Comments on: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

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Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need? | Sex, Lies & Dating in the City — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 05:39:04 +0000

[...] Last Wednesday, Twanna Hines had a great post on her blog, Funky Brown Chick. It was called, Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need? [...]

By: Mario Fulkos

Mario Fulkos — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:43:22 +0000

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By: lamesabassman

lamesabassman — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 06:10:29 +0000

close….. the bit in the garden …. where she is with one who is built and she wants to close the deal….. and all he wants to do
is marvel at the wonders of butterflies…. and not at all in to her…
and she has to endure that need that wont get fed for all eternity

lamesabassman…… long time … no nut….. killer….

By: dkzone

dkzone — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:21:39 +0000

You mean the scene where the devil's peen shoots out sparks?

;)

By: Fat Lady

Fat Lady — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 02:00:48 +0000

First of all I think you have to define what a basic need is. I see most people here define it as something you can't live without - something that the lack of would cause you to die.

I'm not sure I see a basic need that way. I see it as something that is necessary to have not just a life, but a fulfilled life. I mean, we all know that food is a basic human need - if we don't eat for long enough, we die. However, we could survive by eating the same bland, tasteless gruel everyday - but it would be an unfulfilled life, a life that wouldn't feel worth living. The basic need of being fulfilled wouldn't be met.

And I think the need to be fulfilled is a basic one, even if not having it met doesn't result in death.

Warmth, affection, appreciation, intimacy are things that all people crave. Having these things can contribute to a life that feels more fulfilled - so I guess the desire for them could be considered a basic need. And since sex CAN fulfill all of those I guess the desire for good sex can be considered a basic need.

That's what I guess. Here's what I know. I've been in a relationship for 13 years in which the sex has always been lacking. I've battled with it. Tried to make things better. Blamed myself, blamed him, realized that no one was to blame - that's just the way it is. But even though no one was to blame, it's eaten away at me - my sense of self, my self-esteem. But by bit, little by little, the lack of a fulfilling sex life has diminished me as a person. I am alive, yes, at times, I have felt as though I exist under only the most limited, basic ideas of what life is. I have barely felt like a person.

And then, recently, something happened. Another man who I found attractive started flirting with me and the flirting progressed into something more, and just once - so far - we had what may be the best sex I've ever had - certainly the best I've had in 13 years. And suddenly I feel alive in ways I haven't in ages. The person I see looking back at me in the mirror is someone I haven't seen in YEARS!! She has a sparkle in her eye, her skin is aglow, she looks like she feels good and is ready to tackle the world - and she's me!!! My confidence is returning, my sense of myself, my desire to enjoy life is renewed.

This is what good sex is doing for me. So yes, I think the need for good sex is basic. If you just want to be alive, I guess no sex, or any sex is fine. But to really LIVE - I think good sex is important, vital.

Of course, all of this is based on someone with a naturally robust sex drive. I suppose someone with a more anemic sex drive would be just as alive without sex as with. But for someone like me who craves sex, life without it is just going through the motions.

By: lamesabassman

lamesabassman — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 01:52:29 +0000

'tis time to break in a new recruit ……. for life is waaaaay 2 short to boogie like that…

lamesabassman….. May the Force be with you…..

By: lamesabassman

lamesabassman — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 01:49:37 +0000

sooooo ….. ya keep a copy of ” The Devil and Mrs. Jones ” on ice, ehhh…
if you can get your hands on one….. check out the last 20 minutes…..

lamesabassman…… killer stuff….

By: Poor Married Sap

Poor Married Sap — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 22:44:29 +0000

I have to agree that it's not a basic need. It's just very important to me because it makes me feel closer to my wife, when it actually happens. Other than that it's like being her roommate that just happens to sleep in the same bed. I have been married for almost three years and the sex is definitely dissipating, which is sad because our sex life when we were dating was amazing. I love the way she smells and tastes, the touch of her silky smooth skin, the way she moans and begs for more. I get hot just thinking about it then I have to go take care of myself due to the fact that “she has a headache'” she is “tired”. I am so “tired” of that excuse, she claims she isn't one of those people who doesn't like sex, but she is definitely a prude. It's kind of pathetic how I can kiss her neck and seem in the mood and she just laughs and says not now. The sex was much better before we got married. It's non existent now.

By: Megan

Megan — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 11:42:44 +0000

My answer is “yes”. If not, why there are so many mmebers at STD dating site like POZGROUP.COM? People are still looking for dating and partner when they have so much troulbe from the diseases. So, I think it is basic human need.

By: lamesabassman

lamesabassman — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 02:03:47 +0000

hellacool…..

lamesabassman……… a ground pounder…. fer sure……