Happy Manly Monday, my sweets; Hope you all had wonderful weekends! Today’s Manly Monday nod goes to men who crave BBW sex. As I mentioned over on my personal site, “The first time I heard the term BBW, I thought it meant ‘Beautiful Black Woman.’ At 5’5″, 118 lbs and very proud of my heritage, I started telling people I was a BBW. (Sid from the blog Siddity in the City corrected my erroneous mind and told me BBW means BIG AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.)” Okay, so, a short while ago, I read a study that said overweight women have more sex than “normal” women. The first question Jezebel, other folks and I wondered was: “What the fuck is normal?” That aside, I think a blogger named Mollena hit the nail on the head when she said: “I do not think that there is a correlation between sexual activity and weight.” Hmmm … interesting topic, no? So, I thought I’d ask a bunch of other bloggers what they thought. Here’s the skinny on BBW sex …
 |
|
 |
Mollena: “My sexuality is less dependant on how fat my ass feels than how good I feel about my fat ass. When I was thinner and miserable, I didn’t give a fuck about sex. However, when I felt good about myself, I noticed I enjoyed sex more thoroughly. When I was fat and miserable, I also failed to give a fuck about sex. However, when I felt good about myself, I noticed I enjoyed sex more thoroughly. The question of ‘who has more sex’ assumes several things, and that is why I have a problem with it. It assumes that a higher frequency of sex has a direct correlation with being ‘better’ for ya, or having more satisfying sex. It doesn’t. It assumes that there is either ‘fat’ or ‘not fat’ and fails to take in things like cultural preference and the gap between how people self-identify and how people would be identified by others [...] Another problem with that question is that it discounts personal taste, and that is a rough one to overlook. I know some men who simply aren’t turned on by fat girls. I know some men who INSIST on a more Callipygian posterior with which to tryst. It is all cut from the same cloth. And there is plenty of sex to go around.”
David F. Cooper: “Not only does starving oneself not put one in the mood it may also indicate a discomfort with sexuality and a nostalgia for the sexual ignorance of childhood. Anorexic women equate being thin with being ‘good’; they want to be ‘good girls’ and have an irrational fear of adult sexuality.”
ThatToyChick: “[...] I love food. I’m willing to go out on a limb here and say that if you are open enough to alter your body shape to try new experiences and (over?) indulge in one aspect, it isn’t a stretch to say it could happen in another, right? So that’s my take…maybe ladies that like to try new foods (psychology-wise, taking something “into them” – *brow waggle*) are more likely to take that exploratory nature to the bedroom as well.”
 |
|
 |
Bianca: “[...]I love being a big woman of Color and I’m aware of my body. It wasn’t always easy especially during adolescence when identity is being shaped and formed as for many of us regardless of size and shape (and race and ability etc.). I love the way my body feels, how my ass shakes when I walk, how I can use my entire body to comfort my lover after a great fuck, how the sunshine on the beach makes my stretch marks iridescent, how my body is proportioned, how my lover doesn’t have to hurt his back to lean down and kiss me because i am his height (6ft), how my tattoos have movement, how the curve of my back is just the introduction to my ass, how my breasts are a mouthful. I’m sensuous all the time. I drip sensuality. That is why men and women want to fuck me or have me fuck them.”
Jolie Du Pre: “I’m not a BBW. However, I have a lot of sex with my husband and with other people. I’m a swinger with a solid, honest marriage of over 20 years and a great sex life. I don’t understand this notion that BBW’s have more sex. Some do, for sure. But you can’t generalize.”
maylady84: “I’m a size 16 and all my friends are size 12 and under. I’ve always been the thickest out of my friends since forever! Since I started having sex I’ve been getting it regularly! I’m from a small town in the south, raised on collard greens and cornbread, where I’m from.. men like women with a lot of meat! [...] My body is quite nice, just a bit thicker than what mainstream thinks is beautiful.”
THEflyGIRL: “I’m 5’9 and for most of my adult life, I’ve been a size 16/18. And I must say I have always had my pick of sexual partners. There is a misconception that ‘big’ women (I hate that term) don’t get love and that is by far untrue [...] And I’ve been told that it’s for a number of reasons: from larger women have larger ‘assets’ to we are ‘juicer’. I also look like I can handle a good fucking. I’m built for a good session, I won’t lie.”
Those are a few thoughts from around the blogosphere. Feel free to use the comments section below to share your thoughts. Pssst … As usual, the “Golden Rule” on Funky Brown Chick is be kind / don’t be an asshole. So, if you simply have cruel, stupid or unkind stuff to say, please don’t waste anyone’s time.
————
Credit paid: Images above are from Adipositivity. Quote from their website: “The Adipositivity Project aims to promote size acceptance, not by listing the merits of big people, or detailing examples of excellence (these things are easily seen all around us), but rather, through a visual display of fat physicality. The sort that’s normally unseen.” Hat tip to Bianca for the link!!
Technorati Tags: Adipositivity, BBW, Bianca Laureano, David F. Cooper, fat acceptance, funky brown chick, funkybrownchick, Jolie Du Pre, maylady84, Mollena, Siddity in the City, size acceptance, THEflyGIRL, Twanna, Twanna A. Hines, Twanna Hines
Last weekend, one of my lovely Twitter followers (I follower him, too), TabooLaRossi, asked me if I’d ever done a do’s and don’ts post for couples who take nude photos. Hmm … I don’t think there’s anything vulgar or unnatural about naked bodies. So, here are my “tips” for couples who wanna take nude photos of themselves:
