Are White Men Who Like Black Women More Attractive?
I just got a fantabulous email from that woman in Negroshire, Peggy Brunache. “Ok, I got a question for you,” she starts. “Do you or your black female friends find a white man ‘all of a sudden’ attractive once you find out he’s married to a black woman?” Here’s the backstory … Apparently, Peggy saw a TV interview with British actor Luke Goss. She thought he was just another dude until she found out he’s been married to a black woman since 1994. “All of a sudden,” she says, “he became attractive to me. I want to know more about the guy and what makes him tick.” Peggy says she’s more impressed when white dudes marry their black women. “Anyone can screw someone from another race or ethnic group. It’s definitely another thing to take on society’s issues when you publicly state ‘I married this woman of color for better or for worse!’”
Essence magazine did a photo slideshow called “Famous Sisters Find Love In Interracial Relationships” highlighting black female celebrities with white boyfriends or husbands. Go look at it. Moving right along … I totally agree with Peggy, and I’m not sure this is solely about race. I’m attracted to people who understand and have things in common with me. If I find out a black American man speaks another language fluently and/or spent a significant time living abroad, I think that’s gorgeous. If I find out a white dude has (or had) a black girlfriend or ex-wife, I suddenly think he’s a little bit more attractive. Why? Because I’ll assume he’s open-minded, liberal and down with the brown. All good things. It’s not just about how someone looks, it’s about who I perceive that person to be. I know I’m not alone on this because I’d say at least 42.8% of Robin Thicke’s appeal among black women is the fact that he’s married to a black woman. Gabriel Aubry was gorgeous (to me) anyway, but he sizzled a bit more when he linked up with Halle Berry. “Big” from Sex and the City (Chris Noth)? Same thing. And, yeah, I’m sure Robert DeNiro has dated white women at some point in his life … we’ve just never seen them. ;) Is it a coincidence that I think all those boys — Thicke, DeNiro and Noth — are hot? Would they catch my eye as much if they had white girlfriends? Honestly … Probably not.
November 26th, 2008 at 11:46 am
ok. i’ll go first. yes . . . unless the guy only likes black women. then i have to ask a few questions.
November 26th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
I think any man willing to stand up as an individual in this world and represent what his minds eye deems attractive should be admired whether he be a white man or black man. I find it funny that black women are easily bruised when it comes to a black man/white woman scenario. It’s sort of like mommy bloggers, whatever caters to their desires and ideals is attractive. Anything that does not should be destroyed >;). Sorry for the rant but seeing as I have had to pass up a few white women in my day because of what the sisters where saying I find this post annoying ;) Not really but things are not sized up equally even in 2008/2009. Get your white mens while they still want you I say ;)
November 26th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
what’s not to like…. sistahs are soooooo sexy that I sometimes wonder what’s up
wid my guys….. am not saying that all the Ladies dont make the cut cause you
all do and ya’ll make me soooo happy…. but I really dont think that White Men
are not gonna even think about doing anything ” on the down low ” on a sistah
I may be so wrong about that but am willing to go on a limb on this deal….
They will go to great lengths to make a sistah happy at all costs…. some bros
think they can play on both sides of the street at the same time…. and that when
they are found out, it can really piss off a sistah… or any woman who has the misfortune of being kept on a string of a promise while dealing with anyone doing
stuff ” on the down low”….. life presents us all with a wonderful palate of men and women to choose happiness and love …. and at times, we all do the same thing….. MESS IT UP….. get a grip and buy a clue…
we are now standing in the shadow of a new dawn…. let us go deep within
ourselves and re-invent our ways of being real with ourselves…. it’s not too late…. and think of all the fun you could have just enjoying the wonders of being in love with someone other than yourself… and it’s not about the old
mores and taboos…. it’s about tearing covers off and enjoying the warm
centers of wonderment we all have…. and never count yourself out… for there
is one for everyone…. seek and ye shall find… that all of life is not an empty
line… but an adventure to behold.. let’s face it.. if we all have survived 19…
it’s all cake from there….. have a slice…..
lamesabassman….. ” All you need is Love… Love is all you Need… “
November 26th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
A couple of things:
1) Kobe Bryant speaks fluent Italian – is he still more sexy even though he’s also an (accused) rapist and (acknowledged) cheater?
2) Everybody wants to “link up” with Halle Berry. *Everybody.* I know straight women who say “Yeah, I’d do her.”
November 26th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
Whatever makes you ladies happy. On a side note ….
Did you know that the marriage breakdown between black and white is the following …
Black Male/White Female = 66%
White Male/Black Female = 33%
Now when it comes to Kids it’s something like …
Black Male/White Female = 90%
White Male/Black Female = 10%
Now that Obama(who has a black father and white mother) has become president the numbers are bound to jump for Black Male/White Female relationships. Every White Female is going to want a lil Obama.
Your thoughts?
And “Successful black women are more likely to be single because all the black men are either unemployed, lazy, in jail or lazily unemployed in jail.” isn’t an excuse.
November 26th, 2008 at 2:28 pm
yo….. on the Halle Berry tip…… count me in….. big time…. stone killer…
lamesabassman…… she turns me insideout……
November 26th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
and…. Jose….. Successful black women are more likely to be single because it’s
their choice at the moment for they have broad palate to choose from as all the
other wonderful women out there….. and all black men are not lazy,unemployed
or lazily unemployed in jail….. and since you made the early release program
from Chino… you just may be behind the curve… there are a lot of single black
men who would highly offensive to that most dangerous of comments that fell
from your non-thinking mouth….. you may need that filter between your brain
and mouth checked for Chino contraband…. excuses are like assholes… everybody has one ….. there are a lot of men…. of all colors who might be in the same unemployed or in jail… but not lazy … boat… to connect … you must
come correct.. and for the way you come across .. Saturday nites must be a two-handed approach for you…..
lamesabassman…. please dont let your tone keep you alone….
November 26th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Yes, Those men get a little extra sexy umph from me because they like and date black women. I am currently attracted to a white man and I swear whenever he is in the room with me, my nipples get hard. I hate the fact that I even like him like that but chemistry is chemistry.
November 26th, 2008 at 3:12 pm
@lamesabassman : The quote was from one of Twanna’s blog post. Idiot!
http://funkybrownchick.com/2008/04/18/everyone-%e2%99%a5s-an-asian-boy/
November 26th, 2008 at 3:38 pm
@ ieishah: Oh, yeah, that’s a whoooole different story — the dudes who *ONLY* like black women should be avoided at all costs. I need to write a blog post about that soon.
