Comments on: How to Love A Submissive Man

By: SecureinNYC

SecureinNYC — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 13:22:59 +0000

@Ron above, this is the most intelligent comment here. Yous speak the truth. Submission is a gift, whether given by a woman or a man to a worthy partner. Before one should ever consider relinquishing that gift to such a partner, they should in fact make sure that the person seeking it comes from an evolved, healthy and secure place. All too often, especially in a major metropolis like New York City, in a down economy, as a man once you decide to admit to a woman that you may have a submissive nature and prefer to serve a woman; it may often be met with the mindset of a greedy manipulative person who thinks she has finally found the answer to her prayers to liberate her from responsibility in life; a sugar daddy to pay her rent, buy her shoes and pay all her bills without the need for any intimacy. The foregoing being said, were a man to possess all the financial blessings in the world and the object of his affection and desire not so much, you would be honored to share with her all that you have — under the right circumstances. So, I say, seek love, respect, honor and dignity first and foremost. Treat the object of your affection as you would wish to be treated yourself. Observe the details, an individual’s manner, style and grace towards the less fortunate, including how she handles servers, waiters and other service professionals who may tend to her in the market place. Consider their value system and perhaps after exhibiting a degree of patience in observing someone’s character you may be open and share this vulnerable side of yourself.

By: Ron

Ron — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 04:32:54 +0000

I am in my early 30s now and when younger I thought a sexually dominant woman was all the rage. I never gave it thought or noticed the many obvious things which to a younger self was no concern, his top priority getting laid. To that end, a non-threatening, sexually attentive male, I found, was the way with these women. As I got older, I realized there was a reason why: they felt validated being given that attention by a strong, take-charge male while not having their low-sense of sexual worth provoked by doing “submissive” things in bed. By the time I was 29, it got tiresome and boring. There was just too much baggage, both said and unsaid that came with these women. Sadly, often there was sexual abuse in their past. But many just seemed deeply unhappy inside, almost often accommodated by inexplicable anger and even deeper, easily provoked insecurities, which in these women’s minds would be assuaged by looking for an external validation. I’ve yet to meet a self-declared “domme” that ever was happy and didn’t have deep relationship issues that crept into the present and had a long list of dead-ends and lonliness as her most faithful companion. There was always this almost self-righteous sense of unjustified self-entitlement and appalling vanity. Acting this way is not what makes one dominant; it makes them an asshole. And at some point, my maturity outgrew my horny get-me-some single mindedness. At the end real dominant men (or women for that matter) want a real dominant man–and not just in the bedroom. Do you got your mind together? Do you have not just a “plan” (i.e. unfulfilled, escapist dream that is not going anywhere)? Do you have track record of stability, positive grow, and evidence that you bring something something to the table so that a real dominant man says, “Yeah, sister has it together and together we can make something good together.” I want to hear about the low-down dogs and good-for-nothing men and all the whinny adolescent teen-angst soap drama that is thoroughly repulsive when it comes from a woman over 28 years old and speaks of a underlying pathology or damaged past that seems shackled to the soul. And I didn’t want those self-proclaiming “dominant” women. They were and are jokes. And I know there are many women reading this that will be pissed, and there is a reason for that: you are not dominant. Then comes the retort: “well, you are not a real submissive.” And that is right. But neither am I an asshole or someone that derives his sense of self-worth from having to have a “submissive” woman in my life, like some males need to bolster their own frail ego. So to you younger men and women out there: Be careful how you label yourself, for habit has a way of becoming character and this whole BDSM thing is just a life-suck for losers that hang onto titles and mistake them for actual accomplishment and qualities to be truly proud and wanting to possess. Looking back at this as now a married man with two kids, I hope at some point in our progress as a species we can evolve beyond these laughable power hierarchies, but make no mistake about it, as Lord Byron once wrote: “The unenlightened, weak minded, and feeble of soul seek the subjugation of others to esteem their own miserably reality.” I could not say it better.

By: Marc

Marc — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 17:19:59 +0000

Hi my lady’s
I am submissive man looking for a lady!
Please email me to Eric.arch@hotmail.com
Ps : there is a Dom lady for every sub man
I am tall , good shape, independent , handsome and love to be dominated by a lady.
I am in manhattan , please be to or close to it.
My lady’s good evenining

By: BBW Princess

BBW Princess — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:45:59 +0000

I do like the idea of the man being the Alpha Male in the daytime but at night leeting me rule the roost (giggle) I go both ways but I really love it when I can take control in the bedroom…….blind fold him and make him go down on me and orally pleasure me…… and he simply not see me but feel me and taste me.
Its awsome….. and maybe really cool if I put a leash around his neck and force him between my thighs ….(smile)
Would love to find a man that loves Big Beautiful Women that wants a long term relationship and is submissive…… but for now I play domme… but only online never in person…….
I like controlling their wallet also…….. I think this shows me they are ready to serve me totally and be submissive. …….. So if there are any men subbies out there that want to be my ATM machine and spoil me….and let me dominate them and live out their fantasies online, and by phone …….. you know where I am (smile)………
BBW.Princess@aol.com

By: Spoil Me Im Yours

Spoil Me Im Yours — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:19:33 +0000

Many men who are submissive to a woman think it makes them weak….it does not …..Its erotic to have the male enjoy being submissive to the woman and changing the role around. I like it both ways but find men love to be dominated……..theres something sexy and erotic about someone else being in control…..
Check out my video:
http://www.youtube.com/user/SpoilMeImYours

By: Spoil Me Im Yours

Spoil Me Im Yours — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:15:14 +0000

If your afraid to discuss it with your wife… what does it hurt to have an online mistress to fulfill those desires… you wouldnt be having sex with her only living out your submissive fantasies……. or you can confront her with it and tell her honestly what you want.
SpoilMeImYours@yahoo.com

By: Larry Brown

Larry Brown — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 08:45:41 +0000

I am a sub male. I never know what it was then. I just love it and I am very scare until the coming of internet where i found that i am not alone.
I just love to obey my wife. But, she never know how to respond to my needs.

By: Her-man

Her-man — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 16:23:07 +0000

I am a complete alpha male in my everyday dealings both professionally and personally, but for the woman in my life, I am submissive and am therefore only attracted to a dominant woman. It has nothing to do with collars or cages – it is about having complete respect for Her and putting Her desires and needs in front of my own. In practice what this usually means for her is not a lot of housework or cooking, but she does have to endure a lot of foot rubs and a good helping of oral pleasure to boot – of course all at her direction and discretion. When the ultimate goal of both partners is her happiness, then it is a beautiful thing. It doesn’t make me any less masculine – quite the contrary I think. It takes a real man to please a real woman!

By: Spoiled BBW Princess

Spoiled BBW Princess — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 12:57:43 +0000

I never in a milion years thought I would find a submissive man attractive. But Ive learned that I get totally turned on by the thought of knowing hes devoted to me, and will do anything I want to make me happy. I think there are alot of strong men out their that enjoy the game ie:playing submissive as you get a massive rush.
The start of being totally submissive is giving up his wallet …. and when he does….. the eroticism really begins in his mind. He gets addicted.
I am a financial domme…… I love what I do, and I have subs that turn me the hell on.
I condident man that has self esteem is assured of himself even when in the submissive state…….so dont think submissives are weak as Ive learned they are not.
Love your site…..keep more articles coming.

By: Rocket

Rocket — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 20:25:45 +0000

Ooh, you need to be mine, Axe! Now.