SBF Seeks SJM: My First 100 Hours on JDate
Yesterday, the first email in my inbox read: “Hi, JDater: You have 3 unread message(s)! What’s more fun than meeting interesting new people who are interested in YOU?” Honestly … Nothing, nothing could be more fun than meeting exciting men who are interested in me. :) Those of you who missed the I’m a Black Woman, and This is Why I’m Signing Up for JDate post, probably didn’t know I’d signed up for a Jewish singles site. Some of you who already read that post DMed, emailed and otherwise contacted me to ask for details. Want to know about the state of my search for a Jewish dating union? Here’s the update: My First 100 Hours on JDate. (For the record, what follows could also be called: “I Know I’m On JDate.com When dot dot dot.”)
- There are an inordinate number of men named Adam, Noah and other Biblical names. Seeee? Us blacks girls aren’t so different from hot Jewish guys. For me, JDate is a lot like a names pop quiz from Vacation Bible School at my childhood black Baptist church. Noah was the ark dude, right? Who was with Jesus when he parted the Red Sea? Was that Moses? Seth? Alon? Sweet!
- A lot of the guys on the site have dark hair and dark eyes. This is good because I typically go for “Two Out of Three” guys. Skin. Eyes. Hair. Two out of three should be dark. Black man with dark skin, dark hair and light eyes? DELICIOUS! White dudes with light skin, dark hair and dark eyes? Hot. Many Jewish men suit my visual tastes just fine.
- I know I’m on JDate because none of the guys think I’ve “really” signed up for the site. Seriously, dudes immediately give me their contact details because they think I haven’t fully signed up and will be blocked from reading email. They’re surprised when I tell them I’m not fucking around; I put up a full profile w/ pictures and answered every question about my lifestyle & dating preferences. So, yes, I’m now a card-carrying member of JDate. “Wow,” one guy from the site wrote me, “you’re really serious about this whole Jew search thing.” Yep. I’m serious about giving it a shot and widening my horizons. If I meet an awesome guy, great. If not, I’m exactly where I am now.
- Jewish guys are awesome. I kind of expected most dudes to ignore me and/or ask me why I crashed their party. In wild fantasies, I imagined all the men would rally around the management while screaming: “Get that Christmas Tree-loving whore away from our space!!!” Sooo000 not the case. Everyone has been unbelievably friendly, amazing and flirty. In my first 100 hours, my profile was viewed 157 times; I was “flirted with” by 3 guys; 19 men emailed me; 8 put me on their “hot list”; 1 sent me an ecard and 19 IMed me.
- Some things are better left unsaid. I guess this last point is just a general thought / observation. Though I’m a sex, dating and relationship writer, I’ve kind of learned my lesson about spilling details about my private dates online publicly. So, if I go on any Jdates (I haven’t yet), you, my date and I can all rest assured all of the intimate nitty-gritty won’t appear on Funky Brown Chick. There’s still beauty in keeping some things sacred. Sometimes the best bits are the bits only you and the other person know.
So, that’s the scoop … or at least as much of it that I’m willing to share. And, yeah, if you’re a Gentile and you haven’t ever signed up on JDate, I HIGHLY recommend it. Seriously, it’s awesome.
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May 29th, 2009 at 12:11 pm
does it feel wonderful to be wanted….. just wait ’till you get to the needed level….
lamesabassman……. be true 2 you ….. and the World’s yours….
May 29th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Awesome!
“Black man with dark skin, dark hair and light eyes? DELICIOUS!”
Mmm, yes! Kiko Ellsworth is my favorite. He’s a soap opera actor. Have you heard of him?
May 29th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
Watch out – if you popularize JDate, it will become so overgrown with party-crashing gentiles that it will look just like every other generic dating web site.
May 29th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
I literally laughed out loud when you described my perfect man, a.k.a, the “2 out of 3″ man. My hubby is a black man with dark skin, dark hair and light eyes, and now my boy is following suit. Those type of men are irresistible! I also love the white guy(usually Italian or Greek) with Mediterranean skin, dark hair and piercing blue or green eyes. Why are these men even allowed to be born?
I’m kinda bummed we won’t get the dirty details about your dates, but I get it. It would be cool if this worked out and you met some awesome Sons of David. Good luck to you!
May 30th, 2009 at 4:43 am
Good for you for trying something new.
June 2nd, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Here’s hoping for the best! :)
June 3rd, 2009 at 2:58 pm
i should have given you the last month of my jdate subscription!
i just got off…because i met someone on match.
good luck to you on jdate. it’s a lot smaller than match, and there’s a lot of overlap, but you never know….
i look forward to reading more.
xx
June 4th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Hi Mimi!! Yeah, I’m on JDate. I’m only trying it out for a month and then I’m back to meeting people the old-fashioned way: in person. :)
August 11th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
So, Im guessing the JDate thing didn’t work out? :(
Don’t worry, your man is out there girl, just keep looking. :)