@ netdoc66: Is there a double standard when it comes to black man/white woman vs. black woman/white man? Maybe. It is fair or right? Nope.
@ lamesabassman: I love that song!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=__gl5UC_21I
@ Baba Doodlius: Hell yeah; a tongue that speaks Italian covers a multitude of sins!! ;) Kidding, of course. That whole “all things being equal” stuff factors in a bunch. And, yes, I would totally do Halle Berry. :)
@ Jose: My thoughts? Where the hell are you getting those bogus numbers??? And, by the way, if you read the post, you already know that “Successful black women are more likely to be single because all the black men are either unemployed, lazy, in jail or lazily unemployed in jail” comment was NOT an excuse; it was specifically reference to “Want a stupid stereotype?” Because, of course, that’s exactly what that is.
@ lamesabassman: Fret not; anyone who read that whole post got it.
@ Miss Pam: Chemistry is, indeed, chemistry! :)
@ Jose: Hold the name calling and, as I mention above, anyone who read the entire post totally “got it” and knew that wasn’t an excuse.
November 26th, 2008 at 3:50 pm
i feel like mom just came in the room and settled a dispute. thank you, twanna. i was starting to get scared.
on another note, you know about ‘guys with a preference’ too, huh? those for whom the word ‘preference’ is an understatement? i’ll be the first to respond on that post too.
November 26th, 2008 at 4:12 pm
yes, ma’am…..
lamesabassman….. ahhh … Love is in the Air……
November 26th, 2008 at 4:14 pm
awww. … ieishah…. guys… we be cold busted agin….
lamesabassman…… mercy on the court…. please…
November 26th, 2008 at 4:39 pm
i’ve dated a white man who looooved black women. not sure if he dated only black but it was a bit weird to feel like i was being adored and idolized. and when things got intimate he turned into this little boy character that i didn’t find attractive at all. like he wanted me to be his mama. i’m not stereotyping. just speaking from this specific experience.
i think you make a good point twanna. aside from deniro, the examples you give are good ones but i think that i would feel about the same about those men were they not associated w/ black women.
i always reference suheir hammad when talking about these kinds of things. to feel like you are into me initially and consistently because of what color my skin is turns me off. i “don’t wanna be your exotic” no matter how beautiful you think i am or how beautiful our children would be.
http://vodpod.com/watch/838499-suheir-hammad-not-your-erotic-not-your-exotic
November 26th, 2008 at 9:03 pm
I agree with ieishah. I once dated a black woman who confided that she had never dated a black man (and didn’t ever plan to), though she had dated white and Asian men. That may have been her preference, but it struck me as self-hatred and diminished her inner beauty in my eyes.
November 27th, 2008 at 3:59 am
I would say yes mainly because it does show that they are open minded, but I would look at far more than that. Like what kind of person they are. If they are intelligent, funny, kind and confident with themselves. Those are the qualities of a good man.
November 27th, 2008 at 9:06 am
@ ieishah: :)
@ mssmithisfamous: Oooh, thanks for that link. :)
@ David: Exactly! It goes both ways. Thanks for sharing that. :)
@ starkitty50: Ah, a good man. I love those.
November 27th, 2008 at 10:30 am
YES! Anyone who has the good sense to appreciate the beauty of black women is alright with me ; )
November 27th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
Yep, when I know someone is attracted to black women, I find them more attractive, but sometimes, weirdly enough, it has the opposite affect.
Also, I find someone more attractive when they have similar views on certain things, inc. music, religion, politics etc
November 28th, 2008 at 10:38 am
@ jen: Agreed. :)
@ Olivia: Exactly! And, yeah, I think it’s less about ethnicity in general than it is about perceived similar views.
November 28th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
or …. maybe it’s how ya’ll look jeans…… killer
lamesabassman…… I… 8 2 much…….
November 28th, 2008 at 6:39 pm
I love the comments here. I am very superficial when it comes to looks. I judge attractiveness based on looks only: not on skin color or association with a hot woman.
Halle is beautiful but she wouldn’t make me give my love for “sausage” Yeah…I said.
alicia
November 28th, 2008 at 9:22 pm
@alicia lol! we call it ’salchicha’ around these parts. sometimes we use ‘chorizo’ too. the name, that is.
November 29th, 2008 at 10:12 pm
@netdoc66–
I’m a black woman, but I’ve never been angry or hurt when a black man decides to date someone from another race…In fact, the black man I’m dating wouldn’t be here right now without his white mother–a woman whom I happen to like a lot.
@David–
I totally hear you! It’s self hatred if someone can ONLY date someone of another race.
November 30th, 2008 at 12:50 am
@ alicia: It’s okay to be superficial. When it comes to dating, you can make whatever choices you like. Date a rock star. Date a banker. Date a really hot guy with zero brains. Anything’s possible. That’s what makes it so fun! :) Seriously, I complain about my dating life a lot, but that’s one of my favorite parts about it — looking at beautiful people up close & getting to know someone else’s world.
@ ieishah: Okay, I’ve never heard “chorizo” used that way. :)
@ Rochelle: What?? A woman who actually LIKES her inlaws??? ;) Actually, I was totally madly in love with the family of the dude I almost married. I once told him, “I think I like your family more than I like you.” And, I wasn’t kidding. His parents were amazing people. I still miss them and think of them often.
@ David / @Rochelle: I agree and disagree. I think it’s much more complex than that. For example, two (white) male acquaintances who read this blog come to mind. Both almost always date Asian women. Sure they’ve got issues (who doesn’t???) but, for them, I don’t think it’s about self-hatred.
November 30th, 2008 at 6:28 am
Seems to me that question the question that begs to be asked is, are these the same black women that got so outraged when they see black men, mostly celeb’s and sports folks who get with and marry white women? That was causing a big stink as I seem to recall. I personally say “Get in where you fit in” Shouldn’t matter what color the skin is but it must work both ways. I always look at it this way when someone asks me if a black woman being with a white guy or chaldean guy, or what ever guy. Why would it bother me? I didn’t want her. Plus there i this answer I give when talking about gay marriage that applies here, “It’s hard enough for two people to find one another at the right times in each others lives to where marriage can work, what should it matter if they’re both men, both women, different skin colors, or whatever aso long as they’re both mentally competent adults.’ After all there are somethings in life that people have no right to vote about and love and marriage are two of those things.
