Diary of a Tired Black Man
Obviously, I have no qualms about interracial dating. Truth be told, I kind of have a “thing” for men with accents. Here on FUNKY BROWN CHICK, I’ve written about French, Dutch, Aussie, and Italian guys and the panty-sniffing Irish guy. I’ve also written about Jews, Asian dudes and, of course, black men.
“Do you date black guys?” I get asked this question quite often. “When I see a beautiful black woman such as yourself,” reads an email from a FUNKY BROWN CHICK reader named Jason, “or someone that fits that mold, one where she is comfortable with herself, her blackness, and doesn’t have the hang ups that most black women have (ghetto, lack of self-esteem or self-worth) [...] they usually have a white dude on their arm. I have to admit though that some of those are very intimidating because when you see realness, you can’t ‘game’ it. I just wanted to hear your thoughts on that. I know it was kinda random but when I saw pics of you that was my first thought, ’she’s really cute but does she date black dudes?’”
Yes. I date black dudes. When it comes to black women’s relationships, people often assume either/or. EITHER you’re a “real” black woman who dates black men exclusively OR you’re a “sellout” who only dates white guys because of (a) self hatred or (b) desperation / you’re fed up with black men. Where’s the space where black women are allowed to love whoever they love without catching bullshit for doing so?
Okay, so, Paula, a friend from my writing group, gave me a heads up about Tim Alexander’s movie “Diary of a Tired Black Man” screening at 3:15pm this Saturday, Sept. 13th as part of the Urbanworld Film Festival. According to NPR, Alexander claims ‘angry black woman syndrome’ is plaguing brown women. What’s more? Supposedly, the filmmaker actually wonders whether “black women are simply ‘too angry’ to be datable.” Motherfucker, you wanna see angry?!?!? I’ll show your black ass angry. Where’s my mothafucking knife?!?!
Kidding, of course.
But, here’s the part where the jokes stop: I don’t think there’s anything funny, interesting or novel about black men who claim they only date white women because black women are angry. It sounds like an extremely tired and negative argument. (Ditto for black women who say the same about white dudes & black guys. ) I sometimes go out with white — and other ethnic — dudes because I like men. Period. It’s a very positive thing. I don’t do it because I hate black men or because I think the brothers are “angry.”
Is there (sometimes) a certain eroticism about dating someone who’s skin tone doesn’t match your own? Of course. But, that doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. I recently hooked up with a really sweet, tall, blonde-haired, blue-eyed Dutch dude who ran his fingers over my soft, bare, brown thighs in bed as he said “I really like your skin,” blushed and then said: “I do.” He liked the person inside the skin more. I liked him, too. THAT’S what matters.
There. I’ve said all I have to say for now. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section.
“Diary of a Tired Black Man” screens at 3:15pm this Saturday, Sept. 13th as part of the Urbanworld Film Festival. Alternative trailer available on the film’s MySpace page. Tickets are $11.75 available online at Fandango
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NOTE: I have an afternoon wedding in Bushwick on Saturday. If the timing works out, I’ll go to the film afterwords.
September 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
This movie looks sooooo cheesy and low-budget; I could’ve filmed a better flick with my camera phone!
And how sad that The Scary Haitian from Heroes had to reduce himself to being in this film…
(sorry- I’m a movie snob…)
As for the topic at hand… I’ve been told by a black man that he was tired of dealing with black women for the same reasons given in this film… and he was telling me this as a way to explain why he was interested in dating me.
I say, black women wouldn’t have to be so angry if they didn’t have to struggle so much for the past however many years with dudes who are too busy trying to be fake Gs and leave them broke and with too many mouths to feed… too many sistahs left to be both mother and father, raising kids who went and did the same thing… a nasty cycle that I’m hoping will end soon.
So yeah, some are angry, but they have a very good reason to be…
that said… where are the eligible, educated and cultured black men?? can you point me in that direction?? thanks a bunch!!
