Comments on: Kind Kisses: Friends with Benefits http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:56:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: 101 Things That Are Totally Twanna | Twanna A. Hines @ FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com | sex. dating. relationships. http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-72074 101 Things That Are Totally Twanna | Twanna A. Hines @ FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com | sex. dating. relationships. Tue, 02 Dec 2008 06:57:01 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-72074 [...] I have slept with most of my male friends. [...] [...] I have slept with most of my male friends. [...]

]]> By: Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-54700 Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK Thu, 07 Aug 2008 12:16:27 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-54700 I sooo didn't know that stuff about your relationships. Your life / secrets grow juicier every day. I sooo didn’t know that stuff about your relationships. Your life / secrets grow juicier every day.

]]> By: errorboy http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-54418 errorboy Wed, 06 Aug 2008 00:01:05 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-54418 Too lazy to read all the replies, but to answer your question: of course! I'm still friends with all of my former GFs except the two I actually cheated on multiple times. In hindsight 50% of the GFs were mere FBs, as neither of us saw the other as a future life partner. Too lazy to read all the replies, but to answer your question: of course! I’m still friends with all of my former GFs except the two I actually cheated on multiple times. In hindsight 50% of the GFs were mere FBs, as neither of us saw the other as a future life partner.

]]> By: Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-54292 Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK Tue, 05 Aug 2008 10:31:22 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-54292 Oooooh, you totally sound like you're speaking from experience. :) Oooooh, you totally sound like you’re speaking from experience. :)

]]> By: Jeffrey Wilson http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-54113 Jeffrey Wilson Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:28:50 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-54113 Yes, it's very possible to revert back to platonic friendship after doing the dance of joy - I've done it several times myself. I think the secret is that a) you really have to be real friends to begin with and b) both parties have to be of the same mindset. By that I mean, both have to be non-clingers, and fairly care free. Otherwise, it's a crash and burn situation. Bigtime. Yes, it’s very possible to revert back to platonic friendship after doing the dance of joy – I’ve done it several times myself. I think the secret is that a) you really have to be real friends to begin with and b) both parties have to be of the same mindset. By that I mean, both have to be non-clingers, and fairly care free. Otherwise, it’s a crash and burn situation. Bigtime.

]]> By: lamesabassman...... http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-53125 lamesabassman...... Tue, 29 Jul 2008 07:03:11 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-53125 it really does'nt take much to understand just how deep the funk is..... if you have been around the block as much as I have..... you start to filter the cheese kinda early in life...... or as one so much better than once stated..... " Free your mind..." and the rest will follow..... lamesabassman..... listen to the music and it will show you the way home.... it really does’nt take much to understand just how deep the funk is….. if you have been around the block as much as I have….. you start to filter the cheese kinda
early in life…… or as one so much better than once stated….. ” Free your mind…”
and the rest will follow…..

lamesabassman….. listen to the music and it will show you the way home….

]]> By: lamesabassman...... http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-53122 lamesabassman...... Tue, 29 Jul 2008 06:50:11 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-53122 when one mixes sex and love..... things could happen..... but when you mix sex with love and friendship.... where will be losses one both sides.... you can't surf on still water.... you need waves.... and when the lights go down low.... that vision in the mirror will stare you down and could you live with that.... no harm in having fun... just realize your limitations..... then your possibilities are endless...... lamesabassman...... sex, it's not just for dinner.... when one mixes sex and love….. things could happen….. but when you mix sex
with love and friendship…. where will be losses one both sides….
you can’t surf on still water…. you need waves….
and when the lights go down low…. that vision in the mirror will stare you down
and could you live with that….
no harm in having fun… just realize your limitations….. then your possibilities are
endless……

lamesabassman…… sex, it’s not just for dinner….

]]> By: Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-52913 Twanna // FUNKY BROWN CHICK Mon, 28 Jul 2008 00:53:28 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-52913 @ lamesabassman: On the phone with my friend Maggie the other day, she mentioned, "I never understand any that lamesabassman's comments on your blog!" @ dkzone: Bingo! That's def the key. As I mentioned, BOTH parties have to totally understand that it means nothing more. LOVE the car rental analogy, by the way. :) @ mahoganydymond: Totally understandable. If one wants more (and it sounds like you did), it's good to pull back from it. @ lamesabassman: On the phone with my friend Maggie the other day, she mentioned, “I never understand any that lamesabassman’s comments on your blog!”

@ dkzone: Bingo! That’s def the key. As I mentioned, BOTH parties have to totally understand that it means nothing more. LOVE the car rental analogy, by the way. :)

@ mahoganydymond: Totally understandable. If one wants more (and it sounds like you did), it’s good to pull back from it.

]]> By: mahoganydymond http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-52898 mahoganydymond Sun, 27 Jul 2008 23:09:36 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-52898 Oh my this is my situation... Me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago. We still have sex from time to time. I am able to be his friend, yet I feel we are more than that. So I told him if he wants to act like just friends.. Stop trying to have sex with me. He knows I am weak when it comes to having sex with him. OOOOOOOOoo it is so good. So in order for us to maintain just a friendship we don't see each other anymore. . LOL Oh my this is my situation… Me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago. We still have sex from time to time. I am able to be his friend, yet I feel we are more than that. So I told him if he wants to act like just friends.. Stop trying to have sex with me. He knows I am weak when it comes to having sex with him. OOOOOOOOoo it is so good. So in order for us to maintain just a friendship we don’t see each other anymore. . LOL

]]> By: dkzone http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/07/23/kind-kisses-friends-with-benefits/comment-page-1/#comment-52616 dkzone Fri, 25 Jul 2008 20:23:13 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=1351#comment-52616 Ah yes...... The logistics and feasability of Boinkbuddies. Is it possible? Sure. I think the thing that is necesary is a realization that an actual " romantic relationship" won't work. And both parties must see and understand this implicitly. The funny thing about this is, once the romantic pressure is off.... Then things become fun. You stop looking at the other persons every fault, like your going to be with them for the long haul. Look at it this way. When you go to buy a car, you analyze every dent, scratch, oil drop, carpet or upholstry stain. When you rent a car, who cares....its all about the fun for the weekend. I will say this. I have loved my boinkbuddies. But I also realized that I wasn't the best person for them. and the moment I saw that it hurt them that we couldn't be more....we had our consolation shag and moved on. Doesn't mean that i didn't love them in some capacity, but that i wanted something more for them than being my boinkbuddy. Ah yes……
The logistics and feasability of Boinkbuddies.

Is it possible? Sure. I think the thing that is necesary is a realization that an actual ” romantic relationship” won’t work. And both parties must see and understand this implicitly. The funny thing about this is, once the romantic pressure is off…. Then things become fun. You stop looking at the other persons every fault, like your going to be with them for the long haul. Look at it this way. When you go to buy a car, you analyze every dent, scratch, oil drop, carpet or upholstry stain. When you rent a car, who cares….its all about the fun for the weekend.

I will say this. I have loved my boinkbuddies. But I also realized that I wasn’t the best person for them. and the moment I saw that it hurt them that we couldn’t be more….we had our consolation shag and moved on. Doesn’t mean that i didn’t love them in some capacity, but that i wanted something more for them than being my boinkbuddy.

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