November 30th, 2008 at 6:30 am
I am involved with a Chinese lay and fully intend to marry her. I do not have issues other then a deep love and respect for her.
November 30th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
In some ways. I do take more intrest in a white guy if i know they have dated a woman of colour in the past. But in some ways i find it a turn off especially if they ‘only’have interest in black women or their last women looks too similar to myself, i start to wonder if its some sort of fetish. I met a white guy once who was a great guy & was open to being with me & holding my hand in an area where there were so many white people. He said he liked all kinds of women, but had just never happened to be with a black women before. That to me was more attractive because i felt that he liked me for men not just because i’m brown.
November 30th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
Sorry about the typo’s. It was very late/early and I was very tired. The Chinese lady is what I meant to type,I would never disrespect her or any other woman by calling her that.
Not even if it were just me and the guys hanging out.
November 30th, 2008 at 7:22 pm
I just stumbled on this blog and really happy that I did.
I agree that race should not be an issuse, ever. But it is and the images seen every day have a negative impact on how Black women may view themselves. As a Black women, I must say that a White man does become more attractive to me when I know that he has dated a Black women. Everywhere you look in media and everyday life, there is a constant reminder that being a Black woman is not good enough. In videos, extemely light or White women get the starring role as the woman being courted. Meanwhile, there are plenty of brown-skinned women available to bend over and make their ass clap.
I feel the self-hate thinking that moves Black men to date every race other than Black women as a way to move up in career or status or their own self-esteem is the same self-hate that makes some Black women feel more attracted to White men that want to date them. It is almost like a justification that says ‘yes, you are good enough’. Sad, f*cked up, but true.
November 30th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
really? they don’t really become more attractive to me as a black woman.i guess cause i look at every situation individually.
its all about personality and if you can connect with a person on many diffrent levels It shows me that as a white man he respects an appreciates her an dosen’tcare about sterotypical bull he just see’s her for who she is on every level and loves that.
i understand the superfical aspect of it.again its all based on the individuals there are good-looking white guys and there are not so good-looking white guys.
just the same with every race.skin tone should’nt matter in this instances because you can’t help who your attracted too.
i steer clear of white guys who date only black girls
i feel like there doing that only because of the novelty of the idea that she’s exotic,a sexy sistah,etc
all sterotypical ideas of black women.
when not all black girls are the same
honestly i’d love to date a white guy who’s never been with a black girl before because any preconcived notion/sterotype even the slightest he’s had based on the way black women are protrayed in the media would be totally shattered :) (because lets face it everyone sterotypes at least once in there life time)
December 1st, 2008 at 4:22 am
do we really need to dissect it to feel good… is it that deep to deal with…..
does it feel good…. are you happy….. is it that bad out there that we must define
love as an lab op and test and choose which quantum theory to apply to determine nirvana….. we are above the beast…. we should know better.. or …
did we miss a memo……
lamesabassman….. ” Stop the world…. I wanta get off…. “
December 1st, 2008 at 8:46 am
@ Art J: You ask, “are these the same black women that got so outraged when they see black men, mostly celeb’s and sports folks who get with and marry white women?” Didn’t even think of addressing this but I should probably point out: not all black women get enraged when they/we see black men dating whoever they’d like and I don’t think all black men get pissed when they see black women dating whoever they/we like. Hmmm … Without giving this any thought, I’d say there are probably an equal number of people who are anti IR dating in all communities — it’s just more accepted to be open about that in some communities that others. For example, I know Jewish men who are 100% open about the fact they’ve only marry a Jewish woman and their families openly frown on people within the community who don’t stick to the rules. By the way, I totally agree with the “Get in where you fit in” stuff in all aspects of life. That’s one of the many reasons I came to New York; I fit in here. Couple other quick things … About “issues”, I wasn’t just referring to ethnicity — I think we all have issues in dating in general; no one’s a perfect person or partner. And, yeah, fret not about the typos. I certainly make a lot, too. :) This is a judgement free zone.
@ anonymous: Ditto!! :) I sooo know what you mean about the white dudes that say they ONLY date black women. Maybe we should collectively buy a billboard that lets ‘em know: “That’s not hot.” I’ve had more than one dude tell me he likes black women because they have “flava.” Oh my. :( I agree with you: I want a dude to like me for me, not just because I’m brown.
@ Melly: YAY!! I love new readers. :) If I had a lollipop, I’d give it to you. :) For the record, (1) I cannot make my ass clap and I have no desire to do so and (2) I might touch on this notion of “good enough” in another blogpost because I think it’s leftover 1960s bullshit. At Ochi’s lounge, this comedian Rachel Feinstein said something about this, too. Granted it was “comedy” but I hate when people using “breaching taboos” (e.g. obscenity, racism, sexism, etc.) as a crutch to pull laughs from the audience.
@ sophie: You said, “you can’t help who your attracted too.” Very true. And, yeah, I think each of the black women who’ve commented on here so far has cosigned the “steer clear of white guys who date only black girls.” Seriously, someone should put an alert out so those dudes stop using that as pick up lines. Ooh, ooh, ooh, fuck I still owe y’all a “How to Date How Black Chicks” post. I’ll *DEFINITELY* include this in the “DON’T” pile of the DOs and DON’Ts list. By the way, you said, “i’d love to date a white guy who’s never been with a black girl before.” Been there. Done that several times. Each instance GREAT. Very, um, delicious.
@ lamesabassman: That’s a beautiful comment!!! :)
December 1st, 2008 at 9:35 am
It is interesting you mentioned Jewish men because in addition to being a black man I am also a Jew. I too only wanted Jewish women then I reconsidered my position and decided that didn’t matter so much. It may become a problem later on, who knows,but I love who I love and she is not a Jew. She has no religion.
December 1st, 2008 at 9:37 am
I don’t tend to find most white men who like black women more attractive, but do find white men with power, who like black women, more attractive. In general, I find most men (regardless of group) with power who like black women more attractive.
I could be assuming that men with power who like Black women are attracted to them for more that phenotypic reasons, because Black women are not generally utilized as trophy partners. Of course, these issues are more complicated than I am making them out to be at the moment. These are only my immediate thoughts.
December 1st, 2008 at 9:44 am
I just happen to be a jewish black man and I at one point decided to only be with Jewish women (any skin color, but Jewish) then I rethought my position and changed ditched that idea. I love who I love, and she happens to not be Jewish. Who knows, it may be problematic later but we can work through it.