September 12th, 2008 at 2:40 pm
I have to agree. I’m not angry and I date whomever I please (truth be told, male or female but let’s not open that can of worms, shall we). I was annoyed with this movie, hell, I was annoyed with Waiting to Exhale too because none of these scenarios speaks to me. What about the chicks that are right down the middle, who do their own thing? Why do I get lumped into a category that doesn’t fit me on either side?
I don’t get it.
September 12th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
I saw this movie. But the best parts are the “real sex” street interviews. This I feel does give an honest impression of what is going on.
I do feel that a lot of black woman like funky are getting smeared by the IR crusaders all over the net. Honestly they are nasty, and bitter black women who do hate black men. So when black men do see black women who are “dating out”. They are seen as bitter/hateful/angry until proven otherwise.
But I’m sure a lot of you don’t really care one-way or another but I’m just giving my 2cents on the subject.
I wish more people would just watch the movie and keep an open mind.
Happy Friday. lol
September 12th, 2008 at 7:04 pm
What exactly is the point of the movie? It just made a contented black woman a mildly annoyed one!
I’m with you on the sexiness of accents! I let one ill-fated relationship limp along for an extra few months because of a French accent.
September 12th, 2008 at 8:21 pm
I think, ideally, we all want to believe that we can date whomever we want. However, ignoring the fact that there are alot of black women who are angry….and rightfully so… takes away from the fact that the anger comes from somewhere. We aren’t born hostile. To quote Flava flav ” I got a right to be hostile, my people bein persecuted….” Black women deal with so much bullshit, from society and black men….sheeeit…I’d be pissed off too. The media portrays black women horribly.
For instance, I was watching this new show on HBO about Vampires and “the lone black character” happens to be this angry black chick who can’t keep a job, because she is overly hostile at society.
like it or not…. actually I was just kinda happy she wasn’t portrayed as a single mother, whose baby daddy is in jail…..
anyhoo. The kneejerk reaction of people is to assume there is a problem if someone isn’t “sticking with their own”. Back in my dating days, I didn’t care…..I was a greedy bastard. LOL. But I also grew up in an area where people didn’t really care. Ain’t liberal America grand?
back to the point……There is a cyclical thing going on between black men and women. Black men have to develop better “game ” to get black women…..Black women get angrier, because they keep getting ” gamed” And black dudes ARE tired of becoming more and more creative. I remember back in HS when I would walk up to a chick and just introduce myself….and get played…..But then I would watch that same chick go out with some knucklehead….because he had “game”….fast forward a few weeks and the chick is whinning because the dude cheated on her……But the nice guy who didn’t try and game you couldn’t get the time of day. Sometimes we reap what we sew. Then we fast forward a few years beyond that….And I’m chillin at a bar talking to some random chick, while biddy from HS is shootin dagger’s at me, from the corner, with her little bitter chick posse……Why? Because I happen to be talking to a white girl. And when I say ” bitter chick posse” we must remember that misery loves company and chicks will gather and comiserate.
Once again I digress, under the yoke of memories steeped in neckswivelingm, finger snapping, ghetto madness. Also please excuse rampant use of HS slang, but it is done for emphasis on just how HIGH SCHOOL the whole issue really is.
I salute you Twanna. You are everything i wish I had an opportunity to date….when I was dating.
*kisses*
September 13th, 2008 at 12:49 am
welll….. there is another black character on that HBO show….. he’s male, black and really flamed out….. am hoping that there will be others of color on that show that will be better REP’d ….. and well that the sister is out there because
she truly understands just where on the crossroads she is standing…and she is pulling no punches….
lamesabassman……. true blood…. no, true grit….
September 13th, 2008 at 2:36 am
Obviously the haters need to see Sanaa Lathan’s Something New. Personally I’m tired of the negativity, I thought with the coming of a Black President, that others would be tired also. All I know is Lathan’s love interest is fine and any man that wants to paint my toenails and handy in the yard has a chance with me. Great article T.
