Comments on: Confessions From “The Other Woman” http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/ Twanna is a sex, dating and relationships writer in New York City. She's funky. She has brown skin. And, she's a chick. FUNKYBROWNCHICK® chronicles her life. Fri, 25 May 2012 13:37:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: beatfreak http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-126704 beatfreak Thu, 12 Nov 2009 07:48:14 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-126704 FYI - The scarlet A that you are using acutally belongs to this group: http://outcampaign.org/ . FYI – The scarlet A that you are using acutally belongs to this group: http://outcampaign.org/ .

]]> By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121850 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Sat, 10 Oct 2009 01:58:14 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121850 OMG, I soooo didn't even think about that!! :) By the way, I noticed the gender neutral names. Loved that! :) OMG, I soooo didn’t even think about that!! :) By the way, I noticed the gender neutral names. Loved that! :)

]]> By: A http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121816 A Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:55:00 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121816 Except that if you call the parties A, B and C, and then refer to me as "A," it makes it sound like I'm cheating on "C"!  ;) (That's why I tried to give the people names, and gender-neutral ones at that.) Except that if you call the parties A, B and C, and then refer to me as “A,” it makes it sound like I’m cheating on “C”!  ;) (That’s why I tried to give the people names, and gender-neutral ones at that.)

]]> By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121783 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:07:22 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121783 <strong>Elli</strong>: I agree with you, and I think my last point may have been unclear. When I say "the parties involved" I mean if A and B are sleeping together behind C's back, I think it's A, B and C's business, not random strangers who are in no way involved. I really think "A" did a great job of summarizing this last point in her extended comment about <strong><a href="../../05/single-womens-affairs-sleeping-with-married-men/comment-page-1/#comment-121577" rel="nofollow">infidelity</a></strong>. Elli: I agree with you, and I think my last point may have been unclear. When I say “the parties involved” I mean if A and B are sleeping together behind C’s back, I think it’s A, B and C’s business, not random strangers who are in no way involved. I really think “A” did a great job of summarizing this last point in her extended comment about infidelity.

]]> By: lamesabassman...... http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121697 lamesabassman...... Thu, 08 Oct 2009 21:20:02 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121697 simply put.... one person's ceiling is a other's person's floor..... we may say that we are offended by those actions of others.... but, when the door closes ..... we will do what we wish when just as many people are getting married ... others are lining up for the big kiss off... when do the words " am with you till death... taxes.... swine flu ... lay-offs... russian hands.. roman fingers ..... STD's .... checkin' the room .... do us part.... " start to be meaningless and we flip the script to double your pleasure... double you fun..... when you fade the fates.. and roll your point.... can you handle the outcome.... or are you dust in the wind..... lamesabassman..... we are what we eat..... simply put…. one person’s ceiling is a other’s person’s floor….. we may say that we are
offended by those actions of others…. but, when the door closes ….. we will do what we wish
when just as many people are getting married … others are lining up for the big kiss off…
when do the words ” am with you till death… taxes…. swine flu … lay-offs… russian hands..
roman fingers ….. STD’s …. checkin’ the room …. do us part…. ” start to be meaningless
and we flip the script to double your pleasure… double you fun….. when you fade the fates..
and roll your point…. can you handle the outcome…. or are you dust in the wind…..

lamesabassman….. we are what we eat…..

]]> By: Elli http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121687 Elli Thu, 08 Oct 2009 18:55:22 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121687 I can see some of your points on the issue of infidelity, except for the last one. My personal motto is " I don't care who you fuck, as long as you are not fucking me." Meaning that if you are in between my legs and you are doing things that increases the chances of harming my sexual, reproductive, and emotional health, what goes on between your legs just became my business! I can see some of your points on the issue of infidelity, except for the last one. My personal motto is ” I don’t care who you fuck, as long as you are not fucking me.” Meaning that if you are in between my legs and you are doing things that increases the chances of harming my sexual, reproductive, and emotional health, what goes on between your legs just became my business!

]]> By: bwill http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121677 bwill Thu, 08 Oct 2009 14:26:30 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121677 Well I I have read this a couple times and have to agree with the funky brown chick for a couple of reasons... 1. How can you be blamed for something that u don't know? Regaurdless of what happens, give me the option to get involed 2.What johnny does with sue has no effect on sally if sally aint married to john! They are 2 consenting adults, they don't need anyone's approval to fuck! I have been cheated on,did it hurt? Yes, but, you learn a valuable lesson from those experiences. I have learned that people will do whatever they can to make themselves happy even at the expense of others. We always hurt the one we love. But overall, I respect everyone's opinion, but I'm rolling with funky brown on this one Well I I have read this a couple times and have to agree with the funky brown chick for a couple of reasons…
1. How can you be blamed for something that u don’t know? Regaurdless of what happens, give me the option to get involed
2.What johnny does with sue has no effect on sally if sally aint married to john! They are 2 consenting adults, they don’t need anyone’s approval to fuck!
I have been cheated on,did it hurt? Yes, but, you learn a valuable lesson from those experiences. I have learned that people will do whatever they can to make themselves happy even at the expense of others. We always hurt the one we love. But overall, I respect everyone’s opinion, but I’m rolling with funky brown on this one

]]> By: puma73 http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121614 puma73 Wed, 07 Oct 2009 20:55:28 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121614 I agree with the point made about how  love does not come in the package you expected. I didn't go looking for someone, it just evolved into a close friendship and emotional bond. Nothing physical, ever-- although an emotional affair is often more dangerous as a sexual one. But what do you do when you live with someone who isn't capable of changing? You either accept it, or move on. Which is, you put duty to keeping the family together over what you really want and pray that someday, you can forget about this other person and try to be content with what you have. I agree with the point made about how  love does not come in the package you expected. I didn’t go looking for someone, it just evolved into a close friendship and emotional bond. Nothing physical, ever– although an emotional affair is often more dangerous as a sexual one. But what do you do when you live with someone who isn’t capable of changing? You either accept it, or move on. Which is, you put duty to keeping the family together over what you really want and pray that someday, you can forget about this other person and try to be content with what you have.

