for that’s when the script…. flips…….

lamesabassman…… ” and all the squares go home….. “

Then they spoke to a stripper who has had sex with only one person. Go figure!

…and my Mom says it’s a crazy crazy world!
– John Oszajca

Safe(r) sex 4eva.

As far as STDs being like the lottery, hahaha :D Have you ever been to a bodega where people are trying to WIN the lottery or HIT Lotto? You see what they do, right?… Buy A Lot Of Tickets! :D hahaha.. To be fair, you can screw as many people as you want as long as they all have integrity and wouldn’t put your health at risk. If they have something, they’ll tell you and you can skip the action or take your chances.

Also, I think “the lottery” is too high odds to be a good analogy for STDs. If we use your example, then it’s true… You’re no more likely to win the lottery by purchasing 2 tickets or 100. When you bring the odds way down, where I believe they actually are (but have no stats or evidence to support), then the cumulative effect of multiple partners definitely plays a part in increasing the odds of catching something. If you flip a coin 50 times, it might come up tails 49 of them, but, as you mentioned and as is true… all you need is that ONE TIME that it comes up heads. :)

@ dkzone: You asked, “Do any of the women consider oral sex as sex in this study?” I wouldn’t included “oral sex only” folks in with my numbers in if I actually keep track of that stuff. I have oral sex for YEARS before having vaginal sex, and I still considered myself a virgin.

@ Baba Doodlius: You’re hilarious, and that’s why we love you. :) If we count sex toys …

@ Phoena: There’s ALWAYS a quiz on funky brown chick. Always. :)

@ Pam: You said, “I can’t believe people even ask that kind of question.” Yeah, it’s surprising that people still ask that crap. But as that leggy prostitute from Pretty Woman said, “people shock the hell out of me everyday!”

@ bill c.: You mentioned, “A chick could be *BUSTED* and STILL have a bunch of guys that would be willing to hit it. OTOH, guys have to meet way higher standards and jump through more hoops.” To a certain extint, I kind of agree with you. On the other hand, I think it’s waaaay easier for non-attractive men to find partners than it is for non-attractive women. Women will date an ugly man if he’s nice. Men won’t necessarily date an ugly chick just because she’s nice.

@ Brenz: You’re a smart man. :)

@ Anjuan: Wow, I’m surprised you brought up the threesome again. Still thinking about that one? ;) Since you asked … The threesome dude is in media and we see him at parties because we all hang in the same circles. The chick and I are friends, so I see her as much as I did before. The dude was her acquaintance, so she still sees and talks to him as much as she did before. I wasn’t really super close with the dude so I see and talk to him the exactly same amount of time that I did before. So, the point we’re exactly where we were before. This might sound wild and crazy shit, but sometimes people have sex because it’s fun — not because they expect it to lead to a relationship. None of us have any intentions of dating the other. We just had a playful night, that’s all. :) By the way, you said, “Of course, many men don’t care, but I think a lot of men would not marry a woman who had 100 partners.” If women are lying about their numbers, how would their husbands ever know? :) You also said, “I think many women wouldn’t mind marrying a man who had 100 partners.” I wouldn’t be so sure about that …

@ Gabby: Seee, there’s that magic number “4″ again. :) And, yes, men (and women) are having a lot of sex! :)

@ Roddykat: I love it that most of your experiences have been about quality rather than quantity. That’s beautiful! :) And, yeah, y’all bring up GREAT points about oral.

@ lamesabassman: :)

@ Alicia: VERY good point!!!!!!!!!

@ bill: Ewww. :( Whoa, I’m soooo not liking the more sex partners = higher possibility of STD/STI nor the fact that a guy would consider it “take proper defensive measures” to use protection with a woman who’s have just as many partners as he had. To the first point, getting an STI is likely playing the lottery. I’ve never had one and I’ve been sexually active for years. Yet, there are people who contract things on their first time. To the second point … Wouldn’t you agree that both/all partners are “protecting” their sexual health rather than “defending” against a imagined “offending” partner? BTW, GREAT observations/comments about Fran’s use of the word “normal.” Speaking of which ….

@ fran: Oh gaaaaawd!!! Funny that you say “Y’ALL” when refering to people who read sex blogs considering, um, you had to be reading this blog to leave your comment. :)

If you lived in Utah, you might be one of several wives, and that would be NORMAL to you, and you’d like it like that. So let’s not go assuming that what you’re used to is status quo and anything else is on the fringe.

Having said that, you bring up an excellent point and IMO one of the major reasons for differences between what some men and women consider to be sex, and thus differences in reporting.

For instance, if a guy “feels a chick up”, that might be foreplay to him, but if she gets off from it, that might be sex to her. Similarly, for people that believe as you do (and there’s nothing wrong with that) that a qualifier for sex is involvement in a relationship, any sex they happen to have OUTSIDE of a relationship isn’t counted by them as sex.

I’m sure you’re aware of the cheating and divorce rates among “normal” people. :D