September 13th, 2008 at 3:13 am
Girl, look at that clip again you brown chick you. Did you hear what the man said “I don’t care what color a woman is as long as I can get some peace when I get how” – and black women (brown women — whatever) fall into that category as well – no one, I repeat NO ONE is talking about or ever remotely implying turning their backs on good black sistas – JUST THE CRAPPY ONES.
Don’t get crappy on me my sista – come see the movie first. I’ll be waiting on you, and you well be surprised at what you see.
Thanks for the post, lets meet face to face and get a real understanding – that clip ain’t it, you’ll see. Tim
September 13th, 2008 at 3:20 am
My film is not about interracial dating, the white woman is only in one scene for less then a minute, says 9 words and is never heard from again – it is about angry black women.
Don’t let your anger get it twisted! Watch the clip again and listen. Was it OK for them to say what they said to him? None of you seem to have a issue with that. I tell you, the girls club!
September 13th, 2008 at 4:15 am
The Jaded NYer: I never got into Heroes. Who’s The Scary Haitian?? And, by the way, nothing wrong with being a movie snob!
Cynthia: I know what you mean; they’re an entire richness of experience that doesn’t really get captured on screen.
AverageJoe: Thanks for sharing your 2 cents. :) And, yeah, I’m curious about the movie.
E: Oh, don’t I know. Accents get guys a lot of leeway!!
dkzone: THANK YOU for your comment.
lamesabassman: Which HBO show?
samantha: I thought Something New was such a cute movie!! :)
Tim Alexander: You’re funny!!!! :) If I can make it to the movie after the wedding, I’ll see you there.
September 13th, 2008 at 5:06 am
… an interesting take … problem is, this is IMO, a rare situation of a brother being a ’strong’ cat and holding up his end of the bargain … seriously, sista girls have it rough, and it get COMPOUNDED as in the movie by the klatch of other single, embittered black women, dispensing the same ol’ tired advice, which enables tired brothers to blow thru their lives … I have been known to ‘blow thru’ a time or two …
… chicken or the egg … who is going to change first ..?
September 13th, 2008 at 6:16 am
I am missing something here? Now all of sudden black women are now being label ‘angry women’ in the cimena. Why is it never Chinese Russian Italian Spanish???. I would love to for just 2 weeks to change places and be as privilged and love the way the white man loves his women. The white girl get the most brilliant diamond for her marriage the biggest houses and a man that always seem to want to protect her from the Black man. Tell the truth…Sanna knows nothing about the pain Black women are subjected to day in and day out. No one is there to fight for her when she has to see her Black man and sons gun down and sent to jail because society refuse to to treat them as equals with good paying jobs and respect. Not to mention how threr families are being torn apart so the system can get paid through legal fees and foster care. I must tell the truth though, I could not understand most of what was being said. I’ll have to watch the entire movie
September 13th, 2008 at 9:33 am
Damn. I feel kinda responsible for all this but it was just something that comes to mind when it comes to the women I like. Most of the women I really like fit your mold. I am not saying that a Black woman shouldn’t date a Black man because we, as Black men, have done it too many times. My only problem is when they completely write us off because we aren’t white. It’s like I need affirmative action for the cooch. It’s funny though because I see the same thing with Black men and it bothers me too. I see you walkin around with the Black Power stuff, the dreads, the African garb, etc. and you got the white chick on your arm. It took me awhile to get used to that.
Now, to the second part. I don’t think that Black women are angry, they just lack guidance. Most of the women that I have met have daddy issues, whether it be there father or baby daddy. They have never really seen a real man so they don’t know how to treat a real man. I would agree that a lot of them are more aggressive than they need to be. I tell all my friends that hate when Black men date white women, figure out what every Black man complains about with Black women and change it and you will see a definite change in the number of Black men goin outside. If you have a job, and you keep complaining to your boss about the same set of problems and nothing changes, over time you will just get a new job.
