Comments on: How to Love A Submissive Man

By: Cruz Mckiney

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By: SecureinNYC

SecureinNYC — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 18:27:47 +0000

The truly secure man who is comfortable outside the bedroom and appreciates the feminine can take tremendous comfort and enjoyment in submitting to women sexually. Unfortunately as a man, I have observed and recognized the relative insecurity of many women to embrace the sexually submissive side of a man for fear that such a man does not represent the masculine ideal to them. In short they cannot handle it. These women only feel comfortable with the Alpha take charge male who dominates them sexually. Likewise there are many men who are not secure enough to embrace their submissive side because they intuitively recognize how women might otherwise perceive them. So they live as closeted Alpha’s afraid to exhibit their submissive side. It takes a strong, secure, emotionally healthy and intelligent male to give into submission and to allow the woman to take control. Likewise, if the man truly loves and respects the woman, when she needs to have the man take her, he will do so with a knowledge of how to take charge best learned from having been in the submissive position which helps you understand how to truly dominate someone sexually and the pleasure they will receive, More men need to feel free to go to that submissive place.

By: Sissy Panty Buns

Sissy Panty Buns — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:50:13 +0000

You are turning me on. I am heterosexually masochistic but not a lifestyle submissive – so far. I guest starred (amateur, no money involved on my part) as Richard Downs in a professionally made spanking film on the receiving end. My female It was the Jennifer Brooks Production video number 28 entitled “Vicious Whips and Canes”. My co-stars were Tori Sinclair and Felicia Gates. It was a severe spanking, but not enough to break me totally into being a submissive. It ended with 60 good smacks with a bath-brush from Felicia. I felt guilty about it because I had been flirting very heavily with a dark skinned and very dominant black woman who actually wanted to make me her slave. I would have had to travel to Manhattan to get my spanking at Paddles or some other T.E.S. function, but she would have enjoyed making me over as a lifestyle transvestite and was serious about being my master, breaking me and making me a true submissive. I am still rebellious and very, very naughty, posting photos of myself male-modeling ladies panties on my website. In many of the photos I am holding out a bath-brush and I have a tendency to try to provoke women into spanking me. I also tend to chicken out of real relationships. I wonder if the right woman will manage to get her hands on me and put me in my place? If you check out the photos I posted of myself at http://www.sissypantybuns.com/wordpress/?page_id=56 .I think you will agree I could use the spanking. I was adopted. I searched for and found my atural parents. There was a rumor that one of our ancesters worked on a ship bringing slaves from Africa to this country back around the year 1800 or so. It would certainly a centuries delayed payback if I were to become the slave of a black woman… but I’m not looking for it. I’m just into getting a few good old-fashioned spankings now and then and being reminded that women should rule.

By: Servile

Servile — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 20:37:52 +0000

I’m a black latino. Growing up in South America my white babysitter turned me into her slave between 3 and 11 yrs old. She trained me that a white woman’s needs come before my own. It’s the way I should show my love to her. At such a young age I was hooked. As a grown man I can’t find a relationship where a white woman appreciates this about me. I feel ruined. I’m smart, resourceful and take care of myself but I’m docile towards her. I like showing a white woman the respect she deserves which I find helps me be a better partner. I don’t take abuse from anyone else but her. I know my place in the relationship. My years of searching for her seems like a futile endeavor. I’m at a point now where it’s become easier to keep to myself and enjoy the other joys this life brings. I still long for her though.

By: Kai

Kai — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:55:59 +0000

Sry entered too early…
Anywho I have never been in charge before and I really don’t know where to start I know he wouldn’t be into anything painful or humiliating but I don’t know what my options are. I always though guys were different in that aspect that girls and I didn’t think doing the things to him that I would want done to me would work.

By: Kai

Kai — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:52:05 +0000

I am a sum girl who has married a switch and i would like to give him some of the attention he wants would anyone of you Domme’s be able to give me some advice.

By: maymay

maymay — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:28:54 +0000

by “(slightly) submissive” submissive, I mean I’m not into TOTAL submissives. The image of a collared man locked in a wire dog cage while eating out of a animal’s tray so doesn’t turn me on. Really. I’ve seen that image of a guy; I didn’t think it was hot. Also, I’m sooo not into inflicting pain on my sex partners. So, yeah, slightly submissive in a “let her have what she wants” kind of way but not in the “I wanna humiliate and cause pain” kind of way.

Twanna, I wonder if you’re mistaking submissiveness for activity here. Why do you think “total” submissives are the ones who want to be locked in a wire dog cage? Why do you think that “slightly” submissive men wouldn’t like that? One’s chosen sexual activity has little to do with “how submissive” they are.

I’m also wondering if perhaps you’re channeling much of the hegemonic paradigm here. The association of “total” submissives to people who prefer women to “humiliate and cause pain” is a dreadful misconception I’ve railed against my entire life. In fact, I suspect that misconception is precisely the same one that Axe’s co-worker is under when he challenges Axe’s masculinity. It’s the same misconception that the young commenter above me is expressing when he says “i am just turning 18 and i know i am a submisiv boy but i am not into all the beting what am i?!.”

Mistakenly conflating intent (submissiveness) with activity (being beaten, humiliated, etc.) is a real problem, and one I hope more submissive men like Axe and myself will speak out against more.

By: what is your website url

what is your website url — Sun, 03 May 2009 00:53:23 +0000

i am just turning 18 and i know i am a submisiv boy but i am not into all the beting what am i?!.

By: Rose

Rose — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:53:13 +0000

I like a dominant man who submits to Me. :) I can’t seem to figure out my current love interest though. One minute he is happy to make me happy and an hour later he’s a cold fish. Believe me, I know what he likes and I make him happy too. I’ve tried talking, being extra nice and ordering him to tell me what this cold thing is about. Nothing works. Any ideas?

By: A

Fri, 13 Feb 2009 15:23:27 +0000

Im 6ft3 and 14 stone. Go to the gym and am a team leader at work. Im traing to run the Great North run and am defo no “simpering weakling” tbh not many people would dare to call me that.

Im submissive and theres nothing better than a woman taking control, maybe not the fisting bit mind!