Comments on: New York City is Toxic To My Dating Life

By: mieoux

mieoux — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 23:49:48 +0000

There are many more single women than single men in New York City. Hundreds of thousands more single women than single men. I am moving to Silicon Valley next year.

Take a look at these:

http://strangemaps.wordpress.com/2007/07/06/144-single-guys-live-in-la-single-girls-in-nyc/

http://creativeclass.com/rfcgdb/articles/Go%20West.pdf

http://geography.about.com/b/2007/01/23/single-women-on-the-east-coast-single-men-in-the-west.htm

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 10:09:21 +0000

Or stop trying and let things happen on their own? :)

By: Carolina Pereira

Carolina Pereira — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:11:57 +0000

i have the same problem and i don´t get to live in NYC :P

i guess we just have to try harder :/

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 04:08:37 +0000

You said, “I know several single men–black, brown, white, tan–who are smart, educated, attractive, and financially stable who want to be in long-term relationships.” WHAT THE HELL?!?!?! I actually KNOW you, so why haven’t you hooked me up!??!?!?!?! :)

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:12:05 +0000

Hmm…I know several single men–black, brown, white, tan–who are smart, educated, attractive, and financially stable who want to be in long-term relationships.
Of course, I also know single women in the same boat…

So the challenge, I think, isn’t that ratio we hear so often in the media–the number of single women versus the number of single men– but in finding that one person you really click with and want to share part of your life with.

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 17:43:17 +0000

# SINgleGIRL: Hey lady! :) I love men; I wasn’t stating an opinion about “there aren’t enough men in NYC”, I was talking about the city’s actual demographics: http://funkybrownchick.com/images/national-geographic-singles-map.jpg

@ Urban Diva: Couldn’t agree with you more, it’s EASY to date here. Just a bit harder to find the righth guy for “me” (i.e. I’m done with the short-term, shallow rels.)

@ ieishah: I’ve never lived in Italy, when I lived in the UK and Holland, I traveled throughout the Italy and I speak a tiny bit of the language. I used to have a weird fetish thing for Italian men.

@ Chuck: Okay, this get’s back to my “Who’s Single Life Sucks More?” post: http://funkybrownchick.com/2007/08/21/men-vs-women-whose-single-life-sucks-more :) And, I’m with you on keeping hope alive!! :)

@ Jason: Yeah, I think we’re on the same page! :)

@ Lee Lee: I don’t think it’s about age, I think it’s more about how bitter we do or don’t let ourselves become. I was waaaaay more optimistic in my teens. Good news? I’m less naive. Bad news? Sometimes maybe I’m TOO untrusting.

By: Lee Lee

Lee Lee — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 15:09:27 +0000

I feel the same way as you, but I don’t live in NY. Although I do live very close to NY. My issue is this. I remember guys throwing themselves at me and stalking me like a celebrity from the ages of 14-19 when I hit 20 it all stopped. I’m now 24 and don’t get me wrong I still get male attention here and there, but not nearly as much as before. They used to literally gawk, point and stare. Now, they just pass me by. I want to get back how it use to be and wonder why guys no longer fall at my feet. Was it I was less experienced and just having fun and now I’m older? I have been single for a long time and wanna know what the hell happend to all the men in my life and why more aren’t knockin down my door like before? anyone know the reason?

By: Jason

Jason — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 06:51:58 +0000

I understand the feeling. I have been single for a long time(5 years) and most of the relationships I have had with women has mainly been about sex. I mean the sex is good but I can give myself my own nut and sometimes it’s even better but what I would miss is the passion and the connection and high that I would get when I would get from being with a woman. I started to realize that I wanted to maybe be in a relationship or just have a connection with a woman. Sometimes I just want a woman to lay in my bed or just come over so I could be touched or to touch them. I am very receptive to touch and vibes and stuff like that so I try to gain that from women. The problem sometimes is that when I do that with women they think I am trying to further some kind of relationship with them which is not always the case. I am just super-affectionate.

By: Chuck

Chuck — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 23:38:05 +0000

P.S. I think SINgleGIRL is on the money.

By: Chuck

Chuck — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 23:35:04 +0000

Twanna
Don’t know why you think the problem is exclusive to women. You should walk a few city blocks in my shoes (SWM). I have plenty of friends and lot of social interaction. Decent looking average guy that is doing pretty well. However, what I see is that I am not doing well enough for the Wall St set. I am not hip enough for the East Village (this goes for Williamsburg and Park Slope Brooklyn too). To straight for the West Village. I am too white for for Chinatown (even thought I did have a 2 year relationship with a Chinese Woman). Not West Indian or latin enough for countless other neighborhoods. I could cover every neighborhood in or adjacent to Manhattan. I know this seems like I am stereotyping, but it is all true. It seems like many of the women I see will not step out of there cultural boundaries or are falling for the same tired lies told to them my the gazillion players out there. Thinking this time they will turn out to be true. Only to be disappointed again. Mean while they consider the “real thing” to be too vanilla and not exciting enough. Most likely filling them in the “Friends” folder. Believe me when I tell you that it is much more difficult for honest and sincere men than you could ever understand. I guess what I am really saying is “I feel you”. Keep up the hope, as I will be doing the same.