Women do not want a man who is sensitive with them.

I am generally what you consider a sensitive man in my behavior towards women, probably due in large part to my neediness as a child growing up in orphanages and foster homes.

But onetime I found myself in a relationship with a beautiful, funny and dynamic woman with whom I played the bad boy.  I got so bad that I knocked her around, I knocked her up (got her pregnant) and split. This woman absolutely loved me for all this abuse back then. Years later, she does not remember me with fondness, and all I have are a lot of regrets about how I acted with her. yes I had a girl, and she was mine, loyal, and fun. But WHAT DID I REALLY HAVE?

Yes women like bad men, but for me, it’s not worth it.  I prefer to be able to treat the people I like with kindness.  You do this with a woman and she will mistake your kindness for weakness.  End of story.

99% of potential relationships are not worth the effort due to this dynamic.

Women want everything. They want the sensitive guy at times, and the “thug” at other times, not to mention an abundance of domestic daily skills. Women are fickle, and will not be satisfied with what they have eventually. Men can be like this as well.

If you want to consider this from a pure perspective equality-wise, women can be absurd. They have the luxury of throwing away perfectly good men, and they choose to do it often. Men are generally expected to pursue women, which provides women with the luxury of stepping back and contemplating absurd issues like this.

As a woman, better yet as a HUMAN, think about this: to say that you desire a man that is authoritative and can take control at the right times, what does this say about you? What does it mean for a man to take control? Does it mean that he will take control of the situation and make sure everything works out right? Does it mean that your own voice may on occasion be overshadowed by his authority? To expect this from a man is to promote gender difference, which automatically puts you in a passive role. Perhaps you should be less worried about what you want in a man and more worried about being what you want in a man yourself. If you do this you will attract a man of the same qualities and not have to deal with the guys who pursue you for their own interests.

I think the problem with many women these days is that they sit back and wait for the man to come to THEM, and then they always COMPLAIN about what they get, for some reason or another. This is absurd. If you want something, you go out and find it yourself. Then perhaps you have some reason to complain about what you’ve found.

lamesabassman…… whatever gets you thru the nite……..

lamesabassman…. it’s not what you see…. but what you select…..

true true. i still regret broking up with a too nice guy. i thought they’re might be a middle groung between too nice and asshole. but now, i don’t know if it exists.

Gentlemen, I advocate you come out rock ‘n’ roll and don’t get emo till a candle’s lit.

are we that ” lost ” or blinded by the light .. those who sell death to others will do
anything to buy themselves into heaven…. and to those people who receive such
gifts will have not learned anything but…. gimme.
and those are the ones waiting for you at the ATM … for their cut of your pie…
to compare compassion and caring with mayhem is to send the death knell to the top of the Billboard charts…. be who you are and not what you wish to be…
and the good will rise….. and to do nothing….. is evil incarnate …..

lamesabassman……… the evil that we do,will outlive us all….