December 1st, 2008 at 9:45 am
I just happen to be a jewish black man and I at one point decided to only be with Jewish women (any skin color, but Jewish) then I rethought my position and ditched that idea. I love who I love,and she happens to not be Jewish.
Who knows, it may be problematic later but we can work through it.
December 1st, 2008 at 9:51 am
Anna Scarlet, I totally get what you mean, and I do agree
December 1st, 2008 at 11:46 am
Sorry for the extra post. I was stuck in a time space continum loop. That was my nerdy/trekkie excuse. The real story is I had a major. Brain freeze and reposted it.
December 1st, 2008 at 1:40 pm
I really hate to do this…but I’m about to go into a chorus.
But here goes.
I myself have always believed that love comes in all colors,shapes,and sizes.I am in fact, a lovely brown woman, dating a beautiful dominican man(that’s neither here nor there).However, I totally understand why black women have a certain complex with black men dating women who aren’t black.
Black women are very aware of the fact that there is a shortage in eligable men. I hate to say it, but its true.
Black women also have to deal with the fact that being brown, seems to make you less attractive.I don’t feel this way, but that’s what pop culture has shown us.
So here it is in short.
“Black women are seen as unattractive.The only men that see us as attractive are black men.So, when we see eligable black men with white men, it pinches our heart a teensy bit, because to that woman she’s thinking that could have been me”…its sad, but its one of those things that only brown girls understand.
And in response, I do find men who find brown ladies attractive, extra sexy. : )
December 1st, 2008 at 8:34 pm
It definitely turns me off, heck, it makes me cringe, when I find out a guy doesn’t “like” or find black women attractive. =\
December 2nd, 2008 at 1:21 am
@ Art J: Awesome. :)
@ AnnaScarlet: Ooooh, interesting and SMART comment. Would you think less of me if I admitted I looked up the word “phenotypic”?? :)
@ Olivia: :)
@ Rachel: Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@ Aitch: Yeah, this is totally off topic, but it totally turns me off if a guy doesn’t “like” any group. Hell, if I was on a date with a guy and he was like “Um, I don’t like little people” I’d think he was a jackass.
December 2nd, 2008 at 5:20 am
Are black men who like white women more attractive?
Most sistas would say ‘FUCK NO’
Such is life.
December 2nd, 2008 at 12:26 pm
I’m so glad to be Beeish…. I dont know what to do…. ya know … if we all suffered
from MAD and we ended up like the survivors in that ” Planet of the Apes” movie
when we pulled off our masks to “reveal our inner selves” just what would we talk
about then….. if we all ” looked alike”………
at the end of the day…. all that matters is that you found somebody that loves you for you….. and not because you can clap your ass….. or you dick drags the
ground…. or you can scratch your elbow with your tongue… or suck a golf ball
thru 40 ft of hose….. it’s that you can walk down the street arm-in-arm so much
into each other that you cant wait to bring them home to Mama… and if at all
possible be with each other forever….. nahhh… that would a bit much to contemplate……
lamesabassman……. but…. we can dream… can’t we……
December 2nd, 2008 at 1:03 pm
p.s. Rachel….. you are so right….. there is a shortage of black men… when the
Draft was active…. a lot of us… were sent up… take a small trip around your town and see where the induction centers are set up…. on the poor side of town
the same for poor whites and Latinos…. we all got swept up with the same broom
and … now with no Draft and after 9/11…. Jingoism ran wild… and we all signed
up….. and if we are not dying there…. we are dying in prisons of the mind and
the brick and mortar kind…. Drugs and Jail tell terrible tales about dreams deferred…. so, the ones that dodged all of that and went to college… got a decent job… I guess that the next step was looking for a trophy… and some came
running and never looked back….. and totally forgot just what they had left
behind….. there is a lot of guilty as charged out there on both sides of the rope
to the point of …. does it really make a difference… is there a balance…
or are we all doomed to circle the airport of Life… never,ever to land….
lamesabassman…….. hope for the best…. pray for the worse….
December 2nd, 2008 at 2:54 pm
I could be wrong but it seems the heart of the article is basically dealing with some black woman’s feelings of insecurity.
Basically, It seems to me. That a white man or non-black man whom a black women wouldn’t necessarily deem attractive, or gorgeous. Once they discover that they date or married a black women. Then all of the sudden. This guy is wall on the poster material.
I have to give Rachel credit, because not too many black women will be as honest as she was. But the only problem I have with the comment is that it beyond ridiculous that women feel this way.
I understand about the media, and why women feel insecure about their blackness. But what I am seeing now why some black women who celebrate a black woman with a white man. Its basically admitting that you feel whites are above blacks. When I see some black women acting this way. It implies too me that only a white man can validate the beauty of a black woman. They will be protest, but the evidence is clear too me.
No, I am not painting with a broad brush, and this is not a comment on the IR relationships themselves. I am talking about the people who put extra emphasis on a white man and a black woman relationship. As if black woman are finally beautiful.
It just screams insecurity. I honestly hope there will be a day when this nonsense is over.
December 2nd, 2008 at 8:21 pm
i’m currently dating a white man (my 1st ever white boyfriend)…personally i do find white who like black girls more attractive (they must be good looking to some extent though). He treats me much better than anyo of the other bf’s i’ve ever had…treats me like ima queen or something (not saying that its because he’s white and i’m black…i suppose that’s just the way he is)
December 4th, 2008 at 6:32 pm
I would have thought Gabriel Aubry and Robin Thicke were attractive anyway but knowing they’re so open minded gives them a little something extra.
For more on this theme, check out Something New starring Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker.
December 4th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
From up at the top: “Peggy says she’s more impressed when white dudes marry their black women.”
I’ve been with my black GF since 2005 when we decided to move in together. I proposed to her 2 years later and we got married last Labor Day Weekend! After 3 months of marriage we’re still very happy and very much in love.
We wanted to do something for the interracial community, so we started a new website just for that purpose. It’s a free forum/message board where you can post your thoughts and view some relevant videos. It’s located at: http://www.mixedcouples.info Please join the fun.
December 5th, 2008 at 11:18 pm
@ JoBmore
“Its basically admitting that you feel whites are above blacks. When I see some black women acting this way. It implies too me that only a white man can validate the beauty of a black woman. They will be protest, but the evidence is clear too me…I am talking about the people who put extra emphasis on a white man and a black woman relationship. As if black woman are finally beautiful.”
