Men Who Like BBW Sex
Happy Manly Monday, my sweets; Hope you all had wonderful weekends! Today’s Manly Monday nod goes to men who crave BBW sex. As I mentioned over on my personal site, “The first time I heard the term BBW, I thought it meant ‘Beautiful Black Woman.’ At 5′5″, 118 lbs and very proud of my heritage, I started telling people I was a BBW. (Sid from the blog Siddity in the City corrected my erroneous mind and told me BBW means BIG AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.)” Okay, so, a short while ago, I read a study that said overweight women have more sex than “normal” women. The first question Jezebel, other folks and I wondered was: “What the fuck is normal?” That aside, I think a blogger named Mollena hit the nail on the head when she said: “I do not think that there is a correlation between sexual activity and weight.” Hmmm … interesting topic, no? So, I thought I’d ask a bunch of other bloggers what they thought. Here’s the skinny on BBW sex …
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Mollena: “My sexuality is less dependant on how fat my ass feels than how good I feel about my fat ass. When I was thinner and miserable, I didn’t give a fuck about sex. However, when I felt good about myself, I noticed I enjoyed sex more thoroughly. When I was fat and miserable, I also failed to give a fuck about sex. However, when I felt good about myself, I noticed I enjoyed sex more thoroughly. The question of ‘who has more sex’ assumes several things, and that is why I have a problem with it. It assumes that a higher frequency of sex has a direct correlation with being ‘better’ for ya, or having more satisfying sex. It doesn’t. It assumes that there is either ‘fat’ or ‘not fat’ and fails to take in things like cultural preference and the gap between how people self-identify and how people would be identified by others [...] Another problem with that question is that it discounts personal taste, and that is a rough one to overlook. I know some men who simply aren’t turned on by fat girls. I know some men who INSIST on a more Callipygian posterior with which to tryst. It is all cut from the same cloth. And there is plenty of sex to go around.”
David F. Cooper: “Not only does starving oneself not put one in the mood it may also indicate a discomfort with sexuality and a nostalgia for the sexual ignorance of childhood. Anorexic women equate being thin with being ‘good’; they want to be ‘good girls’ and have an irrational fear of adult sexuality.”
ThatToyChick: “[...] I love food. I’m willing to go out on a limb here and say that if you are open enough to alter your body shape to try new experiences and (over?) indulge in one aspect, it isn’t a stretch to say it could happen in another, right? So that’s my take…maybe ladies that like to try new foods (psychology-wise, taking something “into them” – *brow waggle*) are more likely to take that exploratory nature to the bedroom as well.”
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Bianca: “[...]I love being a big woman of Color and I’m aware of my body. It wasn’t always easy especially during adolescence when identity is being shaped and formed as for many of us regardless of size and shape (and race and ability etc.). I love the way my body feels, how my ass shakes when I walk, how I can use my entire body to comfort my lover after a great fuck, how the sunshine on the beach makes my stretch marks iridescent, how my body is proportioned, how my lover doesn’t have to hurt his back to lean down and kiss me because i am his height (6ft), how my tattoos have movement, how the curve of my back is just the introduction to my ass, how my breasts are a mouthful. I’m sensuous all the time. I drip sensuality. That is why men and women want to fuck me or have me fuck them.”
Jolie Du Pre: “I’m not a BBW. However, I have a lot of sex with my husband and with other people. I’m a swinger with a solid, honest marriage of over 20 years and a great sex life. I don’t understand this notion that BBW’s have more sex. Some do, for sure. But you can’t generalize.”
maylady84: “I’m a size 16 and all my friends are size 12 and under. I’ve always been the thickest out of my friends since forever! Since I started having sex I’ve been getting it regularly! I’m from a small town in the south, raised on collard greens and cornbread, where I’m from.. men like women with a lot of meat! [...] My body is quite nice, just a bit thicker than what mainstream thinks is beautiful.”
THEflyGIRL: “I’m 5′9 and for most of my adult life, I’ve been a size 16/18. And I must say I have always had my pick of sexual partners. There is a misconception that ‘big’ women (I hate that term) don’t get love and that is by far untrue [...] And I’ve been told that it’s for a number of reasons: from larger women have larger ‘assets’ to we are ‘juicer’. I also look like I can handle a good fucking. I’m built for a good session, I won’t lie.”
Those are a few thoughts from around the blogosphere. Feel free to use the comments section below to share your thoughts. Pssst … As usual, the “Golden Rule” on Funky Brown Chick is be kind / don’t be an asshole. So, if you simply have cruel, stupid or unkind stuff to say, please don’t waste anyone’s time.
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Credit paid: Images above are from Adipositivity. Quote from their website: “The Adipositivity Project aims to promote size acceptance, not by listing the merits of big people, or detailing examples of excellence (these things are easily seen all around us), but rather, through a visual display of fat physicality. The sort that’s normally unseen.” Hat tip to Bianca for the link!!
