I, also, agree I’ve felt more lonely being in a relationship than those dreadfully lonely holidays w/out a significant other. Now that’s bad. I believe you feel this way, due to a failing relationship or one where you’re trying to make someone selfish and incapable understand you sometimes need the shoulder to lean on, not always cry on,  but if only to take a break from the stresses of life. Ya’ know what I mean? This not only serves for women, but men too! Believe me you, I know a few women I’d like to take a bat to for the cold-hearted ways they are w/good men. I’m always the mighty defender for the UnderDog. *heehee*

SO back to the subject… yes, errr no, marriage is not always what it’s made up to be. For me I like a little heated argument now and then. It keeps both of us on our toes. Say, ” Yes dear” to me all the time almost makes me feel like a man is too passive and it’s a turn off. I want a man who’s not afraid to lay it on the line. Almost makes me feel secure and the making up love jam sessions are so much more enticing. Having a perfectly happy marriage might be all fine and dandy, sweet as candy, but I’d be lying if I told you this is the truth. AND IF IT IS PERFECT… best to look out ’cause somethings just not right.