September 13th, 2008 at 9:59 am
True Blood….. the new vampire series….. and it looks it was filmed on the back lot at Wal-Mart’s……
lamesabassman…. you got to see it… to not believe it…..
September 13th, 2008 at 10:02 am
gee…. mr. filmmaker…… it’s only a movie….. or is it…..
lamesabassman……. chill…. or you might lose your viewers…..
September 13th, 2008 at 10:25 am
Nope, it is a message in the guise of a movie.
Jason: “Most of the women that I have met have daddy issues, whether it be there father or baby daddy.”, And that is exactly why they are angry.
A correction to my earlier post: “as long as I can get some peace when I get how”, HOW is HOME. I was sleepy OK. Come see my movie today at 3:00 and find out firsthand about “Angry Black Woman Syndrome (ABS)” – it is real and it is destroying our children.
This film is a message for change, it is not about interracial dating at all.
Tim
September 13th, 2008 at 10:47 am
Ummm…the last time I dated a Black guy was about 10 years ago. However, it is not because I don’t like Black men. I date those that share my interests and personality. I work in corporate finance (fortune 10 company). When I am not at work I am either in some other country SCUBA diving, rock climbing, doing a marathon or triathlon. It is a rare day if I bump into another 30-something black professional, let alone a Black men!
I’ve been doing the online dating thing and just about every Black guy who contacts me are looking for the non-stereotypical Black
Woman. They go on and on about wanting someone who’s not angry, takes care of her man, blah, blah, blah. I automatically delete those guys because I SEE THEM AS JADED AND EXTREMELY NEGATIVE.
I think we (Black and men and women) should take the chip off our shoulders and approach people as individuals. Enough of the stereotypes!
On a side note: If it’s true that the majority of African American Women are walking around angry and pissed off at the world, why aren’t they seeing a doctor? People, if you find yourself angry at random strangers, go see a mental health provider. There’s no shame in it, people!!!!!
September 13th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
As a Black woman raised overseas, I find these discussions very interesting. I’m amazed they happen at all. To me , they point to larger problem so prevalent in the US – labeling and pigeon-holing. In Europe – people are people! That does not mean racism, classism, and bigotry do not exist – they do! But often these prejudices raise their heads only after interactions between people (individuals or groups). Assumptions and stereotypes aren’t readily made – it’s almost “Innocent until proven guilty”. Here the minute a person looks at you, you can feel them passing judgment – oh she’s Black therefore X, or he’s Jewish therefore Y! It’s almost automatic. Why? Are we American so steeped in the fear of ourselves and the fear of others that we can’t simply see each other as human beings – free to be who we want and love (or screw) who we want? I don’t get all the baggage attached…
September 13th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
@Twanna- my bad… I just assumed everyone watched Heroes. The man in the clip, he’s know as The Haitian on Heroes: he plays a character who can erase your memory. Whenever he shows up you know you in trouble… he hardly spoke on the show, so he had this creepy, ominous aura about him.
If you ever get a moment, catch the first season on NBC; it’s good stuff
And if you see this Tired Black Man “movie” PLEASE report back; I’m away for the weekend or otherwise I’d go check it out myself!
September 13th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
Ummm, it’s been pretty well established that chronic anger/irritability is a symptom of depression. When you consider the fact that a disproportionate amount of the black community is poor, and that 70% of black mothers have their babies alone, it makes sense.
Pink_Thursday: You speak the truth. I went to a private college, then worked in publishing for a bit before becoming a dominatrix: I’ve been the darkest one in the room since I was 18.
And it IS weird when guys are like “Hey, wow, you’re black AND not ghetto! Wanna go out?” WTF?
September 13th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
I am laughing my ass off, because I just watched the clip….
My previous post with the ” bitter chick posse” was without benefit of viewing the clip. I can totally relate to what he’s saying.
