Men who fuck around on their wives are lying both to their wives and to God. They are running around sinning while only pretending to honour their SACRED vows before God to remain exclusively with their spouse. I don’t see how lying to you, a person who acts like a skank, should be seen as being a worse offense than lying to his wife, the mother of his children, and the keeper of his heart and home. Women who are unfaithful are no better either.

What is it with this screwed-up world? It’s OK to lie to somebody else, but it’s wrong when they lie to you? Pray tell, don’t you think you’re going to be lied to if that’s your attitude? You reap what you sew, young lady. You are your own worst enemy.

1) Its morally wrong.
2) Karma is a bitch.

Yet and still i find myself yearning, lusting, and now desiring more time from this man than he could ever give me.  Right now im single by choice and he was only supposed to be a sexual past time.  Unfortunately, we have an amazing connection (one that ive never felt with ex’s in my past). What started and shouldve remained strictly sexual has become an emotional and complicated situation for him and i.

He spends alot more time at my house.  Some nights i literally have to push him out the door to make him go home.  He says hes “addicted to me” and “wishes that he wouldve met me back in the day”.

The reality of it is, hes married, im the sideline and there is no future for us.  Even if there was a potential future for us, I wouldnt dare be with him because I see firsthand that hes a cheater. Absurd huh?! Yea I know, guess its the whole “forbidden fruit thing”. As more time passes, it becomes harder and harder to walk away from him (trust me ive tried (a few times).  But for right now, this is where i am:  Caught up.
PS, you can say what you want to or about me.  Your opinions wont make or break me.  Besides, hell i just needed to vent. 

Women who date married men sacrifice a lot, and are always playing second fiddle if 1. you are a secret and 2. If the wife doesn’t approve of you.  Yes, sometimes I get up and leave at 3 or 4 in the morning to go home, and it’s not that my wife doesn’t know i was gone.  She just doesn’t ask questions she doesn’t want to know the answer to.  From my perspective though, regardless of what I do a certain level of respect must be maintained.  Women want to be respected above all else, and honesty is always the best policy, even if it hurts.  I like being married and realize that I am not totally fulfilled in my marriage to one woman.  It doesn’t mean I want to divorce my wife and find someone else to fulfill me either.  I happen to believe that plural marriage is possible. 

Before women go off talking about what’s good for the goose should be good for the gander, let me remind sistas that the idea of polygamy has been around for thousands of years.  In fact most cultures around the world still practice it.  It is not a democratic egalitarian system that allows women to do the same thing, that is unless you want to create war between competing men.  Also note that there are lots more women than thee are men, and this is the primary reason women sleep with married men in the first place.  So unless you want a lot of lonely, horny women walking around coveting your husbands, it may be time to open our minds up to doing this another way. 

Meanwhile I think there will still be men like me, who have relationships with single women who know that I am married.  The reason (so I’m told) is that women like the stability of mature responsible men, that they are unlikely to find in most single men.  Until I find that woman who is willing to join us as a second wife, I will remain a cheater.

lamesabassman….. or … sit down and order…. for they maybe on a lot of menus at the same time….. share and share alike…. deal… or no deal… sometimes… it’s best to smile and dig in…. choices do make things difficult…..