Loved that.Completely agreed with your comments.I have nothing against interracial dating,as I am a product of such a union,but suddenly its as if white men have become the ideal that we should all be aspiring to.
I see alot of Posts/comments on blogs and forums such as this, that have the ‘OMIGOD! A white guy might actually find me attractive..YAY!” element.Makes me shudder.
December 6th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Whoa, looks like I missed a few comments here …
@ Anthony B: As I mentioned before, “Is there a double standard when it comes to black man/white woman vs. black woman/white man? Maybe. It is fair or right? Nope.” For the record, I don’t care who wants to do who — whether it’s black women, black men or anyone else.
@ lamesabassman: :)
@ JoeBmore: Whoa, whoa, whoa. Let me point back up to the original blog post: “I’m attracted to people who understand and have things in common with me. If I find out a black American man speaks another language fluently and/or spent a significant time living abroad, I think that’s gorgeous. If I find out a white dude has (or had) a black girlfriend or ex-wife, I suddenly think he’s a little bit more attractive. Why? Because I’ll assume he’s open-minded, liberal and down with the brown. All good things. It’s not just about how someone looks, it’s about who I perceive that person to be.” Yes, give Rachel credit where credit’s due. But, containment, containment, my friend. Please don’t generalize one or two comments to (1) the entire blog post and/or (2) to be a reflection of black women’s attitude by saying “the heart of the article is basically dealing with some black woman’s feelings of insecurity.” Further, you mention: “It implies too me that only a white man can validate the beauty of a black woman.” Nope. I think the point that several people made above is that the media denies black women’s beauty, so it’s nice when people actually step above the bullshit and appreciate it. And, yes, I think you’re painting with a broad brush. If you’re *SERIOUSLY* interested in understanding the politics of images of beauty and how the pop culture media affect culture, read up on the “Black is Beautiful” movements of the 1970s.
@ cecestar: :)
@ Zen: Yeah, I saw Something new. Gonna do a post on movies about interracial couples soon — similar to the one I did about movies with older women and younger men. :)
@ George: Thanks for the link.
@ Mimi Elizabeth: See my comments to #JoBmore.
December 6th, 2008 at 4:42 pm
I tend to prefer to date white guys, but I dont necessarily view white guys as MORE attractive when I find out they’re dating or married to black women. A attractive white guy is an attractive white guy, whether or not he’s with a black woman.
That being said, I prefer to date white guys who have dated black women in the past…. I dont really feel comfortable being the ‘first black girl’ for every white guy I meet.
December 7th, 2008 at 6:49 pm
I like this article.
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December 8th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
@ Gloryus: Oh, but being first (at anything) can be a lot of fun. Just ask Obama. ;)
@ lina: And this post likes you.
December 8th, 2008 at 11:56 pm
My final post on this subject, the feeling I get from these posts is that some of you feel a white guy is more attractive when he has dated a black woman but feel insulted and angry when you see a black dude with a white woman or rather (non black). That doesn’t work, either you are for IR relationships or not, can’t be for them for you but against them for us. Chose a side of the fence and go there, don’t try to straddle the fence. If you can fuck other races so can we. Don’t want to hear that bullshinto about lack of men either, there are plenty of black men around, just some of you have way too many qualifiers. He has to be this tall, this rich, this whatever.
In fact it seems in my case that I was cute as a kid and as a teen I got my share of, by being funny but I am not a goodlooking dude by any means. I give it hell in the sack though and I am a black dude that admits to eating… That has gotten me every woman I hav e ever wanted. As far as looks go though, it was not until I dated white and chinese girls in highschool, and chinese and trinidadian (sp?) in college that some black woman thought I was attractive.
In other words stop being so superficial, there are plenty of us out here, well not me anymore but others. Look past the top layer and you might find the treasure you say you want.
December 9th, 2008 at 12:02 am
Now that I think about it, my first white girlfriend was in middle school, still friends today. Still cute as hell too.
December 9th, 2008 at 12:10 am
Here is my third last post (okay I keep coming out of retirement), in my dealings with black women, my ex-wife is one and many
ex-girlfriends are also.
I have noticed that black women seem to give black men nothing but a hard time, argumentative, loud talking them, challenging their manhood, etc…
Yet when with white men or rather non-black men they are nothing but sweetness and light.
I have often wondered if this is because of some perceived inferiority complex, the same that drives them to seek affirmation in the white man’s eye.
Not that all of you seek this or even feel this was but some come off that way with their posts.
Get in where you fit in, but don’t seek affirmation in others eye’s.
December 9th, 2008 at 12:12 am
About the first white girlfriend in middle school, we were both in middle school. She was in grade 7 and I was in grade 6.
Just wanted to clarify, that first version read too pedo to leave it.
December 9th, 2008 at 8:34 pm
Okay, I was flipping through the comments and a few caught my eye. The comments regarding successful black females being single in particular. This statistic is not opinion it’s fact and I’m evidence of this fact. I’m from Toronto, I have a Masters education and a fantastic job. I didn’t date much in high school because I went to a 90% Catholic Italian school. Of course there were guys that I was attracted to but I was never approached. I didn’t really date in university as I went to a University outside of Toronto (Western) that is mainly White (although students at the time that weren’t from the city thought it was incredibly multicultural, generally because they had never stepped foot on a uni campus in Toronto). Anyway, I moved to London for Grad school and FINALLY began dating. I dated men of all races ethnicities and religions. I left the UK for a job in California and I am back on the market as another successfully single black female and it is so disheartening (I wish I was working in Toronto where interracial dating would be a non-issue). It’s not as though I am only interested in dating black guys, because that is not the case at all, I’m attracted to men in general, and I have long given up on that idea, but the majority of white guys seem to be too intimidated to approach black women (myself and my single black friends…[bare in mind I keep a very mixed group of friends and it is only ever us black gals that have a hard time on the dating scene]), and the majority of black men seem to go for white women (my white friends being the case in point). I don’t have a problem with black men dating white women, but I do have a problem with black men who date white women exclusively,and will literally push gorgeous black Halle Barry look-a-like types out of the way in clubs to get to a white girl and visa-versa. I find it baffling and really annoying. I wish everyone would get over their racial-hangups because right now, I’ve been left out in the cold and America is just frustrating me. I’m attractive, I’m educated and I’m successful and simply because I’m a black female I am still single.