But I also empathize, in a way, with the women. I was raised by my mother, solely. I know what she went through and I know what the other black women I’ve come to know, have went through. And to be quite honest, I don’t blame them for being angry. My point is they need to direct their anger to the source, and not to the next guy they come across. I’ve been cheatewd on and lied to by women, but I didn’t take it out on the next woman I met. I kept a wary eye, mind you. But I gave and continue to give each new person a clean slate with which to work. I find meyself to be much happier because of it.
@lamesabassman….I totally forgot about the emasculated black dude…Mayber they should have hired Rupaul or something.
September 13th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
I’ve just seen the clip and WOW. As I am all the way in Texas, I won’t be able to watch the film. However, Mr. Filmmaker, I hope the rest of your movie is not as one sided and shallow as that clip. The message I got from the clip is that the Black man is a Saint who can not catch a break. He marries his baby mama, buys her a house and a car, but the bitch is still nagging him. Faced with of all those obstacles he’s FORCED to leave, only to be verbally insulted by her and her cronies when he’s just trying to spend time with his daughter. Oh and let’s not forget that he is financially well off (bought her a house and has another “bigger” one) and she seems to be living off his alimony payments!!!!!!!!!!
OH PLEASE, get real!!!!!!!!!!!
September 14th, 2008 at 1:57 am
there are many good black women who are abused saints – why do you not see it as possible for the same to happen to a good man? It does.
Pink, surly you can’t be that shallow and one sided.
The same thing that happens to a good woman, happens to a good man – whoever tries the hardest gets taken advantage of and abused in most relationships – male or female the giver loses.
Take off the pink rose colored glasses, it’s real.
September 14th, 2008 at 4:04 am
“When it comes to black women’s relationships, people often assume either/or. EITHER you’re a “real” black woman who dates black men exclusively OR you’re a “sellout” who only dates white guys because of (a) self hatred or (b) desperation / you’re fed up with black men. Where’s the space where black women are allowed to love whoever they love without catching bullshit for doing so?”
Dude, people loooove boxes. Specifically, they love to have them handy so they can shove you in one. I mean, if you’re running around being all independent minded and unpredictable and shit, how are they supposed to process you in their minds? I mean, they’d have to actually get to know you and pay attention and whatnot before passing judgement, and where’s the fun in that? That’s actual work!
September 14th, 2008 at 9:31 am
You like..love..whomever…just be happy..life to short to be bothered with bs..lol!!
September 14th, 2008 at 11:32 am
Back on topic… My film is about Anger NOT who you date. Anger and how it is destroying our children and making them repeat our patterns of pain and dysfunction. it is not, I repeat, IT IS NOT about who you date. Go see “Something New” that IS about who you date. You are way off of the topic of “Diary Of A Tired Black Man”.
September 14th, 2008 at 12:23 pm
dkzone…… RuPaul would have been great casting and the show could use all the help it could get…. am hoping it will get better….. but am still wishing for the Easter Bunny to leave some green M&M’s….. fat chance….
but I digress….. dont know about others….. but we as a people have been hosed
for that least 400 years….. but I believe that Ireland holds the record at 800 or 900 years behind the old 8 ball…. when you take a group of people and cast their
fate to the wind…. stuff happens….. and when you take apart whole families …
well you basically have what we have now….. black women are the backbone of our lives….. black men have changed the world only to have lost their place in it.
when some black men make it ….. some share the good with their women….
and there are some who go out and get trophy wives which just about pisses
off any sistahs in a 1000 mile radius….. and sistahs…. I feel your pain….but as
soon as some of you get on your feet….. you find someone who dont look like you and change your whole life style….. now … I myself dont mind everyone finding someone to love…. but there are people who just love to expose the cracks in our shell….. and those are the breaks….. with black men in jail, dead or playin’ the down low…. black women are kinda left to their own devices…and black men who some are real decent get hosed for whatever reason…. they too stray from the path….. it’s all about dreams deferred and anger not reasoned with….. and in this day and age…. this just might be the downfall of us all…..
lamesabassman…. ” can we all just get along….. “
September 14th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Hey lady, I like this article a lot. And I know that black men need to be the LAST ones walking when they see a black woman in an interracial relationship when they do it a lot more often then we do. Just look at the statisics. Anyways, you have the right to date whomever you want. And I feel like you should never limit yourself because you never know what “package” your mate could come in.
