How Does Music Affect Your Sex Life?
By now, you’ve likely heard of Babeland’s Freestyle. They’re calling it “the world’s first music-responsive vibrator” because it allows you to DJ your orgasm by connecting it to your iPod. I haven’t tried it out yet, but I’m curious. It’d be nice to hand-pick songs for the perfect O. Laid back, sexy, mellow mood? Maxwell. Having a hot, heavy, All-Star sex moment? Kanye. Several months ago, I linked up with Babeland for partial-sponsorship of my site: They’ll let me test drive (free) sex toys and I write reviews to tell you guys whether or not they suck. I haven’t really taken advantage of it yet because I already have toys that make me happy — though I might check in about the music vibrator because it’s so different from anything already in my collection. If I try it, I’ll tell you guys about it. If you don’t want to wait for my review, feel free to get the toy now. (Shh! Here’s a coupon for $$$ off.) Yeah, yeah I know we’re in a recession. So, if $130 is too pricey, you can buy sex toys under $30 and/or read stuff I’ve written about getting cheap sex.
Hmm … Let’s get back to music. Although I like the idea of an ipod-vibrator pulsating combo to the beat of my favorite tunes, I have to admit I don’t typically play music while bumping and grinding with a guy. Seems like one of those goofy things that only happen in movies — though, yes, I did it once with “Boy #2.” (Longterm readers know about that blast from the past, new readers can google it.) Anyway. Ages ago, we were in his apartment sitting on the couch watching television and gobbling his homemade pasta dinner. When our plates were clean, he turned the TV channel to a blue screen digital station featuring random jazz artists and pictures of dudes playing trumpet. “Mood music,” he said and winked at me. It felt contrived, cheesy and distracting. A new tune would start and I’d think, “Um, I don’t even like this song and it feels awkward to make out to it.” Plus … Maybe I’m weird, but I felt oddly compelled to kiss to the beat. That, of course, was clunky and off. Anyway. Generally, I’d rather listen to a guy pant, moan and groan about how good everything feels. Seems more natural. Earlier this year, I remember reading a few news articles about lyrics + teen boinking, but I haven’t seen or read anything else interesting about the topic. Curious to know if any of you have thoughts about music and sex. As always, feel free to leave your $0.02 in the comments section.
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August 26th, 2009 at 9:04 am
Neat concept. $130 is pretty pricey though.
August 26th, 2009 at 9:56 am
Like you, I’d rather hear the soft moans and breathing of a man. It’s exciting. Musically speaking, R&B and trip hop (sometimes called downtempo) gets me in the mood.
August 26th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
I know there’s been a USB vibrator for ages (a horrible thought, if you ask me), which I would have assumed could be programmed to music.
August 26th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
Music can be OK as accompaniment for the ol’ wokka-wokka, as long as it’s not something like “Yummy Yummy Yummy I’ve Got Love in my Tummy”. (Or perhaps that could be oddly appropriate sometimes >wink-wink< >nudge-nudge<.)
August 26th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
LUV luv luv..music and sex..gotta have music with my sex..sometimes the natural sounds are ok but i would rather listen to maxwell..gerald levert..etc..while i’m having mind-blowing sex. By the way..$130..too much for vibrator..but to each his or her own :)
August 26th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Along with candles, music is a must for boots knockin’, and the arrival of the IPod shuffle is a mixed blessing. On one hand, because you don’t know what song’s coming next, you can let the groove change what’s happening between the sheets.
However, that old Culture Club song you downloaded while feeling reminiscent, is the LAST thing you want a man to hear. “Karma Chameleon?” Not a good soundtrack to the bump n’ grind.
August 26th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
Randomly hearing certain songs before sex will put me in the mood. What keeps me in the mood are the sounds of sex itself. Prince and Maxwell and Sade can croon all they want but they’re not saying MY name. Or his or her name. I put music during sex in the same category as flavored lube: sometimes you get a good one, but usually it’s plastic, overly manufactured and leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
August 26th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
[...] FunkyBrownChick is intrigued by this strange new product, but, like us, doesn’t see music as being an integral part of the orgasm– or even sex in general: Although I like the idea of an ipod-vibrator pulsating combo to the beat of my favorite tunes, I have to admit I don’t typically play music while bumping and grinding with a guy. [...]
August 26th, 2009 at 3:12 pm
I much, much prefer the sexy man sounds, it’s my biggest turn-on.
August 26th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
You know…my last two boyfriends asked to make sex play lists. One ended up being rap and one was classic rock and the Goo Goo Dolls. According to what they like. One guy asked me for my opinion, one refused my song. So, what I’m wondering, is does the music you listen to during sex reveal a bit about your relationship? And WHY couldn’t I ever figure out what I wanted on there?
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August 26th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
Tart and Soul: I dunno, “Karma Chameleon” could be perfect for a one-night-stand. “You come and go, you come and go!”
August 26th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
LexiB: Pricey, indeed — though, comparatively speaking, not too bad for a high-quality sex toy.
Pamela: Yes to men to pant yes, yes, yes!! :)
A: USB vibrator? Interesting!
Baba Doodlius: Okay, LexiB and I make TWO for no music and you’re the first one to say YES to music. :)
mrsbigg: Uh-oh. We have a tie!! TWO of you like music during sex.
Tart and Soul: EXACTLY! I hear you on the Karma Chameleon stuff. By the way, shout out to the live version on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEhXcEpajN0. And, yes, I think that’s what spoils the moment: unpredicted songs. One moment, you’re going hot and heavy. Next moment, John Lennon and Yoko One are chanting Give Peace a Chance!!
Aspasia: “Prince and Maxwell and Sade can croon all they want but they’re not saying MY name.” CO-SIGN! :)
Nerve: Thanks for the link love.
grinder: Me too!
Blair: Sex play lists?!?!?! :) Good question (re: “Does the music you listen to during sex reveal a bit about your relationship?”) I think it does. All activities — at who’s place do you sleep, who cooks, who makes the most money, who pays, who initiates sex, etc — are indicative of the relationship.
Baba Doodlius: :)
August 27th, 2009 at 2:33 am
gadzooks….. a buck thirty ….. will it get you a latte’ at Starbucks…. when the batteries fail..
will it give you a hummer….
when in the mood: Jimi…. Miles…. Trane… the Isley Bros. ….. Sade… Prince’s ” Darling Nikki ” …. the Temps… Nora….
when not : the sounds that come from my Lady are as sweet and satin sexy as anything that could ever be made musically…..
lamesabassman… or as Mr Rock would say.. ” if I’m spending that kind of money… I’d better
be comin’…”
August 28th, 2009 at 9:14 pm
Hook your iPod up to it eh?
Cue Billy Ray Cyrus’ Achy Breaky Heart in ….3…..2…..1…..
August 30th, 2009 at 2:28 am
you’re a caution….. AnthonyB.
lamesabassman…. but, would’nt that leave a mark…..
August 31st, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Nothing better than making love to the Isley Brothers.
September 1st, 2009 at 10:17 pm
lamesabassman: :)
AnthonyB: You have Billy Ray Cyrus’ Achy Breaky Heart on your iPod?! ;)
bogart4017 Isley Brothers, eh? Very old school.