December 10th, 2008 at 4:06 am
ahem….. Art J…… have we been in the green M&M’s again…. I notice a few missing……. 59 sides of the same hide…. and all are sooooo deep… many are called…. but, few are chosen….. and this be a mighty deep chosen….. and I can
feel the pain…. the wonder … the hope….. the vanquished rising tide of silence…
and the all knowing reason for being real at all costs… the road less travelled is
the very one each and every one of you have stopped here to say…. then gone
into the wind … to taste the slings and arrows of life outrageous as it happens.. you faded the fates and roll your point… and you’re still standing..
you’re still on the case …. sharing the pain and joy of whatever is getting you thru the night…. that cold-hearted reaper called Life awaits the dawn’s early
light to cast you into play once more…… dont keep score…. you dont need
more….. you need to be ……. it ain’t fun if you ain’t…..
lamesabassman…….. got game……
December 10th, 2008 at 5:34 am
Lamesabwhateveryournameis,
Reduce the dosage by half and repost that comment.
Keep in mind my comment that this observation is based on MY dealings with black women,if your reality is different the bully for you. If I saw a red car and you saw a yellow one doesn’t mean I didn’t see a red one, you just saw a different car. If you can understand that. Your experience may just be different then mine.
December 10th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
@Sarah
I read your story on Topix. Stop following me. lol
But I would say that you seem to be an interesting well traveled person. Date whomever you want, and enjoy your life.
But I have issue with this statement.
“I do have a problem with black men who date white women exclusively,and will literally push gorgeous black Halle Barry look-a-like types out of the way in clubs to get to a white girl and visa-versa.” – That would never happen in a million years. If it did happen then that loser was the exception and not the rule.
Trust Me. If you are everything you say you are. You should not have any issues dating any race of man in America.
Best of luck to you.
December 10th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
ahem… Art J….. have you been in the dark that long that you dont know when
someone is in agreement with you….. so you have been around the block… so has everyone on the planet…. and everyone has their own private Idaho…. at the
moment…. Pain seems to be at a all time high and the only remedy is to vent…
venting is good…. when done with some thought process involved…. all worries
just float away….you can be all over map as a long as you have some location to
arrive alive…. all your points are valid as long as you ID the target first…. I have your back for I have walked those mean streets…. you have to know when to say
when and step to the next level and live your life…… leave the past with the trash
the green M&M’s represent whatever gets you thru the night… they could be your thoughts … or your actions whatever motive moves your emotions…
it’s not drugs…. or booze… or sex that eases your path in life…. but your
positive take on your situation and apply that to your gain…..
in the book ” The Art of War” it is said when you resort to negative actions
you have already lost your cause…… in a world such as this…. being positive
is your best weapon…. forward ever, backwards never…..
and it’s lamesabassman…. to you…. to get respect,you have to give it… on every damn level of and in… your life…. it’s the only thing that no one can
take from you…. it’s you that has the power…. to toss it away…..
lamesabassman…. comedy is easy….. life is hard….” livin’ up yourself”
December 10th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Good point there bud, I’m no poet so the stream of conciousness there is wasted on me, I am just a simple man with a brain that works in fits and starts. Did not mean to offend you, did not understand you. I am not one of the enlightened folk out there so boil it down to simplest terms for a brute like me please. My brain could get stuck in the mud trying to keep up with you buddy.
December 11th, 2008 at 1:44 am
cool runnings, star…. all is Irie…… enjoy the life you live….. for it can all change
on the morrow…. in a NY minute…..
smile ….. it moves the soul…. and then you’re on a roll
lamesabassman….. I was once … you…. am now … enlightened….. grow…
December 13th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
I’m a white male who finds other women of other races more attractive then women of my own race. I wouldn’t call it self hatred, I’m very proud of my heritage and my race. I currently am dating an asian women and I coudlnt be happier. I like the difference in culture, and I like to learn new things. Women of other races just interest me more, I find them more attractive and fun to be around.
Just my two cents.
December 15th, 2008 at 8:36 pm
I agree Ryan the interest in an other persons relationship is not that we are a like… but what can I give this person I’m adoring caring loving …in this relationship to share these gifts with others…
relate to give… to create together
December 19th, 2008 at 10:18 pm
i really like black women but i really like you funky brown chick i love hoy you look what you wear you the best black women a man could ever find and if you dont like me ok
December 19th, 2008 at 10:20 pm
when i said hoy you look i really meant how you look
December 20th, 2008 at 7:10 am
K
lamesabassman …. are we still on the heart of the matter or did we go astray..
December 20th, 2008 at 11:07 pm
I am a moor, moreno, negro,pietro, blackman, latino, latino moreno, these are all name that i am called because my mother and father bless their hearts are from the beautiful island of Borinquen(Puerto Rico), I am a nationalist who know his story therefore i know my race. Know that I got myself out of the way, i will like to ask all blackwoman and man a question? WHAT HAS THE CAUCASIAN MAN AND WOMAN DONE TO DESERVE YOUR LOVE AND ADMIRATION?
pontificated on these if you do not fear thinking
December 20th, 2008 at 11:57 pm
yep….. made that wrong left turn southeast of the Memphis Blues …. again….
lamesabassman…… which way is ….. up…..
December 23rd, 2008 at 10:00 am
co. sign. i thought chris noth was kind of sexy as Big on SATC, but when i saw that oprah rerun last week where they showed his baby mama on camera, he earned some extra sexy bonus points.
why are white men who date black women (but not those who fetishize us) more attractive? simple: people who find me and folks like me desirable are far, far sexier than those who don’t.
that’s true whether we’re talking about white men who date black women, or black men who date women with afros (’cause not all of y’all do).
the reverse also holds true. black men who date non-black women lose some sexy points due to the Wesley Snipes Factor. i’ve met, heard of and read about so many black men who throw black women under the bus to justify their dating preferences. so when i see a black man with a non-black women, my first reaction is usually, “i hope he’s not one of *those* negroes,” — unless said negro is broke, ugly, or triflin, of course. in that case, have at it.
December 23rd, 2008 at 6:43 pm
I watched a CSI episode the other day with a guy–who I thought was cute anyway–start hitting on his black woman co-worker and yes, it gave him some sexy points with me. Major sexy points.
I think that it’s hot to see a celebrity who you think is attractive with someone who looks like you. It’s almost like: “We got him!”
P.S. Mr. Big/Chris Noth was so not sexy in my books for the Sex in the City era or movie but when I found out about his girlfriend on an IR site, it was like finding oil. He became instantly charming if not drop dead sexy.