November 10th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
As my lovely big ass and I have always said…would you rather fuck a pillow or a bike rack?
Exactly.
November 10th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Sister,
You handled this subject matter beautifully. As a woman of size myself, I love when I can read intelligent articles, stories and posts about what it means to be comfortable in your own skin.
People assume that you are always on some sort of diet or that you are grossly unhappy and dream of looking like Olive Oil. Simply not the case. Yes I would like to be a few sizes smaller…but I would still be a full sized woman. That is perfectly fine with me!
And yes there are men who truly truly LOVE BBW!
November 10th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
I have always been voluptuous and have never considered myself a BBW.
I’m 5′7″ and currently size 14, my biggest size ever was 16. Even then I never considered myself (others didn’t either) a ‘big girl’ or a BBW.
This is just my experience I’m posting just to share.
I personally love being voluptuous and have had plenty of lovers who have never complained. :)
November 10th, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Co-Signs what Meeks said lol… Getting poked by skinny hips isn’t fun lol… I think I have always preferred relations with women who carry a bit more weight…
November 10th, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Like Raquel i AM 5′7″ and where a size 14. I have never had complaints about my size from my lovers. They love the voluptuous shape!
November 10th, 2008 at 9:36 pm
Thanks for the quotage :)
Mollena has a great point – maybe it’s just that we’re more confident in ourselves, or happier.
November 10th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
that article also said “overweight,” which is a broader category than “fat” or “obese.”
“overweight” covers a whole lot of territory — 2/3 of adults over 20 according to the national institutes of health. 1/3 of all americans are considered obese. so uh, we’ve got numbers on our side. ain’t enough skinny b*tches out there, even if we were all so inclined :-P.
November 10th, 2008 at 10:51 pm
To each, his/her own.
November 11th, 2008 at 4:23 am
i love a girl with some junk in the trunk but i don’t know about the ones in the photos… i’m a stocky guy but that’s just a bit much.
but that’s just me.
November 11th, 2008 at 11:55 am
Mollena is soooo on point…… ” every body needs some body to love….” as the Wicked Pickett used to sing about and that is so very true…. it’s not how long
you make it ,but how you make it long…… and to say that there’s just more of
her to love is a cop-out if you love her …. then size is never an issue….. it’s how
the both of you relate to each other….. care …. and love each other that matters…
lamesabassman…… to love someone deeply is a very dangerous journey…..
November 11th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
I agree with maylady84. I am 5′ 2″ and a size 12. In California, I am a BBW and in Texas I am not. Region has a lot to do with it.
Either way, I think that it is all about self esteem and sexual comfort.
Most of the women in my family are BBWs and they are the most sexual beings that I know.
November 11th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
Its far easier for me to tell you what turns me off than what turns me on…. A woman who sexually insecure is a huge turnoff for me.
With that said…..
I’ve had sex with big women small women, skinny, thick, tan, brown, white. basically i’ve regulated every shade, and size of that ass. The common denominator for a great time is that we’re both focused on having great sex, not just me focusing and the other person feeling embarresed about how they look. if a woman says “I don’t like my breasts” i will be inclined to ask why and probably pay attention to her breasts in an effort to try and make her more comfortable about them.
Body types lend you to doing different things. Like with thin or small women you can do different positions more comfortably, but that shouldn’t stop you from finding good positions with larger women.
November 11th, 2008 at 3:03 pm
“Every body needs some body to love” – and coincidentally, “The Blues Brothers” was on TV last night. That was a great movie.
Supermodel-skinny is NOT a good look as far as I’m concerned (as Carlos Alazraqui said “they’re like buckets tied together with ropes” – a great line!), but a couple of those pics were just as bad. I’m sorry, but the gold lame’ panties in the rain was just not attractive to me. Different strokes, I suppose.
I recently saw a copy of the Official Body Mass Index Guide (from the AMA or CDC, I think), and DAMN that thing is BRUTAL! I don’t know ANYBODY who fits the “recommended” weights, and that includes some folks I think of as pretty thin. Example: the normal weight range for a man who is 6′ is 140 to 183 lbs. I know people who are six feet tall, and if they weigh only 140 pounds they’re in *desperate* need of a sandwich. 6′ 183 looks damn normal if you ask me, and that’s the UPPER LIMIT of healthy weight according to “the experts”. That’s harsh! So I don’t pay much attention to those experts and just have another piece of KFC.
November 11th, 2008 at 4:47 pm
additionally,
self loathing is soooo not sexay. No matter what you look like
November 11th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
regular ….. or extra crispy…….. Mr.D…… and …. dkzone….. wuz we separated
at birth…. cause… that is kinda like I …. er… hmm… roll wid it….. grandpa always said to me …” son, ya gonna drive me to drinkin’ and I would say and duck
just keep takin’ the bus and you will get there fine…”
and yes…. I peeped the same copy… would never be able to fit those vines….
am so happy in the skin I’m in….. once you realize your limitations … your possibilities are endless…..
lamesabassman……. any extra crispy left, Mr. D……..