September 14th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Hey lady, I like this article a lot. And I know that black men need to be the LAST ones walking when they see a black woman in an interracial relationship when they do it a lot more often then we do. Just look at the statisics. Anyways, you have the right to date whomever you want. And I feel like you should never limit yourself because you never know what “package” your mate could come in.
September 14th, 2008 at 4:47 pm
In my 30-plus years, I’ve learned much. One of the most important is that people say a lot of things–and most of he time it’s ill-informed, snap judgments, based mainly on emotional and little perspective.
People should date whoever the fuh they want. The idea of “you belong to me because you look like” is a form of tribalism that’s so, so, B.C. –and it extends across all peoples.
Are Black women angrier than other women? It would -appear- that way, but you have to think of one important factor: the media tends to give way too much voice and way too much spotlight to the ghettocentric types (I’m not talking about physical location, but attitude) who are invariably the loudest, rudest, and most ready to drop their gloves and duke it out at the drop of the hat.
So if you see a random Black woman being angry, one may equate her with the “All Black Women Are Angry” stereotype—which is very, very unfortunate.
I’ve dated many Black women across a wide social strat (dirt poor to upper-middle class) and the overwhelming majority of them were sweet thangs. I you go looking for a group to vilify, you’ll certainly find one, because every race/ethnic group as segments that can be seen as blackeyes on the group as a whole.
But then the question must be asked: is the media image creating a cultural shift where younger men and women who see these negative images on the Making the Bands and Flava of Loves as the definition of Blackness? An image that is “cool”, money making, and will get you on TV/record? From looking at a few guys I knew back in the heyday of gangsta rap, who assumed the image of the thug to get girl even when they were the biggest nerds, as a bit unsettling.
There are no easy answers. We all come from different experiences, and only open exchanges will get to the hear of the issue…hopefully.
September 14th, 2008 at 5:52 pm
welcome to rock’n'roll……. this did not start here…. is goes from Louie Jordan to Chuck Berry… Elvis….. Ike Turner….. the Temps… Barry White…. Smokey and Marvin…… any way you slice it….. it’s Fame…… and it crosses many streets…. from the angle of the dangle ….. to up close and how do you like me now mode…
the biggest stars come from very humble backgrounds….. it is then,that they are blinded by the lights….. if you forget where you come from…. ya wont know where you are going…… it’s so easy for the rice trails to blow away and you lose yourself….. but today is oh….. so different…. back in the day …. you made it on
whatever backbone you had…… today …you can U-Tube and MySpace yourself to
the FBI data world and WiFi yourself kinda deep….. so everyone is right now..so
15 mins till just what do you consider….. talent…. just what makes you see stars and lights flashing at 3/5 of a mile in 10 sec. DMC came from a verry cool part of Queens and so did LLCool J….. while IceCube hailed from a robust part of El Lay…..and just like their forefathers mentioned above stepped to the sunny-side of the Show Business street and never looked back because an awful lot of people bought an awful lot of music from these artists…and at times… the ones buying didnt look like the ones making the craft….. and that was the kinda progress that a certain MLK Jr. thought about a while back….and for a time …the media loved it….. till certain factions of wealth chose to buy the media and bend it like Beckham….. if blues and R’n'B got busy and created
rock and roll…. what did wealth and media give birth to …. infotainment….
whether it’s sex… race…. or… Life and Death in G and A…. as Mr. Dylan once said…… ” you gotta serve somebody…. it maybe the Devil or it may be the Lord
but you gotta serve sombody” …. the definition of Blackness is and always was… to stay black…. or die….. better to go on your feet than on your knees…
and to continue to shine the light on something as empty as those negative
images that get mucho rotation on the Web’s Info-Highway …we will continue to think of walls as Space and space…. as Walls….