December 26th, 2008 at 2:17 am
I wouldn’t mind dating a black woman – if I could meet one. Where I live there are many black men dating white women but single black women seem practically non existent. The rare times I encounter one they don’t seem interested so it’s not something that’s really relevant in my life.
Has anyone heard of this following incident, it appeared briefly on national news but has quickly, is this something that is going to happen with interracial relationships in the future? Would you consider making this a feature in your website, it’s a horrible event and most articles on this site are more in the lighthearted vein but it might be interesting to do something more serious once in a while.
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/us_world/2008/11/06/2008-11-06_confession_in_torture_slay_of_brooklynra-2.html
December 26th, 2008 at 2:45 am
Just when I was enjoying my retirement from this thread, this “stuff” is posted and I was compelled to comment.
Tiffany, why is it that wm/bw are okay but bm/ww is of one “those negroes”?
Manbouttown, what does that have to do with interracial relationships other then the fact that they were IR? The article I read made no mention of that being a motivating factor unless I read it wrong. I’ll reread it.
December 26th, 2008 at 3:02 am
Okay manabouttown, I reread that article three times and I want to appologize, for even giving you the benefit of the doubt. That article had absolutely no mention of IR hate crimes, the only mention was in the comments by idiots who “want” it to be an IR hate crime. The fact that you brought it here and tried to pass it off as an IR hate crime speaks volumes about you and raises certain questions also. Goodday sir!
December 26th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
if this the remains of the Day….. then we all must ashamed and angry that there
are still such that walk the Earth and think in this matter….. everybody at one
time or another must and will find someone to love ….. and it’s nobody’s biz on the who… what … when… where or why… if it fits your life …. then so be it…
if you are that jealous of someone’s joy,,, then go find your own…. dont snatch
someone else’s joy and life just because you think you should and do….. to do so
will get you the coldest, darkest spot that Hell can offer…. whatever the crime…
to do that to anyone …. is the crime…..
lamesabassman….. and it’s not even New Year’s yet and we still got the old ways still in our faces….. Damn.
December 28th, 2008 at 3:12 am
For everyone’s information, I have been attracted to black females ever since an encounter in High School and I am exclusively black only.
December 29th, 2008 at 3:29 am
i am asia of indonesia black woman or black man maybe will look beautiful when they are comfort each other.we cant judge about the race in indonesia we live with different race and i like too dating with white man,i think the world of some they like white man too but unfortune for me i always end,but i can learn for it so is normal white man and black woman get relationship is amazing to look.i have a lot friends black man from africa and local of in donesian but iam not dating with them because i dont comfortable.what i do like with foreigner exactly europe they are smart.everytime i just think why i dont stand with only one man haha kidding.so for black woman who married with white man take care your man and good luck
December 29th, 2008 at 4:06 am
Man just being man who like to pretend at all i dating all over white man but always over,maybe just wait for the mr right.i dating white man a much of their conduct is fun or terrible,white man always treat they are girlfriend like a queen but that all bullshit.but honestly white man is amazing they dont shy same like me,in the past my ex they are from local, france,italy ,england,german,netherland,ukraine,chili,brasil,greek,egypt,india,america new zealand and i maybe travel lover,my ex-white boyfriend they are nice and i still keep their foto in my album ex-lover.Now i with handsome mature boyfriend from greek hi always being amazing me all the time.and his my last lover and my mr rigth,the thing is just you comfortable for happy if not just leave it, like me find another lover ha ha
December 29th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
First, I must say that Robert DeNiro dated Uma Thurman once so he’s dated caucasian before. Second, I find it offensive to say that if a man dates/marries black women (almost) exclusively then it must be a fetish. The man(in this case, Bobby DeNiro) is attracted to brown skin and shapely derrier like some men are attracted to blonds or petite women. What’s strange about that?
Second, there is a poster here who calls himself “Art J” who is obsessed with this blog it seems. He complains that black women are “I have noticed that black women seem to give black men nothing but a hard time, argumentative, loud talking them, challenging their manhood, etc…
Yet when with white men or rather non-black men they are nothing but sweetness and light.
”
yet he wants black women to validate his choice of being with an Asian woman. Basically he wants to kick black women with all the usual sellout tactics that black men employ, while at the same time try to prevent black women from being with non-black men.
Why is that? Does he fear that he(a black man) is no longer idolized as that prize that everywoman wants and black woman will sacrifice for? Does he not want another man with “his” woman, while claiming that he does not belong to her? Does she not have the right to be happy or find happiness elsewhere?
Art J, examine yourself.
December 29th, 2008 at 4:13 pm
My absolute last post on this long dead thread.
Jamaicanwhateverelseyoucallyourself
Dahhh! Yo Ass!!
I personally don’t give a rat’s ass who dates whom.
My point was and is, own your choices. Do whatever you do, do by choice. Don’t try to blame your actions on anyone or anything else. I do not and never have sought,wanted, or accepted validation by anyone else.
You said “His” woman, I checked my reciept book and I couldn’t find one where I bought a woman. There is no woman roaming this earth wearing a license that says “His Woman” on her neck. Only dogs do that. Which do you have a woman who chooses to partner with you or a dog you own wearing a “His woman” tag around her neck.
You seem to be that sort, seeking validation and “my woman”, seek mental health, and bypass the psychologist. Go straight to a psychiatrist, so you can be heavily medicated.
Right now you’re talking bullshit but “keep seein them burpdays!” mispelling intentional
One day you’ll get that pebble grasshopper.
December 29th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
the thread has been long dead yet here you are!
Your “point” is that black women should not blame black men, yet in the very same breath you dawg black women, claiming that they :
“give black men nothing but a hard time, argumentative, loud talking them, challenging their manhood, etc…”
I wonder what race your mother( aunts, sisters and daughters )belongs to. It’s funny that she didn’t seek an abortion when she found out her baby would be male, since as you claim, black women seem not to care to much for black males…
December 30th, 2008 at 2:31 am
can shore feel the love up in heah….. whatever the whatever…. one must be in tune to all in which your vibe flows thru and surround whomever near to you….
and … if ya feel it on the rebound….. cool runnings….. you get what you give…
and when you dont….. best think that it’s the thought that counts and keep stepping…… start making the earth moves to your verse and you’re gonna be alone for a long time….. the earth moves you….. and from there, you flow… and never let your swagger get your ass in a sling…. check yourself to keep yourself
real…. when you ain’t….. the Ladies will know…. and so will your wasted days
and whiskey nights….. when that cold rain of Truth shows you the Light…..
lamesabassman……. ” nuff said…… to your corners and keep it clean……”
December 30th, 2008 at 1:20 pm
Oh jeez guy, try to make sence eh? Annoying.