November 12th, 2008 at 11:24 am
@ Meeks: Bike rack? Hey, hey now. ;)
@ lovebabz: THANK YOU for saying that!!! Seriously, I really appreciate that.
@ Raquel: Good point; the “b” (big) in BBW varies from person to person. One guys bbw is another one’s “average size” woman. Plus, I think the average (e.g. most commonly found) American woman is a size 12, no?
@ DJ Ed-Nice: Heeeeey, skinny hips can be fun. :)
@ GinaBeena: :)
@ ThatToyChick: No prob about the quotage; thank YOU for sharing. :)
@ tiffany: Yeah, I originally included the word “overweight” in the title of this post, but then I changed is to BBW. I guess it’s kinda strange to use the word “over”weight when that’s the majority of people.
@ Anthony: That’s soooooo true! And, the world is better because of it.
@ dan-E: I’ve got a junk in my trunk, and I’m not even a bbw. :)
@ lamesabassman: Mollena’s great isn’t she??
@ AnnaScarlet: I LOVE YOU ANNASCARLET!!!! :) And, you’re right about the regionally stuff. I’m skinny in the Midwest, curvy in New York and an anorexic sack of bones in the South. :)
@ dkzone: Ahhhh, great sex. I miss that. I haven’t been laid in ages.
@ Baba Doodlius: I love “The Blues Brothers.” That show was soooo popular that people abroad usually go, “Oooooh, Blues Brothers” when I tell them I’m originally from Chicago. What, actually, they usually either say that or “Al Capone.” And, yeah, that BMI stuff *IS* brutual. I’m 5′5″ (or 5′7″ in heels) and they say I’d be 100% healthy at 111 pounds!!!!!
@ dkzone: Totally agree with you: self loathing = not sexay.
November 16th, 2008 at 10:34 am
I am a BBW and there are some that think I am not. I do know when I was thinner I was having more sex. I think it was because I went out more and had a boyfriend at the time. I am always having bouts with my weight. I have recently lost 41 lbs thinking it would make me feel better. Well I am still me no matter what size. I think it all has to do with the way you feel about yourself.
November 16th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
one must be at peace in the skin we’re in….. Mahoganydymond …. your call sign
speaks volumes of being on point with what you said above….. it is not weight…
it is about perception of self…… when you were thinner and having more sex…
that could have been your self esteem on the mountain top enjoying a view
denied you when you were heavier and possibly had a few issues… being thinner
is a mind blower for when you are on the grid and in the sights of many who desire you …. it’s a very good feeling….. and when things change and the weight
returns…. one stills feels the same.. but,the leveled playing field has changed…
so …. one … then needs the re-invent one’s self again with the rider that you will
be in charge with whatever comes your way.. that the one and only one can bring
a smile to your face is you….. and if you cant be with the one you love…then
you love the one you are with….. size means nothing…. how you see yourself
does…..
lamesabassman….. and you can take my arm and roll anywhere with me….
November 16th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
@ Mahoganydymond: I’ve certainly had my bouts with weight. :( Wow, kudos to you for losing 41 lbs. Shit, I just lost 8 and that was hard as hell.
November 17th, 2008 at 10:52 am
Bravo….FBC… 8 lbs. me … I would love to lose that and 8 more…..been spending way too much time in the studio….. need to be back surfing and going to benefit parties….
and big time kudos to Mahoganydymond for losing 41 lbs…… may they never
show it’s ugly heads ever again…..
lamesabassman…… by losing weight, you regain your self wealth again….
November 18th, 2008 at 11:47 am
Yeah, losing weight / maintaining a set weight can be hard.
November 21st, 2008 at 12:35 am
I am so glad this was your post. I saw the incoming link on my site admin page and went, “SHIT! HE PUBLISHED THE PHOTOS!”
;-)
Phew.
November 21st, 2008 at 8:01 am
That’s funny! :)
December 10th, 2008 at 3:18 am
I agree with flygirl she said”I also look like I can handle a good fucking. I’m built for a good session, I won’t lie.”
That the reason i love bbws they can handle a hard ride.
January 4th, 2009 at 11:55 am
When I was 18 I toggled between a size 8/10 because I played tennis/volleyball and pretty much ran everyday. My family has all ways been BBW status so I knew it was coming. My bottom has all ways been rounder. Well, now I am a 16/18 at age 27 and I love it. My sex life has not changed-it’s all ways been freaky and I have all ways taken many lovers (not at the same time)!!! I enjoy sex and I love my body. With having a bigger booty now-I noticed that my permanent sex partner for the last 5 years loves to smack that a#s and I enjoy that a lot too. He did it when I was smaller-a little-but now it’s a constant act. He also has gotten rougher with my size so I will have to agree with flygirl too….confidence is key at any size you have to own the room, kitchen, living room, car, where ever you bang…it’s like being on stage. Make him want you baby!!!!
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