lamesabassman…. ” Think….. it ain’t illegal…. yet…”
September 14th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
Tim,
Surely, you must realize that it is rarely (if ever) the case that a relationship ends because one person was a saint and the other the source of all wrongs. It takes 2 people to make AND BRAKE a relationship. So, yes, I find your depiction (and possible understanding) of human relationships rather shallow. These women weren’t born angry and if you are making a story about their anger you must address the source. I am just not buying into your idea that the saintly husband had nothing to do with the anger coming his way.
Good luck with your fim
September 14th, 2008 at 11:54 pm
Bravo to Pink_Thursday……. ” ’nuff said ” at times.. filmmakers are standing so close to their product that they can barely see the results that they are trying to seek….. so ….. you can bet that if a tree falls in the woods and they ain’t there…
they will still hear it…..
am glad that someone saw deeper than the surface reflections…….
lamesabassman……. now…. can we get back to cupcakes….. green ones….
September 15th, 2008 at 1:02 am
Yet another self hating black girl … Yawn! Seriously, from reading the blog posts that is what you come off as. Looking at your pictures, I can tell that you aren’t what Black Guys are looking for. So you have to settle for White Guys. Yes, I said it. It’s so true. I’ve dated Black Women, who it was obvious wanted to be with Black Men but the Black Men where to busy with the White Women and Asian Women. So you put up this blog to make yourself feel better about having to settle. You are doing a great job.
September 15th, 2008 at 3:18 am
^^^^^WOW. Really??? Ugh…no words.
September 15th, 2008 at 9:34 am
@Jose – Grow UP.
At the other women. lol. I love how your open-minded about dating, but not open-minded about watching the movie.
watch the movie, then come back and speak about it. I feel that it is unfortunate that the only clip you ever see of the movie is him with the white chick in the car. But that really has nothing to do with the crux of the movie at all.
September 16th, 2008 at 4:07 am
Jose
Naw bro, there is no self hate here.
I think we all know where we can find those blogs at.
I can see why you think that, she is heavy on the milk side, lol, but she just like dudes.
Really likes dudes.
Really really, really ,really, really, likes dudes.
But thats cool cause I really, really, really, like chics.
September 16th, 2008 at 4:19 am
“It takes 2 people to make AND BRAKE a relationship.”
No it doesnt, one is good enough, believe that pinky.
You dont have to be saint to get wronged by a devil, and just like black women were not born angry i am pretty sure black men were not born hating women, it usually takes about two to three of the wrong kind from the opposite sex to make you think that.
And it takes a real honest person to know that it’s all BS, and to take them one at a time.
Funny how every one has it all figured out before they have seen the movie.
September 17th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
@ Jason “Affirmative Action for the Cooch”!!!! That’s was too funny!!
October 21st, 2009 at 2:59 am
No Black woman with good sense likes Tim’s film. His entire approach is one of disgust and misogyny when it comes to Black women. He runs a website that is full of hate filled toxic Black men, that make postings so venomous its unbelievable… the likes of which I have never seen and I’ve been on the web since the Compuserve days in the early 1990s!
Sadly, there seems to be a backlash against Black women all over this country by Black men. Nothing we as a group is good enough. Nothing we say is right. The blame for every ill in the Black community (including the lack of committed relationships and high number of single parent homes), is laid at the feet of Black women by Tim and his crew. Since no child I ever heard of got here without the involvement of both a male and female, the rantings on that site by Tim and his backup team against Black women make no sense. Not one of those fellas stuck in a “baby daddy” situation wants to own up to his role in the nonsense. Instead, Black women “should keep their legs closed.” WTF year is this, 1750?
Your review was kind. Tim should be happy it was you posting the review and not me. His eyes would have burst into flames from the firey words I would have used to describe that trash.