December 31st, 2008 at 12:28 pm
I would like to meet some black women online.
December 31st, 2008 at 2:06 pm
would love to …. except bumbaclots never seem to listen and never,ever try to
understand just what makes ” sense “…. put down da spliff and air out the brain
and …just maybe everything will start to make ” sense”……
lamesabassman…… dont start none….wont be none….. respect.
December 31st, 2008 at 2:09 pm
p.s. and Brandon…. you came to the very right place to do so…..
lamesabassman….. ” fasten your seat belt… you’re in for quite a ride….”
December 31st, 2008 at 2:16 pm
All right iam redy.
December 31st, 2008 at 2:36 pm
lameasbassman, don’t pretend to know anything about Jamaicans because you sound ignorant. Unlike americans, VERY FEW Jamaicans smoke, and even less smoke weed. and it’s not “bumbaclots”, it’s bumboclawt. Ass!
December 31st, 2008 at 2:44 pm
Anybody eals in other then you two?
December 31st, 2008 at 3:01 pm
well….we from B’dos know ya very well….. some Rastas smoke…. some dont…
some are vegans….. some dont…. and some Jamaicans have much respect for
all….. and as proven here….. some dont…. I ‘n’ I dont like posers … and you sound like ” Trinidad” to me…… step away from the keyboard,star…. you cant hang if you you dont bring respect ….. you are but an pebble on a beach of clay
if you are not careful…… you might float away…..
lamesabassman….. you still hang wit da’ JNP…. Jah knows ya wrong….
December 31st, 2008 at 3:10 pm
and everyone who comes here must and do show respect…. and everyone does…
we may all disagree on so many topics… but we all do with respect….. this may be our house…. but it ain’t our house….. The Lady of this House allows us to come in …. sit and share whatever is in our hearts… minds… and souls….
and we do so with respect…. without malice a forethought….. I believe that is the only rule that stands firm….. respect….
and if you cannot do so,sir, then you are as empty and hollow as a Witch’s kiss…
lamesabassman…. respect can get you more than swagger… any day of the week.
December 31st, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Yas sir respecp is key I just askes qustion.
December 31st, 2008 at 3:15 pm
Yas sir respecp is key. I just asked qustion.
December 31st, 2008 at 3:19 pm
Party on…..
lamesabassman……
December 31st, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Cool!
December 31st, 2008 at 9:00 pm
this guy’s just weird. You certainly wouldn’t be the white man that I would want. I have no patience for fake people. Be yourself.
December 31st, 2008 at 11:15 pm
must be sad to be critical of things you do not understand….. I answered you at 3 pm
and you retort at 9 pm….. if it took you that long for a comeback…. it’s very true
that you have no patience…. nor common sense…. or the ability to comprehend
the very space you so sadly profane…. you are the poster child for birth control..
for to profess the talent to predict race and gender as you so richly displayed here for the whole world to see …. and judge…. well…. you,sir, are beyond me and all who contribute to this blog of Life…. for … I am not white… but at times,
that would be cool for a parsec just to see if Mr. Eddie Murphy was correct in that SNL spoof done so long ago…. but… yes … I’m a man…. more man than you could ever stand to deal with….. I am a Black Man….. who been to every garden spot in the world for Uncle Sam…… and am still here….. from ‘Nam to the Moog…… and the Sandbox….. and if you were rollin’ me with me with a mouth like that….. well… you would be walkin’ point until you caught a ” hot
one “…. then we would bag and tag your sorry sack of camel exhaust back to
your Mama… who raised you better than you are being right now with a letter
to explain just how you got here and why….. and after reading that … she
would toss you with the rest of the trash out in the ‘yard…. ’cause you were no son to speak of…… the weird one that you mention is you… and to have patience to even understand you is a virtue that will not be wasted on you….. you should listen to your own words.. and to yourself.. be yourself… and get that filter between your brain and tongue checked….
’cause it sounds like you’re way overdue….. for a recall…..
lamesabassman……..” free your mind…. and your ass will follow…..”
January 1st, 2009 at 2:22 am
I answer whenever I want to. Did you not learn how to compose paragraphs or even a single sentence? The elipses(…) and malformed thoughts are what I find annoying.
You are not a white man? Hallelujah. I am not a man. Amen.
Have a blessed 2009.
January 1st, 2009 at 7:04 am
lamesabassman / JamaicanInTDot: Just now reading these comments. My thoughts? Knock it off. Seriously. I’m more than happy to keep the comments section on this post open as long as stuff written here relates to the post — not specific personal attacks between two random people. Take it elsewhere. Disagree with anything a write, hell, disagree w/ each other if you want to. However, as always, the Golden Rule around here is “Be Kind.” Be kind to the person who writes the blog posts. Be kind to the people who comment on them. If you’re not able and/or unwilling to do that, carry on elsewhere.
January 1st, 2009 at 3:01 pm
and the beat goes on.. turn your face here.. and soon ..one day you will face your turn….. slipping away….. when you answer a comment in faith and in turn have another smack you down…. and say things to back up the smack down… then you leave no cause but to do two things…. man up and answer… or turn tail and run….. I have no truck with bullies who hide and seek their ways upon others
for no reason other than they can and do…. you can ignore them…. but for how
long and for no purpose other than being either real….. or to keep the peace…
this area has been a Godsend for those who wish to understand just what one needs or wishes to get thru Life on….. you can say lofty things of grandeur …
and be on your way…. or you can answer the ones who blaze in with mouth
open and brain on cruise control nailing all within their reach with the most
inflammatory thoughts and then fade to black leaving all within the wake shattered….. to ” Be Kind” is a two way street…. one that must be looked both ways before crossing….. yeah….. I have my moments…. but I manage to keep
them check until someone starts pinning the ears back on those who did’nt
need them to be done in the first place…. and if I had crossed that said line…
then I am truly sorry….. I will just write lofty things of wit and be done….
and let the bodies hit and floor…. I can develop tunnel vision in a heartbeat..
but…. my mama taught me better than that…..
lamesabassman….. bon chance….. to one and all
January 3rd, 2009 at 7:39 am
FBC,close it down, too many retards here now
January 3rd, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Thanks for the heads up, Jaiart.
Comments closed.
Might write about this in a blog post later.
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