Comments on: Men’s Minds: What’s the Difference Between a Flirt and a Cocktease?

By: Sexy Chocolate

Sexy Chocolate — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 06:52:52 +0000

Gosh – I love this! And it has been soooo insightful. I read everything from jump and am glad to see the conversation still goes on. I have also been called a tease quite a bit and most recently by a guy I really like that I just started seeing and want things to work out with. I get it – flirting is fun and games and usually in public….the cocktease issue is more physical – like grinding on him or going back home with him and getting pretty close. Personally I’m with Twanna – if the night is over and we’re just not ready to part, I don’t see why I can’t go home with him or him to my apartment. Especially for a guy, as my “dude” is, who is not one to pressure you into anything. I’m trying not to be a tease in the sense that I’m a very physical person, so when that going home goes from watching a movie and chatting to cuddling, making out – which all feels wonderful and warming and in my mind is ENOUGH – men get aroused and so all that is NOT ENOUGH…and you’re a tease. It’s hard, cuz i like him, I’m attracted, I want to kiss him and have him hold me…sure I get moist too but I realize it’s too early to give it up…that’s too easy and I’m not easy…but to men – that’s just teasing…:(….so I’m trying to learn not to put myself in the situation. As much as it feels counter-intuitive ( why can’t i go chill some more when I want to…?…why the game?), I’m going to try next time to say see u another time and give a passionate kiss that ends at the car door but keeps him on tap ;)

By: David

David — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 06:14:31 +0000

Cockteasing is when the girl has implied when she would/will have sex with you. Going to your place alone, you better believe that is sex, if it isn’t kick her out the f**ng door. Flirting is just smiling and being nice kinda stuff

By: Twanna A. Hines

Twanna A. Hines — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 16:33:57 +0000

If you don’t flirt with you male friends to be friendly, that’s fine. I’m not suggesting you have to. So, why are you upset?

By: Twanna A. Hines

Twanna A. Hines — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 16:31:10 +0000

Nope, it’s not always the man’s “fault.” Nor do I think there something inherently wrong with women, as you suggest there is. You mention you think ” it’s become a fashionable trend for women to deny the most fundamental aspects of themselves – as long as that aspect is negative.” That comment comes across very angry :( Hope things are going well for you.

By: Dr James

Dr James — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 15:49:39 +0000

flirting is nice, but heh, why do you have to flirt to be friendly? can’t you just be friendly without resorting to your sexual charms – after all, i don’t flirt with my male friends to be friendly.
why bring sexuality and gender into friendships and casual meetings, unless your feel the constant need for your attractiveness and sense of ego to be constantly massaged?
why not keep flirting to people you find attractive and in which you may – depending on life – eventually date.
a cock tease is someone who doesn’t respect men and uses sexuality to manage platonic relationships which they would find difficult to do without resorting to sexual frisson. its like having friends and making friends and conversation because you have lots of money.
you can’t expect men and women to respect you if your use of flirting and your sexuality in everyday life is done to get what you want or to gain respect or to get people to like you. its the complete opposite of feminism and equality.
quite simply, men and women are looking for cues in terms of attraction, and flirting and teasing just muddies the water, and worst of all “uses” people through sexual power. its not nice and you should learn to relate to people without resorting to your sexuality. that would be a more mature way of behaving and respecting yourself and the men you come into contact with.

By: Gavin

Gavin — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 16:05:16 +0000

“I’m not trying to come off as “Joe Ladykiller” or anything but I’ve always found that the guys who cry “tease” with the most passion, are the ones that had a hard time getting women.”

It’s always the man’s fault, right?

In reality “teases” and “cockteases” behave the way they do because they are seeking fulfillment of something. Either they have low self-esteem and they are seeking validation, or they want to have a few free drinks, or anything along those lines – perhaps even a feeling of power over their lives because the rest of the time they feel helpless.

Of course, women will deny it, because in today’s culture it’s become a fashionable trend for women to deny the most fundamental aspects of themselves – as long as that aspect is negative.

Keep your heads in the sand girl, and remember: Men always remember a cockteae and they always, always, let other men know.

Toodles.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 16:49:05 +0000

You are a cocktease.

By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 01:12:26 +0000

JoeBMore: Thanks for commenting! :) You mention:

I do feel that some women enjoy the act of rejecting men more than sex. Those women are the cock teasers. They do everything to imply that your going to have sex, and then pull back. Those women live for the man to beg them. But like an earlier poster said. It is not hard to spot those women.

What's the male equivalent?

By: lamesabassman......

lamesabassman...... — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:31:13 +0000

and …. Mr. D…. what you said is so to the point…. my mama always said …” dont let your mouth or your body write a check that you wont be able to cash…” if the Lady in question
feels the need to express herself in such a way as she so deeply explained … then she knows
who and what she really is and should invest in some face time with a shrink…. or rent the
movie… ” Looking for Mr. Goodbar ” or if she continues on the road she is on…. she may
not like the movie’s ending,but when you go around saying that you love your Good and Plenty
and not share… smile sweetly… and then.. bust a move….

lamesabassman….. then… you are what you are and may the devil take the hindmost….

By: lamesabassman......

lamesabassman...... — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 06:19:55 +0000

yes…. that is so very so, ma petit , the more things change , at times, the more they remain
the same…. just when did we as a culture forget the fine art of Love Fencing …. the many
ways one would let one know which way was up …. and if the flow was going both ways….
well, one could smile the night away, without malice aforethought ,towards many wonderful evenings ….. if possible …. or it could end with a trip to palookaville with you asking ..” was
this trip really worthy it….” every Tom, Dick and Hazel has been there …. now, that time
is long lost…. it’s all cut ‘n’ run…. and you know that’s no fun…. so we go places where
we will flow … mingle…. act… react… learn and try not to be burned… no matter what
your day was … your week was…. your life at this moment…..

lamesabassman….. never let them see you sweat while you enjoy…. the flow…