Comments on: Are Men in Their 20s Too Immature to Date?

By: Joseph

Joseph — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:28:41 +0000

I’m so glad I live in a city like New York, where people are generally active, curious, open-minded, and can always find something ‘exciting’ to do regardless of age. People reinvent themselves at different stages of life. I’m so glad women my age (I’m 34) are able to make their own life interesting and exciting, freeing them to date like-minded men of all ages. It’s quite freeing to know that life has millions of options — and that limiting myself to think a certain age group (or ethnecity–hell, even a certain gender) is more fun, mature, open-minded or someone eleveated than another. Personally, I like anyone who has a passion for the vigour of life.
The human mind is maliable–you can continue to learn, develop, and refresh your experience at all stages of life if you’re open.

By: Katherine M

Katherine M — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 21:59:56 +0000

I am 37 and recently started dating a 21 year old. It didn’t take us long to get to the sex, and at first, I was really disappointed. We had talked a lot about it beforehand and he bragged about his experience and ability to go all night. The talking alone was fabulous foreplay. Once we got into bed though, it was close to “jackrabbit sex” on his part and felt like I was just there to be a body for his masturbation. I like it rough from time to time, but absolutely no one feels good just being pounded for 30-40 minutes straight. I tried to slow him down several times, and the last 2 times we did it (5 times that night) he was getting there. Not sure why men in their 20’s seem to approach sex this way (is it an abundance of porn?) but there are so many other ways to connect and satisfy in bed for both of you. I’d say not too immature to date (he really was able to carry on some fabulous conversations with me outside of the bedroom) but you BOTH must be willing to talk about exactly what you want. No shyness allowed in this relationship if you want to make it good for both of you.

By: lamesabassman......

lamesabassman...... — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 06:40:00 +0000

bravo,ma’am… no one could have said it better than you…..

lamesabassman…… and from the sound of your words, your son is gonna be sooo cool…
no worries there….

By: Dat #1 Ladii

Dat #1 Ladii — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 03:43:31 +0000

I don’t think that 20 something year old men are immature. I have had my share of guys that are younger than me and for the most part they turned out to be a lot more matture than the guys that I have dated that are my age. I myself am a 32 year young woman and I am the mother of a 14year old son and I am very careful about the men that I chose to spend my time with and if my son proves to have more common sense than the guy that I am dating than its back to the drawing board. I have never dated an older guy say like 40 and up there have been those that were interested but when I show’d interest in return they started to sing a different tune so Im not sure what I did or didn’t do wrong.. but I love the younger guys and its not always about the sex for some of them dont know what they are doing when it comes to the sexual part of a relationship, but I find that younger men take the time to “actually”get to know you, they make life more interesting and fun at times. True there are those who can be a tad bit immature but hey that is when you school them on how to act and if they aren’t feeling it then they know where the door is……

Smooches :)
Dat #1 Ladii

By: lamesabassman......

lamesabassman...... — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 05:42:47 +0000

there is nothing more predictable than an immature thought…… if ya wanta say that all the
young dudes that have staying power can hang and to the ones that have peaked get kicked
to the curb….. gee, that would be like saying a woman in her 20’s is a better catch than a cougar in her 30’s…… and prime … well , as that could be in the eye of the beholder, is a
state of mind which varies between the known and the wanna be….. a 30’s barely can dress
herself rather than hold a complete thought about love,peace and happiness and a 20’s guy
could very well be the oldest man on the planet depending on whatever he has experienced
at that moment of hello…… nothing stays stabile when sex is added to the mix……
just like the words to the song, ” Money changes everything…” well … so does sex and the
ultimate rush of possessing.. even for a moment …. the trust, love and understanding of
someone that you really dont care about.. that you are about to do… short term or long…
well that depends on just how long you’re in for…. there are dudes who are in their 40’s , 50’s
and 60’s that can hang and hang tough…. and the same could be said for the Ladies in their 40’s , 50’s and 60’s that could bend your johnson or munch your carpet…. and that’s
the beauty of Life…. ya never know what’s behind Door # 2 while rollin’ on the One…

do you surrey or do you picnic….. having been with 20’s.. 30’s 40’s 50’s and 60’s women
I have enjoyed all the blood,sweat and tears to fears from them all and learned more
about the many corners of Love …. as well as Life and Death in G and A….. and I would
not trade a day… for it made me fully understand the wonders to behold once one steps
outside the Box of You…..

lamesabassman…..” the Love you take is equal to the Love you make…..”

By: Diane'

Diane' — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:24:45 +0000

Let’s face it, a woman in her 30’s is in her prime and sex is always on the mind; a man in his 20’s may be more apt to quench this thirst than an older man. It also depends on what the 30 something woman wants; a casual dating relationship with a 20 something year old guy could offer her the kind of fun dating experience she is after; unlike a older man who is boring and predictable.

By: lamesabassman......

lamesabassman...... — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:04:58 +0000

it’s only rock ‘n’ roll….

lamesabassman….. and I love it….

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:47:18 +0000

When I was 32, I swore I’d never date another younger guy EVER AGAIN!!

When I was 34, I met a younger guy. He was 21 at the time. We both flinched when we found out each other’s respective ages. Our separate friends encouraged us to not worry about the age thing so much, to just have fun, and so we did.

The thing is, we kept having fun. It turned out that we had enough stuff in common to keep things interesting. And it also turned out we had enough complimentary traits and quirks that we really balanced each other out. To steal a line from Charlotte Bronte: “Reader, I married him,” … just last August, in fact. We’ll have been together 5 years, the end of September.

So yeah, what everyone else said, you can make generalizations, and they’ll even almost always be kind of sort of right; but you shouldn’t let hard and fast rules based on generalizations determine your life choices. Our friends’ advice turned out to be solid: don’t worry about the age thing too much–just have fun–because you never know what might happen in the meantime.

By: Age is a number

Age is a number — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:53:28 +0000

Hey. First, this website is great keep up the good work. (my nose is brown now lol) This is my first post and i had to chime in on this subject. It’s just so real life to me. I am a 23 year old black male and am in a relationship with the most amazing person i have ever loved in my life. It just so happens that she is 37. Believe it or not but i know plenty of 20 something guys that just dont want to deal with the bullshit that dating a 20 something female brings and we feel like if we have to go outside our age range to do it then so be it. Older women and younger men a moren open about there needs and wants. Nobody wants to be a mind reader. I think that in this high-tech age everything is now, now, now, nobody wants to wait ten years to grow with someone. Gotta get those kicks in asap. Cougars, pumas, whatever, they’re perfect!!!

By: mydria

mydria — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 03:46:58 +0000

to reiterate what others have said, i think it all depends. i’m in my 20s and i’ve dated a younger man and an older man, and surprisingly, the olden man was much more immature than the younger man.

by the way, i don’t know if you knew this, but the term for a woman in her 30s dating a man in his 20s is “puma.” “Cougar” usually refers to women 40 and up. :)