Comments on: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

By: Naoki

Naoki — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:26:46 +0000

Great Sex is a need. But the definition of great sex is subjective and simply a way to gauge ppl’s pleasure principles.
For me, Good orgasmic sex benefits procreation. Sexually active people’s genes are dominant and thus create more sexually active people who will live longer than people who choose not to or cannot procreate on their own. Sexually Active people are more likely to want to enhance their sex lives thus having more great sex.
I have dated both extremes of men. Those who don’t need sex and are really bad it. Those who are adore sex and are really great at it. I will say that the “bad sex” men were always better at the relationships, respectful, balanced, passive, insecure, loners but easy to deal with. The Great Sex men were frequently more emotionally volatile, fickle, unfaithful, protective, passionate, sweet, complimentary and attractive to other women.
Great Sex is as crucial as sleep, water and food, the only difference is the effects take much longer to kill us (generations/genetics).
Erotic Spiritual Love is not true erotic love without the deep sexual spiritual connection. Everything else is a good friend/lover but not the level of love that speaks to the “biblical” function of a marriage. Sex in a marriage/relationship should be sacred powerful and life creating.

By: Nat

Nat — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:01:49 +0000

I think sex is a total waste of time and energy. As for a need I don’t think so!!!
Its only a need if you considerate a need. If you’ve never had it you don’t want it.
I’m 65 years old and never had it so how can I need it. If I had married I would have to watched a woman turn into a fat old SOW. Which is usually happens.

By: Sandy Lane

Sandy Lane — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 23:01:42 +0000

Its indeed a basic need for a “happy” life! Lots of reaserch and survey have shown that sex is a stress buster and good for health… Just find the right partner!

By: cheryl

cheryl — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 05:19:30 +0000

I’m 39 years old and I have only had sex once. That is all it took for me to know it was not for me at all! I have a very successful business. I have adopted two beautiful children, and I am happy with my life as it is. So, I say no, it is not a need. It is a want, and I dont want it or need it!

By: Ann Marie

Ann Marie — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 23:00:02 +0000

Well if sex is a human need then part of me is missing. We’ve been married 43 years and the last 30 have been without sex, intimacy and physical attraction. Husband has ED along with other issues which all require meds an this totally knocks his libdo out the window. but its not all his fault, I’ve been a real pain in the back side with not wanting alot of sex. So when we were younger I said I wasn’t in the mood, headache, stomach disorder, any thing to put a stop to his advances.
Finally he said the hell with you and about the same time frame he had issues where he required meds. So as far as is sex a human need I think not.

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By: Mario Fulkos

Mario Fulkos — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:43:22 +0000

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By: lamesabassman

lamesabassman — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 06:10:29 +0000

close….. the bit in the garden …. where she is with one who is built and she wants to close the deal….. and all he wants to do
is marvel at the wonders of butterflies…. and not at all in to her…
and she has to endure that need that wont get fed for all eternity

lamesabassman…… long time … no nut….. killer….

By: dkzone

dkzone — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:21:39 +0000

You mean the scene where the devil's peen shoots out sparks?

;)

By: Fat Lady

Fat Lady — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 02:00:48 +0000

First of all I think you have to define what a basic need is. I see most people here define it as something you can't live without - something that the lack of would cause you to die.

I'm not sure I see a basic need that way. I see it as something that is necessary to have not just a life, but a fulfilled life. I mean, we all know that food is a basic human need - if we don't eat for long enough, we die. However, we could survive by eating the same bland, tasteless gruel everyday - but it would be an unfulfilled life, a life that wouldn't feel worth living. The basic need of being fulfilled wouldn't be met.

And I think the need to be fulfilled is a basic one, even if not having it met doesn't result in death.

Warmth, affection, appreciation, intimacy are things that all people crave. Having these things can contribute to a life that feels more fulfilled - so I guess the desire for them could be considered a basic need. And since sex CAN fulfill all of those I guess the desire for good sex can be considered a basic need.

That's what I guess. Here's what I know. I've been in a relationship for 13 years in which the sex has always been lacking. I've battled with it. Tried to make things better. Blamed myself, blamed him, realized that no one was to blame - that's just the way it is. But even though no one was to blame, it's eaten away at me - my sense of self, my self-esteem. But by bit, little by little, the lack of a fulfilling sex life has diminished me as a person. I am alive, yes, at times, I have felt as though I exist under only the most limited, basic ideas of what life is. I have barely felt like a person.

And then, recently, something happened. Another man who I found attractive started flirting with me and the flirting progressed into something more, and just once - so far - we had what may be the best sex I've ever had - certainly the best I've had in 13 years. And suddenly I feel alive in ways I haven't in ages. The person I see looking back at me in the mirror is someone I haven't seen in YEARS!! She has a sparkle in her eye, her skin is aglow, she looks like she feels good and is ready to tackle the world - and she's me!!! My confidence is returning, my sense of myself, my desire to enjoy life is renewed.

This is what good sex is doing for me. So yes, I think the need for good sex is basic. If you just want to be alive, I guess no sex, or any sex is fine. But to really LIVE - I think good sex is important, vital.

Of course, all of this is based on someone with a naturally robust sex drive. I suppose someone with a more anemic sex drive would be just as alive without sex as with. But for someone like me who craves sex, life without it is just going through the motions.