I particularly like blogposts How It All Started for Me, You Must Be Dominant to Be Submissive and I’m Submissive, Not a Doormat. In the latter post he confesses, “I sometimes find myself needing to defend my masculinity.” Like, for example, when he told a male coworker he’d like a woman to spank him.
“What?” [the coworker] shouted as though he was in disbelief that I was actually a guy.
“Sure I would, if she got off on that, why not? (I was downplaying how much I actually wanted it from a woman) I love it when a woman takes control.”
The coworker then picked on Axe. The upshot? Axe basically told the guy, I’ve gone down on women you could only dream of giving you the time of day. Hmmmm … I notice a reoccurring theme; Axe, a submissive, gets chicks dominant boys can’t. He once told a group of married men, “I slept with an amazingly aggressive woman last night, we both came until we passed out. Maybe next month when you can convince your wives to have sex with you, you’ll hope she does the same.” Damn, boy! See, that’s kinda hot, no? Submissive males rage with just as much testosterone as their dominant brethren. Others agree. Earlier this year, The New York Times published Stephanie Rosenbloom‘s article “The Beta Male’s Charms” about that upcoming show We Need Girlfriends. Read the piece. It’s cute. Seriously, READ IT! Besides, what else are you doing? You’re at work but, obviously, you’re a slacker. Hell, you’re sitting in your little black chair reading a blog right now! ;) So, again, here’s the link to the article.
Okay, so, now you know how I prefer things. What about the rest of you? Men. Women. Feel free to use the comment section to tell me whether you’re submissive or dominant and which type of partner you prefer and why.
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Related FBC posts:
Cougars and Cubs: Older Women, Younger Men
Urban Cougars and Their Young Boytoys
How to Seduce a GILF
Related book:
She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
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@Ron above, this is the most intelligent comment here. Yous speak the truth. Submission is a gift, whether given by a woman or a man to a worthy partner. Before one should ever consider relinquishing that gift to such a partner, they should in fact make sure that the person seeking it comes from an evolved, healthy and secure place. All too often, especially in a major metropolis like New York City, in a down economy, as a man once you decide to admit to a woman that you may have a submissive nature and prefer to serve a woman; it may often be met with the mindset of a greedy manipulative person who thinks she has finally found the answer to her prayers to liberate her from responsibility in life; a sugar daddy to pay her rent, buy her shoes and pay all her bills without the need for any intimacy. The foregoing being said, were a man to possess all the financial blessings in the world and the object of his affection and desire not so much, you would be honored to share with her all that you have — under the right circumstances. So, I say, seek love, respect, honor and dignity first and foremost. Treat the object of your affection as you would wish to be treated yourself. Observe the details, an individual’s manner, style and grace towards the less fortunate, including how she handles servers, waiters and other service professionals who may tend to her in the market place. Consider their value system and perhaps after exhibiting a degree of patience in observing someone’s character you may be open and share this vulnerable side of yourself.
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