Comments on: How to Love A Submissive Man

By: Servile

Servile — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 20:37:52 +0000

I’m a black latino. Growing up in South America my white babysitter turned me into her slave between 3 and 11 yrs old. She trained me that a white woman’s needs come before my own. It’s the way I should show my love to her. At such a young age I was hooked. As a grown man I can’t find a relationship where a white woman appreciates this about me. I feel ruined. I’m smart, resourceful and take care of myself but I’m docile towards her. I like showing a white woman the respect she deserves which I find helps me be a better partner. I don’t take abuse from anyone else but her. I know my place in the relationship. My years of searching for her seems like a futile endeavor. I’m at a point now where it’s become easier to keep to myself and enjoy the other joys this life brings. I still long for her though.

By: Kai

Kai — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:55:59 +0000

Sry entered too early…
Anywho I have never been in charge before and I really don’t know where to start I know he wouldn’t be into anything painful or humiliating but I don’t know what my options are. I always though guys were different in that aspect that girls and I didn’t think doing the things to him that I would want done to me would work.

By: Kai

Kai — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:52:05 +0000

I am a sum girl who has married a switch and i would like to give him some of the attention he wants would anyone of you Domme’s be able to give me some advice.

By: maymay

maymay — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:28:54 +0000

by “(slightly) submissive” submissive, I mean I’m not into TOTAL submissives. The image of a collared man locked in a wire dog cage while eating out of a animal’s tray so doesn’t turn me on. Really. I’ve seen that image of a guy; I didn’t think it was hot. Also, I’m sooo not into inflicting pain on my sex partners. So, yeah, slightly submissive in a “let her have what she wants” kind of way but not in the “I wanna humiliate and cause pain” kind of way.

Twanna, I wonder if you’re mistaking submissiveness for activity here. Why do you think “total” submissives are the ones who want to be locked in a wire dog cage? Why do you think that “slightly” submissive men wouldn’t like that? One’s chosen sexual activity has little to do with “how submissive” they are.

I’m also wondering if perhaps you’re channeling much of the hegemonic paradigm here. The association of “total” submissives to people who prefer women to “humiliate and cause pain” is a dreadful misconception I’ve railed against my entire life. In fact, I suspect that misconception is precisely the same one that Axe’s co-worker is under when he challenges Axe’s masculinity. It’s the same misconception that the young commenter above me is expressing when he says “i am just turning 18 and i know i am a submisiv boy but i am not into all the beting what am i?!.”

Mistakenly conflating intent (submissiveness) with activity (being beaten, humiliated, etc.) is a real problem, and one I hope more submissive men like Axe and myself will speak out against more.

By: what is your website url

what is your website url — Sun, 03 May 2009 00:53:23 +0000

i am just turning 18 and i know i am a submisiv boy but i am not into all the beting what am i?!.

By: Rose

Rose — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:53:13 +0000

I like a dominant man who submits to Me. :) I can’t seem to figure out my current love interest though. One minute he is happy to make me happy and an hour later he’s a cold fish. Believe me, I know what he likes and I make him happy too. I’ve tried talking, being extra nice and ordering him to tell me what this cold thing is about. Nothing works. Any ideas?

By: A

Fri, 13 Feb 2009 15:23:27 +0000

Im 6ft3 and 14 stone. Go to the gym and am a team leader at work. Im traing to run the Great North run and am defo no “simpering weakling” tbh not many people would dare to call me that.

Im submissive and theres nothing better than a woman taking control, maybe not the fisting bit mind!

By: The Girl To Go To

The Girl To Go To — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 04:41:53 +0000

I love reading articles like this. I definitely rep the submissive boys when I write. I just think it’s sad sometimes, for the men who are being persuaded by their work buddies to buy some book telling men how to get women. The book is telling them pretty much how to fail at dominating women, and all these poor boys want is a spanking.

By: shabowski

shabowski — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 06:04:01 +0000

i am a submissive male i love for a woman to boss me around in bed and also put fingers in my butt being on my knees and letting my mistress fist me is pleasure the only prob is that not many women r into that kinda thing what do u say

By: Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK

Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 13:46:07 +0000

Couldn’t agree with you more. :)