Divorce & the Nip Tucked Kidney
He put it in her; now, he wants it out. Oh, sweet Jesus! I swear the world gets more interesting each day. A couple years ago, my friend Samirah told me one of her coworkers gave her sickly husband a kidney … then the dude left her. Read my blog post about it here. Back then, I joked: “in the divorce settlement, I would have asked for my kidney back.” I meant it JOKINGLY, figuring I’d never actually be in that hypothetical situation. No one would. Well … If you’ve not yet heard about Richard and Dawnell Batista: “Divorce and the Case of the Nip Tucked Kidney.” He gave her a kidney. She later cheated on him and filed for divorce.
He wants his kidney back.
Two questions: (1) Would you give away a kidney to a loved one who needed it and (2) should this Batista dude get his kidney — or its financial equivalent — back?
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Related: Man wants wife’s kidney back–or $1.5M
January 8th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
It is no longer his kidney to take so he needs to just get over it.
Would I give a kidney? Only to my immediate family members. Everybody else is ass’d out! As bad as I treat my body I can’t give out organs all willy nilly like that ’cause I may need them in the future!!
January 8th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
And another thing- isn’t it illegal to “buy and sell” body parts? So how can he get a monetary equivalent? Any judge that lets this go to court is a fool!
And ANOTHER thing… if he knew he was such a petty little vengeful little indian-giver, why’d he even give the kidney? It’s not an engagement ring- you CAN’T ask for it back.
Dude: grow some cojones and get a freakin life!!!
(sorry to act a fool in your comments section Twanna, but this story has my blood pressure going through the roof!!)
January 8th, 2009 at 2:11 pm
Oh good lord! This guy needs to get over it. Being cheated on does suck, but to take your anger all the way to that extreme is a bit much. Maybe a few months of litigation will cool him down and bring him to his senses?
January 8th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
I can’t lie…I’d be mad as HELL if I gave up a kidney and then she cheated on me. I’d be like “How you ‘gon f*ck around on ME? YOU’D BE DEAD IF IT WEREN’T FOR ME!!!”
Women…First y’all took Adam’s rib, now this!
LOL j/k
Seriously though, I can understand dude being mad, but there’s nothing he can do about it once he gave it to her. Even though it appears that she did him dirty, he has no right to ask for his kidney back. He needs to just take comfort in the fact that he did the right thing in saving a life, and move on with his own.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
I believe it’s illegal to sell organs in most countries, so he can’t get the financial equivalent back.
It sounds like she treated him horribly and I can understand his desire for revenge, but I don’t think that the law generally makes provisions for that. He’ll just have to accept it and move on, like all of us have had to do after bad breakups where we may not have lost a body part, but have nonetheless lost money, self-respect, or other precious things.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
This is why I wonder if it’s better to only give organs to strangers or your children. Lovers are just too complicated for such a serious act of selflessness. I have a cousin that gave her kidney to a coworker. He wasn’t even in her department. She just knew she could help and so she did. There was no expectation from this man and she has peace of mind that she saved someone’s life. Nice and clean.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:34 pm
See I wouldn’t even ask for it back, chloroform (sp) her, get a scalpel and take it back! Hell it’s mine right!!! Hah! Next he’ll be asking for the sperm he left in her back I imagine. That’s why you don’t give things like that. Hell I plan to donate my body to science so I abuse my body waaay to much to be giving anything away?
January 8th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
So, he’s trying to de-gift a kidney. Wow. I guess the next question will be, can you re-gift a kidney? THESE are the questions we need to answer people! The economy and the plethora of wars and oppression can wait!
January 8th, 2009 at 7:21 pm
People who give their kidney’s out of the kindness of their hearts are not allowed to sell them and I don’t think he should receive any financial compensation.
I do feel bad for him but we as a people can get played but he can’t get paid for this because of it.
Can we replace the archaic saying about being an Indian giver with one about being a kidney giver…just a thought.
January 8th, 2009 at 8:00 pm
There is no way! lol People are crazy
January 8th, 2009 at 11:22 pm
this can’t be a new trend…… and would he really want it back…. who knows where it’s been…. smile….
lamesabassman….. would’nt that be considered….. sloppy seconds….
January 9th, 2009 at 8:26 am
I didn’t watch the clip, but I have to say that I’m tired of the fidelity/infidelity issue being the lynchpin upon which everything must hang. And boy, do men make such a bigger deal about it when their women cheat on them! I know infidelity can be a hurtful thing sometimes, but it often gets treated in such black and white terms, when really like any factor in life, things are more complex than they seem. Are we still condemning people to death for cheating? Really?
January 9th, 2009 at 10:57 am
do guys make such a big deal over women cheating on them….. well. boy howdy,
yes, guys go bonkers over it ….. and it narrows down to the two “biggest” issues:
money and …. size….. women will cross the street if the guy is not treating her
like a woman is suppose to be taken care of…. if he is cheap and only wants to play ” hide the salami ” she will get very tired of that deal mucho quick…. and when she crosses the street and finds out what real Nirvana is …. that there are guys who will not mind spending to make her feel wanted and needed…. and if the guys have ” horsepower” ….. well, if you were not blessed by Nature…. bye..
why do you think that some guys hate PE as kids…. the group shower bit….
that’s when you see just how you ” measure up ” and that will take the wind out of your sails quick….. ’tis a sad game indeed in which guys hate to lose,but lose they do and that could be the reason that they go bananas when they lose a new recruit to anyone better and … bigger than they are….
lamesabassman….. Reality … at times… does bite back…
January 9th, 2009 at 11:23 am
those kidney transplant procedures are frikken painful! Ya dang skippy I’d want mine back or the 1.5mil. Whichever is more painful…
January 9th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
1) sure I would give a loved one a kidney
2) no he shouldn’t. In the fine print of organ DONATION it clearly states ” no backsies”
Dude is bitter and needs to get himself somebody else to get over it. Rent a stripper for a couple of months or something.
January 12th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Hunh. I didn’t know she cheated on him.
I wouldn’t expect the kidney back, but that’d play really well in seeking the sweet end of the divorce. Too bad he bollixed it.
January 13th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
He gave her an ultimatum, give me back the kidney or 1 million dollars. And that’s fair in my book.
If your gonna be triflin to someone, at least make sure they didn’t give you a kidney!
Some people have no shame. (Smh)