]]> By: Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121554 Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com Wed, 07 Oct 2009 08:22:17 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121554 <strong>AnnaScarlet</strong>: Thanks for your honesty :) A close friend told me her parents were divorcing earlier this year because her father wanted out of the 20+ year relationship with her mother. When I asked my friend, "Do you know who the other woman is?" she fucking FLIPPED OUT and was like "My dad wouldn't cheat!!" I told her, "Women leave super-longterm relationships for a million different reasons, but men typically only leave for another woman." She got mad at me. In the end, her dad did indeed already have someone waiting and he now plans to marry her. I think it's hard for children to accept their parents would ever have an affair. Denial and anger kick in. Of course those are logical responses. At the same time, it doesn't really help anyone anyone forward. So, again, thanks for being honest about your father's as well as your grandmother's relationships.<strong> <a href="http://doodlius.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Baba Doodlius</a></strong>: You're funny :)<strong> Nelle</strong>: :)<strong> <a href="http://brothatech.com/" rel="nofollow">Brotha Tech</a></strong>: I totally agree: "relationships are what we make of them." I make the most of mine and I leave others to make the most of theirs. :) It's like the gay marriage debate. I GENUINELY don't care if two men who are in love with each other want to marry. Their love doesn't affect me. Likewise, nowhere in today's (or yesterday's) post have I said, "This is what YOU should do." So, here's the point where I think we might have to agree to disagree. I'm not telling anyone else how to manage their love lives, and I don't really understand the motivating factors behind others do so. AnnaScarlet: Thanks for your honesty :) A close friend told me her parents were divorcing earlier this year because her father wanted out of the 20+ year relationship with her mother. When I asked my friend, “Do you know who the other woman is?” she fucking FLIPPED OUT and was like “My dad wouldn’t cheat!!” I told her, “Women leave super-longterm relationships for a million different reasons, but men typically only leave for another woman.” She got mad at me. In the end, her dad did indeed already have someone waiting and he now plans to marry her. I think it’s hard for children to accept their parents would ever have an affair. Denial and anger kick in. Of course those are logical responses. At the same time, it doesn’t really help anyone anyone forward. So, again, thanks for being honest about your father’s as well as your grandmother’s relationships.

Baba Doodlius: You’re funny :)

Nelle: :)

Brotha Tech: I totally agree: “relationships are what we make of them.” I make the most of mine and I leave others to make the most of theirs. :) It’s like the gay marriage debate. I GENUINELY don’t care if two men who are in love with each other want to marry. Their love doesn’t affect me. Likewise, nowhere in today’s (or yesterday’s) post have I said, “This is what YOU should do.” So, here’s the point where I think we might have to agree to disagree. I’m not telling anyone else how to manage their love lives, and I don’t really understand the motivating factors behind others do so.

]]> By: Brotha Tech http://funkybrownchick.com/2009/10/06/confessions-from-the-other-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-121538 Brotha Tech Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:24:09 +0000 http://funkybrownchick.com/?p=2511#comment-121538 @Ms. Chick (Chica if you nasty) Let me first say I am honored (and a little embarrassed...not really) that I, in a small way, contributed to your latest post.  Furthermore, I hope I didn't give you the impression that my earlier comment was directed towards you. </suck up>  (or lick up...since I am talking to a lady) Having said that, I can agree that if you are not married, you are single (even if you are in a quote unquote serious relationship).  So the proverbial "line in the sand" gets erased then redrawn from time to time. BUT It's just a whole 'nother ballgame when the person that gets you moist has your attention is married.  I think life is what you make of it.  One great quote I live by is "I am the master of my fate, the captain of my soul"  What that means to me is it doesn't matter how much fate, coincidence, chance, luck, or destiny there is in the world, we inevitably have control over our thoughts, and actions.  To apply that to the subject at hand, we have control over who we partner up with, whether it be dating, relationship, or marriage. All that to say this, relationships are what we make of them.  I don't think there is ONE person out there for everyone - You grind it out to find someone you are willing to deal with compatible with and then you make it work.  It's then our responsibility (yes, I'd like to think we are responsible for each other) as outsiders, to step aside and let them handle their business, for better or for worse. @Ms. Chick (Chica if you nasty)

Let me first say I am honored (and a little embarrassed…not really) that I, in a small way, contributed to your latest post.  Furthermore, I hope I didn’t give you the impression that my earlier comment was directed towards you.

</suck up>  (or lick up…since I am talking to a lady)

Having said that, I can agree that if you are not married, you are single (even if you are in a quote unquote serious relationship).  So the proverbial “line in the sand” gets erased then redrawn from time to time.

BUT It’s just a whole ‘nother ballgame when the person that gets you moist has your attention is married.  I think life is what you make of it.  One great quote I live by is “I am the master of my fate, the captain of my soul”  What that means to me is it doesn’t matter how much fate, coincidence, chance, luck, or destiny there is in the world, we inevitably have control over our thoughts, and actions.  To apply that to the subject at hand, we have control over who we partner up with, whether it be dating, relationship, or marriage.

All that to say this, relationships are what we make of them.  I don’t think there is ONE person out there for everyone – You grind it out to find someone you are willing to deal with compatible with and then you make it work.  It’s then our responsibility (yes, I’d like to think we are responsible for each other) as outsiders, to step aside and let them handle their business, for better or for worse.

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